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Did I Over react??
I use to have a bestfriend we got really close cause of soccer and we have been unseperable since. Well My senior year i met this guy (which is my boyfriend now) he was already in a relationship with someone while we started talking, we both liked each other but he couldnt breakup with his girlfriend. My Best friend thought it was a bad idea and on soccer tournaments her and one of my other good friends would say rude things while i was on the phone with him, and they would constantly talk about him rude to me. We eventually got together and of course we went to lunch everyday together and my best friend didnt like that. As our relationship grew i would hardly talk to my friends about him or be around them as much, well during these 4 and a 1/2 months we've broken up 4 or 5xs and the 4th time i went to my friends for comfort but they hardly said or did anything to make me feel better.. I cried alot well he asked me for another chance and of course i said yes because i really do love him. I didnt tell my friends we got back together, the next day at school we were together and my best friend saw us and she yelled that i was stupid we got into a huggee argument and she said i only talk to them when we break up and he treats me like crap and he cheats on me etc, i was tired of hearing it so we both decided to not be friends anymore, later on i found out my "bestfriend" was talking to my boyfriends ex-which i dont like cause we fought. I havent tlked to my"bestfriend" since its been a few months if that. I neeedd adviceeee! Was she even really a friend? Did i just over react??
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To answer your question, yes you over reacted. Friends are always supposed to come first. Because friends will be there for you. You pushed your friends away, by dating a guy who is obviously a jerk. They wouldn't dislike him if he wasn't. And it seems like you do only talk to her when he breaks up with you.
If I were her i wouldn't try to console you either. You need to make a decision, is this guy who cheats on you worth it? Or is someone who you've been close to for a long time worth it?
Only you can decide that.
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I think truthfully that you are in the wrong. It seems like you do only talk to your friends when you need them, not when they need you. Its a two way street and you can't leave your friends for your boyfriend and come back when he dumps you.
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I can see both sides of the story.
When someone gets a boyfriend/girlfriend and starts spending alot of their time with them, it can be really hard on their friends because it feels like they have no time for them anymore. However, your friends seemed pretty set against this from the start. Whether that be because she didn't like the idea of you talking to someone already in a relationship or not is irrelevant, it's in the past now.
What you need to consider now is whether you value this friendship enough to give it another try. From the sounds of things, you did distance yourself from your friends and I can understand them being angry that you only went to them because you and your boyfriend had 'broken up'. Maybe your best friend wasn't a real friend afterall, or maybe she was just hurt. If you want this friendship to work, you need to make an effort to spend time with them and not ignore them because you're busy with your boyfriend all the time.
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