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How do you know when you have a best friend
There's all these things saying that everyone has a best friend and what not but I've never felt that comfort in my life, ever. I've had friends.. but I never was close with them enough that I'd truly be able to call them best friends, you know? I was very close with 3 or 4 people in 4th grade but so far that's the high in my lifetime friendships and I'm 17 now. It seems like most people I consider "friends" are just "school friends". So I don't feel like I can depend on people, cause they will let you down. All those fun friend experiences I've rarely had. I haven't been invited to a birthday party in years, I've never been invited to a sleepover, I haven't hung out at a friend's house in more than a year, etc. I don't know what I'm doing wrong but then it just hurts to go on sites like Facebook where everyone seems to be having so much fun with their friends. I mean I don't seek popularity or anything but I'd just like at least 1or 2 friends where I could feel totally comfortable with them and we'd totally gel and could hang out and almost be like sisters. But for now those sorts of relationships seem like a dream.. and its just very frusterating. Like what am I doing wrong? Even people I'd consider mean have a lot more friends than I do. With a lot of people I feel like they have ulterior motives.. like maybe they're embarassed by me or something.. I just pick up on when people are genuine to me or not. It's just hard to be a confident person when I don't even have anyone to text everyday and share problems with, you know and help each other. My sister and I are too different.. we've always been that way. It just makes me feel alone. Does it get better at college? I feel like I'm socially awkward with certain things since i haven't really experienced it with friends.. and self conscious over a few things too without friends to reassure me. like its always my fear in school when we have to partner up or do group work cause often I dont have a partner. its even harder in my new school (I moved here last year) and I feel even more alone and even though I prefer working by myself when everyone else is talking and laughing and I'm by myself working.. it just makes me feel sad and I don't like it. ughhh what is wrong with me. im a caring friend and what not.. maybe its because I'm not really a mainstream sort of person? I don't knowwwwwww how to fix this
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I would definitely branch out more and be yourself around people you want to be friends with. Keep in touch more, set things up to go shopping or go to the mall. Some people dont want to hang out with you, because maybe they think you dont want to if you dont feel comftorable around them.I hope this helps! rat me if youd like:)
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Don't stress out about it. I went through the same thing. There are a few things you can do. First, recenter your life so you can draw more happiness from yourself. Find a hobby or sport you really enjoy or set a huge goal and work towards it. You won't even have time for friends and you might meet people who like the same things as you. Second, spend time with your parents. Gross, right? But when you really need them, they can be the best friends in the world. Lastly, though this will be extremely hard at first, put yourself out there. Say hi to people. Sign up for things. Don't try too hard, but go out of your way to compliment someone or help someone out. A little kindness goes a long way and the person won't forget it. Everyone can find people they are compatible with. It just takes a lot of patience sometimes. What you give is what you get, so try to be more outgoing, but don't change yourself. Recognize that friends won't come instantly and build the relationships slowly. I hope it all works out
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