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these two guys
ive had the boyfriend im going out with now for about 4 months and i realllly like him but its hard to see him because my family doesnt know about him and if they did find out about him they wouldnt like it because he is 18 and im younger. but when i do see him im always soo happy. and he aways makes me happy and hes really amazing. but hes going away to college about a couple hours away and hes still gonna come up here and i told him were still gonna stay together but i really dont know how thats gonna work. and right now im kinda cheating on him but i havent done anything and he doesnt know and i feel sooo quilty about it and he told me the only way he will ever break up with me is if i lie to him or cheat on him and yeah.
so there is this other guy but we dont live in the same state. he really likes me and i like him too. but i also like my boyfriend. i know this is horrible of me. but yeah. we see eachother on webcam and we talk on the phone for hours. and hes really cute and nice and stuff. and he tours alot so hes gonna come see me soon. and he doesnt know i have a boyfriend and hes been wanting to ask me out. but i told him lets wait. because if i did go out with him while id have my boyfriend id feel 849354x more quilty.
i really dont know what to do. i know it is probably better to stay with my boyfriend now but i honestly dont thnik we are going to last much longer. because he is going to college and college life is totally differnt, but hes not into partying so i dont htink he would do anything. but i really like the other guy too.
i just need some help on what to do or think.
thankyou<3
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Ok well which one do you like better ?
To be honest:
If you really love guy1 you wouldn't cheat on hinm like that. So tell him the truth NOW! If he forgives you, that mean he really does love you and you deserve each other. But, once he moves and it's just not working out well I guess you guys would be better of if you went your seperate ways. Also, if you really love him your family should know! :) But I understand you might not want them too, it really depends how serious tihngs are.
As for guy2. Does he know about guy1 ?? Cos if he does well NO. If he's going to let you cheat it probably means he'd cheat on you aswell. If he doesn't know well your pretty much cheating on both of them and need to tell this guy the truth aswell.
My opinion is that you go with guy1 and if it really doesn't work being single isn't so bad. Then maybe after a little while if guy2 is still interested and you still liked him you could go for him, but don't go for him just to have a bf! :)
Hope I helped :)
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Honey...if this 18 yr old man..was truly making you so happy...then how can you be thinking about being happy with the other kid from the other state as well?
Trust me..if your with a man that you think your really happy with and in love with..but your also thinking of other men as well...then usually things aren't going to end out so well either way.
if you have a doubt in mind right now..it's better for things to end sooner than later.. it's a lot easier that way. Less painful, i mean the pain would be over faster.
It's REALLY hard to do..i agree to break up with a boy. but it's worth breaking up with a boy than damaging your own heart and turning into a complete wreck.
Good luck...Think wisely..
Only use these advices/suggestions to HELP you never use them to force you to make your own decision..it's your future..no matter what anyone says you know yourself best...
were just here to help :)
GOOD LUCK!
sincerely
-serenity.
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i think you should stay w/ your boyfriend hun,just because you think things wont work doesnt mean they wont.You should just give things a chance w. him and if all fails you always have tour guy.Personally,i would be honest with the both of them,they deserve to know they truth and who knows one of them just might forgive you.Hope this helps
xo southern
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just from reading this, i'd say you aren't ready for a boyfriend at all. you have some growing up to do, and that's okay as long as you can admit this. now, that doesn't mean that you can't date; it just means you shouldn't go steady. *gasp* who doesn't go steady these days?! well, i don't. i'm 21, and i just don't feel the need to be involved in a serious relationship right now. (i let you in on a little secret; it took an ill-fated relationship for me to figure that out. and no we didn't cheat on each other; neither of us liked the idea of a long distance relationship.)
my advice is to be straight with both guys. let them know that while you enjoy spending time with them, you don't want to date them exclusivly.
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