Gender: Female
Location: oklahoma
Age: 21
Member Since: June 20, 2008
Answers: 52
Last Update: June 22, 2008
Visitors: 2985
|
| |
Okay, so I'm 15 years old and and a girl. I'm very active and exercise daily whether it be running or swimming or whatever. The only problem is I get pimples in between my boobs, and frankly, that's gross. Is there anything i can do to prevent this? I'm a 34C if that is any help though i don't think it is. Any help is appreciated.
P.S. My mom said I should use baby powder to prevent it. How true is this statement? (link)
|
the best way to prevent pimples from forming on or around your breast is to change your sports bra immediately after working out, and shower. buy a body wash, like neutrogena, that helps control and prevent body acne.
baby powder might help keep you a little dryer, fresher longer; if you're hanging around in your workout clothes after you've finished exercising, you're allowing all that dirt, sweat, and bacteria to cling right next to your skin.
hope this helps.
|
17/f
Oh dear. That sums it up. I`m starting to like a guy, I`ve only ever talked to him once. He`s not living here right now but he moves back in two months. I`ve learned a lot about him from the newspaper, facebook, and my friends. I feel like I am learning as much as possible to get an idea what he`s really like. My friends have commented that I`m obsessed. Sometimes I do talk about him a lot - hey, I`m excited to see how this works out. Really, what does it take to be labelled as 'obsessed' and really, how bad is it anyways? Thanks!
(link)
| |
honestly i can see why your friends think your obsessed. you've only talked to him once, and since that time you've digested anything you could find out about him through various sources. you're hanging alot on this one conversation. newspapers, the internet, and even friends are the best way to get to know someone; human interaction is. i wouldn't hang everything on that one converstation. enjoy your summer, and if you still feel the same way about him next fall proceed to form a friendship with him. just don't tell him you scoured his facebook to find out every, little, dirty detail about him ;)
|
Okay well..my friendship that I was talking about. It has turned into way more than a friendship. I am stressed out, and not getting any sleep. I really think I like him. Like I said before, just in case you hadn't seen my other question. My family is racist, and he is African American. Now its getting to the point that I don't care. I just want to be with him..even if I would be "betraying" my family.
I don't think I should have to go by their beliefs. I should get to live my own life right?
What should I do? :( (link)
|
you can't help who you fall for.
you mentioned being friends first. did your parents have a problem with him then? if not there may be hope. they may buying into the oversexed, black man steryotype; once they see that you two truly care for each other they may come around.
of course, they may not. at this point, you're going to have to decied what's more important to you. your family's bigotry or your happiness? be prepared to face the same attitudes from other people as well. talking to a couselor, clergyman, or trusted adult could help you and your boyfriend handle the pressure.
good luck.
|
when you go to get your eyebrows waxed, are there like pictures of different eyebrow styles to choose from or do you have to just like describe to the person how you want your eyebrows done?
also, do the people who wax your eyebrows have good enough taste to know exactly what eyebrow shape would make you look best? because i can not decide which i style i should get done.
also, when you get your eyebrows done, does it cause a rash or a burn or bumps or anything??
and does it hurt really bad?? sorry this is kind of long. thanks! (link)
|
usually they'll follow your natural arch, but you can tell them to do so if your afraid they won't. this is usually the best style for most people.
some places will apply a powder over your eyebrows before they wax; this allows the wax to adhere to the hairs and not your skin. i've been to places that don't do that however, so ask around for one that does.
the bad news is that it's going to hut your first time, but the more you get it done the less it hurts. the trick is to find a beautician who is really good and only has to wax each area of your browline once. (generally they'll wax the bottom and top of each brow, in between your brows, and sometimes on the smaller-ended tip.) the more times they wax the same area the more likely you'll a little red and get little bumps from the irritation; it'll start to go away within a few hours. they'll pluck any stray hairs they miss, and this is what i find hurts the most.
|
|
Okay I have been on birth control almost 2monthes now. Well I haven't had my period in a month, I didn't take my sugar pills but I don't think that should have an effect on my period NOT coming. I have had no signs of pregnancy an I took a test 3 days before my period was supposed to come which was the 7th? SO I need advice??? (link)
| |
i'm not sure what sugar pills are, but if you're refering to the last week (placebo pills) than no you wouldn't get your period. some pills are designed so that you can skip the last week of your pills and go striaght into a new pack without ever recieving your period. but you should really see your doctor about this to be sure.
|
my friend gets gross out when she see couples kiss man and women. but when we saw a moive with a scene where two girls kiss one another she didnt say "ewww". she trun and look at me (i saw it in the corner of my eye). we are both bi curious but i know she doesnt like me because we are friends but WTF why did she look at me?
i know friends can go out but she said she see me as a sister...idk (link)
|
it could of been one of several reasons:
1. she was waiting to see how you would react so that she could take her cue from you
2. the scene turned her on and she glanced at you to make sure you didn't notice
3. knowing that you two are both bi, she looked at you the way that friends sometimes do when they're sharing a secret.
4. the scene turned her on and she looked at you to see if it turned you on too
i'm sure there are more reasons, but these are the four that stand out to me. because she told you she sees you like a sister, she may not be intrested in hooking up with you. chances are, she probably looked at you for reasons 1-3. and then of course there's always the end all, reason #632,017; sometimes a look doesn't mean anything at all, it's just a look.
|
|
okay ssooo i have a boyfriend, but i just would really like more from his side and i feel like im pulling all the wieght forward. i know that he likes me a lot, but he has a problem showing it and i just need to know how to talk to him about it. thanks (link)
| |
i guy who really likes you alot wouldn't have a problem showing it. it's time for the two of you to have a talk about the give and takes in a relationship. tell him exactly what you've said here "i would really like more from [your] side. i feel like i'm pulling all the weight foward."
|
15/f
ok well my boyfriend just kissed me for the 1st time. It was my first kiss but he didnt know that. it was our 1st kiss together. i went in for a simple kiss and he like ate my face. i didnt even know what he he was trying to do. OMG!
he was like i was to do that again but i told him i had to go to the bathroom. i avoided it for the rest of the nite. we were outside of his house and he tried over again. i just hugged him for a long time and then said goodbye.
what do i tell him cause i kind of laughed after
it was my first kiss and it was totally horrible =( (link)
|
you have no idea how much it warms my heart to answer this question. i'm feeling beaten down by soceity after having seen so many "i'm 13, what's a bj?" questions. bravo to your innocence! enjoy your teen years while you can.
alrighty, most first kisses are bad. really, really bad. chalk it up to inexperience on both parties behalf. the next time your boyfriend's kissing you, and half your teeth are somewhere between his gullet and gut, grab his shirt in your fist and gently push away with the meaty portion of your palm. this will allow you push him off a bit with pushing him away.
try to take the lead when you two kiss. kiss him the way you want to be kissed and he'll probably start to imitate you.
|
okay, so this guy & i were i guess "hooking up" for awhile. & me, being dumb & all, got attached. i'm not sure i REALLY have feelings for this guy, but i do like him, yanno? the thing is, i know he doesn't like me, he just wants to keep playing the hook-up game, & i don't play that. i'm really not sure what to do. this guy is really not that great at all, & he tried to fucking get with one of my bestfriends, i mean, how does that? anyways, i don't want to be attached to this guy, but i am. what do i do?
oh yeah & i'm fifteen, if that helps. (link)
|
the next time you seem him say, "i'm not intrested in being a hook-up. bye."
back up what you say with your actions. ignore him, don't give him the time of day. if you really don't want to be a hook-up girl than don't be one. this is a live-and-learn experience. now you know to avoid these guys, and these situations all together.
|
im freaking out because me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday. it was my first time
but it wasnt like normal sex. cause his pants were still on but his zipper was unzipped so his dick was out. my whole is pretty tight so his dick was barely in me but it still hurt cuase it was my first time. but he didnt use a condom and my cherry didnt pop. and his dick was in me about 3 times which all together was maybe 5 minutes? and i know he didnt cum and he says he didnt either. but im scared that i could be pregant. i havent slept at all and ive been googling like everything and i know about precum and stufff. and the morning after pill. but im 15 and i cant get it. and there is nooo way i can tell my mom. she would like kill me
i really dont think i am but i dont want to take any chances. what can i do.
and does anyone think i am pregnant? (link)
|
there's a slim chance you could be protected because you did not use protection. i will not even go into the possiblity of STDs. (never buy into what someone tells you. PROTECT YOURSELF!!!) because you are sexually active you DO need to see a doctor, so that they may peform annual pap smears.
there is something about your question that really bugs me. the way you described it, you weren't comfortable when you had sex. you should never feel pressured to have sex; the more comfortable you are, the better it will feel, and the more satisfied you will be. also, use lubricant. it will help prevent pain and vaginal tearing, which could lead to an infection.
|
|
my ihome keeps making weird fuzzy buzzing noises when i play my ipod. its goes on and off and its really annoying. what can i do to STOP THIS? ha thanks (link)
| |
have you dropped it recently? some wires may be loose. or it may be too loud.
|
I am a male teacher in a mixed school.
I just finished my first year of teaching. I really like my school, the students are respectful, and so are the staff, but I'm having some problems.
Since I am the youngest teacher in the school, a lot of the girls I teach flirt with me.
They would do anything to get my attention.
Ok, I do feel flattered, but there's one girl in particular that is over the line.
I teach her four times a week, and she's 15. She sits in the front row, she is constantly flirting with me, she wears very low cut tops, and she always comes to find me because she has ''problems'' with her homework.
This is starting to worry me, I have a girlfriend, and I've told her about this, but it doesn't bother her.
What can I say to this girl. Whenever she talks to me, she tries to make physical contact, and I don't want to be fired from my job because of this.
Please give me some advice. I know school is over for the summer, but I found out the other day that I will teach her again next school year, and I don't want these things to haunt me.
Thank you in advance. (link)
|
hopefully she'll over you by next year, but chances are there will always be that one student. so, here goes...
students with low cut tops, super-short mini skirts, and other innaporpriate attire: send them to the principal's office. my school was small enough that the principals could had out baggy, unflattering sweats to wear for the duration of the day. (we turned them in the next day.) other, bigger schools simply call the students parents and make them bring their child a change of clothes.
report female students who become overly agressive and sexual, when trying to capture your attention, to the principal. and never, NEVER allow yourself to be alone with this girl; seek out a female teacher you trust, and ask her to be in the room at the same time with you.
in general, enlist the aide of other teachers and the administration. the principals and counselors should definitly help to keep this girl in check. they may transfer her out of your class to another teacher's. her parents should also be informed of her behaviour.
|
|
when you are ovulating, do you have any symtoms? according to the ovulation thing, i have been ovulating these past couple days and i have had stomach aches, my vagina has been sore (like when i'm on my period), alot of discharge, headache, and it feels like i have a fever. are these symptoms because of the ovulating do you think? (i know your body temperature rises) thanks! (link)
| |
it varies from woman to woman. most couldn't pinpoint the exact time of their ovulation. i once had a teacher who could tell when she was ovulating every other month; every other month she'd get cramps on the side that was ovulating. the safest bet is to listen to your themometer.
|
17/F
I went to the bathroom - I've always had pain when going to the bathroom but I kind of ignored it. Well today I went and it wasn't painful until afterwards I took a shower and it hurt horribly. Then a half an hour later I felt I needed to go again - when I went to wipe - I noticed blood.
Now I had my period so I didn't think anything of it - so I wiped an extra time in the area where I thought the blood came from - but I hadn't started bleeding again since I took a shower. The blood was coming from "behind" (yes I feel awkward saying that word) And it's a large amount of blood...and I'm very nervous why...
Help? (link)
| |
you may have an infection. you shouldn't be in pain every time you go to the bathroom and you definitly shouldn't be bleeding. as embarrasing as it might be, you need to go to the doctor IMMEDIATLEY. have your parent's take you now.
|
I don't know if this situation has been posted before but I am not in the mood to use the search bar.
Anyway, to start it off I would like to thank those people taking the time to actually read this and those whom give advice to my problem.
My problem started four months ago, I met a girl (which will be named "Mika" for this explanation), in a GED class that I decided to take since Highschool was a total waste of time for me. We started to talk and we quickly became friends. We grew close as friends but I didn’t think of her other than a friend as time went on.
Mika was a lesbian who had a girlfriend (Whom we are going to call “Lily”). Lily is a nice girl that lives about two times zones away from my current residence. They had a of online relationship that grew more and more over the course of a year and a half.
About two months into friendship between Mika and I, Mika ran into some trouble with her mom (whom she was living with)). She ran the bill on her cell phone into epic proportions and at the time Mika thought that the only way to solve this problem was to run away from her mother. This decision was made without discussion with anyone (ie friends and family). So she went out and bought a ticket to fly over to Lily's to live with her.
As soon as I got word that she was going to run away, I quickly contacted her and began to start to help her out as much as I possibly could. She had about a week till her flight and had no place to stay. I got her a place to stay with a personal friend (Named Susej) of mine for the week.
With the problem of temporary place to stay settled, I focused on making her final days with me as fun as possible. Luckily for me there was a silent rave coming up and was perfect for her to forget about her troubles.
Well I took her to the rave and we started to have fun with a couple of friends that I have invited over. As the night went on I found her making out with one of my friends that I invited over. I found it kinda surprising since the friend she was making out with was male. Again let me remind you that Mika was suppose to be a lesbian. Well Mika spend the night with me and my friend dancing our troubles away without the provocation of sexual activities. Anyways the night came to an end so me and her crashed at Susej’s place.
Susej had plans with his family so he had to get out of town for a day. That was fine, so Mika stayed with me the entire day until Susej came back to town. We had a best friends slumber party including the epic pillowfight.
The night after, I was taking Mika back to Susje place for the night, we were on the train together and we were having a normal conversation as always. I don’t know what came over me but something clicked inside of my head that I loved this girl. So in the middle of the conversation I just stopped her randomly and just kissed her. To my surprise she kissed me back which went against all the moral stature of what a lesbian is.
I told her how I felt about her and the kisses that she gave back to me mirrored what I have been feeling for her. She didn’t say anything back but I know something was there, she left me on the train with tears starting to flow down her cheeks. I never saw her again after that.
Anyways after that I started to keep in contact with Lily, just to make sure that Mika was still alive and kicking. It was a uneasy relationship between be and her. I hated her for having Mika so close to her.
One day Mika gave me a surprise phone call. Of course I was happy to hear from her and to know that she was alright. I don’t know how we got to that point of the conversation but we started talking about that train ride. She began to tell me her feelings that she had for me and just began to regret leaving me to live with Lily.
The joy that went through me during that conversation was undescribable. I wanted her to come back to me so I could love her but honestly I wanted to make sure that it was Mika wanted. I told her to sleep on it and tell if she still feels the same the next day. Sadly for me it didn’t go the way I wanted and she stayed with Lily for a while.
I would occasionally talk to Mika afterwards but our conversations were usually focused on how amazing Lily which were painful to hear knowing how I felt about Mika. I would usually go and wrestle my friends after talking to Mika just to get rid of the extra aggression that felt toward the entire situation. That went on for a month or so until three weeks ago.
It was in the middle of the night when I was woken up by a phone call. I picked up the phone only to have Lily’s hysterical screams ring and echo inside of my brain. Earlier that week I royally pissed her off when I told her about what happened between Mika and I in the train ride so we weren’t on speaking terms anymore. Apparently, Mika was pregnant! Obviously that wasn’t my fault since I never even had the chance to even go that far with Mika but Lily thought otherwise.
After a brief conversation and the explanation on the events that happen when she was with me our emotions soon linked and were echoing each other perfectly. Rage, betrayal, sadness, the need to bash Mika’s face into a wall. It was amazing how Lily and I came together for a common cause.
We started to talk more often and more openly about everything and how much we loved Mika. I learned from Lily that the way she met Lily was similar to my own situation. They started out as friends and then they turned to lovers.
The more I talked to Lily the more I felt unsure if I even deserved Mika for my own. They had so much more than I did. I also started to develop feelings for Lily the more time I spent talking to her.
I mean there were times that she was crying over on how Mika betrayed her trust and her love and I was the one there to comfort her reminding her that I was in the same boat with her going through the same feelings that she was. I would cheer her up to the point were I could feel her smile through the phone. She would do the same for me also as the days passed on.
I grew unsure whether or not I should even fight Lily for Mika’s affection. Also grew unsure of my own feelings toward Lily. I grew to love Lily to the point were I would do anything to make her happy. I have already told Lily of my feelings toward her already but I am in the dark on how she feels about me.
I am uncertain on who I should love anymore, both of them won a place in my heart. I know its naive of me to think that I could get out of this without getting hurt or without hurting someone else. Is there a way where all three of us can be happy?
I just want to know what exactly is the right thing to do here. (link)
|
i'm glad you have come to terms about what kind of person mika is. she's not the girl for you. but neither is lily. you seem to become attached to every girl you meet. and while you become physically and emotionally there for them, they don't always reciprocate.
take some time off from dating and girls for awhile; don't even think about it. there's a piece of you that's missing, and you're trying to fill that void with other people. perhaps there's something about yourself that you're not content with? something you want to change. it's time for to do some serious soul searching.
|
16/f.
i was sick of the "you're fat" innuendos i was getting in my sophomore year..even though i knew i wasn't. i was just thick. and i was sick of people always putting me down and me taking it because of my low confidence (which is probably why they pecked at me in the first place..). i was a pretty good looking girl..with the exception of acne. really bad acne that had to have a last resort treatment. i didn't really take good care of my braces..didn't wear my elastics..late in my treatment. and now that it's summer, i plan to change all this. i'm working REALLY hard everyday. i'm very determined to lose weight, to clear my acne (which will clear itself from the meds), to boost my confidence. but as i'm doing all this..i notice this certain notion of competition in my head..i wanna be better than all my "girl"friends. i mean, i like them all..but i wanna be better than them, and i know that i can be. but i don't want this sudden determination to manifest into TOO much confidence...would you think this is way too ambitious? (link)
|
i'm the evil little voice in the back of your head, chiding you on. "yes, yes, be better than them." and while you are all cat-fighting with each other, i'll be consoling all the guys all by myself.
but on a more serious note, don't let others bully you to become something your not. do what's going to make you happy and make you a better person, but do it for you. i'm happy you're going to take your orthodontics a little more seriously; i'm fairly certain your parents will too. braces are alot of money! you said that you were "thick." if you feel you're at a good weight for your body type, try toning and tightening up your bod a little bit. that alone will make a big difference to your overall health (and confidence).
|
i recently moved to a country where there are a lot of people with very tan skin and brown eyes.
rarely, there are much people that come here and have blue eyes.
I have a boyfriend and we already told each other that we love each other.
my boyfriend knows i have a crush on green day's lead singer billie joe armstrong.
and he knows i like when guys have blue eyes/green eyes and black hair.
he liked girls with blonde hair but went out with me(there are hardly any girls in the country that go to our school with blonde hair, infact, none have blonde hair that go to our school)
then he moved on to black hair and bright colored eyes.
my boyfriend and i were hanging out and his brother unexpectedly came up to us, we jogged into a conversation and then his brother mentioned this guy and this girl from this private school walking along the road earlier yesterday night or whatever.
the brother said the girls name and my boyfriend was like, "wow she has such pretty eyes"
I realize boys dont realize when they make girls jealous sometimes.
but his zodiac says he appreciates art.
and i asked him and he does.
.
but i feel jealous!
i have brown hair and brown eyes.
but i dye my hair black (because i WANT TO. its my choice) and my irises is what my boyfriend likes, like the shape of the way they go, instead of like an umbrella, they go circular and he doesnt cheat at all and believe me, he tries his hardest to be perfect and i completely appreciate it. i do the same for him.
i believe we're both trying to hard since im his first girlfriend and hes my first boyfriend.
i believe im being unfair though, considering i HEARD im the second cutest girl in the country. (from a group of boys that are friend's point of view)
and a lot of guys flirt with me and look at me.
and i dont flirt back.
anyways my boyfriend doesnt like the girl with pretty eyes, and he said that he cant find anything distinctive about her that would catch his eye.
i just feel awkward.
i tried to dream incubate last night (asking my mind for a specific dream on a specific subject) and i asked for a dream that would help me with my jealousy problem with love.
and i know relationships are all about trust.
i trust him in a way, but im starting to slip on the trust, and hes not doing anything that would trigger it!
its my own mind messing with me.
ive just been screwed around on trust so much.
if i could have help to kill my jealousy problem once and for all, id be SO HAPPY!
any methods,
thoughts, solutions, things i could talk about. i need help!!! pleeeasee !!
(link)
| |
i'm a sucker for aries guys with pearly whites, strong hands, tight calves, and big...well, you know. but that doesn't mean i'm going to chase after every guy that meets these requirements. and your boyfriend isn't going to chase after every blue-eyed, blonde who stares up at the sistine chapel ceiling until the blood has pooled to the back of her brain. he's dating YOU, not that other girl. sure he may appreciate a good looking girl when he sees one, but it's obvious that you're number one on his list. and you even mentioned yourself that you also appreciate other good looking guys; keep that in mind when you start turning green and shouting "i'm getting angry."
|
I bite my nails all the time.
Not enough to make them bleed, I stop when they start to hurt.
I don't even know that I'm doing it.
I tried keeping nail polish on at all times on my nails, but I've gotten used to the taste of nail polish and even end up scraping off the nail polish with my teeth, which is even work cause I end up swallowing nail polish.
I figure any type of thing that makes my nails taste bad I will get used to, so you do you have any other ideas for stopping me from biting my nails? (link)
| |
biting your nails to point that they hurt, and not even realizing it, may indicate you have a compulsive disorder. during your next visit with your doctor, discuss your habit with him or her. he/she can offer habit-breaking advice or treatment.
|
Down there!
As far as sexual exploration goes, what should I do with it?
I'm 17/F and anything been done as is has all been upper, but things are advancing.
Don't tell me to talk to him, just tell me the general norm, please. (link)
|
at the very least, trim and keep it neat. if you shave or wax the bikini line, carefully apply some astringint to help keep ingrown hairs at bay. i actually do this and it works and it helps, but nothing's a cure-all.
personally, i never shave it all off unless it's a special occasion or if i'm with a guy who shaves his all off. your guy may balk at the suggestion, but my ex told me it actually felt better that way for him to be shaved too; and of course, i was more willing to give him oral. (what can i say, girls dislike hair pie as much as guys do.)
if you're shaving, buy some itty-bitty razors specifically designed for shaving down there. you can find some cheap ones at walmart, and they're just as good as the priceier versions. i definity suggest a thick, mostuire rich, foaming shaving gel. stay away from the scented ones, and stick with a basic one like Aveeno or Satin Care sensitive skin.
|
Alright..I know that a lot of you guys probably already helped out a person whose been through this crises but my case is a bit different...
So this boy..lets call him Sam
well Sam is not so social like everyone else. Me and him would talk online for days and days and never get bored of each other. And we know each other because we go to the same church and we've been best buddies ever since...well ever since i got a boy friend.(i'm now single) But while i had this boyfriend i guess i stopped signing on and talking as much to Sam. And when me and this stupid boy broke up i was a horrible person and realized that...dang i just completely ignored my best friend cause i was so caught up with this boy friend i had. But the thing is you guys must be thinking... well DUH he liked you and you just probably lead him on and now his pissed off(or something along the lines of that and if your not thinking that.my bad :P)
BUT we would both say to each other that were like brother and sister relationship. so it never really crossed my mind that he liked me. And maybe he did or maybe he didn't... My preacher thinks that there is that possibility that he has and he got pissed when i got a boyfriend..but i highly doubt it.I've said i'm sorry for what i've done. And for ignoring him while i had a boyfriend he said he didn't care and he didn't notice...
Yet still he doesn't talk to me as much..rarely...say hey..
He's not flirtatious...so he's not like Moving on to find another girl to flirt with.
BUT
WHAT DO I DO???
do i ignore him?
Do i stop trying?
How do i get him back?????? (link)
|
i think you're reading more into this than you need to. you wrote, "Sam is not so social like everyone else." "But while i had this boyfriend i guess i stopped signing on and talking as much to Sam." this isn't about him liking you beyond your "brother and sister relationship." this is about you ignoring and bailing on your friend when a better offer presented itself. it just sounds like sam doesn't want to be a sometimey friend.
ask yourself if you really want to commit to being friends with sam. because he's not very social, i'm betting anything that he devotes his time to people he considers to be his true, life-long friends. ignoring him, no doubt, hurt him deeply. ignoring him again will not help your situation. your first step needs to be apologizing to him face to face, not computer screen to computer screen. devot more time to hanging out with him in person instead of relying on the digital world; this will forge a stronger bond between you two, making it harder for you to forget about him again. i suggest not acting on the "he likes me" vibes until after you two have hung out for awhile (meaning weeks, months), and you two have repaired and rebuilt your friendship.
|
|