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She didn't get grossed out when she saw two women kiss?
my friend gets gross out when she see couples kiss man and women. but when we saw a moive with a scene where two girls kiss one another she didnt say "ewww". she trun and look at me (i saw it in the corner of my eye). we are both bi curious but i know she doesnt like me because we are friends but WTF why did she look at me?
i know friends can go out but she said she see me as a sister...idk
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Sometimes, friends can like each other more than friends.. even if they say they are brother/sister type friends. Trust me it's possible and it happens. I'm guilty for that one.. my best friend..who was like a brother to me..I fell inlove with. Just because you seem to act like sisters.. doesn't mean they don't like you like you.
If I were you, I'd confront her with this issue, tell her you feel uncomfortable with what happened, and you want to talk it out to clear up the atomsphere, so things aren't awkward.
Hoped I helped.
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maybe she was seeing how you reacted to that scene or maybe she was going to tell you something about it. but i think you should ask her if its bothering you.
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it could of been one of several reasons:
1. she was waiting to see how you would react so that she could take her cue from you
2. the scene turned her on and she glanced at you to make sure you didn't notice
3. knowing that you two are both bi, she looked at you the way that friends sometimes do when they're sharing a secret.
4. the scene turned her on and she looked at you to see if it turned you on too
i'm sure there are more reasons, but these are the four that stand out to me. because she told you she sees you like a sister, she may not be intrested in hooking up with you. chances are, she probably looked at you for reasons 1-3. and then of course there's always the end all, reason #632,017; sometimes a look doesn't mean anything at all, it's just a look.
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Alright, first thing is first, just because someone does not verbally say, "EWH," during an unsightly moment on television does not mean they are interested.
Secondly, just because she looked over to you does not mean she is interested. Obviously you looked at her, maybe she looked at you in a less tactful manner. She may have been curious to see how disgusted you were at it and looked over just like you looked over out of the corner of your eye to see her face. She was curious about your facial reaction. If she was truly interested during this time, she probably would have "made a move" as they say and suggested a kiss between you two.
She may have simply looked your way to see if you were truly interested in the scene. She may be curious if you are honestly interested in women because she questions herself about this. She doesn't want to feel alone, most likely, so during things like this she may seek out reassurance from a member of the same gender. You not saying ewh may simply make her feel more comfortable, so she checked out your facial expression to insure she was in a safe situation and that you weren't going to belittle her for liking the scene. She may also not truly be bisexual/bi-curious and may be checking your facial expression, hoping you will disagree with the scene so she can verbally express her desire to only be with the opposite gender.
If you honestly want to know what she was thinking and why she looked in your direction then you're going to have to talk to her. She probably isn't going to be embarrassed since she has expressed her interest in women anyway. It is perfectly acceptable to ask about her actions.
Thirdly, if you are honestly bi-curious or bisexual and you are female then seeing two females kissing each other should not be disgusting. Saying you are attracted to females, while being a female yourself, means you do not find it gross for others of your gender to interact sexually with each other. By remarking that something is nasty, gross, disgusting, or simply saying, "Ewh," means you are not honestly interested in the activity. Being bisexual/bi-curious would mean you felt an attraction to kissing and sexually interacting with your same gender.
This being said, you shouldn't have felt she should react with verbally disagreeing with the scene. You know she is somewhat interested in women, as are you, which means you are looking for something that simply does not exist. The scene was not disgusting for her because she feels it's acceptable and, possibly, appropriate.
Next, if she has clearly stated that she only sees you as a sister then you need to back off. Sisters do not interact sexually with each other, meaning she has no desire to kiss/touch you. It really may end up starting a lot of drama if you try to interpret feelings from her that really aren't there. If you cannot communicate to her about your questioning of her feelings toward you then you need to stop putting yourself in situations like you've described here so that you do not feel awkward and confused any longer.
In short, there are many reasons why your friend may have looked at you. It's doubtful she looked at you in a sexual manner since she did not suggest you two become closer during that moment. You may feel it's best to communicate with your friends about this situation to better understand her part of the situation. You also may want to discontinue situation in which you are alone with the friend so you do not feel awkward.
I hope things turn out for you and you better understand your true sexuality later on.
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Obession, or ‘to be obessed’ is defined in the Oxford Dictionary as "preoccupy continually or to a troubling extent". When the object of obsession is a person, people tend to believe they are in love. However, love and obsession are very different states of being.
Obsession cannot create caring or loving acts. In fact, it creates the exact opposite behavior. A couple who are obsessed with one another do not live happily ever after. They torture one another, dragging each other back into the cycle of confusion and closeness each time one person tries to break free and find healthier relationships. They distrust and are jealous of other connections. They are incapable of speaking with total honesty with one another, or of moving forward togeather into a deeper relationship. They get stuck in the same cycle over and over again, because if they actually moved forward together, the obsession would be impossible to maintain.
Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine if you, or your friend, are suffering from an obsession:
How do you and your friend react to other friends, family and acquaintances? Do you/her become jealous and wish to have the other all themselves or do they delight in meeting the all people the other cares for?
Does your, or their, continuous preoccupation with negatively affect your life and other relationships with people?
Lastly: how do I you feel when you are together? Are you strong and relaxed or nervous and watchful and on your toes?
I have read your other questions. If you cannot see that you have developed a very unhealthy obsession with this person, and possibly she with you, then you have lost touch with reality competely.
You are being played, by yourself as well as her. She likes being liked by you, and you haven’t found the strength to end this viciousness. You let her drag you back into thier misery. You drag yourself back it at the drop of a hat.
Your obsession is clouding your judgment. Your obsession is ruining your life, preventing you from connecting with other people, and poisoning your heart to any new connections you might make.
Remember these realities:
She has said she is not interested.
She has spent years telling you it isn’t going to happen.
Each time you started to get some distance from your obsession with her, she tried to give you hope again.
You are miserable because you are choosing misery. Stop asking these questions. Either choose to be miserable with your obsession, or go get some help. Get some counseling and stay away from her.
Please, stop asking random people online to help feed your illness.
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