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horrible 1st kiss
15/f
ok well my boyfriend just kissed me for the 1st time. It was my first kiss but he didnt know that. it was our 1st kiss together. i went in for a simple kiss and he like ate my face. i didnt even know what he he was trying to do. OMG!
he was like i was to do that again but i told him i had to go to the bathroom. i avoided it for the rest of the nite. we were outside of his house and he tried over again. i just hugged him for a long time and then said goodbye.
what do i tell him cause i kind of laughed after
it was my first kiss and it was totally horrible =(
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you have no idea how much it warms my heart to answer this question. i'm feeling beaten down by soceity after having seen so many "i'm 13, what's a bj?" questions. bravo to your innocence! enjoy your teen years while you can.
alrighty, most first kisses are bad. really, really bad. chalk it up to inexperience on both parties behalf. the next time your boyfriend's kissing you, and half your teeth are somewhere between his gullet and gut, grab his shirt in your fist and gently push away with the meaty portion of your palm. this will allow you push him off a bit with pushing him away.
try to take the lead when you two kiss. kiss him the way you want to be kissed and he'll probably start to imitate you.
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First kisses are not as they appear in the movies- I was also 15 when I had my first kiss, and it was sloppy; neither one of us really knew what we were doing. But anyway, try to imagine how you would feel if your boyfriend flat out told you that you do not know how to kiss, or that you are really sloppy- you would likely feel kind of hurt, or at least embarrassed. There are nice and subtle ways of letting someone know how you like to be kissed, and to hint that they should calm their mouth and tongue down. Before I go any further, I will say that I have made out with sloppy kissers before too. I find that one of the best ways of hinting is just to tone things down yourself. Try to close your mouth a little bit, or just go slower, and he should start getting the hint. Or you could try doing little things like sucking/biting (not hard!) his lower lip, or just playing around- so that he can follow your lead. After a few makeout sessions, he should start becoming more in tune with you. Maybe he isn't an experienced kisser- nobody ever started out being one. Or maybe he was too into it and didn't notice that he was practically eating your face. You really can try hinting at how you like to be kissed, without hurting his feelings. Actions speak loudly, and even little hints like, " I like when you..." or "why don't we try...." could also work.
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maybe he didn't realize that was was attacking your face he was probaly nervous because it was your first kiss with eachother he might have even been really excited. you sould tell him to take it down a notch=)
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The key is to NOT let this ruin your relationship, unless of course you really can't seem to like him anymore after that. The only way to get better at kissing is really to try again. Nothing beats experience. However, if you're concerned about another complicated kiss when all you really want is a sweet peck on the cheek, or a kiss on the lips, just say so. If he's understanding, then he'll get the message. To make him feel a bit better, let him know that when it IS time for you to makeout, you're going to need to practice a lot. Guys don't seem to mind practicing.. Just remember, take it one step at a time. Good luck.
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lol this is common.. talk to him. if theres trust in this relationship, he should be able to take some contructive criticism.. tell him how you like to be kissed, what you dont like...but dont lay it on him harsh... as a couple, everything is mutual..its not all about you or him...so find out what he likes..etc.. good luck :)
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