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is this too ambitious?
16/f.
i was sick of the "you're fat" innuendos i was getting in my sophomore year..even though i knew i wasn't. i was just thick. and i was sick of people always putting me down and me taking it because of my low confidence (which is probably why they pecked at me in the first place..). i was a pretty good looking girl..with the exception of acne. really bad acne that had to have a last resort treatment. i didn't really take good care of my braces..didn't wear my elastics..late in my treatment. and now that it's summer, i plan to change all this. i'm working REALLY hard everyday. i'm very determined to lose weight, to clear my acne (which will clear itself from the meds), to boost my confidence. but as i'm doing all this..i notice this certain notion of competition in my head..i wanna be better than all my "girl"friends. i mean, i like them all..but i wanna be better than them, and i know that i can be. but i don't want this sudden determination to manifest into TOO much confidence...would you think this is way too ambitious?
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I don't think it's too ambitious.
I doubt you will become too competative and bitchy if you keep in mind that you DON'T want to be that way.
Here is a good way though to cut out the compitition with your friends AND be a better person: Compliment, Compliment, Compliment.
Of course, not to the point that you sound fake, but try too notice the things in your friends that you admire. Maybe one is a really good presenter and public speaker. Maybe another has really creative ideas with her hair or picks out great accesories. Maybe another is good at making people feel better... Whatever it is. Notice it, admire it, and instead of getting jealous, let them know you think they are cool because of 'x'.
I promise, if you can compliment one person a day, you will be able to be an awesome friend AND you probably wont become concieted.
As for you plan, like I said before I don't think it's too ambitious, I think it's totally doable. But you should be more specific about your goals.
Loosing weight and boosting confidence are very vague goals, so they are hard to achieve. Better to set firm goals like "I will loose 15 pounds" or "I will do 100 crunches a day". As for confidence, set yourself a goal, like "I will get a role in the school play and be awesome at it!" or "I will give a speach/read something allowed at assembly/whatever confidently and be awesome at it!"
It's easy to dissapoint yourself when you don't make your goals clear because if you don't know exactly what the goal is, how will you know you reached it!? That is why you have to be clear, that way you get what you want and you KNOW that you've gotten what you want. After you achieve one exact goal, you can set another.
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i'm the evil little voice in the back of your head, chiding you on. "yes, yes, be better than them." and while you are all cat-fighting with each other, i'll be consoling all the guys all by myself.
but on a more serious note, don't let others bully you to become something your not. do what's going to make you happy and make you a better person, but do it for you. i'm happy you're going to take your orthodontics a little more seriously; i'm fairly certain your parents will too. braces are alot of money! you said that you were "thick." if you feel you're at a good weight for your body type, try toning and tightening up your bod a little bit. that alone will make a big difference to your overall health (and confidence).
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The only thing that's a little ambitious is wanting to be better than your friends.You shouldnt have that attitude..you are all your own differant person with differant qualities.But it's very good that your working hard to better yourself,just dont stress out!Things take time,keep up the goodwork!
xo southern
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well im glad you want to lose weight and better yourself.. as long as youre happy and not hurting anyone, it's all good. but thats the thing, this wanting to be better than your girl friends can push them away... have they ever tried to imply that you were inferior to them? you shouldnt stoop down to that level if so... work hard for YOU...becaseu YOU want to look nice (which im ure you already do) and because YOU feel its in your benefit.. Happiness is the key =]
as far as the wanting to be better...dont make it seem that way because you can REALLY push awayy friends like that, and they may become against you.. if theyre good friends, dont do that to them.. go0d luck!!!
flirty :)
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