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He just stopped talking to me..WHY?
Alright..I know that a lot of you guys probably already helped out a person whose been through this crises but my case is a bit different...
So this boy..lets call him Sam
well Sam is not so social like everyone else. Me and him would talk online for days and days and never get bored of each other. And we know each other because we go to the same church and we've been best buddies ever since...well ever since i got a boy friend.(i'm now single) But while i had this boyfriend i guess i stopped signing on and talking as much to Sam. And when me and this stupid boy broke up i was a horrible person and realized that...dang i just completely ignored my best friend cause i was so caught up with this boy friend i had. But the thing is you guys must be thinking... well DUH he liked you and you just probably lead him on and now his pissed off(or something along the lines of that and if your not thinking that.my bad :P)
BUT we would both say to each other that were like brother and sister relationship. so it never really crossed my mind that he liked me. And maybe he did or maybe he didn't... My preacher thinks that there is that possibility that he has and he got pissed when i got a boyfriend..but i highly doubt it.I've said i'm sorry for what i've done. And for ignoring him while i had a boyfriend he said he didn't care and he didn't notice...
Yet still he doesn't talk to me as much..rarely...say hey..
He's not flirtatious...so he's not like Moving on to find another girl to flirt with.
BUT
WHAT DO I DO???
do i ignore him?
Do i stop trying?
How do i get him back?????? <-- really want an answer to this question
please help :(
Sincerely
-serenity
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i think you're reading more into this than you need to. you wrote, "Sam is not so social like everyone else." "But while i had this boyfriend i guess i stopped signing on and talking as much to Sam." this isn't about him liking you beyond your "brother and sister relationship." this is about you ignoring and bailing on your friend when a better offer presented itself. it just sounds like sam doesn't want to be a sometimey friend.
ask yourself if you really want to commit to being friends with sam. because he's not very social, i'm betting anything that he devotes his time to people he considers to be his true, life-long friends. ignoring him, no doubt, hurt him deeply. ignoring him again will not help your situation. your first step needs to be apologizing to him face to face, not computer screen to computer screen. devot more time to hanging out with him in person instead of relying on the digital world; this will forge a stronger bond between you two, making it harder for you to forget about him again. i suggest not acting on the "he likes me" vibes until after you two have hung out for awhile (meaning weeks, months), and you two have repaired and rebuilt your friendship.
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Seems like what I've been through quite a lot of times, so I guess my advice will help sort of... I hope. Okay here goes:
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
Continue to do what you did before you met the boyfriend. Just do your side of the 'play' without Sam. So if you guys used to go online at about 4:30pm and go off at 9:00pm, start doing that routine again, even if Sam isn't responding. At church, talk to him, smile at him, use a apologetic look when you look at him.
HOW YOU CAN GET HIM BACK:
Have a little chat, just the two of you. Even if you'll have to grab him by his T-shirt and drag. Get you two some private space and tell him, straight out, what you feel and what you want/need (preferably him). Remind him of how the old days were, including the toddler days and childhood days. Make him remember that you're always there for him, and make sure you still are!!!
I really hope this helps, because this was what I did... =]
Kkytha - 14/f
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