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Ah! Boy vs. Family
Okay well..my friendship that I was talking about. It has turned into way more than a friendship. I am stressed out, and not getting any sleep. I really think I like him. Like I said before, just in case you hadn't seen my other question. My family is racist, and he is African American. Now its getting to the point that I don't care. I just want to be with him..even if I would be "betraying" my family.
I don't think I should have to go by their beliefs. I should get to live my own life right?
What should I do? :(
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I had this same problem a while back. My dad's not racist, he was just against inter-racial couples. Anyway I went for it and once he got to know the guy, he didn't have a problem with it anymore. I'm no longer with him, but it turned out to be a good relationship while it lasted.
I say go with your heart. Your family is going to stick with you no matter what you choose, but if you choose not to give him a chance because of your family...you could be missing out on a lot.
If it works out between you two and your family gets to know him...they'll understand. And even if they don't...they're your family. They'll love you no matter what.
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you can't help who you fall for.
you mentioned being friends first. did your parents have a problem with him then? if not there may be hope. they may buying into the oversexed, black man steryotype; once they see that you two truly care for each other they may come around.
of course, they may not. at this point, you're going to have to decied what's more important to you. your family's bigotry or your happiness? be prepared to face the same attitudes from other people as well. talking to a couselor, clergyman, or trusted adult could help you and your boyfriend handle the pressure.
good luck.
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You have currently done nothing wrong on your part. You should go on liking him. If your family has a problem with your new relationship, sit them down and talk to them about it. During this conversation bring up points about:
-although they are racist, due to basic skills you learned during school, you've found that you don't share that view.
-you deserve the right to pick, and you ask for their acceptance of your decision.
-and that to avoid conflict like this in the future, you want them to try to take a more flexible position in the argument. Explain that you don't expect them to change their ways, you just ask them to respect your choice.
It's important that you do NOT tell them to change, because this causes frustration. You can both have your different views, i.e compromise is key.
Good luck.
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i agree. your family cannot control what you think.. in fact, no offense but they shouldnt be that way. rascism should try to be eliminated, because it just not right... if you like this guy, talk to him :) nothing can hurt! maybe a simple 'no' can...but eventually you'll get over it... family is family, yes, but if theyre going to exclude you and treat you any diff because you like someone of different nationality or race or beliefs... then wow... good luck... i hope all goes well mama :)
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