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I've never told anyone this, but when i was younger, like from when i was age 5 to age 11, my cousin would molest me.
i just feel like i dont want to keep it bottled up anymore but i'd feel embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone.I think it will probally rip my family apart because Im really close to my aunt which is my cousins mom. And I dont think anyone will believe me. I think I'll feel bad forever if I say something.
I think my family will hate me if they think IM lying
First of all your Aunt is not your Aunt, she is your cousin as well. To be your Aunt she would have to be your mother or fathers sister or married to the brother of either your mother or father. I say this to you to put the rest of everything I have to say in context.
You should not have to continue to live with this kind of secret. If kept bottled up it can have very damaging effects on you for the rest of your life. Your cousin was very wrong to do whatever he has done to you and I am extremely sorry that you have suffered like this.
There is help for you from people that will help you deal with what has happened and help you tell your parents. The name of the group I would like you to contact is called RAINN. RAINN stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 365 day hotline to help you find professionals in your area that will help you with what has happened to you.
You cannot bury what has happened to you deep inside you and pretend it never happened. The fact that you are writing us tells me you know that. You are going to need professional help to properly deal with what has happened so that you can live the life you were meant to live.
I would not worry about your mothers relationship with her cousin. As a parent myself I would be more concerned about my daughter than my cousin and her child molesting son.
What I would like you to do is call RAINN their number is 1-800-656-Help (4357). Talk with one of the volunteers who answer the hotline. Answer there questions and they will put you in-touch with professional in your home town who can help you both in dealing with what happened and with telling your parents.
how to know if a boy is vergin or not..............?
First of all it’s important to understand that there’s no way of physically knowing that he’s still a virgin – guys don’t have anything like a hymen which can be broken during intercourse. So you will have to go by your intuition and gut instinct when it comes to determining if your present boyfriend is a virgin.
Are there any common signs that suggest he is a virgin? The answer will be a yes and a no. Yes there are certain instinctual behaviors that a virgin guy would exhibit but it’s not foolproof, moreover a lot of guys can just pretend at being a virgin too.
My child wrote all over my sofa while my babysitter was on a social network website. The sofa cannot be cleaned because it is chenille. What do I do?
There are many things that have to be taken into consideration here before you decide on a course of action.
First consider if it is possible that your child could have done this while you were at homes. Just because the babysitters attention was on a social network, your attention could be drawn to a thousand different things that you do while at home. It only takes a few minutes or less even for a child to get into this type of mischief.
Should you come to the conclusion that it is possible this would have happened even if you not the baby sitter were watching your child; then do nothing.
It is unfortunate but children do get into mischief no matter how well we watch them. We baby proof our homes to make sure they don't get into anything that will hurt them and then try to watch them as best we can. Fact is they still get into things they shouldn't and unfortunately they occasionally do ruin some of our things.
You are upset and rightfully so, you did not hire the babysitter to spend the night on a computer website. To say the babysitter was negligent is a bit of a stretch just because your couch was ruined. The sitters primary responsibility Wes to the safety and care of your child.
It appears that your child was properly cared for. Meaning that whatever child care you asked for such as feeding, bathing, diaper changing , napping or putting the child to bed for the night was accomplished satisfactory. If so you would be hard pressed to prove negligence on the part of the babysitter.
If this is so to taking the babysitter to court over the damages to your couch would be an effort in futility to my thinking. Remember judges and juries are generally also parents and we know these things can happen even when a child is in our own care.
You can ask the sitter or the sitter and his/her parents to pay the damages or share the damages with you. They are not obligated too.
My advise: Check with a restoration type cleaning service. They may have some chemicals other cleaning services do not use that will remove the writing. Next time you need a babysitter either hire someone else or lock up your computer and tell the babysitter no to bring a laptop.
I'm 19 and a virgin. All of my friends have many partners and I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude, I've done my share of things with guys and have had 2 long-term serious relationships and many opportunities to have sex. I feel like the reason why I'm still a virgin is because I'm afraid I'm going to get too close to that person. I guess I'm just one of those people who always have their guards up. But I feel like whenever I go to parties and we play never have i ever NOBODY is a virgin, and i mean nobody. People have made fun of me before saying things like "she's 19 and still a virgin!" and "i hope she loses it this summer"...but to be honest I don't want to until I know I have the right person. One of my "friends" always brings it up that I'm still a virgin at parties and I feel like its not necessary to just flat out tell people about my sex life. She has slept with 40 guys and I don't tell people that...I'm tired of being made fun of and looked down upon. How would you handle this?
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin or anything to be ashamed of. In fact you should be proud of yourself for being able to withstand all the peer pressure one has to put up with and remain a virgin.
Maybe I'm old fashion or just plain old as I am retired. I grew up during the 60's period of free love, sex and drugs. I was able to stay away from the drugs though like you sex was everywhere I wet.
Sex is a wonderful thing, something to be shared with someone you love, not a sport to be participated in to see how many notches you can put on your bed post. Your old enough now that his is the answer that you give to your friends. You want sex to be special not just recreational. If that makes them feel sluttish, well that is there problem not yours.
When the right man comes along, one who will value your gift. One who will treat you with respect and gentleness. One who has the same values as you do. Then you will probably want give him your virginity.
Until them maintain your values and forget what your friends think or say.
Okay before I start please don’t lecture me about having unprotected sex. I know that I am grown and responsible for the decisions I make. I am fully aware of the consequences of unprotected sex.
My boyfriend and I recently had sex unprotected where he fully ejaculated inside of me. I was on birth control the purposes of cycle regulation. I started taking it in February 2011 and at that time I was taking it religiously same time every day… when I noticed that my cycles started to regulate, that I started becoming lazy often forgetting to take the pill for several days at time and then would take it here and there. That was in April 2011. My cycle at this point is still regulated. I have been diagnosed with PCOS therefore making it more difficult for me to get pregnant due to the fact that I’m overweight. Him on the other hand has had a past of heavy drug use when he was younger (13-20 yrs) old. He’s 26 now, but thinks that his chances of me getting pregnant are low due his past actions. We are not intentionally trying to have a kid but we know that we do run the risk of getting pregnant and are more than willing to take full responsibility of our child. We actually had sex the day my period was stopping unprotected but I think he used the pull out method that day, but I know he pre-cums A LOT. Then the next day when my period completely stopped, he came inside of me. So I don’t know if that affects our chances or not because I’ve read many articles on the 3 days before and after period, but then there’s also the week after the period that girls can get pregnant, so I’m confused as to when girls have a higher chance of getting pregnant. My theory is that we can get pregnant at any given time.
I would like to start back on my birth control (even though it can possibly be too late) but I don’t know when would be a good time to start it. I just got off my period so I’m thinking two weeks take a test? I can’t go off the “wait till a missed period” theory cause I’d have to wait another month.
So I was wondering, what are the chances of me getting pregnant given our pasts and current situations?
I won't lecture you on unprotected sex. What I will say is that to me it sounds like you are playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded revolver.
My recommendation, given your BFs' drug history, that you go see your doctor and be tested for STDs and HIV. Another consequence of unprotected sex. While you are there the doctor can perform a pregnancy test as well as advise you as to when to start taking your birth control pills or even other forms of birth control where you can be lazy and still be protected.
While you are with your doctor you should also ask the doctor on what is the best way to protect yourself from STDs, HIV and herpes.
So my relatives husband has apparently been looking for a job for a while and cant find one but keeps living in my aunts house, doesnt pay for anything and seems to be able to go on vacation and buy fancy electronics. Point is my b/f just got a new job. Its a labour intensive job lifting heavy items up to 90lbs. She asked me if he can put down my b/f name on his application as someone he knows in the company. Her husband has a serious back problem and cant lift heavy objects, stand or sit for long periods of time. Therefor I know he either wont get the job or get the job and not be very good at it. I dont want to let them use my b/f name because I dont see it ending well but dont know how to say no. Besides even if I do say no whats from stopping them as putting him down anyways. Help I dont know what to say I grew up with her and dont want to hurt her feelings.
There is a saying that, "The truth will set you Free". You have said it all here. Your relatives husband is not physically able to work for this company in the same position as your boyfriend. Your boyfriend could not therefore recommend him for a job and would not like to be put in a position of saying anything to his new employer if her husband were to apply for a job. This is what you tell your relative.
Should they use your boyfriends name without permission and he is asked for a recommendation: His first words to his employer are that his name was used without his permission and he would prefer not to be asked for a recommendation. This statement alone should be enough for his employer at that point to thank him and walk away. If he is pressed for why your BF is now clear to explain his reasons for not making a recommendation.
Hey I'm really nervous about fingering myself for the first time I'm 14 to can you help me?xx
Just remember there is a first time for everything. Learning to pleasure yourself is just one of those things. By the way just an FYI to help you relax; according to a survey I read, over 95% of us, this includes adults, masturbate.
The first thing you need to do is relax and explore your body. Go to your room and lock the door then take off your clothes and lie on your bed. Caress yourself find out what feels good, this includes caressing your breasts.
Before you get to that point you may want to look at the following link . I found this by typing "Female Masturbation" into a search engine. This was the best one I found for to answer what to do for someone doing it for the first time. There are others if you want to search for other sites. You will find fingering under a sub section.
http://www.female-masturbation-ejaculation.com/
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I volunteer at a medical center as a volunteer reader and so for medical clearance I had to get a PPD test. I just got it 20 minutes ago and when I left the medical center my arm got kind of numb and tingly and my hand feels the same way. There is no bump or redness where I got the injection. I was just wondering if something was wrong? I've never had this done recently and I was just really worried since my arm feels weird. Will this pass? Or do I have the tuberculosis? I have to go back in 2 days to get a reading. I'm just a little scared because my hand feels so weird. :-/
I agree with DangerNerd; you need to see a doctor now.
While it is rare you may be having an allergic reaction to the bacteria used for the testing. If so you need to see doctor. If you have any other symptoms such as shortness of breath, or anything else that is not normal call 911 immediately.
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Okay, I'm having an movie night on the 18th and my boyfriend and I have been planning this for about a week. We're really excited to get our gang of friends together again to just hang out, but recently, one of our friends, D, got a new boyfriend after she broke up with her awesome one about two months ago. Unfortunately, the guy she chose is the one that we all hate. He was a complete jerk to her when she chose another guy over him, telling her that she was a heartbreaking bitch! It was unbelievable, and he's like twenty-years-old or something! She's bringing him over, without actually asking my permission either, which she ALWAYS does. And we're all kind of wondering what the heck we're gonna do when he comes over and everyone is just awkwardly glaring at him... How can I tell her 'no'? She'll throw a hissy fit and it'll probably ruin the mood...?
The problem with telling I lie that I learned a long time ago is; that you had better write it down as you will forget a lie though you will remember the truth.
Fact is it is your party at either your house or your boyfriends house. You two set the rules. If you feel that an uninvited guest is going to cause a disturbance or spoil the evening you have every right to ask them to leave or in this instance tell your friend she is welcome but not her guest.
Lying to her is not the answer. Sure she may or will get upset but this also gives you the opportunity to tell her why you fell the way you do. To point out how he treated when she rejected him the first time and so forth. She may be to blind by her need for a boyfriend to see what you see.
Hello I am a 20 year old physically fit woman. I'm very interested in becoming a police officer but I have absolutely no idea how to begin. I'm turning 21 at the end of this month and after this summer is over I would like to begin training to get a job as an officer. How do I start to go about this in the state of Pennsylvania? My brother said there's an officer school but I don't know how to contact them. I don't want to go through a normal college I want to go to a school specifically for police training. Any info you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Forget what wiseusername posted; he/she obviously has a problem with police.
In PA as in most states there are different types of Police Officers. At the high end of the Scale is the State Police,then you have your different County Police and then the different municipal, city and village police forces. While the state mandates the law enforcement requirements each department must uphold; each of these departments have differing entrance requirements.
Usually there is some type of civil service or written exam that must be taken. If you pass the written exam you are then scheduled for an agility test followed usually by some type of oral board. If accepted for training you are then offered a preliminary offer of employment and sent for a medical exam.
Becoming a police office is a job that is sought after by many applicants so it becomes one of numbers. The more departments you apply to the better chances you have of being accepted to one. If accepted to a department you are not particularly wanting to work for take the position anyway. Train for the job ans start your career. Keep your eyes open for positions in another department and apply for them after you have a year or two on the job. It is easier to lateral to another force than it is to get the first acceptance.
Some Municipal and City departments are so small that they do not have their own academies. In this instance they select their candidates for local community college programs that are certified to offer Police Officer training. Check with your local Community College on this as well.
You will find job listings posted on the websites of the different department websites.
Good luck and be careful
Hi! Im Gracie and Im 13 years old. I have an older brother named Matt(16) and a twin sister called (Lissa). Our dad is a single parent. Hes 36, he and my mom had kids really young. Hes 2 years older than mom. Dad says my mom had depression, I think it was Post Partnum depression. Anyway, My mom left a few months after we were born. Me and Lissa were 8 wks early so we had to stay in the hospital longer than most babies. Mom left a few months after we got out. The thing is, Ive been feelin a little upset lately and Ive been thinkin about my mom alot. I love my dad, he's the best dad in the world but I really wish my mom were around. Dad doesnt get things like boys and periods and hair and make-up. Its embarassing when I have to talk to my friends mom about periods and what to take for pain and its kinda annoying when I have to come on this website and ask people I dont even know about things that my mom should have been here to tell me (although I am grateful for the advice everyone here on advicenators give me, I didnt mean to be offensive guys). I just see other girls with their moms hanging out or going to school stuff and its not fair. Everyone tells me that I shouldnt get upset about something I cant change, but I cant help it. I try to get over it but I cant. Its stupid but I miss my mom even though I never got to know her. I guess I want to know how to stop feeling so bad about my mom, and how to get over it? Ive spent my whole life thinking about my mom and how great it would be if she came home and how awesome it would be to have a mom around like all my friends do. But Im soo sick of thinking about stuff that'll never happen but I STILL cant stop wondering, why did she leave? Why didnt she love me enough to stay? I really wanna forget about it, and stop caring because If she cared about me at all she would be here,right? Anyway, sorry for rambling and venting soo much, I sound pathetic lol. Any advice?
Hi Gracie; Just remember one thing we are always here for you when and if you need us. I don't think any of us mind answering questions such as the ones you have written to us. This is why we are here.
I can't tell you why your mom walked away from you and the rest of your family. One reason I can think of is it may be as you said mom and dad were very young when they had you. It happens in some families and sometimes it is the dad and not the mom. It happened to my sister, her husband left and I became both the Uncle and substitute dad when need by my niece's.
It is entirely normal for you to miss your mom and to wonder what she would be like. What would not be normal is for you or your brothers and sisters to blame yourselves for mom leaving. You have to remember that there was nothing that you or they did or didn't do to cause mom to leave.
It is also okay to be upset or even to be mad at her for not being here to help you through your teenage years. Just as long as you don't let this become something you fixate on as again you did nothing to cause her to leave.
It is also understandable that you would be embarrassed going to a friends mother to ask certain questions of. Is there not an Aunt or grandmother or even a female cousin you could ask these questions of.
I think you need someone to talk too. Someone other than a friends mom. Someone who will keep your confidence and help you work through some of the frustrations you have. I feel it would be good for you if you talked with a therapist. Your 13 and legally entitled to medical confidentiality so you can talk freely with the therapist and not have anything you say get back to anyone without your permission.
Talk to your dad about finding you a therapist, preferably a female therapist. If for some reason you may find it hard to ask your dad straight out. Go see your family doctor. Show him/her what you wrote us and have the doctor tell dad you need to see a therapist.
Gracie, you are not sick and you are not crazy. You have some issues that you would benefit by talking with someone who is not involved in your situation and can help you come to terms with what is bothering you.
15/f
Next year I will be leaving high school and have the chance to start a new when I head to college. I've wanted to change my name for ages now, my surname is embarrassing and I hate my forename. I know new people I meet wont be phased but I'm worried that my girlfriend won't like me anymore. She says that I suite the name I want and that she wouldn't be bothered. And she has called me by my name I want more than my real name and I've pointed this out. But I keep thinking she wont like me or she will hold a grudge against me. I want to change my name to a more boy name because I do think I was born a boy in a chicks body and I've already spoken to her about that. But I wanted to change my name to Kai which can also be used as a girls name. I know that I will have to do paperwork but I was going to get a name change thing instead of going to my school prom since I dont want to. So I guess i just wanted to know what I should do about this. Advice about my gf and whatnot.
Thanks!
My feeling is it is your life, your name,you have to live with it.
First things first though. Your 15 years old which is below the age of consent in most states and below the legal age in every state. Which means I don't think you can change your name without your parents consent and possibly not even with their consent. It would depend on the laws of the state you live in.
If you live in another country I have no idea what the laws in your country may be on this, you would have to seek an attorneys advice. In fact to change your name is going to require some type of legal order in almost any country or state I can think of.
My advice is: It is your life, you need to do what you feel is best for you in this situation. If you decide that changing your name is what is best; then I feel you need to seek out an attorneys assistance. If you cannot afford one a legal aid attorney may be able to help you. At least to answer the question if you are old enough to legally change your name.
Hello! Many of us women and/or men tend to feel hurt when we find out that our significant other is looking at others on the internet (porn). Although the simple answer to this problem is communication, what is the answer to what your husband of wife says? For example, I've found that some men say they watch it because they get the sudden urge, and since they're not doing anything special, they just do it. I'd like for men to answer this question, but women are open to comment too. Would you say this random moment of watching porn could stem from not doing anything? If you don't have a job, and don't go to school, do you think that might be the problem? Thanks in advance for your opinions!
In the proper context I see nothing wrong with a little porn watching.
Porn as a diversion or stress relief is certainly one reason for a quick trip into fantasy land. Just as long as it remains a fantasy and not an overpowering urge that becomes all encompassing. Certainly porn should not be looked at while at work or school or with small children around.
Sitting home looking at porn all day rather than looking for a job is not, to my thinking, a normal thing to do. Like anything else porn can be come addictive just like computer games or alcohol taking over someone entire waking hours. If this is the case than that person needs professional help.
Otherwise a little pron as a diversion or stress relief is or should be considered a normal part of life. If you are in a committed relationship and one of the partners is bothered by this, then this needs to be discussed so that the partner who is bothered by it can understand or the porn viewing can be altered or stopped.
i am ghanian,age of 15 and want nike to sponsor me
It would really help if you said what you wanted them to sponsor you for. Include what Athletic clubs you train with as well.
my boy and have a 1 year old daughter.he has been a complete dead beat, jobless and abusive for the last year and a half. I threw him out 5 days ago. after months of wanting to. Now, I am lonely after my daughter goes to bed. He is texting me alllllllll night telling me how bad he fucked up his life. Hes gonna change. I said prove it. He isnt welcome at my house so dont worry about that. But my question is if he keeps this job he is starting on monday and gets his act sober and together....should I un-break up with him....? Not let him move in, just keep a relationship. And see how it goes. I did love him dearly before he fell into his depression. I still love him. But how do I know if the abusive tendencies will go away. How do I know if he will keep his job. But what if he does become the man i know he is deeeep down, I would be an idiot to pass it up. I dont know, I told him I would re evaluate on tuesday....but i just dont know what i want to do. 50% of me wants to maintain a distant relationship and 50% of me doesnt wanna believe him and just wants to give up. We have been together for almost 4 years. I feel like everyone is telling me what to do, he is telling me im putting on a show for everyone and that i want to be with him and everyone else is telling me i need to stay away. this confliction is going to make me go crazy i just want to know what the right thing for my daughter and i is.
I'm not sure you will like my answer. This is fine if you don't but someone needs to say this to you if you have not already heard this.
Your first obligation is to your daughter. Her needs come before yours. You need to remember that she did not ask to come into this world, you brought her into this world and for the next 18 years you are legally obligated to put her needs first. The law doesn't put it exactly that way, but that is the meaning of the law. The same is true for your boyfriend.
You say your BF is a dead beat,jobless and abusive; that 5 days ago you through him out. The next thing you need to do is make sure if you have not already done so, that your daughter has all the protections the law provides.
You need to see a Lawyer and have custody papers filed with the court. If there are no custody papers filed with the court you do not have legal custody of your daughter if your boyfriend is listed as the father on the birth certificate. As part of the custody arrangement the court will want to see to it that your boyfriend remains employed and pays his fair share of your daughters child support. He will also be required to provide for medical costs as well.
These are the things that as the child's mother you need to see are taken care of. A simple promise of support is not enough. You cannot enforce a non-binding promise. You can enforce a legal court order.
As to taking back your boyfriend. Abusive people are generally the result of personality disorders. This is not something that can be fixed with medication. It takes a willingness on their part to work with a therapist to realize that they are abusive and work hard to overcome whatever drives this behavior
My vote would be that now that you have wised up and kicked him out; you keep him out. Unfortunately you cannot keep him out of your life as he has the right, both moral and legal, to see his daughter. What you can do is limit the amount of time that you spend with him.
There are men out there who will not abuse you, who will make good step-fathers to your daughter. You just have to take the time to find one.
Okay...so i am a 13 year old girl and i have been cutting myself since 3rd grade. I also drink alcohol. I recently got caught with cuts on my arm. And i have't done it since. But i really want to because i hurt myself to feel better. (I know how dumb right). But i dont know why but im like addicted to it. I need a new way to cope with my depression. Please help! I really need it.
There is only one way to overcome the depression you are feeling, especially since it is a long term depression. You need professional help with a psychiatrist to prescribe proper medication and a psychologist to help you identify what is causing your depression and why you cut yourself. As for the drinking; if this has also become a problem AA meetings will help.
Don't let the word psychiatrist scare you. Your not crazy; it is just that most depression is caused by the lack of on or two hormones that are secreted in the brain. Since these hormones are secreted in the brain the medical community has found that a Board Certified psychiatrist is the best doctor to prescribe medication and treat depression in conjunction with talk therapy with a psychologist.
You said you recently were caught with cuts on your arms, but not who caught you. If this was not one of your parents then the first step is to talk to mom or dad and ask for help. If for some reason you feel you cannot talk with your parents then talk to a trusted teacher, your guidance counselor or school principal. If you are still feeling the need to cut yourself you can even dial 911 or the emergency number for where you live and ask for help.
I have lived with depression and I can tell you that once you ask for help and work with the medical professionals there is light at the end of the tunnel. The depression does not have to consume you. I realize you have been this way for a long time; so was I. There is a whole different world out there once the fog of depression is lifted. Don't be afraid to ask for help; there is nothing wrong with asking for help when you truly need it.
My boyfriend says that we haven't been together long enough to be married and I don't understand. He and i met each other when i was 16 and he was 17. He always told me that once we graduated from college that we could get married. We were in programs in college that didn't allow us to get married or we'd get kicked out. Now that I'm 23 and he's 24. He still hasn't proposed after 7 years.After all of the family christmases, sex and 'i love you's'... It hurts. Do you think we haven't been together long enough?
I've read the three answer prior to mine and they all offer a unique prospective.
A friend of mine recently became engaged to a girl he has been living with for some time. She had felt for a while that they had lived together long enough and it was time they took their relationship to the next level. My friend of course liked things where they were.
This past Christmas his girlfriend gave him a deadline. Either they got engaged by the end of the following year (this year) or she was walking away. Two weeks ago, after he had asked her fathers permission, he got down on one knee and asked her to marry him. I'm not saying this will work for you; it might and it might not.
I can't tell you why your boyfriend is stalling or if he is stalling. Guys are different than girls in more than the obvious reasons. He may be comfortable with the way your current relationship is. As my dad would say; "he is getting the milk for free, why by the cow". You may have to do something to move him or shock him out of his comfort zone, if that is what the problem is. Just remember that if you do this he just may call you on it so be prepared.
My mom is always complaining that I'm obsessed with my electronics. She grew up without any so she doesn't understand the usefulness of them.
My high school majors are Web Design and Television Productions and my other teachers prefer it if we email them our homework so that we can't say somebody stole it or that we lost it. So during the school year I did almost all of my homework on my MacBook Pro.
Now that it's summer vacation I have all of the time in the world to use my two phones (that my dad bought me) and my laptop as well as my itouch,tv and ipad.
This is my last summer and because of my moms job she barely ever gets vacations. Also by the time she comes home I've already done everything that I need to so I spend most of my free time on my laptop or using one of my electronics.
She also doesn't let me go anywhere and there isn't that much stuff to do around my house that doesn't include me using some sort of electronic.
I have a job that i'm currently doing but it's also based off of my laptop.
I've tried explaining to my mom why I always have some sort of device in my hand but she just doesn't get it!
She's getting to that point where when she sees me on my laptop or anything else that she gets really angry but I don't have anything else to do except lie around staring at the ceiling.
I do read but I read ebooks on my ipad because my mom doesn't let me go to the library or to any book stores or anywhere at all really.
I do all of the chores around the house too so it's not like I never help out.
In fact tonight I did laundry,made dinner, switched out the dishwasher and took the trash out. While she watched the Casey Anthony Trial on tv.
She then had the nerve to threaten me with taking away my laptop because apparently "I never do anything except sit around on my laptop."
Just now she came in my room and gave me the stink eye and then walked out.
The worst part is that 99% of the time when she's home she just sits around and watches tv so she's no better then me if not worse than me.
How can I get it through her head that as long as she continues to keep me cooped up in the house that I don't have anything to do except use my electronics?
I'm also not fat. I'm actually on the too skinny side so it's not like I need to get off of my electronics and lose weight.
Your question reminds me of the comic strip Zits.
Not knowing what your mom does for a living it is a little hard to understand her feelings about your use of electronics. What I can say is that for some people your mothers age fall into an age group where electronics came of age after they left school and had to learn deal with the electronic age in the workplace.
For some this was and still is a very traumatic experience. For others they embraced the new technology and learned how to make it work for them. I'm one of those that fall into the latter category. My wife is more like your mother, forced to use technology at work and must be dragged kicking and screaming to use it at home.
My son once had a job Beta testing computer games which he could do at home only having to go to the office infrequently; to write reports or pick up new games. Great job for a college student as he could set his own hours. He just had to meet certain dead lines. For people like my wife and your mother jobs like this don't look like work, they look like play time. It is hard for them to understand programs, what they do and how they need to be tested.
For people like my wife and your mother educating them is the only way to show them that technology is for you what television and books are to them. While television may never go fully away the way it is delivered is changing; the same with books and newspapers. We cannot continue to cut down trees to make book, magazines and newspapers.
I communicating almost exclusively by Email or some form of web based communication, including bill paying. It is faster more cost effective and just plain easier. I have an iPad, I read eBooks on my iPad. I would like to get my wife a Kindle. She is not quite there yet. It will take a little more education and coaxing.
Several years ago I bought her a laptop and got her on facebook. This was a major step forward. Know when she has a question instead of just answering it I show her how to find the answer using a search engine. It is a slow process but she is slowly coming around.
If you want your mother to understand what you do, you are going to have to show her and teach her. You will need bring her into the 21st century if for no other reason as for her not to be left behind as technology advance and takes over those things she does enjoy.
Web Design and Computer Technology,Television Productions or Psychology?
Also which one of those do you feel is the most realistic when it comes to actually getting a job that deals with them.
I was also thinking about Theology and Philosophy but I feel like both of those are very iffy and can't be put into a real career (or at least one that's easy to get).
I originally thought Web Design and Computer Technology would be the best choice but now theirs so much competition in that field that I feel like it's useless to continue taking those classes when I get out of High School.
All of these careers are what I would call real world today type careers. The one with the least marketability would be television production as that is somewhat of a closed industry.
Theology and Philosophy are good if you are going to follow a career in religion or be a religious psychologist, which by the way does not pay well.
Web Design is going to be around for a long time and will be more and more competitive, though if you are successful it is a great field; one you that if you are successful can be very rewarding in every sense of the word.
Psychology is a career that like all medical fields will always be needed. Psychologists can make good livings though they generally work long hours. To be a psychologist requires a PHD in Psychology. This means 4 years of undergraduate school plus at least another 3 years of graduate school and an internship before you will be licensed to practice.
You have chosen some very lucrative and rewarding career choices. What is more important than the money is what career field is going to make you happy. You can have all the money you will ever need or want and still be unhappy.
I generally advise young people to pick a career field that will make them happy and not the one that makes them the most money. If digging ditches makes you happy then dig ditches. Just make sure you dig the best possible ditch that can be dug. Somewhat of a strange example but what I mean is whatever you choose to do make sure you to that job the very best you can do. The money will come later as you are recognized as the very best at what you do.
I am looking for quick, effective and painless ways to do myself in. However, I don't know anyone who would provide assistance personally, so in the meantime, if anyone can find out an easy way for one to commit suicide it would be extremely appreciated as the only thing that keeps me going is the thought of ending my own life.
No one on this site is going to tell you how to end your life. We will instead be here to help you work through or fix whatever is causing you to want to end your life.
Don't believe what you see in the movies either. As a fire fighter I have responded to enough attempted suicides that I can tell you with certainty there is no painless way to end your life.