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19 and a virgin
I'm 19 and a virgin. All of my friends have many partners and I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude, I've done my share of things with guys and have had 2 long-term serious relationships and many opportunities to have sex. I feel like the reason why I'm still a virgin is because I'm afraid I'm going to get too close to that person. I guess I'm just one of those people who always have their guards up. But I feel like whenever I go to parties and we play never have i ever NOBODY is a virgin, and i mean nobody. People have made fun of me before saying things like "she's 19 and still a virgin!" and "i hope she loses it this summer"...but to be honest I don't want to until I know I have the right person. One of my "friends" always brings it up that I'm still a virgin at parties and I feel like its not necessary to just flat out tell people about my sex life. She has slept with 40 guys and I don't tell people that...I'm tired of being made fun of and looked down upon. How would you handle this?
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Well scince i guess you don't see her as a real friend i would just tell her off in front of everyone saying,"I'd rather lose my virginity when I'm married and know that i met the right person, unlike you who's had sex with countless people, and it's a miracle you haven't gotten pregnant yet! But yourself a freaking dildo jeez you little w***e!" lol yep that's excactly what I would say. :)
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I was in the same boat with my friends. People have to realize sex isn't everything in a relationship, the relationship needs to have trust and communication. Some people feel the need to press the issue and make it more than what it really is. You have your reasons and you don't need to justify it to anyone even your friends. If your friends or people aorund you make it a big deal just brush it off they are probably jealous that you still are a virgin. Its important and you don't feel you have met that perosn yet and thats fine. If they continue to say things like that I would either ignore it or don't hang out with those people anymore. I can tell you now I bet half of those people are jealous of you and envy you. Don't let stupid people put you down be proud of who you are and what your beliefs are!!
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There is nothing wrong with being a virgin or anything to be ashamed of. In fact you should be proud of yourself for being able to withstand all the peer pressure one has to put up with and remain a virgin.
Maybe I'm old fashion or just plain old as I am retired. I grew up during the 60's period of free love, sex and drugs. I was able to stay away from the drugs though like you sex was everywhere I wet.
Sex is a wonderful thing, something to be shared with someone you love, not a sport to be participated in to see how many notches you can put on your bed post. Your old enough now that his is the answer that you give to your friends. You want sex to be special not just recreational. If that makes them feel sluttish, well that is there problem not yours.
When the right man comes along, one who will value your gift. One who will treat you with respect and gentleness. One who has the same values as you do. Then you will probably want give him your virginity.
Until them maintain your values and forget what your friends think or say.
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im 18, and im still a virgin. and ive had and am in a long term relationship right now.
honestly. you just have to not care about what people think. you have morals and youre the girl guys are going to want to bring home to their moms.
you can do all of three things:
- brush it off and let it go [ignore it].
- stand up for yourself.
- let it get to you and peer pressure you into being like them.
and i KNOW youre not going to do the third option :] which im proud of you for. but i stand up for myself. im PROUD to be who i am and im proud ot be a virgin. im not a prude either, but i have no problem admitting im a virgin. im just waiting for the right time, the right guy, and someone who i know i can trust and who wont just leave me, because i am also afraid of getting close to people. and honestly.. losing your virginity is something that is very meanigful.. and for the girls who just give it away, dont respect themselves. at least you can say your clean and that you respect your body/morals. because the people who make fun of you are only trying to make themselves feel better.
i always tell myself that kind of stuff when people make fun of me, im almost 19.. i can think for myself, i dont need anyone else's opinions on how i choose to live my life. if someone has different views, fine. and if they wish to share their views with me WHILE making fun of me, ill go right back at them and stuck up for myself. it shuts them up real quick. you just have to be confident with yourself :] and i believe that you are.
dont let assholes get to you. i know how you feel, completely.
good luck ! i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
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