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Should I tell anyone that I was molested when I was younger?
I've never told anyone this, but when i was younger, like from when i was age 5 to age 11, my cousin would molest me.
i just feel like i dont want to keep it bottled up anymore but i'd feel embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone.I think it will probally rip my family apart because Im really close to my aunt which is my cousins mom. And I dont think anyone will believe me. I think I'll feel bad forever if I say something.
I think my family will hate me if they think IM lying
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Definatly tell someone it may be hard but there is nothing to be embarrassed about you are the victim here and that man could be doing it to another child and he needs to be stopped. Sadly you were a victim but you dont want another child to go through what you went through. Go to concelling and get help as well. Good luck on this I am so sorry to hear about this awful thing. My prayers go out to you and your family.
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Tell your mom NOW!
Listen, you aren't the guilty party and you could be putting other family members, who may also have been molested by this creep, in jeopardy..
Someone has to stop the bullshit. Have the courage to step up to the plate and do it.
Then get some counseling for the molestation incidents.
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First of all your Aunt is not your Aunt, she is your cousin as well. To be your Aunt she would have to be your mother or fathers sister or married to the brother of either your mother or father. I say this to you to put the rest of everything I have to say in context.
You should not have to continue to live with this kind of secret. If kept bottled up it can have very damaging effects on you for the rest of your life. Your cousin was very wrong to do whatever he has done to you and I am extremely sorry that you have suffered like this.
There is help for you from people that will help you deal with what has happened and help you tell your parents. The name of the group I would like you to contact is called RAINN. RAINN stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 365 day hotline to help you find professionals in your area that will help you with what has happened to you.
You cannot bury what has happened to you deep inside you and pretend it never happened. The fact that you are writing us tells me you know that. You are going to need professional help to properly deal with what has happened so that you can live the life you were meant to live.
I would not worry about your mothers relationship with her cousin. As a parent myself I would be more concerned about my daughter than my cousin and her child molesting son.
What I would like you to do is call RAINN their number is 1-800-656-Help (4357). Talk with one of the volunteers who answer the hotline. Answer there questions and they will put you in-touch with professional in your home town who can help you both in dealing with what happened and with telling your parents.
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You just told the internet. What's the worst that could happen if you tell your family?
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It is NEVER to late to let someone know that someone abused you, It is also nothing to ever feel embarrassed about. Your cousin took advantage of you and someone needs to know that.
Sit down and tell your mother, If you feel more comfortable then sit down alone with her and inform her that there is something you need to let out. After you discuss this with your family, Seek therapy. Therapy is the best thing and helps people cope and overcome things. NEVER feel embarrassed or guilty your cousin is 100% wrong and you should not let him get away with it. If it needs to be taken to court so be it.
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