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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Someone in the chatroom said you know about theatre.

Have you read the play Juno and the Paycock? What's it about? Who, or what (metaphorically) is Juno? What the hell is a paycock? Do you know? If you don't, do you think you might know someone here who DOES know? Or a site that explains it? And PLEASE don't say google cuz I've tried that 50 million times.

If you don't know, that's alright. (link)
I'm sorry I can't help! I know nothing about the theater. :( Sure wish I could. I can't think of anyone who is theatrical around here though I know there are some. Maybe is you went to the theater questions and nosed around you could find an answer by someone who mentions they are in theater...Real sorry. :)


whats a cunt? (link)
cunt (kŭnt)
n. Vulgar Slang.
The female genital organs.
Sexual intercourse with a woman.

Offensive. Used as a disparaging term for a woman.
Used as a disparaging term for a person one dislikes or finds extremely disagreeable.


okay i think about sex like all the time and i really really really wanna have it..but i dont at the same time ya know? i do just because i have fingered myself before and well i liked it. alot. so i was just wondering if there is any other way i can release my "sexual tension" or w/e otherwords other ways of getting the an orgasm without a guy...thanks in advanced! (link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


Does a cold sore mean you have like herpes or anything? I just started to get them (link)
No. It is the same virus but different. So is chicken pox. You probably ate something really acidic, like tomatoes. They can give you a cold sore. Here is a link that will tell you all about cold sores.

http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=292&id=2156


hi, I am a girl who is 13. I always act mature for my age, and have friend's who are always older than me. Is this normal? (link)
Its absolutely normal. We want friends who share common interests and if you relate to more mature people...so be it. Nothing wrong with that. :)


HEY !
D0ES ANY0NE KN0W ANY CUUTE GiRLY R0MANCE MOVIES THAT ARENT RLLY SAD & THEY TAKE PLACE NOT RLLY IN THE OLD DAYS HA. THANKS ! (link)
Have you seen Overboard with Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. Its hilarious but a romantic comedy. Benny and Joon with Johnny Depp, or Sweet Home Alabama. :)


ok well im 17 and me and my boyfriend met like a month ago at my friends grad party and we just hit it off and now we are an "item". THe bad thing is that he lives in detroit which is like an hour and a half from where i live so we never get to see each other but we talk almost everyday on the phone.we love each other but im just scared to lose him cause i finally found someone worth loving but long distance relationships never work out from what my friends say but i want to know how you guys would handle being in a relationship like mine. thanks (link)
Hour and a half isn't real long distance considering your age. It is possible for one of you to drive to see the other. Maybe you could switch off and one drive the distance one week and the other the next. If that isn't possible at the moment it will be soon. If you really have a good connection, I vote for giving it a try. :)


O. My. God. I don't know what the hell to do! I'm 13f and I just discovered I like my teacher (he's a guy). This is sooooooooooo embarassing! And he senses it, too, which is even worse. Because every time I see him I blush and I can't make direct eye contact. I should not be liking him. What can I do to NOT like him? How can I control blushing? (link)
Its natural to have a crush on a teacher. I don't know many girls who haven't had one at one time or another. Its normal. Nothing will come of it and it will fade away soon. I don't think much can be done about the blushing. :)


Ok, first off if you are reading this and you know your just going to put something everyones going to say, please stop. I really truely need help! Ok, my best friend, lets call her 'Kristina' and me are going out with these 2 guys, lets call them Drew and West....ok well i go out with 'Drew' and 'Kristina' is going out with West! wellll....are relationshiphs with them are very....serious! i mean we love them to death buttt....me and 'west' have been talking online and becoming really good friends! and now...i find myself thinking about him sometimes and thinking about if i was with him and ive also had like 2 dreams about us making out or being together or something like that! andd everytime i think about this i cry and get upset because i dont want this to happen....but i think it is! i really dont have a clue what to do....somebody seriously needs to help me! like please dont send a smart remark please please try and see things from my point of view! act like you were me! ....thanks so much! (link)
The truth is you can't do anything so long as he is dating your friend. Well, you can but you would be out a friend. Stay friends with West and if they break up then you'll be free to date him. I know it will be difficult, but you don't want to lose a friend over a guy, especially since there is no guarantee that it would work out. You should probably think long and hard about weather or not you want to continue your relationship with Drew. If you two break up, might cause a chain reaction, and West will become free. That does happen sometimes, especially if you become free and West truly has feelings for you. You may have to wait a little while before jumping into a relationship with West, if your friend and him have a nasty break up...as in she doesn't want it and he does. :)


ok well heres my problem ok well i like this guy named *cameron ok well ive met him before and he was really cool and now hes in my homeroom hes soo cute hes a freaking hotty ok well today we were totally playing footsy and stuff we were totally flirting hes my buddy and i like him so much and at lunch i told him i was sitting with him he seemed excited and we were tlking and my friends came over when they saw me and they saw i was flirting when we went outside he asked me if i wanted a piggy back ride and i said no thanks shly and it was just great but my friend amanda was like do u like him i was like yeah and then she started asking me if i had his screenname i know hes not my boyfriend but he didnt even talk to her but should i be worried ? thanks
I'm a female and i'm 13 (link)
You know her better than we do. Does she usually go after your guys? I hope not.
Anyway, if he gives you his SN, treat it as you should treat someones phone number. Don't give it to other people. If he wants her to have it, he can give it to her himself. Just make that your policy and she shouldn't get upset when you won't give it to her. :)


Ok im 15 and ive been going out with my BF for about 7 months now... HE's great and everything, we hung out yesterday, went to the movies, and yeah it was great!!! ;)... Well this morning when i called him he never answered which was weird because he always does it for me but i was like "ok maybe hes sleeping or something"... So then later on i called him and still nothing but a lil while ago i IMED him when i came online and i was like "Oh hey whats up,blah,blah why didnt you pick up your celly when i called you" and he was like "Because i didnt feel like it".. SO im thinking ok maybe hes having a bad day or something, so i asked him if he was and he was like no im fine... So it made me upset because he didnt feel like talking to me, so i told him he was making me mad and he was like "So" and i just got mad hes never treated me like this before... I love him so much and i dont know why hes being so rude too me today :(... So i signed offline and when i did i told him that i hope hes in a better mood later and too call me and that i loved him' and he never answered me :(... Not even too say bye or i love you too.... ::GRR:: This is really making me upset, I dont know what too DO!!! He always tells me he loves me and today he blows me off like im a piece of shit, IM really pissed and ready too break up with him even though i really dont want too!! ugh PLEASE HELP... GIVE ME ADVICE

xConfusedx (link)
Well, all that was yesterday. If he still isn't giving you a reasonable explanation, Dump him. I'm with you, he is treating you like you mean nothing to him. Don't waste your time with that nonsense. If all is well today, be sure you let him know that you will not stand by and be treated that way again. :)


my boyfriend is always gone.. hes either at baseball or football or out with the guys or at the lake..he never tells me when he has to do stuff and when he is home and i wanna do something he makes me feel bad because he starts to tell me how much he misses me but its not my fault hes never home.. but rele i miss him a lot too and thats the main reason it bothers me..i wanna be able to talk to him more and see him more.. is there anything that i can do...?? (link)
You can dump him if he doesn't start making time for you. I mean it, he has time to hang out with friends...he has time to hang out with you. Get tough on this one because you shouldn't wait at home until its convenient for some guy to give you the time of day. Sorry if this sounds harsh. :)


Ok,you see, there is this guy thatI really like
and he knows it and he told me that he liked me...he is really sweet to me and if i'm having
a bad day then hr will try anything to make me feel better.But the problem is that he has a
girlfriend and i'm like madly in love with this guy and i dont no wat 2 do!?!?!? (link)
About all you can do is be friends until he no longer has a girlfriend. Not saying he is, but beware of guys with girlfriends who are overly "nice" to you. They may be looking to keep her and get you to use on the side. I'm not in anyway saying that is happening...just be careful. :)


im a 16 female and my bf is 19. i only get to see him twice a week, if even that. he has a full time job, and i am working too. my parents are stressing me out because they dont like how he calls me so much, but i like it.. he only calls me about 5 times a day, but yet those convos are 10mins long. my parents act like they dont want me to be happy, and im sick of it. sometimes i take all of this out on my bf, and he gets really upset about it, cus i get to the point where im so upset, i could break things off. i want my parents to get off my back, and for me to be happy. the only time im happy is when im with my bf. and now thats all changing becauz my parents bitch at me and embarrass me when me and my bf are hangin out all the time. im just sick of it. neither of us have our lisences... it'll be 4mths til i can get mine, and he can get his whenever, yet he has no expirence, so he wont pass anyway...
and my parents are sick of drivin us around all the time.
how do i find a way to see him, and how do i stop taking things out on him?? (link)
Your parents really shouldn't have to drive you guys everywhere. He is 19, he needs to get that DL.
I don't think you should break up with someone just because your parents don't like them. They aren't the ones to make those decisions for you. He really should get a license though. Your life would be so much easier.
As for taking things out on him, you really shouldn't. He needs to take a little more responsibility for picking you up and taking you out though. :)


the other day i met this guy.. all of my friends knew him.. and i had heard alot about him and i finally met him. he was soo sweet.. hes been talking to me online and stuff. and.. he doesnt really like to date girls that go to other schools (i go to a different school than him) and i think that if i saw him on weekends and school vacations and stuff..if maybe it would work out. he seems to like me.. either that or hes a huge flirt. but i really need to know what to do (link)
It depends on your ages. If he can drive then it wouldn't be much of a problem. If he can't and most of your "dating" is school dances and that kind of thing, might be a little hard to do. Whatever the case, keep up your online communication. Things will change in a couple of years and then you can see each other...and you will be great friends by then! :)


16/f. I'm really into a guy at my school, and we're friends and we chat all the time, talk on the phone and online, and whatever. He likes me too, and we've considered dating. The only problem is, he's pretty overweight. Now, I wouldn't care, I don't just look for visual appeal in a person. But I'm really active, I love to play tennis and swim, and I do a lot of biking and jogging. It would be really nice if a guy that I dated would be able to do all of those things with me, and since he's not an active person, I don't know if we'd be able to. We're both really into European history, and we love to read and do those Cryptoquips in the newspaper, and I have a really good time hanging out with him. But are we compatible enough to build a relationship on? (link)
You can try it. Maybe you could be motivation for him to get active. Tell him you would really like to do things together! Just keep in mind that if he is very much out of shape you will have to be patient with him. Let him build up gradually to your level...and it may take a while. Be understanding, and if you really like each other it could work. :)


i pretty much like my body..except my legs. is there any exercises for your calves? i hate mine :[ -- im a girl.. help please (link)
The very best exercise to build up your calves is to ride a bicycle. I kid you not, ride one everywhere, you'll be amazed. :)


Alright so my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month. He went away to camp for a week last week. I missed him like crazy and couldn't stop thinking about him. So on saturday I called him and left a message. A couple of hours I got a picture sent to my cell phone of him. At first I was like WTF? Because he was leaning up against a wall and he had his legs bent and kinda of spread...and then one of his hands was between his legs. Since it was taken from a cell phone the graphics are horrible...so it's not crystal clear. But I freaked out because it looked he was masturbating (and i found that disgusting, like do it on your own time but don't tell me). My friend called him and was asking wtf was up with the picture. I'm a lot more calm about it now, but I want to know how to bring it up with him...without making him think that i don't like him anymore and without making too much of an awkward moment. Any advice will help. (link)
Well the awkward moment was of his own making! Unless he isn't the one who sent the picture. If he wasn't then he certainly needs to know about it. That is the bad thing about those picture phones, you never know when someone might be taking your picture. Girls need to be cautious of people using them in locker rooms and restrooms, Be aware your picture could be taken. It could be on the internet the next day...all without your knowledge. This could be what happened to him.
It might be best if its no longer bugging you not to make a big issue of it. Just tell him you really don't want those kinds of pictures coming to your phone. What if someone other than you ( parent springs to mind!) had picked up your phone instead of you? Now THAT would have been real awkward!


One of my best guy friend wants to go out with me. But I'm scared it my ruin our friendship after we might break up. Should I risk my friendship and go out with him or don't take the risk and save our friendship? (link)
You want your boyfriend to be your best friend. I think you should give it a try. Talk to him and see if he feels the same. He just might. :)


I'm going to be a freshman this year, but a few years back, when I was a sixth and seventh grader, I was constantly teasted by this boy who called be bighead (ok, so my head is bigger than normal). During eigth grade when he left for high school, it was the best year. He used to tease me, and when I told him to stop he'd just laugh. Ignoring him didn't work either. Now I'm worried he's going to be up to his old habits again. How should I handle this? By the way, there is no way I can go to the guidance counselor or tell an adult, I just can't, so please tell me how i can handle this myself.


I'm female/ 14, and no, he doesn't have a crush on me. (link)
I wish I knew why you felt you caouldn't go to an adult for help. You really should be able to.
Chances are good he has moved on to terrorize someone else by now. With luck, he will have forgotten all about you. If he hasn't then try avoiding him. Not real hard to do in high school,unless you have a class with him. Here is a link that has some tips on dealing with bullies. :)

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/bullies.html




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