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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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Hi all I'm 17 and I'm a female. I have been seeing a guy that is 21 on and off for 11 months now. At the start it was only meant to be a friends with benefits relationship, but we started to grow feelings for each other. I know he has had this crush on a girl for 3 years now, but has never asked her out nor had a girlfriend, even though he is a good looking guy. Long story short he told me he wanted to be with me and loved me, but soon left me for the first girl (Kassie). I was left heartbroken because all along I knew it, but didn't leave. We didn't talk for a good month or so, and we started talking again and I forgave him and took him back. It seems like I'm always second option, it seems like he can never make time for me and when I bring the subject up it's almost as like it goes through one ear an out the other. I love him but he treats me like crap, and he kind of makes himself distant from me and I wonder what I do wrong. We stopped seeing each other for a while, and I met a guy that is 18 and had a baby. He lied to me about the baby, but I sooner found out the information ( I heard from Corey, 21 year old), about having a child was true. He's really sweet, and nice and makes me feel good about myself, but I am not attracted to him and it feels like he talks to lots of girls. I'm really confused on what to do, and whether to not talk to either of them. Corey tells me he loves me and doesn't want anyone but me, but still hasn't made it official, but John wants me and wants to be with me. I just don't feel like I can trust either of them, but deep down I love Corey for the person he used to be.

You are a second option, You are basically his doormat.
This guy used you, He didn't want to be alone so he used you and then jumped onto Kassie as soon as he had the chance. You should of never forgave him, Never forgive anyone who treats you like a rebound. My advice here is to cut contact with him and let him go.

As for the kid with the baby, You got to understand that people with babies are package deals. Meaning they have a little extra baggage and less time on their hands. You need to know that the child will always come before you and the whole baby mama will always somewhat be in the picture. As a 17 year old you are much better off finding someone who isbt s user and tied up with a kid.

My best friend was dating an 18 year old (she is 13) so it got reported that they were dealing with child porn (a really long time ago, like November) and he was charged for being a pedophile, so he's getting registered as a sex offender.. I was talking to him, (he is my friend) and he wants to commit suicide to get out of it all! he says he really loves my best friend, so I tried saying it would just make things harder for her, but he didn't care... I need help quick!

I know this is going to sound harsh but you do the crime you do the time. An 18 year old man should have not of had any involvement with a 13 year old in the first place. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do at this point, He pretty much got what he deserved. Whether he cared for her or not, He was 100% wrong. Your best bet is to let him go as it doesn't sound like something you really should even be getting involved in to begin with.

Okay,I'm 21 and married I also have a 10 month old daughter. My husband has been friends with this guy for the past 32 years, (Pretty much his whole life) and, although I'm married, guys aren't always the easiest to figure out. His friend is really good to our daughter. A few days ago we were over at his place (There was another baby there too) But this guy is single and has no kids himself. Anyway, he was playing with my daughter and accidentally called himself 'Daddy' to her. I'm not really sure what to make of that. (No. I have never slept with him) I don't make much of the guys sexual teasing or comments or the fact that he stares at my chest. But, I'm starting to wonder if he likes me. I've also noticed that when we are with other people in a room, he will talk to me and look at me but he avoids looking at me or talking to me when we are alone. Is it possible he does have an interest in me?

Maybe, but you are a married woman. If things get too far you should remind him you are married and set boundaries

hi there am from Iraq!! i have a Question?
usually my period end in 6 or 7 days!! but this time it comes since wednesday 27/3 and it didn't finish till today which is 5/4 still i can see some blood,,and i am a virgin, i am a girl!! not a women! so please can i know why??

Sometimes a period can last longer then usual, Everyone is different. As long as you got it I wouldn't worry to much. If you are srill bleeding in another week, I would call a doctor.

I wanna go 2 this girls house and have oral sex and she wants to just as much as well. But I don't know what 2 say 2 my parents because it will be awkward if I say I'm going to this girls house to fuck. What shall I do or say?

Um...

Tell them your gonna hang with a friend and your be back in time for dinner. Why do you feel the need to be so blunt about it?

Well I've Been Dating My Boyfriend For A Year && He's Only Brought Up The Subject Of Sex Twice && I Feel As If I Need To Lose My Virginity To Him Just To Make Him Happy But I'm Not Ready He's 18 && I'm 15 What Should I Say To Him To ?

To be honest, A 18 year old shouldn't even be having a relationship with someone your age. The age to even consent is 16 meaning he can get into some legal trouble.

Having sex to make someone happy is the wrong reason. This tells me that you are thinking of giving in. Why? Listen to your body and do what is right fir YOU. You do not have to do anything you don't want to do or not ready to do.

Also this boyfriend of yours is to old for you!

I'm 13/F and му friend is 14/F I'm not sure if this goes in this thing but ya. So we did blodoy mary and nothing happened but we both felt a bad pressence or like something watching us. Then at 12 pm(10 min after we did it) we heard a big bang and got scared then we went down the street and there was a car accident and the 1 car was on fire. If му sister didn't go put in petrol it wouldve been her. Мє and му friend feel that its out fault cs we read something about bloody mary dying in a car accident and another 1 saying in a fire and both of those happened. Is it our fault?

Just a coincidence, Bloody Mary doesn't exist. I used to play when I was a kid. Just a bunch of nonsense

I am 12 and I already hit my period but for 2 months they have been late. I have been really sick and I'm gaining more weight every day.i can't fit in any of my clothes.but the only time I've really done anything with a boy I made him use a condom and it wasn't even sex.we just made out.plz idk what to so

If you haven't had sex then you are not pregnant. At 12, Yoi are way too young to be thinking about sex anyway. By law to even be able to consent is 16.

So i danced with a guy who i am very close with and also like(alot). We slow danced for about an hour but my friends were constantly signaling him to kiss me. We laughed it off and talked singing the lyrics to the songs they were playing, he flirts with me constantly but he flirts with everyone else, guys and girls its just part of his personality. but a couple of times we would be faceing each other and our eyes would lock, but i am very shy so i ended up looking away everytime. Then after the dance he got really nervous around me and started avoiding me like crazy. Did he try to kiss me and did i blow it? Any suggestions on how to fix this?

Ya know, Sounds like this dude likes you and webt and told his friends. Also sounds like they might of dared him to kiss you and he chickened out. ;-)

So just ask him out?...

basically I booty-called this guy last night. we both definately went into it thinking we would just get laid and it would be a one-shot deal. but once he got here, and we were having a couple drinks to get acquainted, it took off really amazingly well. I totally underestimated this person based on appearance and who he hangs out with. he is super clever and his personal philosophies jive with mine in a way no one elses have. it was just one of those amazing nights, where you feel like you've known eachother forever. we had spookily much in common and a lot of the things he said are things I straight up thought NO ONE would ever agree with me on. It was a really great and totally suprising night, he got here at 8 and we were up until 3am talking, non-stop, and never ran out of stuff to say to eachother for a second. he was just as suprised as me.
anyways, there is just one problem. although I am mostly physically attracted to him, like I want to kiss and cuddle and he smells amazing, his arms feel great, ect.. but his penis is well.. just not the right shape for me. I won't describe something that personal in detail but it basically feels uncomfortable inside me.
the other thing is, we are both very sexually submissive. I have been with a guy in the past who was like that, and I remember it being a struggle. someone is always compromising because someone always has to be on top. and I guess just because I'm eager to please the other person, I normally end up being the one to compromise. but it seems like even if that duty were split equally, that still means, at any given time one of you isn't really getting what you're into from the sex. so I dunno.
the sex wasn't bad but it wasn't exciting for me. but the way I felt afterwards was really special. I am not normally a cuddly person and can only put up with a few minutes of being embraced outside of sex, most of the time. normally I let the guy hold me for a couple minutes and then I roll to my side of the bed and enjoy my own space. but last night was really romantic for some reason and for the first time ever I didn't feel claustraphobic or uncomfortable in his arms. he held onto me all night long and I just loved it.
so now I'm confused. what are these feelings? it's more then a friend thing. I'm pretty much dying for his company. I creeped all his facebook pictures today and he was on my mind all day, I told all my friends it was the best first date I ever had. pretty significant considering it started off not even supposed to BE a date in any sense of the word. but by the end of the night it felt like one.
anyways now I'm just struggling with it. is the penis thing something I'll get used to? and what about this problem with both being quite submissive? I have never found a way around it in the past. it just sucks that no matter how you do it, one person will be less into it, you know? does anyone have any suggestions about it, or if you have dealt with this yourself, was it a problem for you? it might seem shallow that I'm concerned about this. but even though it was just one night I'm really into the guy, and I don't wanna be on a crash course where it just can't work out lol. I felt a deep connection to him, but is an emotional and intellectual bond enough to bring about a better sexual one eventually? is it something we'll just have to work at, or is that futile? I know that most of the times you have sex with someone the first time isn't the greatest. But it's not a case of that. Anyways, just wanted to get someone elses opinion on this, I honestly thought about it all day and still got nothin :P

This is a complicated problem that is really based ob what you want.

Personally, I feel like you should give this guy a chance. Sounds like you are to quick to assume he isn't for you, maybe he's not. However, Don't you think he deserves a chance? Perhaps it's not really the fact that you both are not sexually compatible but the way it happened that turned you off? In my high school days I had a fling with someone, we screwed and afterwards I felt a bit awkward. Turns put I am not a "fuck buddy" kind of person but rather someone who wants a commitment to a person and a serious relationship. (Sadly it took that to figre it out) anyway, you both have good chemistry and I don't think you should let it go until you know. Maybe your right, maybe he isn't your type, only you know that. If he isn't for you then at least ya tried.

So im 13/f and i turn 14 in a few months. Ive been facing alot of stress and ive started to cut alot lately. Ive been trying to find ways to cope with it. So i searched online for wayd to relieve stress and one of the most common was the pleasure yourself. I didnt really know what that meant so i did more research and this morning in the shower i thought about it. I thought it would be most sanitary in the shower so i lied down on the floor of the shower and tried it. Ive never actually touched down in my vagina so i was just making sure i put my finger in the right spot. So i used my middle finger and slowly eased it in to my vagina and it kind of stung b im so tight down there. I started getting used to it and started just moving it faster and faster in and out of my vag. It felt really good and i also at first started feeling around and moving my finger in there. People were right it does cause great stress relief! It felt really good but im not aure if i should continue. And should i start using 2 fingers instead of just one? Is it safe ? Is it usual to do this at this age?

This is completely normal, Self pleasure is the safest type of sex. Nothing wrong with it at all

So, my fiancé and I have been engaged for probably 5 years. We have one daughter together and one on the way. I stay home, so I don't have insurance. We can't afford to pay for all the costs associated with being pregnant on our own. Obviously, I know you shouldn't be having unprotected sex with the chance of getting pregnant if you can't afford the baby. He keeps pushing for us to run to the courthouse and get married so I can be on his insurance and the problem is solved. Just, that isn't what I want to do, at all. I feel like it has bad news written all over it. I love him and I want to marry him, eventually.. Just not because I need insurance. I feel so stressed and crazy because I feel the way I do. If it isn't him pushing it, it's his parents.

This would be marrying someone for the wrong reason's. Thus reason will end up leading your marriage into a divorce somewhere down the line. Marriage is a sacred union, not something people do to solve a problem.

Hi. I am a 20 year old girl and I'm a virgin. Recently I've been feeling kind of lazy and I feel like I should just get the sex thing over and done with, is it bad that I don't care about my virginity as much as I used to? I feel like it's this big thing that everyone keeps going on about but if I were to lose it now, it wouldn't be a huge deal for me. Is there something wrong with me? thanks

I think your outlook on it isn't very good. Loosing your virginity is not a pride thing, It should be given to someone who is special and means something to you. A partner who you trust and have been with for awhile. Just "getting it over with" is exactly how you end up with regrets. Do not make your first time something you will regret, Make it somewhat worthwhile.

Okay so I live in Canada, I am a 16 year old girl. My gym teacher has a student teacher that has come in to study for his apprenticeship and get his teaching degree. He is 25 years old and is really nice to me. He is great looking and I'm not talking from adolescence but he truly cares about me. He shows it in an every day activity. He has said I'm his favorite student and we talk in a very intelligent way. He has helped me with my problems and we always have harmless flirting. For instance, I'm a competitive soccer play and am in the soccer module this semester. He is my teacher and we always go one on one. Of course I always get the ball but its really cute. I know this is illegal but we have developed feelings for each other . He's really not my teacher and he goes back to school next month. What do I do next? Any advice accepted. Negative or positive

No no no and no

You are a minor and as your teacher he has authority over you. Flirting and acting more then student /teacher relationship can cause him to be fired and even possibly forced to regrister as a sex offender. This is very inappropriate

He is too old for you, He is your teacher.

Hi i am 17 my boyfriend is 22 do u feel it is ok but we start talking when i was at the age of 14 an he was 19

It would depend on the laws of your state, Most states require the age 16 to be able to legally consent to sex so I would say it's okay.

However let me ask you this.. Don't you find it weird that a 19 year old would see dating material in a 14 year old? I know you state you are 17 now but think about that for a minute. That in my eyes is considered a pedophile and so isn't in the eyes of the law. Personally, I would be questioning that.

Basically it is up too you, If you feel the relationship has the maturity to overcome the age difference then I guess so. I woild personally want to be with someone that see me as an adult, not a kid who is becoming one. Meaning, You were only 14... meet someone who knows you as you are now. Someone more your age

My Sister Wants Me To Add Her On My Xbox, But I'm Afraid She'll Say My Real Name And Stuff. I Talked To Her, And She Said She Wouldn't.. But She's Kind Of Immature. She's A Teenager, 16. Would You Add Her?

If you don't trust her then don't add her.

It's as simple as the old saying "Don't say what you don't want repeated"

You are entitled to your safety

A little background info, met my current boyfriend in September. Dated from then and made it official in November. During the dating time we both said we weren't seeing/talking to anyone else. During this time he went on a trip out of state and had sex with one of his best girl friends. The night he got back, we had sex and he asked me out officially. I was unaware of the fact he slept with his girl friend I actually just found out last night from a mutual friend. Not to mention he has slept with 2 other girl friends. All these girls are still around and they all hang out regularly. I feel so gross, I know we were not officially together when he slept with them but the one on the trip bothers me since we got together the day he was back from the 4 day trip. By the way, he doesn't know I know about him sleeping with his female friends and I can't bring it up without getting a mutual friend in trouble. Just don't know how to feel or if I should even bring it up?

He lead you on by not telling you he was with/ seeing anyone else. ( even if he wasn't technically seeing her) he still had sexual relations.

I think it's a bit sketchy that he would have sex with someone then come home like nothing happened and have sex with you? Uh uh.. he's a duece.

what works best to mix with Clorox bleach to dye my hair and how long should i leave it in for? i have black hair ....

Never use household cleaning products to dye your hair. These products contain toxic chemicals that if inhaled can cause lungs to clap, Bleach on the skin can also cause severe burns.

If you want to bleach your hair then I suggest going to Sally's and buying a bleach kit made for hair. I believe I paid around $12.00 for one, not that expensive.

Im 13/f and im 92 pounds but i would really like to loose 10 pounds.. What is the easiest way to do this?

I am going to take a wild guess that your the same person who said her father calls her fat.

WHY are you letting other people bring you down? We told you that for your height which I believe you said 5'1 you are underweight and not fat.

Infact, A calorie intake of 1200 at your age is a bit little as you should be eating 2000.

Seriously, You are going to make yourself sick. Not eating can eventually lead to hair loss, rotted teeth, organ failure and death. I am not trying to scare you but these are the dangers of being to thin. Boney is not attractive

13/f
My boyfriend and I haven't talked for the past week.. I tried texting him but he won't reply.. I can't meet up with him or anything like that bc I'm not allowed to date..but my friend said hat he was thinking about breaking up with me but then he said he loved me to much to let me go.. and I really like him. And I don't know what to do and I don't want to mess things up with him.. We have been dating for a month

He isn't interested

Sometimes people are cowards and will wait until the other person calls off the relationship. Basically, You tell him the relationship is over or he moves on with his silent treatment.

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