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Teacher- Student Relationship
Okay so I live in Canada, I am a 16 year old girl. My gym teacher has a student teacher that has come in to study for his apprenticeship and get his teaching degree. He is 25 years old and is really nice to me. He is great looking and I'm not talking from adolescence but he truly cares about me. He shows it in an every day activity. He has said I'm his favorite student and we talk in a very intelligent way. He has helped me with my problems and we always have harmless flirting. For instance, I'm a competitive soccer play and am in the soccer module this semester. He is my teacher and we always go one on one. Of course I always get the ball but its really cute. I know this is illegal but we have developed feelings for each other . He's really not my teacher and he goes back to school next month. What do I do next? Any advice accepted. Negative or positive
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Well even though he's not your teacher, it is illegal. You already know that. He could still be charged the same as if he was your teacher. I don't think it'd be fair to him to lose all his hard work to get this far and then lose it.
He might be a really good guy so I doubt he would want to be more with you and lose everything.
So he is leaving and the feelings were fine and fun but it can't be anything more than that.
So what you do next, you are happy from the memories and you move on.
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He goes away next month. Be grateful he's gone.
Feelings aren't illegal, but flirting, or acting on those feelings could ruin his life. Literally. His career would be over before it even began, he could be denied his degree, and he might even find himself facing criminal charges. He is "really" your teacher as far as the law is concerned, and he could get into the same trouble as any teacher.
So write this off as a fun young flirtation, and let it go.
Here's the thing you need to accept:
Even if he likes you as a person, he is not going to be your boyfriend unless he is a COMPLETE moron. He isn't going to risk years of work, tens of thousands of dollars in tuition, the difficulty of just getting a decent student teacher placement in Canada right now and possible criminal charges, to date you, unless he a complete idiot.
No matter how perfect you are, no one but an idiot would take that kind of risk.
And you don't think he's a complete idiot do you?
So let it go. I might have been fun, but its nothing more.
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I know it may seem like you two are meant to be, but you really have to look at the facts. and im sorry im telling you that the person you have feelings for isnt right for you, but that is what i honestly believe. That is a nine years difference! Take if one of your friends had a romantic relationship with their teacher that were nine years older. How would that make you feel? to me, it seems a bit wrong. Not saying he's a bad guy or a pervert. he may genially like you. im just saying i think you should forget about it and move on. yes, you can still talk to him and be friendly, but you shouldnt be flirty or anything like that! who knows? maybe he really isnt into you and you just like him so much, thats what your thinking. but honestly, i dont think you should be with him. i think you should find someone around your age, and someone thats not your teacher.
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No no no and no
You are a minor and as your teacher he has authority over you. Flirting and acting more then student /teacher relationship can cause him to be fired and even possibly forced to regrister as a sex offender. This is very inappropriate
He is too old for you, He is your teacher.
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