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is pleasuring yourself healthy at this age?
So im 13/f and i turn 14 in a few months. Ive been facing alot of stress and ive started to cut alot lately. Ive been trying to find ways to cope with it. So i searched online for wayd to relieve stress and one of the most common was the pleasure yourself. I didnt really know what that meant so i did more research and this morning in the shower i thought about it. I thought it would be most sanitary in the shower so i lied down on the floor of the shower and tried it. Ive never actually touched down in my vagina so i was just making sure i put my finger in the right spot. So i used my middle finger and slowly eased it in to my vagina and it kind of stung b im so tight down there. I started getting used to it and started just moving it faster and faster in and out of my vag. It felt really good and i also at first started feeling around and moving my finger in there. People were right it does cause great stress relief! It felt really good but im not aure if i should continue. And should i start using 2 fingers instead of just one? Is it safe ? Is it usual to do this at this age?
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Yes pleasuring yourself at your age is perfectly fine. I'm glad that you have found a less harmful way to cope with your stress. I'm not going to judge you though. Although personally I didn't self-harm, I came close to it and I was also thinking about trying to cope in unhealthy ways like drinking when everthing got too much for me (not because of stress but for other reasons). I don't condone the ways I tried to cope but I'm just saying that I kind of know the temptation to cope in harmful ways to get away from everything. Anyway, pleasuring your self is completely normal. Masturbation is sexually stimulating yourself and it's something that is enjoyable and it relieves sexual tension and stress. Masturbating in the shower is fine, there are loads of ways to masturbate and there is no 'right way' to masturbate. Just explore yourself and find out what works for you. It might help if you are relaxed and aoroused and that might make it easier to put your fingers in. When you are aroused the vagina can produce a natural vaginal lubricant.
Should you continue? it's up to you - there is nothing wrong with continuing masturbation.
Should you start using 2 fingers instead of just one? well again it's up to you. If you are comfortable and ready to add another finger then go for it. Tip: go slowly, don't rush it.
Is it safe? masturbation is perfectly safe. Rainhorse68 had good advice about being hygenic like washing your hands so you don't get any infectons and as long as you don't put any sharp objects in your vagina then you are fine.
There are no particular rights or wrongs about how often a person masturbates. As long as it doesn't get in the way of your daily life then it's ok.
Is it usual to do this at this age? Yes. Almost all girls masturbate. There are some teen girls that don't but that's ok as well (it doesn't mean that they are abnormal - they have their reasons).
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What you are doing is called masturbation and is not only a good way to relieve stress it is an excellent way to learn about your bodies sexual needs and delights. I would suggest that instead of doing so by laying on the floor of the shower, that if you have your own room. You will find it much more comfortable and pleasurable if you go in your room lock your door so as not to be disturbed and masturbate lying on your bed.You need not worry about sanitary, your vagina is healthy there is not concern.
As to how to masturbate is really up to you. This is what I meant by learning about your bodies needs, likes and desires when it comes to your sexuality. Massage your clitoris as well as fingering your vagina to see if this increases your pleasure.
There is nothing wrong with this activity as long as it is done in private and does not become an all encompassing part of your life to the effect you do nothing else. According to a recent survey 85% of the population, adults and teenagers masturbate. Masturbation is part of foreplay when you are older and start to have sex. When this happens it is called mutual masturbation.
Masturbation is a great way to relive sexual tension and not have to risk getting pregnant by having actual sex with someone. So when you feel the need, relax and enjoy yourself you are apart of the bigger portion of the worlds population that does so.
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It's absolutely normal, totally healthy and about a million times better than handling anxiety, relieving tension and stress by cutting yourself mate! And about a million times more pleasurable too, I should imagine...I've never deliberately cut myself...but I shouldn't think it's particularly enjoyable really? It teaches you about how you respond to becoming aroused, which will come in handy now you're leaving childhood behind you. As for your technique, well all women explore and discover what really works for them, and all have their own little favourites. Remember the whole area is sensitive to touch, outside and inside. If the slight stretching of two fingers really feels good for you, go with it...but don't overdo the insertion side of things too much until you've tried other variations, or you might just end up feeling sore rather than satisfied! Showers fine, as being hygenic is always a good idea. But nice clean fingers and lying in, or on your bed is not taking a hygene risk in the slightest, and where a lot of women feel most relaxed and comfortable. Well played with a bit of common sense and research mate. Shame all girls your age aren't as savvy and did the same before they started self-harming to deal with teenaged stresses and needs. Hope a few spot your post and read it if they're looking for help in fact! Your a fine, normal and well-adjusted young lady. Promise. Us guys do it too you of course. How about letting your mind imagine some hunky guy, a celeb or a guy you actually know, while you're enjoying yourself? Self-harming is a pretty neurotic and damaging practice, masturbating is neither of the above!!
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This is completely normal, Self pleasure is the safest type of sex. Nothing wrong with it at all
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