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i am 17 my boyfriend is 22 do u feel it is ok
Hi i am 17 my boyfriend is 22 do u feel it is ok but we start talking when i was at the age of 14 an he was 19
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Listen, if he's good for you and you feel this has been a good relationship then dont let anyone tell you otherwise. I do believe that age matters. But in this case, it really isnt that big of a difference. If the only reason your asking this question is because everyone is making a big deal out of it then dont bother paying attention to them! But, if your asking this because you feel like theres something wrong in the relationship or feel uncomfortable then you shouldnt keep it going. all it matters is that your both happy with the relationship! i personally, dont think its a bad thing that he's 5 years older. as long as you treat each other right :)
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Okay so it depends what place in the world your in. Some places it's legal some its not. I feel like if your happy and your parents give consent then go for it! Make sure he is the type of guys your willing to risk it for though. And make sure he's up for it. You may lose friends and so may he
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Given your present ages a 5 year difference in ages is not that big a deal with one exception. Many states have raised the age of consent to 18. This was done to comply with the no child left behind laws for education. As once you reach the age of consent you can also drop out of high school.
If you live in one of the states that has raised the age of consent your boyfriend is breaking the law by even dating you and could go to jail and be labeled a sexual predator for the rest of his life being required to register as a sex offender where ever he goes.
Now when you were 14 and he was 19 there was a problem for you were well below the age of consent. Like Zane the first thing that pops into my mind, if he knew you were just 14, i'd think he is a pedophile or at least has pedophile tendencies.
This would have worried me at the time and still does to a point. Depending on when you two started having sex, there may come a time when you become to old for him and he will go looking for another 14 year old or maybe younger girls to be with. This is how pedophiles work. He may ask you to find a younger girl to hang with the two of you. Should this ever happen then you need to run as far and as fast as you can away from him for he is a pedophile. You also need to report him to the police.
Do I feel it is okay for you to be with this guy? Just based on the information you haves supplied I am going to say no it is not okay. I base my answer not on your present ages but on the ages you were when you met. There is something wrong there and if I was your dad, and I'm old enough to be your granddad, I would want to answer that question before I gave you my okay.
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At this point it's up to you. I don't see it as wrong. When you were 14 and he was 19, that is really weird and kinda creepy. But at 17 year old and a 22 year old, I don't really see it as a problem.
Laws are different in each state though.
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It would depend on the laws of your state, Most states require the age 16 to be able to legally consent to sex so I would say it's okay.
However let me ask you this.. Don't you find it weird that a 19 year old would see dating material in a 14 year old? I know you state you are 17 now but think about that for a minute. That in my eyes is considered a pedophile and so isn't in the eyes of the law. Personally, I would be questioning that.
Basically it is up too you, If you feel the relationship has the maturity to overcome the age difference then I guess so. I woild personally want to be with someone that see me as an adult, not a kid who is becoming one. Meaning, You were only 14... meet someone who knows you as you are now. Someone more your age
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