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Ok, I"m in a guitar Club at my school, and for a Spring Rally, we're going to Play I belive a country sound called,"When you say nothing at all" I'm not sure who sings it, it was origionally sung by a guy, but they remade it recently and it was by a girl,if you could give me the name of either of them, it would be a GREAT favor. I bleive it's 2 people singing it? or somthing? I think one of them is Cross or somthing? please help, I was assigned to find the lyrics and Chords, if you could give me the singers name, it would do much for me, thanks

*I rate 5's for all attempts*


~Signed~
Tone Deff (link)
Hey that song was originally sung by a guy..but I don't know his name. But the girl that remade it was Alison Kraus. (accompained with union station) She's like blue grass country.
The lyrics are:
When You Say Nothing At All
Alison Kraus

It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word, you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best.. When you say nothing at all

All day long I can hear people talking outloud
But when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd
Old Mr. Webster could never define
What's being said between your heart and mine

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best.. When you say nothing at all

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best.. When you say nothing at all...


Also, I don't THINK Cross Canadian Ragweed remade that song but if you think they did that's their full name. Good luck! :)


i dont know wut 2 be for halloween.. i want 2 be something really sexy aND cute.. that everyone will like.. please HELP (link)
There are tons of different things that you can be and all you have to do is sex it up so it's sexy!
-play boy bunny
-sexy nurse
-cop
-french maid
-porn star
-britney spears
-wear lingerie
-beauty queen
-hooters girl
-bikini model
-hawaiian girl with coconut bra!!
-sexy witch
-cat woman

If you need anymore let me know. :)


this morning i burnt my leg with my hair crimper. and it left a scar on my leg. there is like 2 dark lines on my legg, and im not sure how to get rid of it?!...is there any way i can?!...please help! (link)
Hey, well, you PROBABLY aren't going to get rid of it in a day because burns usually take longer than that. But what you could do is: Put alovera (straight from the plant/gel form (found at drugstores) or the lotion form to help soothe the burn. Then put Neosporin on it. And if it seems like it's going to leave an ULTRA DUTY scar/mark get some MEderma. It's about 10 bucks for a lil' tube but it works wonders. It takes ANY SCAR AWAY or at least redices it to not even visible. Feel better. :)


Ok, whats the best way to slim down? Fastest results? (link)
Well, the age old answer in short to this question would be to "eat right and excersice" and also, remember slow and steady wins the race! But yah, who really follows that? If you are looking to drop about 5-10 lbs in about 2 weeks I would suggest the South Beach Diet. Log onto southbeachdiet.com for more info. It's a love carb diet that's a lot better for you than adkins. It teaches you to eat carbs (when you do) in moderation. Also, you could walk 1ce or 2ce a day or run on a tredmill to stay imn shape a tone up. If you need more info on the diet, don't hesitate to ask. I have a ton of books on it. I would suggest for you to buy the smaller book that just provides you with lists of everything you can and cannot eat and how many carbs it has! Good luck! :)

**EDIT: In respomse to your feedback, omg i wrote you this whole long thing and left it in your inbox but I'm not seeing it on my questions so I just want to make sure you have this to know..south beach does make you lose weight as well as inches around the waist and thighs. there's a show on food network called low carb and loving it that teaches you recipes for low carb life stlye. see foodtv.com for more info. also, if you didn't want to go the low caeb route you could try the Weight Watchers diet..my friend is on it and lost about 40 lbs in about 1 yeasr and her mom lost 150lbs on it in 8 months. a show on food network that would correlate with this would be calorie commando. also see foodtv.com for more info. the chef takes old recipes and fixes them so they have less alories and grams of fat. whichever diet you think you could stick to and suits you best is the one you should try. good luck! :)


How do you get rid of stretch marks, on your inner thigh:? (link)
Cocoa Butter lotion works the bests. They also have Cocoa Butter to prevent stretch marks during pregnancy, but it works even if you aren't preggy. They also have other types of creams that are specially made for stretch marks, but I think Cocoa Butter will give you the best results. You can get it at your grocery store or local drug store. :)


i started my period in 4th grade (in 8th now) and its still irregular and this last 2months its worse like it wont come for 2 - 3 months then when it does it only goes for 2 days...whats wrong with me its been more then 2yr's?!?! (link)
Hey hun. Well, the good news is not to worry. There is nothing wrong with you. It is VERY common to have an irregular period for even the first 5-6 years of having a period. Also, somethings the activities you take part in change your cycle's pattern as well. (Ie: swimming, running, sex, etc). And it's also okay for you to have a 2 day period. Periods can range from anywhere to a day to 2 weeks and sometimes more, yikes. Just be thankful your isn't like that. Mine's late all the time-it's no big deal. But, if you feel like there is truly something wrong with you, tell your mom and make an appointment for a doctor. :)


How do i make i cool advice column like yours? I know this is really stupid but i just want to no how! (link)
Hey there! Well, thanks for the compliment, but mines not even as cool as a lot of other people. But it was REALLY simple under "Column Settings" on the left hand side panel when you are logged in I just picked out some colors that I like (Pinks and blacks). I used the color chart link to sort through all the different color options. Also, under "Profile Settings" also on the left hand side panel I put a pic in the slot that says "URL pic of you", but instead of a ugly pic of me i put that flashing heart.. I found it after I searched for "cute pics" on google. Also, for my style I have chosen plain wide boxes. But if you want really cool effects on your column drop one in "SweetStar89"'s (there's a link for her under my favorite columnists and she will tell you where to go for codes..she's really nice. If you need any more info tho, just ask! Have a nice day! :)


How do u go about shaving pubic hair? (link)
Well, first off I just want to say, the choice of what you do to/with your body is always yours NOT A GUYS.
But it's pretty simple..you just use a razor like you would when shaving your legs...and use some shaving cream or conditioner so you don't cut yourself that badly. Try the Venus Razors and like a scented shaving cream.
*If this is your first time, you may want to first trim the hair with scissors so it's not as much to have to shave off. And remember, shving makes hair come back really soon..I mean it won't be all grown in by the next day, but you'll have some hair there. You may also experience some discomfort like itching or possible razor burn. Put a soothing lotion (Like baby lotion) on the area after shaving (Not inside the vaginal area)
Note: Never Nair your hair down there, but you could get it waxed off of get just a bikini wax..But you're 13 so I'm not sure your mom would go for the whole waxing thing. Anyways, yah. If you have any more questions, let me know. :)


I was wondering if any of u have a sucess storybehind using the atkins diet ? And also what kind of exercises did you guys do while doing the diet !!??? Thanks ! (link)
Hey there. Well, a good friend of mine was 300 lbs and he went on the Atkins Diet and about 2 months later he was about 185. So, the diet does work. The only bad thing is, Atkins revolves around the fact that you take in ZERO carbs. It also promotes you to eat fatty meats and cheeses which are bad for your heart and cholesteral. So, once you get off the diet, you gain all the weight back because your body goes crazy when it has a carb.
I think if oyu are interested in loosing weight and want to do a low carb kinda thing you should try the South Beach Diet. See SouthBeachDiet.com for more info.
It's a low carb diet which for the 1st phase (1st 2 weeks) is just like Atkins in that it allows no carbs, then the 2nd phase you add back in the good carbs, (EX: fruits, sweet veggies, etc). Then by the 3rd phase you pick the carbs you want to eat so that it now becomes a part of your lifestlye. You want crave as much of the carbs oyu use to and you'll appreciate what carbs you do it in moderation. There are tons of books out there on it. I suggest getting the small hand carry south beach book because it gives you a list of what you can't and can eat and how many carbs things have and how much of them you can eat, also, it gives you meal plans that you can even switch around. Another thing, you may want to watch the FoodNetwork and Watch a show called "Low Carb and Lovin' it" The guy cooks all low carb stuff and teaches you good tips and tricks on how to survive. Log on to foodtv.com and click on shows "low carb and lovin it" for more info. Best of luck! :)

Oops I forgot: I think the best excersice for oyu would to be just to run or walk 1ce or 2ce a day. Like walk through your neighborhood or run or run/walk on a tred mill. That's a good way to get your heart circulating nad to stay in shape. :)


Ok so I am 13 years old and I want to start babysitting. I'm not sure if there are laws on how old you have to be (I live in England.) Is 13 old enough? How would I go about it? (link)
Hmm, well I don't live in England but I'm like 99% sure it's the same as it is in the US.
There's no law saying how old you have to babysit. I started when I was 12. You can start babysitting whenever you, your family, and the people you are babysitting for think you are old and mature enough. If you want to start babysitting you could put a small add in the paper, make flyers and post them, put some up on the bullieten boards at school, make business cards and hand them out, or here in the US some neighborhoods have magazines that you can post your info in. Also, we have a class you can take to become Red Cross Certified that trains you how to do CPR and what to do in trying sitiations. If you have anything like that, take that class. Good luck! :)


okay, to those of you that listen to country, lately I've been thinkin of these lyrics, and now I'm getting them messed up, so before I 4get, duz any1 know this song

What if God quit trying
he just turned away....
What would you do
You'd probably give up too
if nobody believed in you

Then in another stanza, I know it says something about taking his name out of the pledge of allegience. If you atleast know who sings it, or the name, or a full stanza of lyrics it'd be appreciated (link)
It's Joe Nichols. And the name of the song is If Nobody Believed in you.
Lyrics:

I watched him take the two strike call:
He hadn't tried to swing at all.
I guess he'd had all that he could take,
He walked away, for goodness sake.
His father's voice was loud an' mean:
"You won't amount to anything."

That little boy quit tryin',
He just walked away.
There were teardrops on his face.
Tell me, how would you feel?
You'd probably give up too,
If nobody believed in you.

That old man said: "One more try"
"I know I'm not too old to drive,
"I promise, son, I'll do my best,
"This time, I'm gonna pass the test."
"Give me the keys, Dad, an' get in."
His father never drove again.

That old man quit tryin',
He just turned away.
An' there were teardrops on his face.
Tell me, how would you feel?
You'd probably give up too,
If nobody believed in you.

We take His name out of schools.
The lawyers say it breaks the rules.
Pledge of allegiance can't be writ,
An' under God, should not be said.
I wonder how He will take.
I just pray it's not too late.

What if God quit tryin',
He just turned away?
There were teardrops on his face?
Tell me, how would you feel?
You'd probably give up too,
If nobody believed in you.

Tell me, how would you feel?
You'd probably give up too,
If nobody believed in you.
:)






I have theses shelves that go all around my rooms and have pegs on them. any decorating tips? I don't know what to put on them! (link)
Well, you could do a lot with that. You could paint the selves to coorelate with the color of your room or the color of your comfortor on your bed. Also, if your room already has a theme to it you could add lil' knick knacks pertaining to the theme. If it doesn't have a theme, you could get some picture frames of different colors (or colors that you like or that match your room) and put pics of your family and friends it it. (You can get cheap pic frames at walmart or even the dollar store). You can also get a cute lil lamp to put on one the selves. and you could even decorate the lap shade by adding like beads (just apply them with a hot glue gun) or anything creative like that. You could also put things that are memorable to you, like your first stuffed animal, trophies, awards, etc. Put things on your self that express who you are. Next time you are out at ANY store just look for thing that represent who you are. Usually lil' minatures nad things like that aren't too costly. Good luck! :)


My mom says I need to be more responsable so that she can trust me when I start driving in a month. How can I show her that she can trust me? (link)
You can show her by acting more responsible. Do everything you are told to do around the house BEFORE your mom tells you too. That way, she will see that you are responsible enough to remember your tasks without having to be reminded. Also, follow all your moms rule. And most impotantly, give your mom the respect she deserves. When you get in an argument about something suck it up and just agree to disagree. Don't drag it out. You might want to do something nice for her too. If you get home from school before she gets home from work clean the whole house, do some laundry, have al your homework done, everything ready for the next day, and cook her dinner. Just be a responsible person and she will learn to trust you. :)


I'm 14/f. I have a brother who is 17 and I'm really starting to fall for one of his friends who is also 17. The age thing isn't an issue but I think if we were ever together my brother would freak out. My problem is that I think he might possibly like me back. How can I tell if he likes me romantically or if he just thinks or me as my brother's little sister? (link)
Well, this is kinda a weird situation because you don't want to say something to this guy and him be like annoyed or something; so be careful about hte way you approach this. Also, you definately don't want to mess things up between you and your brother, or worse yet, your brother and this guy. The best thing to do would be to make subtle comments when you are around him. Or like when he says something answer back knda whitty and be like haha "you know you want me" jkjk. This way he will sort of get an idea but your not throwin' yourself at him. If you see he kinda does hte same with you..then I'd talk to him about hte whole thing..and ten discuss what you are gunan do about your brother. If you need more help, let me know! :)


hmm first of all what does an antacid do ? i kno that it neutralize acids in your stomach but like how does it make u feel and how do u kno u should take it?

and has anyone else ever taken milk of magnesia because personally i think it tastes like cement and i have to plug my nose and it still makes me gag (link)
An antacid basically stops/helps you from/with having Acid Reflux or heartburn or a nausiated feeling in your tummy after you eat certain foods. For minor feelings of heartburn after you eat (burping up the food you eat a lot) you may want to try Tums or Rolaids. They are both over the country. Those can't hurt ya at all even if you don't REALLY need 'em, so if you think you may just try one of those because they are pretty riskfree.
If you believe you have Acid Reflux disease or an unequal amount of acid in your stomach you may want to consult with a doctor. Or, if you KNOW you have ARD you may want to try Prilosec OTC. It use to be a perscription and now it is an over the country thing they recommend you to take for liek 2 weeks.
If you consult your doctor and your stomach produces abnormal amounsts of acid (like me) or you have serious ARD then you may want to get a perscription for Prevacid. It helps so much. Before I went on the medication I was always nausiated and miserable. Now I can eat anything and I'm never nausiated.

If you seem to have stomach issues, see a Dr. or just start off with the Tums. If you need more info let me know. :)


Ok, my friend, she is a total pig at lunch, and i KNOW she is going to gain weight soon. She eats like pizza,fries,chocolate cream pies, and candy everyday. I want to help her out and let her know shes gonna gain weight without being totally mean. She gets mad super easily and she would be pissed if i said it the wrong way.
PLZ help,
-A good friend (link)
Well, you have to be careful in this situation because a lot of girls are sensitive when it comes to their weight. That's really nice that you care for her and are concerned about her well being. Everyone should be so lucky as to have a friend like you. But, you can't really control your friends eating habits for her. What you could do those is like when she's eating with you at lunch, or y'all or hanging her out, offer her something healthy. *Ex: Fruit, Veggies, Baked chips instead of Regular,etc* Also, you could just make a subtle comment like, " the other day hwen i was at the grocery store with my mom I was look on the label of one of those chocolate cream pies (or some other unhealthy snack) and it had like so many caolories, fat grams, sugars, etc. This way she'll hear you and she might start to think about what she's consuming. Also, you could tell her you want to start running for excersize and ask her if she'd help you out and run with you. Or, you could ask her to join a gym with you. Or, you could tell her you are going on a diet and you need some1 to go on it with. I think any of these ways are getting the idea across without hurting anyone or being blunt. In the event she gains a ton of wiehgt, be there for her and help her get it down but some of the above mentioned ways. Take care. :)


i have friends and sometimes i feel like they dont need me... i dont know why... i cant tell them about it because then they would obviously say that its not true. i have a bestest friend but shes not in the U.S. so i cant see her veryday and hang with her. please help me... (link)
I'm guessing you are prolly in either junior high or high school. So with that said, don't be too worried. Everyone goes through what you are feeling. ESEPCIALLY during junior high and high school. The thing is, you can't let it get you down. At your age, it seems like everything is about how many friends you have, and who you are friends with. And that's not entirely true. Sure, it's important to have good friends to care about you, support you, laugh with, etc, right but that's okay if y'all don't need each other 24/7. Life at your age is really about having fun, taking the bull by it's horns and just living your life. You are right, if you do mention something to them you risk them just saying "oh it's not true", and you would still feel like the problem isn't resolved. Your best in this case would be to not let the situation get the best of you and don't put yourself in positions that make you feel like this. Also, become friends with everyone! Talk to everyone. Be totally social and accepting. There are no limits to the friends you can have. Take advantage of that. If you become friends with a whole lot of people then you won't always feel like those one group of friends don't need you. And by have a lot of friends, you are expanding who you are. That's really important. However, if these "friends" that you feel don't need you are being rude, mean or anything of that nature..you let them know so they can make a change. And if they don't change..tell 'em to take a hike. Don't stand for it. I'm sure you have great things to offer and everone would be lucky to have you as a friend. :)


hey i'm the girl whose walkman was broken because the sound was only coming out of the 1 ear. well it wasnt the headphones because i put other headphones in and it still didnt work, so i want to know if there is a place where i can get my walkman looked at/repaired. i have a Sony Psyche and i HEARD that they don't make them anymore, so where could bring it to get it fixed? my mom doesnt remember where she bought it. and would it be cheaper to get it repaired or should i just buy a new one? i have no idea. and i feel bad because we dont really have alot of money right now. (link)
Hey there. That same problem use to happen to me. The music would only some out of one ear. I figured out that it was because I wasn't using the brand of head phones that belongto the brand of walkman/cyplayer. You need to be using a Sony headphone. That way sound will come out of both sides. But if you just want to fix or buy a new one, it's prolly better to just guy a new one, because repair places can get kind of costly and an the end you put more into it than it's worth it. But for now, try getting a pair or Sony headfones. (It doesn't have to be Sony Psyche, just Sony brand.) Hope it works! :)

EDIT: Oh, well you might have blown a fuse in the wireing. That sometimes happens to. So then you would again need a new pair. :) Sorry I can't be more help. Good luck. :)


I have a (suposivly common) Problem with my ovaries in which pin head size cysts on them cause irregular periods. I havent gotten my period in nearly 6 months. I had several MRI's done, and i saw a OB/GYN. Next week, I am going to a specialist at the hospital to consult about the problem, but I'm scared that they will give me an exam, and if they do, they will find out that I am no longer a virgin like my mom thinks! I'm incredibly scared, especially because my mom would killll mee if she found out. I regularly engage in sexual intercourse, and I'm afriad that if she knows, my trust will be ruined, and all hell wil break loose. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
Well, first of all...I'm 99% sure you have PCOS. Pollycystic Ovarian Syndrome. The things you described are very common with PCOS..I in fact have it. http://www.soulcysters.com/ go there for more info. also, you can talk to your docotor about keeping ur sexual stuff confidential. so try not to worry. but if your mom does find out just talk to her maturly. your dr. will prolly recommend you going on birth control for pcos too. if you need more info let me know. :)


i've got a cold. i've seen ads on TV for little strips you wear on your nose to clear it up, but what are those called? Where do you buy them?

thanks (link)
Those strips are called "Brethe Right strips". They work pretty well for me. Sometimes they only clear up one side of your nose though, but every little bit helps. They have the original form and the Vicks Vapor form. The vicks one makes you want to sneeze and ugh it weird. Bit i would definately try them because they work well, especially when going to bed at night. You can get them at some grocery stores or places like Wal Mart and Target and all drug stores like Eckerd, Walkgreens. Feel better! :)




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