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i have friends and sometimes i feel like they dont need me... i dont know why... i cant tell them about it because then they would obviously say that its not true. i have a bestest friend but shes not in the U.S. so i cant see her veryday and hang with her. please help me...
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make new friends because you're probably right?
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you should talk ta your friends a lil bit more and get to kno them .. become close and have fun ! thatz the most important thing !
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Hey~What do you mean that they don't need you?! Drop one in my box! ~Paige~
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i think that it would be best if you talk to them about this. even though they might say its not true, they should be able to talk to you about these things. and if you feel that they arent your real friends, maybe you should try making new friends instead
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umm .. its called lifes tough. Sry hun, your just gunna need to get over it and deal with rough times. Tell them how you feel & see what happens.
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get some new friends!! keep the old ones but get some new ones to! or just take ur 2cd bestest friend to the side n talk to them! just tell them how u feel! if they were really ur friend they would understand!!
*hope i helped! write bakk if u need n e thang else!
xoxo-ashlyn
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Listen, don't ever think no one needs you, you kno what maybe that even is true. Maybe no one you know currently exactly NEEDS you to do something for them, but they do need you as a friend. If they didnt need you as a friend, they wouldnt talk to you sweety. They would ignore you when you talked to them, and they wouldn't care enough to even mention you. Your probably just havin a low day, and thats fine cause sometimes, once in a while, I feel annoyed by the world for no reason at all! What you should try though is join clubs and activities to meet new people though, and call up your friends and make plans to hang out. Trust me, they do need you, and all your friends probably love you to death but just havn't been saying that lately because they don't know how you feel.
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Hey well i have the same problem the best thing to do is talk to them!!!!! Thanx i Hope i hhelped!!!!
-R-Dog
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If your intuition is telling that your friends don't need you, chances are they don't. Many times your friends may not seem exactly like they are you’re really your friends. If you feel like you can't talk to your friends about your feelings chances are you feel like they don't understand you. You should always be able to share your thoughts without having to feel like you will be punished for doing so. Maybe its time to rethink your friendships?
From your statement above, it seems to me like you are the girl with a lot of acquaintances, but only a few close friends and there is nothing wrong with that. Speaking from experience, long distance relationships don't work- even between friends. Its time to move on with your life. Try to form close bonds with a few new people who you feel comfortable around and think that potentially could be "best friend material". I am certain that your bestest friend is doing the same.
You don't have to end your friendship, but just remember that material friendships ( ones which you can actually see) work out a whole lot better.
Good Luck
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I have a friend like that. She thinks we don't like her but she keeps hanging out with us. We all like her, she's cool. You need to sit your friends down and tell them how you feel. It seems you are a little insecure about the friendship you all share. Tell them that, tell them how much the friendship means to you. Let them know you need some for sure assurance that they care. I know how it is when people say they care, but turns out they don't. I'm guessing you are in school. Junior High or High school. I'm in Junior High so I know how the friendship thing can be. If you need anything else, let me know.
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I'm guessing you are prolly in either junior high or high school. So with that said, don't be too worried. Everyone goes through what you are feeling. ESEPCIALLY during junior high and high school. The thing is, you can't let it get you down. At your age, it seems like everything is about how many friends you have, and who you are friends with. And that's not entirely true. Sure, it's important to have good friends to care about you, support you, laugh with, etc, right but that's okay if y'all don't need each other 24/7. Life at your age is really about having fun, taking the bull by it's horns and just living your life. You are right, if you do mention something to them you risk them just saying "oh it's not true", and you would still feel like the problem isn't resolved. Your best in this case would be to not let the situation get the best of you and don't put yourself in positions that make you feel like this. Also, become friends with everyone! Talk to everyone. Be totally social and accepting. There are no limits to the friends you can have. Take advantage of that. If you become friends with a whole lot of people then you won't always feel like those one group of friends don't need you. And by have a lot of friends, you are expanding who you are. That's really important. However, if these "friends" that you feel don't need you are being rude, mean or anything of that nature..you let them know so they can make a change. And if they don't change..tell 'em to take a hike. Don't stand for it. I'm sure you have great things to offer and everone would be lucky to have you as a friend. :)
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I feel the same way. But their your friends, of course they wanna hang out and stuff..so just forget about what your telling yourself cuz they do like you!
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