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I have a (suposivly common) Problem with my ovaries in which pin head size cysts on them cause irregular periods. I havent gotten my period in nearly 6 months. I had several MRI's done, and i saw a OB/GYN. Next week, I am going to a specialist at the hospital to consult about the problem, but I'm scared that they will give me an exam, and if they do, they will find out that I am no longer a virgin like my mom thinks! I'm incredibly scared, especially because my mom would killll mee if she found out. I regularly engage in sexual intercourse, and I'm afriad that if she knows, my trust will be ruined, and all hell wil break loose. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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You probably should have thought about this before you became sexually active,no offense. But obviously your mom shouldn't trust you because she trusted you not to have sex, and you did, and you do it regularly. When you aren't married, nothing good comes out of sex. I know you are scared of your mom being mad, but I would be more scared of having something like Herpes, AIDs, HIV, STI's etc. Not my mom being mad, because in the end she's the one who is gonna help you, no matter what.
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the doc cannot tell ur mom. also on the side if the cyst needs removal it is a very simple operation that my sister had a few years ago for the same type. if u have any questions ask me.
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its called dr./patient confidentiallity they cant tel ur mom
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If you are under the age of 18, they can tell your mother that they think you may be sexually active, running and bike riding can affect your hymen, but if you aren't in any knid of sports or anything, and they tell your mother, she will know, it is best to tell her yourself, then someone else tell her, by you telling her, she won't be as upset as if someone else told her. mothers cherish thier daughters, and they would rather hear it from you, it make them feel like you have a good close relationship. it will be better if you tell her, trust me, i didn't tell my mother and she was devastated when she found out i was pregnant, and told me that she wished i would have told her, then she might have been able to protect me from having my girls at such a young age. But i wouldn't give them up for anything, i love my girls, i was just too young, and i wish i would have had them later.
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Well if I'm right, which I'm almost positive, unless you are dangeroulsy or harmfully (meaning having an STD, or pregnant, or somehting like that) haing sex, they dont havwe to tell your mom, unless they feel it is harming you, my guess is you should talkt o your Doctor or whom ever and tell them that you have been engaged in sexual intercourse, and let them know your safe (lets pray to God you are) and that theres no need to let your mother know, we dont want to let hell lose!!! Lol, i really really hope i helped and hope everything wokrs out fine!! Get better adn good luck!!! also, let me knwo how things worked out!
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They can not tell if you are a virgin or not. The hymen, which is the indicator of "virginity" is not usually intact on women these days because we are so physically active. Running, riding a bike, horseback riding, all contribute to wearing down your hymen. If you are to get an exam, you should ask your mother to leave the room because you aren't comfortable with her seeing your yaya. They aren't going to say OMG YOU AREN'T A VIRGIN, they are very discreet. Good luck with your cysts. I have read that they are caused by eggs that did not develop properly. Is that what you have?
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First of all, your doctor will not tell you mother anything. Your doctor will probably not even be able to tell if you are virgin, but it is very important that you let him or her know the truth.
Their job is not to judge you, but to make the best diagnosis and provide care depending on your medical history, which includes sexual activity.
So. Be honest with the doctor, who will not tell you mother about sex, and then pay attention to the medical side of things. You are within your rights to ask your doctor what information will or will not be provided to your mother.
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Don't worry, they can't tell for sure if you've had sex or not [[ unless you're pregnant or something ]], and even if they do know // you tell them // whatever, they can't tell your Mom unless YOU give them permission.
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Your doctor cannot tell your mom if yoursexually active, it is against the law. they might, if you are underage, tell your mom if you are pregnant, or have a bad case of a STD or illness. CHeck out this site::
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then click gynocologist (near the bottom and scroll through the listsof questions, its like the 18th one down. Look around at other questions too.
Hope this helps:
If ya need anything else drop one in my inbox
*Leah
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Well, first of all...I'm 99% sure you have PCOS. Pollycystic Ovarian Syndrome. The things you described are very common with PCOS..I in fact have it. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) go there for more info. also, you can talk to your docotor about keeping ur sexual stuff confidential. so try not to worry. but if your mom does find out just talk to her maturly. your dr. will prolly recommend you going on birth control for pcos too. if you need more info let me know. :)
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talk to your doctor tell him/her that you have done it and that if it comes up on any of the tests to please not tell your mom! hope I helped! I hope you get better*
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Don't worry. It's confidential. You could ask your doctor not to share information with your mom, if you're over like 16 or 18, they won't. It's not a big deal.
~Laura~
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