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my mom.
Hi I Have A Question. ((Duh!)) Umm, Although I Lover Her ALOT, My Mom Is The Most Irresponsible Immature Woman I Know, And I'm Not Saying This Because I'm Mad At Her Or Anything, I'm Saying It Because She ****'s Up Everything!! Everyday She Forgets To Do Something Or Whatever. Example: I'l Ask Her Nicely To Wake Me Up In The Morning For School, And She'l Do So, But 5 Minutes Before School Even Starts. Here's Some Other Things That Really Bother Me.
-She'll Forget Her Keys In The Car.
-She'll Yell For Me Really Loud In The Store When She's Too Lazy To Walk To The Next Isle And Tell Me To Come.
-She'll Blame Her Problems On Me. i.e.= She Doesnt Take The Wet CLothes Out Of The Washer, Then They Smell Really Bad, And She'll Say, "Well If You Didn't Keep Me Up All Night Makin Me Help You Study I Would Have Remembered" And I Wouldnt Even Keep Her Up All Night. Having Her Do Something With Me Like Helping Me Study For 5 Minutes Is Something That Happens Only Maybe Once A Year. She' Be Too Busy Sleeping.
-She Wears Clothes That Dont Fit Her, And She Dresses Like A Hooker With A Mental Disability. MANY Disablities Actually.
-She Got Her Hair Cut Like A Guy, And It's So Embarassing. Her Whole Appearance Is Embarassing.
I've Been Dealing With Her...Awfulness For Quite Some Years Now, And I Can't Take It Anymore. So Much..Ughh.....I Can't Handle This Anymore, And Sometimes I Even Contemplate Suicide Because My Life's Not Worth Living When She Messes Everything In It Up. SHe Will Go Buy Me Candy To Make Up For What She Did, But That DOesnt Help Me With My Tardy To School, Or My Label "The One With The Retarded Mom." I Hate It, I Hate This. Will You Be My Mom?
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As sad as this is, your gunna have to make your own life, and live it independantly than your mom. When you show your mom up and be twice as responsible as her, then maybe she'll even be jealous or upset shes not the one acting like a mom. If she doesnt, screw her! Lifes tough & their are tons of times where we can't depend on our parents, I'm just saying things the honest way. It sounds like you've tried with your mom before, and the best thing you can do for your situation is act like the mom. if she starts blaming things on you just say in a mommish voice : Ok mom, just calm down. It will be ok! You will piss her off and smack her into shape.And for your own problems.
1) Invest in an alarm clock. As annoying as they are they never let you down
2) Get a copy of your moms car key, and carry it in your purse or something. This way if your with her, you wont be stuck outside. If shes alone, she'll just have to learn and you wont suffer.
3)Go on strike and stop going to the stores with her until she promises to not yell so loud like that. Yep, thats right, you having control over her!
4)When she blames her problems on you, just say you know mom i've had to raise myself all alone my whole life, now i have to raise you?? (works everytime--)
5)When she dresses like a ho, just say im not going out with you until you change your outfit. Even if shes about to bring you somewhere that you need to go, walk or get a ride, its worth not being embarrassed....... I guess if you really just need the ride go w/ her and dont say anything.
6)Her haircut isnt your problem. Don't let yourself suffer for her stupid decisions. When people say the "one with the retarded mom" just say.......... just b/c you cant handle your own problems doesnt mean I asked you to handle mine
7) You had mentioned something about studying. Well, now you dont need a mom or any study buddy! Heres a website that allows you to make virtual flash cards and other study guides! www.quia.com . . . . . once there click on "instructor zone" & then "30 day free trial" hope I've helped in that department.
Like I've said, just make her feel like shes the kid and your the mom. She'll be jealous just how accomplished you are at a very young age. Dangle it right over her head and act soo like a mom. She will eventually catch on !! If she doesnt, I would be highly suprised. Let her dress how she wants, just refuse to be around her dressed like that. Offer to help her go shopping every here and there and make a "girls day". Dont commit suicide. Once you live on your own you'll be free to make your own choices, and hopefully you will learn from her mistakes and benefit. Its so responsible that you can visualize shes dressing wrong for her age and stuff. Your really mature and thats awsome! You have some great traits. And when she tries to apologize with candy just simply tell her "this will never make up for the things you do, i want to see improvement and change, not sugar".
good luck!
keep in touch, i would love to hear how the situation goes, dont be afraid to send one to my inbox!!!
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Let me know how everything goes, hope your situation clears up.
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Okay, first of all, you need to get this thought of wanting to commit suicide right out of your mind! How your mother acts shouldn't make you want to kill yourself, you have your whole life ahead of you and half of it won't even be with her! Just think about that for now...
Also, it's true that you can't approve or make-up for everything that your mom does or says. So, you have to confront her and tell her exactly what you told all of us here at Advicenators. Tell her about how she embarasses you, and that you think she's acting immature and needs to pull her act together and act like your mother.
If you're a little scared about telling your mom right off the bat, I suggest telling your school counsler or dad or any other adult that you trust. They can help talk you through some of your problems and hopefully help you think of a relieving end to all of this madness =)
I'm very sorry for you, but she is your mother and she's the only one you have and you have to love her and be there for her - no matter how immature or irresponsible she may act at times.
Good luck, sweetie, and come to me if you need anymore advice! I'm always here for you =)
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o.m.q hehe i have the EXACT same problem with ym mom. and ii hate it!! and if i compain to her sh'll take it as a joke!! i hate it!! lol well here all u ahve to do iis ignore her (i also love my mom. i just dont love how she is sometimes) . dont ignore her in a mean way but just ignore what she does.. u have to learn that no everyone cares if she yells int he supermarker.. i used to be embaressed with EVERY SIGNLE little thing she did but then i learned taht everyone else cares about what otehr people think. they dont even realize our emmbaressmants .
hope i helped
Muah qood luck
*arella*
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Wow, that seems tough, Im really sorry. But maybe you should try confronting her one more time, and if she doesnt improve her actions tell her you you love her but want to go live with another relative. That may convince her, and if not you can always go live with another realitve. Its not fair that any one should have to live like that, your the kid and shes the adult even though us teens have to take on some responbility, she has to take her share too.
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Well, maybe you could go to counceling or something. Or maybe have one of her friends talk to her since she won't listen to you. And if she changes and stuff, to make her appearence better, take her shopping and pick out nice clothes for her. Hope that helps
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awww..I'm soo sorry..maybe try talking to one of your friends moms..tell them exactly what you just said.. maybe they could talk to her or get her some help..it sounds like she might be bi-polar..(-two different personalities-) hope I helped..sry you have to live like that..if you ever need anymore help leave some in the inbox! =D xo0 KelleY 0ox
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