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I want to get breast surgery to make my boobs larger, but I wanted to know what you guys think. Should I get breast surgery? I am only an A cup right now and I don't feel comfortable wearing tank tops or any clothes that show my real size. I want to make them at least a B cup. If I do decide to get surgery, is who should I consult to get on with it? Has anyone already got surgery who can tell me the price and the side-effects? Thankyou for your help (Indeed)
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Age is a definitely needed to judge this question.
I'd agree with MFS that you should be fully developed and really think this through completely. Will this really make you feel better about yourself? If its that much a problem and you are only looking to be a B cup try buying a push up bra or a water filled or air filled bra. I had one they are great. Very comfortable. Eventually though, I decided I didnt really care that much because I was okay with my size and thats all that matters.
Check out these sites for more information:
www.implantinfo.com
www.thebreastsite.com
Here is a checklist to keep in mind:
Breast Implant Surgery Checklist
1. Check the operating surgeons track record and credentials. Find out how often they have performed the procedure, the incidence of implant rupture, and the incidence of both capsule formation and contracture.
2. Research the types, advantages and disadvantages of available implants and why your surgeon is recommending a particular type to you. Ask about the placement of the implant and the resulting appearance of the scar.
3. Get clear answers about the post-operative effects of this procedure. Discuss bruising, bleeding, swelling, infection, pain and recovery time. Be sure to ask about the possible reduction of nipple sensitivity. We recommend that you consider using the services of a complimentary health provider like a chiropractor for your post-surgical recovery.
4. Find out about longer term issues including wrinkles and folds in the implants, capsule formation, expected lifetime of the implant and details pertaining to a possible rupture.
5. Get a clear and detailed financial quote for the initial operation, follow-up visits and the cost of implant removal or re-implantation should this be required.
Definitely check out this page however, it gives the risks that could occur if you do decide to get breast implants:
http://www.justbreastimplants.com/risks/
^ of all the things I read at that risk site this seems to be the most important so I'll highlight it for you:
"An implant can interfere with the detection of early breast cancer because it may "hide" suspicious lesions in the breast during an x-ray exam. It is especially important for women who are at high risk of developing breast cancer to consider this before having implants. The earlier cancer is detected, the better the chance for a cure. "
Good luck and hopefully you make a wise choice.
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I'm working temporarily at a pizza restaurant until I can find something better. I used to work at a grocery store, but quit after we went on strike, because I was unhappy there and didn't like the way the strike was settled. Anyway, the people seem friendly enough on the surface, but I'm a cashier there, and I don't do as much work as them. Not because I don't want to, but the manager wants me to stay primarily up front, and he won't let me make the pizzas yet even though I know I could do it. I've worked for the same chain about ten years ago. I'm the only white person there besides one of the drivers. Most of my co-workers are hispanic and don't speak that much english, so that may be why they don't talk to me much. I don't know if it's just my own insecurity, but it seems like if I ask for help with something, or I make a minor mistake, they are resentful that they have to help me. I think I'm doing a pretty good job, but nobody's perfect. I keep imagining they are thinking "I can't believe she did that, " and talking about me behind my back. I sometimes feel like I'm back in high school when I'm there. There is one woman who is friendly with me. She speaks good english, and does cashier work too, but she also makes pizzas. I sometimes think she is resenting me too. I try my best to be friendly to everyone, I've been there about a month, but I still feel tension between me and them. My mom says not to worry about them. I'm not going to stay there long anyway. But it bothers me because I know I'm a nice person, and I don't like being pre-judged by anyone. I know this is part of life, but it just makes me uncomfortable. I sometimes see some of them giving me funny looks like they think I'm weird or dumb, or something. I used to get picked on a lot in school, so I think that is why I'm so sensitive. Can anyone give me advice on how I can not let what they may or may not be thinking bother me? Does anyone think I'm imagining this? I feel like I'm the "new person" in their eyes, and to them I'm an "intruder" in their little "clique". I know that sounds dumb, but that is how it feels. Can anyone relate? (Indeed)
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Have you ever tried to strike up conversation with them about non-work related things? Maybe they just fear the unknown. I doubt you are imagining this, but you may be thinking so much on it that it is making the situation much worse for you. Do your best at work. If you think all day about what they think of you, you are bound to mess up while working and then they might have a reason to dislike you. It may simply be that they mistrust new people or that they arent sure how to act around you.
After some more time has passed and if you have still not been offered an actual pizza making opportunity that you feel you deserve then you should talk to your boss. They may feel you need to work upfront for a certain amount of time before you can make pizzas or something to that effect. Talk to your boss and find out what the requirements are for being allowed to make pizza.
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Can they really use soda tabs for wheelchairs or is that a myth? (Indeed)
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Ok this is old but here its real. In canada that is.
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I have an.. well interesting sister. She is 4 years older than I am and I am nearly 18. My sister and I both live at home still. My sister acts as if her life is the most important life on the face of the earth, and she treats everyone around her like a lesser being. Sometimes I just want to physically hurt her because words just never get through to her, that is, if you can words out at all. She never lets people speak, especially when she is angry. She blames her problems on everyone else in my family, especially my mother and I'm starting to believe my sister is really breaking my moms heart to pieces. Her actions and words hurt all of my immediate family and it is so extremely peaceful and quiet when she is at work.
The thing that bothers me the most is that she always claims that her life is so much worse than everyone else's, no matter what they are enduring, she refuses to offer support, instead she will explain how much more difficult it is to be her. I can't stand being around her because she always insults me, she claims that she is just being honest when clearly - she is just being rude.
I had hoped she would be moving out soon but she enrolled in school again and so she will be staying at home for at least another 2 years. Its madness and I simply can't be around her.
When I have tried to explain how I feel and how badly she treats us she refuses to let me finish and assumes I am attacking her and she responds with attacks of her own. She always tells us how horrible it is to have a family like ours and how no one cares about her and how she wishes she could leave.
I have tried to tolerate her disgusting attitude and no one outside my family can understand my grief over this issue because my sister changes her entire self when she is around anyone other than our immediate family - she is suddenly nice. Therefore, no one else understands.
My question to advicenators is this - is there anything that I can say to my sister that will make her realize how bad she is hurting our family or do we all need to simply tough it out for the next few years until she moves out on her own?
However, even if we do tolerate her, I don't ever want to simply sever ties with my own sister - I want her to care about us and love us - I want her to be a friend to me. Not someone that hates us and supposedly makes her life horrible. (Indeed)
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Eventually she'll have to grow up. Usually people like this start to become less self centered when they have kids - now they've got someone totally dependent on them and there just isnt time to think completely about themselves. Just know you're a better person for allowing her to just fade quietly into the selfish bitchyness that she is.
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Therse this guy from a different School from me and hes my BFF and I tell him everything and he gets involeved w/ me N my friends fight over the internet and my friend im upset with thinks its me WHAT DO I DO?! (Indeed)
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Tell him he shouldn't be involved and make sure you clarify with your other friends that that was him and not you. Just because someone is your best friend doesn't mean you life is left wide open to them. Everything has boundaries.
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Ok there is this thing during lunch and I am like, idk, like all WHATEVER! about it. and my friends want me to go and i want to go but i think the preppies in my school are like, oh yeah look at me, and I dont like people like that. But deep down i feel that if i go that i'll become good friends with them. What should I do? (Indeed)
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First of all, stop categorizing people as 'preppies' I so completely hate the whole categories thing.
Second - what is the thing at lunch?
Third - Do you want to be friends with these people? If you do then you should go because you said you can become friends and so maybe you should give it a shot.
Once again since I have no idea what you are talking about this is the best i can do.
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I'm gay, is that bad? (Indeed)
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Of course not. Its beneficial because now you're a minority and you'll get preferencial treatment.
Seriously though it really isn't bad at all. There is nothing wrong with being who you are, its trying to be something that you are not thats the bad thing.
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me and my best freind are more than friends! the otherday we were in the skool bathroom and were fingering, and licking each other! i really love her A LOT!!! tonight we r going to go to her house and have sex. we already have 4 dlidos and 2 vibrators. are we wrong? we have lots of fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lezbo lezlie (Indeed)
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Its normal to explore things and being a lesbian is by no means wrong or strange. Forcing yourself to be something you are not is wrong, so be yourself. If being a lesbian feels right to you then you should do that.
However, a school bathroom really isnt the place for sexual activity for a girl and a guy, a girl and a girl, a guy and a guy whatever! If you were found you would probably get into some trouble not because of who you were with but because of where you were doing it. Probably just not the best idea to do anything sexual within school - they just dont condone that.
As DruidX said, practice safe sex and only have sex when you feel you are ready. It may be fun but its a serious and mature thing. Just be careful and cautious. Make sure it is something you want to do.
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Every time I go to my friend she always jokes with me saying that "Oh here comes lil miss christian girl" and "Oh great your going to preach to us are'nt you." I know she is just playing but I wish I could witness to her without being made fun of. (Indeed)
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Maybe you should put some of your religious preachings aside once and a while and listen to your friends talking about what they did that day or things that are happening around you. It is great that you have strong faith but religion isnt always what people need to hear, sometimes they need support from friends about other things in their lives too. Friends want to talk about lots of things. There is also the possibility that your friend simply isnt interested in hearing about religion from you, to be honest. If she isnt interested in listening about religion then you shouldnt force her to. Its everyones decision what they have to listen to and you should give her the option as well.
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I was with my partner for 11 years. We then married and 5 months later he met someone else and left two months later, without discussion. We had a very good relationship, and I believed we were together for life. Our respective faults did not adversersly affect the relationship and we got on very well together. He is a very independant/selfish person, but I belive he was not unfaithful to me before this occasion. He tells me he has not left because he met someone else, but becaused I nagged, and that he no longer loved me. Being a woman, yes I did nag, but far from excessivly.
We have been apart for 5 months, and I would still have him back, as I feel our relationship is worth fighting for. I was unaware that he was unhappy, and he made no indication of this. I have written a couple of letters and tried to talk to him, but he is,and always has been,reluctant, or incapable of talking about his feelings in any detail. The most I have got out of him is that he 'loves me, but not as he should'. He has remained in touch, and when I see him, he treats me like an old friend, and acts as though nothing has happened/that we did not have the past that we had.I do belive we could be happy together, despite this, and am prepared to try and put what has happened behind us. Some advice on how to 'play' all this would be gratefully received - what steps do I take to try and rebuild our relationship?. I am 42, and he is 41.
Regards
Anne Wilson. (Indeed)
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I do believe that nowadays it is so easy (but not painless or inexpensive) to divorce or forget about a marriage, kind of leave it on the back burner like nothing happened. And there is something to be said for trying and putting the effort into making things work. However, both people have to be willing otherwise you will end up just pushing the unwilling person further away. You need to tell this man straight up that you want to reconcile and if he is not interested then I honestly don't know what plan you can use to get him back.
If he seems interested or says that he needs to think about you will know that there is hope. If he is willing you can seek outside counselling or just get together and talk things out and try not to let him escape when things get tense.
If he was so easily taken away from you, you need to make sure that this is someone you actually do believe will stay if things reconcile - do you really want to handle him walking out on you a second time? Make sure you keep that in mind.
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Theres this guy that I like.. I am not sure if he has a girlfriend... but... I am very embarassed to ask him to be my boyfriend because i am short and he is tall... we are both 13 years old... but he has changed alot since he went to San Bernardino.. before he went to San Bernardino he was not popular..but when he went San Bernardino he changed alot and now that he came back he is very different...so now he is kind of popular and am not really popular.. he stares at me alot like if he likes me but this other guy used too stare at me alot too and I thought he liked me but I found out that he didn't so i am not sure if ths kid i like , likes me... he sits next to me at the computer lab. my question is "how can i get him to like me and be my boyfriend?" (Indeed)
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If you catch him staring at you then you should look back and smile nicely, not a huge smile (you dont want to scare him) and not too small a smile (you dont want him to think hes bothering you by smiling at you) but a just medium smile. Not too big and not too small, that way he knows that its not bothering you if he looks at you.
The problem with 13 year old boys is that they are relationship-challenged (extremely) and they usually dont understand or know what to do when they like a girl. So if you are feeling really courageous you can show him you like him by flirting a bit (smile at him, joke with him, be really casual and not afraid and be yourself).
If you discover that he flirts back with you and can joke with you then he probably has a bit of a crush on you! If he doesnt return the flirtation then maybe he simply isnt interested, in which case its okay because who needs guys anyways. You'll be perfectly fine with or without him so just find out how he feels and let him know you are interested in him and then see what happens.
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I can sing, dance, model, and act (and much more, not to brag) and i've been dancing and singing all my life and i modeled when i was little and i've done litteraly 28 musicals/plays. And I think it's time to move on. And when i saw Peter Pan, Pirates of the Carribean, and Haunted Mansion...that's when I decided that I wanted to become a REAL actress...A Movie Star! But how do I get there? You see the problem is that I don't live in Califonia which is the hottest spot if your looking for Stardom. I live in stupid old CO. So, how can I get my taste of fame? I've looked for months on the Internet trying to find auditions for young teens, but so far nothing! 1) What should I do?
2) If you find NE film/movie auditions for young teens PLEASE tell me!
Sincerely,
MiSSc (Indeed)
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Star search is always swooning over the child stars so find out when they are visiting a city near you and go for an interview.
http://www.fashionrocknow.com/events/sendform.cfm?src=GoogleMuOSS1
^ check out that site it seems to have some good stuff!
also check this link out
http://www.newyorkmusicfest.com/
Good luck in your searching. If you make it big dont forget about us!
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i know a 8 year old boy who is overweight. He weighs 134lbs. Just a year and a half ago he only weighed 65lbs when he lived with his dad. Would this be considered neglect or abuse that he gained so much? What could some causes be? What can be done? (Indeed)
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There isnt a lot that can determine what caused the weight gain through the internet because the family situation is unknown and the boys habits (exercise and eating) are also unknown. There are very many reasons that cause kids to gain weight quickly, a lot of times it is a result of puberty and other changes within the body. There is always a way to help the boy but if he is already eating well and exercising then there isnt much more to be done. It could simply be a glandular (sp?) issue so the boy should see a nutritionist or the family doctor. You really cant assume it is neglect on either side without more information.
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ok im in 8th grade but nxt yeari will be going into highschool and im so scared. the school im going to has over 2,000 kids. im really scared of not finding my class cuz its such a big school and im scared of all the boys that will hit on me
please please please help (Indeed)
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Everyone gets lost on their first day. Its scary going to a whole new place and be expected to learn when you're frightened. They will give you a map and within a week you will be used to things.
Everyone gets scared and you will be making lots of new friends and you can all be scared together!
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o.k I like this boy (ERIK) and he's been given me hints he likes me. Well today him and my bff's boyfriend got into a fist fight. Yeah I'm cool with that, but there is a rumor going around that the whole reason they got into a fight was because erik called my bff's boy a black nigger. Since my bff's boy is black and I'm black I find that really offensive. What should I do? Does he really not like me 'cause i'm black?
signed
MIXED-UP (Indeed)
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You've got to talk to this guy himself because rumours can be a vicious and often incorrect thing. It might be true, but it might not. You need to find out for sure. If he did say something that offensive then obviously he really doesnt deserve to even stand near you and you should consider liking someone who is more worth your time.
Hopefully you can find out the truth!
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I have a great friend named Erin. We've been best friends since 1st grade, but lately she's been deserting me for her new friends. Now, I'd normally be beaming if she made a few new friends, but I'm just so glum about it now. Her new friend, Bridget, is super mean to me! She sits there and makes fun of me for listening to Jessica Simpson, Ja Rule, Ludacris, you get the picture. She even had the nerve to make fun of my uncle's rock band (FYI my uncle's only 23)! Worst of all, Erin sits there and laughs with Bridget!!! I know that Erin isn't being the world's best friend, but she's just such a nice girl when she's away from Bridget. Bridget's also starting to talk to Erin about cutting herself... See, Bridget cuts herself in choir (I sit right next to her) & wipes her blood on a piece of paper in her planner. In fact, she has a whole page full of blood.... Nasty! She's trying to convince Erin to start doing that. Erin's also yelling at me for not going out with this kid who I don't like, but here she is hooking Bridget up with her own best guy friend, and BRIDGET HAS A BOYFRIEND who's practically in love with her! Help!!!!!! (Indeed)
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First of all I automatically have a liking for Erin because her name rocks my socks off. (as Erin is also my name).
But she doesnt realize what is happening to her. You have to let her know (without Bridget being there) that she is hurting you and that you used to be such good friends and so on and so on. She has to know how much it bothers you otherwise it will just continue.
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A guy I know asked me out a week ago, and I refused, nicely. I thought it was all over... Until his younger sister came up to me, and asked if it was true that I'm dating her brother. I told her that I wasn't, and I that I like someone else. She said that her brother told a bunch of people that we're dating! I didn't beleive it at first, but by the end of that day, 5 other people asked if it was true! He's spreading all these false lies about me, saying that we went to the movies & made out... Well, here's the scoop: I went to the movies, but not with him. I saw him there, and he sat behind me. I touched his arm when I was walking outta the theater, I never kissed him, let alone make out with him! What should I do? (Indeed)
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I'd say keep denying the rumour and confront the guy. Tell him that if he ever THOUGHT you might have had a chance together that his idiotic actions just threw that chance out the window and then vomitted on it.
The guy is probably just angry because he got rejected. Keep denying the rumour and make him feel really awful and guilty if you can and I'd suggest telling him straight how crappy him saying that stuff about has made you feel.
In conclusion, he is a loser.
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I'm 14 year old girl. and I'm a little confused by stuff... at my school and with pretty much everyone I know it's not really a big deal to make out with someone you don't know or just met and I admit that I have. ALot of the time you can't really go out with anyone unless you give them a handjob or something. It seems sort of wrong to me, and it go me thinking about abunch of stuff.
When I was younger I thought that I wouldn't have sex until I was married and I realized that I don't care about that. Now I just don't know when is the right time to have sex.
Friends of mine have said that they are just going to get it over with at a party we're going to soon or that they'll do it when we enter high school next year.
I was just thinking. How do I know when the right time is for me? I don't care about losing it before I'm married or out of high school, I just want it to be right.
How do I keep myself from doing something stupid that I can't take back? (Indeed)
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Well definitely dont do it 'just to get it over with' thats really really.. silly. When you feel it is right then you will know. No one here can give you an allotted time or anything like that because its comepletely your decision. Think it through a lot before you decide what to do and if you have doubts then you should probably think more about it. It is your decision though and no one here can really tell you to have sex or not to but do be careful and dont make the decision to have sex on a whim or carelessly. When someone you really care about comes along, then it will feel right and thats when you can make that decision.
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i'm a very hard working student who works extra hours from college and do all the work on time and i am so determine to do all of my work. but i have 1 problem that is,1 of my lecturer who is also my tutor, is so annyoing because he doesn't help me when i need it, he only say's i'm coming, but by end he gets to somone else or doesn't bother with me. only this teacher I'm always left as the last person to be looked at, which is so not fair and i had it right up to here! As i alot of work and harder then other student's but that doesn't give my lecturer to ignore me or not bother at all i mean this is soooo UNFAIR!!! and his excuse was today taht he doesn't help as i am the only student who gets more help than other students but that is soooo untrue and biased as he only see's me come and do extra hours etc...
please can u help me and tell me why my lecturer being like this even though he is nice to me but just not doing his job proprely, do u know wat i mean? give me some gd advice and tips thanx! (Indeed)
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Maybe he thinks you are a great student just as you claim to be and that the other students really benefit more from the extra help. Exceptional students often get the last round of help from a teacher because the teacher feels that other pupils could really use the extra help.
If he feels that there are others who need more help than you do then you should wait patiently and if its really important than you may even have to wait until after class. If the teacher really feels that you need less help then others than he is going to attend to those students first.
You're going to have to take the initiative and use your free time and hopefully the teacher will realize that you are in need of some attention as well.
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what does kinky mean (Indeed)
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According to www.dictionary.com:
Showing or appealing to bizarre or deviant tastes, especially of a sexual or erotic nature. But of course as was already said - it is not necessarily just pertaining to sex. More often then not it is used in the context of sex though.
Also, that definition according to dictionary.com is considered 'slang' as the actual definition is for kinky or curly hair.
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