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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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Everytime I turn on the computer or go on the internet, music will play randomly. Its music that I don't even listen to so I'm wondering if its because of a virus.

More than likely it isn't a virus. If I go on certain websites then it has some stupid automatic thing that will ask you to do something. It mostly happens when I go on websites looking for myspace layouts or go to lyrics sites when looking for a particular song. It's aggrivating. Have you ever been on myspace and accidentally rolled your mouse over those smileys that never seem to shut up?! Makes you want to go insane haha.
It's probably just that though. I guess unless you're wanting to listen to music on the computer you should probably just keep the volume off. I don't know of any ways to stop it, but it may lighten you up knowing that it isn't a virus (unless what I'm describing is totally different than what you're experiencing.

Also, if you use AIM then people (I'm not sure how) can have a quick piece of music play every time they sign on or come back from being away/idle etc.

I hope I've clarified at least some of this for you =D

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since about november of last year i started purging after i ate like everyday sometimes three times a day. i'm 5'5", 14 years old and 125 pounds last time i checked [it fluctuates a lot] but anyways lately i've only been purging like once a day because i start to feel bad and guilty about it. but then i feel guilty for eating and i feel fat all the time. if anything i try not to eat at all but i don't know. is this an eating disorder?

Sounds like bulimia. If that's what it is then you need a doctor and some sort of psychiatrist to help you.

Every time you purge you get worse and worse. The acid upsets your throat and mouth and other parts of your body.

Really, see a psychiatrist, he/she will help you find the reasoning behind this disorder and help you to get better.

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im anorexic and have been for half a year. its a struggle everyday to come to terms, but im becoming more accepting. i only want REAL anorexics advice on how to stay strong and lose weight fastly. thanks and i can provide stats ect if you need.



much love

I was anorexic for over a year. I'm going to give you one piece of advice, short, simple, and to the point.

Get help! If you don't, you'll more than likely die really soon.

I want to tell you to stay strong - but in getting help and recovering, not in continuing your self-abusive behavior.

There are healthier ways to keep your weight at a good level, eating disorders are stupid and selfish as I have learned.

All I'm going to tell you is stay strong, if you've come to terms and aren't in denial then others must know, right? Go to someone, tell them you want help. Keep your head held high and know that once you've taken over the disease rather than the disease taken over you - you'll be okay.

If you want recover advice, sure, I'm here. If you want to know how to lose more wieght quickly, you've come to the wrong place. Anyone who helps you to constantly lose more weight and possibly helps to have you deteriorate and die, well, they just don't seem like that great of a person to me.

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ok so i got in some trbl because of facebook.... some ppl found out about certain things i did that i didnt want them to know about....

i deactivated it for a while but i reactivated it again... the problem is some people i went out with still have some pictures of me. i dont know them that well and i really don't know what to say to get them to remove it....

i really did a huge mistake by being involved.... and i swear i reformed but the thing is if any of my sibs or parents find out i am sliced meat....

what do i do???

even if i deactivate it again they still have my pictures and comments...

The person before me already mentioned de-tagging them...

If it's something serious I'm sure that there's someone you can contact such as an administrator of facebook that can remove them. If you ever find a picture of you on a website that you're not comfortable with and that you didn't give consent to be on the internet let someone in charge know and more than likely they will delete it.

Just like if you were on this site and someone had a picture of you up that you didn't want anyone else seeing - you would contact DangerNerd, the owner of the site, to have it removed.

Same with facebook, whomever is in charge there can and should delete it if you're uncomfortable with it. Especially if you're a minor (under 18).

First, ask whomever has the pictures up. If they're on your account, just delete them. If whomever else has them up then ask them to remove them. If they refuse, that's when you go to the "big kahuna" of the site and have them removed.

EDIT...

Because they're not obscene, it's more so up to what you personally want. If they were obscene (which I thought they were) then reporting it is exactly what I would do. Honestly, what do you want? If you're that worried that you don't want your parents/sibs ever finding them, then go right ahead. Are the chances high of them seeing them though? If not, then what do you truly think? If you are in any way uncomfortable with these pics, report it. Say you don't want the person to get into trouble, but you just want your pictures deleted.

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14/f

In 2 facebook groups, there are pictures of me. Nothing bad, just some random pictures. Is it dangerous to keep those pictures on the groups?

Thanks

As long as the pictures don't share any personal information then you should be fine.

Just make sure that none of the following is included:

Name
Age
Location
Sports Teams you may play on
School you may go to

Make sure that no information in any scenario (probable or not) would lead to someone finding you.

If you're really worried about it though, just ask whomever put them up to delete them (unless you're able to yourself).

As long as you don't hand out personal information, you should be okay. But always remember, if anything ever seems strange to you (or if anyone...) stop what you're doing/who you're talking about. If you ever feel threatened by anyone over the internet, go straight to a trusted adult. If they think it's bad enough they can contact the proper authorities.

Always be careful on the internet. Someone may say they're your age, but they could be some 40 year old guy wanting nothing but sex. It's not always the case, but you can never be too careful when it comes to online predators.

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14/f.

i feel extremely sick, for the past 3-4 days. these are my symptoms ..

-constant headaches.
-stressed out.
-my stomach kills
-dizy
-i feel like im going to throw up
-cant eat
-trouble sleeping.
-cramps.
-lower back hurts.

i am however, on my period. but i've never ever ever, felt this stuff before, usually i just get cramps and the lower back hurts. ive never feeled stressed, im really laid back, and lately i feel stressed out and everything. are these common things to happen during your period? ive had mine for, like 2 years. and ive never felt this way. so, i didn't think that was causing it. has this ever happened to you?

i know no one on here are most likely doctors, or anything, but, i was just curious, if anyone has ever felt that way, or gone through it, or know anyone that has.

ok thanks so much.

I've felt that way twice in my life. One of the times I just kind of randomly got the flu or something. The second time I don't know what happened but it went on for about a week or a week and a half. I barely ate the entire time which (I think) made it worse and was the cause for my dizziness and light headedness.

Although I cannot tell you what is wrong, I can tell you that I've been there. For me it may have been food poisening or something. All I can say is that it's not normal, nor fun. Been there, done that.

See a doctor, trust me. If there is something wrong then maybe the pain will go away faster. It's not because of your period. Some of them could be (cramps and maybe lower back) but more than likely it's something else, possibly something bigger.

I just want to stress that you should see a doctor, make sure that it's nothing too serious. For all you know it's being stressed and on your period that is making this seem so bad. I wouldn't take the chances though.

Feel better soon =D

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Is it 100% true that your period stops in water? Or is it just a myth? I'm afraid to take any chances... =/

Myth!!!! Even if it were true, which it isn't, the second you come out of the water you're going to start bleeding.

Most people think it's true because they think that water pressure stops your period - but whether or not it does, like I said before, you'd start bleeding DIRECTLY after getting out of the water. (I'm assuming you want to go swimming or something of the such?)

But please trust me on this one MYTH MYTH MYTH MYTH MYTH!!!

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I just watched "Hide & Seek" the other day with my friends. Well, in the end, it shows a picture that Emily drew of herself and her new guardian. In the picture, Emily has 2 heads. Did she draw it this way because she has a personality disorder like her father? Also, what is this multiple personality disorder caused? Lastly, Emily and her dad's neighbors - what did they have to do with anything? Why were they even in it? Why were they important? And why was the wife neighbor like, "You have to leave. My husband makes it very painful." or something and why was the husband crazy-looking/sounding? THankkss so much.

I've seen the movie twice, so I'm not sure how much help I will be. Your first question was already answered by someone else. I too was curious about your second. If you want to know what it's called - I thought he had (bare with me, I can't spell it) schitzophrania (just type it into google, you'll get your answers). If you know want to know what causes it, just type "multiple personality disorder" into a google search bar, you'll probably get pleanty of answers.

I also was kind of curious as to what importance the neighbors had. I'm thinking that you're referring to the neighbors who lost their child? I just had it in my mind and then I lost it. I'm going to have to watch this movie again, because that's a really good question. I thought I had the answer and my mind just went blank.

Oh well, at least I was (hopefully) able to help you out a bit with your second question about the actual disorder.

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i REALLY need to go to northcarolina. so how much does a plane ticket cost? from newyork to N.C? also can you go from newyork to northcarolina in bus or train? how much will it cost?
thanks!

I've made the trip many times. It all depends. Roundtrip? One way? Time of year? Which airway?

I know that on just a random/not busy day with Us Air it can be anywhere from $80 to $150 but I'm not sure whether or not it's roundtrip. It probably is.

Go to a few different airlines websites and figure it out.

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So. Why do people sterotype people again?
All Preps aren't obsessed with the color pink
All Jocks aren't stupid
and
All Homosexual guys don't dress nice, act like a girl, and write poetry.

What is up with sterotypes?

Jeez.

I'm not saying that what I'm about to say is morally right, or even correct, it's just my opinion.

Even though a lot of people don't mean to stereotype, it's human nature to judge people.
A lot of us don't even realize we're doing it.

It's the same as people saything that blondes are dumb, brunettest are smart, and redheads are sexy. It's the same as saying cheerleaders are ditzy and lesbians are always "butch".

Even though I think it's wrong to judge people, I don't doubt that I do it every day. I try not to because I've been on the negative side of stereotypes and I know what it feels like. Even though I say it should be easy to just not judge, it's one of those "easier said than done" types of situations (to me, anyway).

Can you honestly say that you've never judged anyone? I'm not asking this to attack, just to prove a point. We're all human and imperfect, making mistakes every day. One of those mistakes is stereotypes. Unfortunately, although most of us know how wrong it is we do it anyway.

I admit that as much as I try not to, I can't help but judge people. Opinions change over time. People realize that not all preps love pink and not all jocks are stupid, etc. It just takes a while. Even when they realize that they still have something/someone else to unfairly judge. Like I said - human nature. It's not right (morally) but it's the truth as I see it.

By the way, I LOVED this question. People need to be more aware and try to control their stereotypical behavior as much as possible... at least I do.

EDIT!!

Thanks for the feedback. I'm the one who approved it. I saw it and loved it =D. A bunch of the other admins probably aren't around - it's about 12:30am where I am.

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http://www.xanga.com/hellosunandeveryone

the song playing on her page.
what is that song?

Her page is locked, we (or at least I) can't get to it. Listen carefully to the lyrics and type them into google or into the search for www.lyricsondemand.com

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Im really pissed and I don't have any way to show it. Like all I can do is sit here and ponder everything that was said. And listen to somebody talk so i dont know what to do so that Im not even more pissed off at everybody. Im really annoyed by this.

I do the following.

Sing
Cry
Dance
Scream into a pillow
Write
Blare music
Go for a walk/jog
Draw/Color
Excercise
Write out all of my feelings then tear/shred/burn
Ride a bike
Go somewhere to clear your head
Do something that makes you happy such as play with a cute pet or little kids that don't bug you.

My biggest thing is writing. I write stories, poems, etc. to just express myself.

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ok i dont know if i am in the right section or not but you know that new shot for girls to stop cervical cancer.. ok does it hurt? im gettin one for my high school physical tomorrow and im so scared.

please help.
does it hurt?

I've already had the first and second injection (There are a total of three). It wasn't too bad. I guess it just depends on your sensitivity to shots. The first time I got it I also had the menengitis shot that day. So I wasn't sure which was which, one hurt for a little bit, the other didn't.
The second time I got it I tensed up which made it hurt. (I'm afraid of needles and didn't have anyone to distract me so I was focusing on it).

If you've done fine with shots in the past then it won't be a big deal.

Just don't focus on it. If you tense up it will hurt. Afterwords do arm circles to relax it some more. That helped me the second time when it hurt and the pain was gone after a few minutes. Normally you're supposed to wait 15 minutes afterwords to make sure you don't have a reaction to the shot (such as an allergic reaction or something). Because I didn't react the 1st time in a negative way they let me leave. I'm not sure if they'll make you wait or not.

Just don't concentrate on it and you'll be fine. It's worth it anyway.

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Lately i've been reading alot, but i dont know what books i should read because i've read all the ones i have. I'm 15/f and i like almost any book. i've read the sisterhood of the traveling pants and i like that kind of book, but i also am reading some book right now that's about jewish kids but its actually not bad.

don't send me a website that has "top books" or soemthing. i want you to recommend from experience. thank you!

I just started reading this serious that's titled _Pretty Little Liars_ I think it's by someone named Sarah Shepard.. I'm not sure though. When I first got the book I didn't realize it was a series. I've only read the first 2 of the books, I've been looking for the next but I haven't found it anywhere. The first two are called _Pretty Little Liars_ and _Flawless_.

I'm also stuck on this trilogy written by some guy. The first is called _Uglies_ the second is called _Pretties_ and the 3rd, which I'm working on now is called _Specials_.

It took me a little bit to get into them, but once I got into the first I got hooked. Normally it's not my type of book, but something about it drug me in.

A few other books of which I'm not sure of the authors are as follows...

_Just Listen_
_Speak_
_Prep_


There are more and if you drop a line in my inbox I'll search around my house for you. I'm into teen drama books. I like stuff about people who have to fight for something.

Impulse by Ellen Hopkins is really good. Kind of depressing, but good.
She also wrote a book called Burned (I think) and I've heard some good stuff.

I'm starting to read this book entitled Lovely Bones. It's about a girl telling the story of her murder. I've heard amazing things and it's pretty good so far (to me anyway.)

I noticed that simplicityx mentioned Mitch Albom. I read his book _Tuesdays with Morrie_ it was absolutely fantastic. It brought me to tears.

I also noticed how someone mentioned the author Sarah Dessen, she's the one who wrote the book _Just Listen_ that I said was good. I recognized the name. She's a good author.

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im afraid to masturbate because i dont want my cherry to pop. im going to start going to a OBGYN soon and if my cherry is popped, will she think im not a virgin? is it possible to tell if a person is a virgin or not? im 14/f by the way immediate responses appreciated.!

The only way to be 100% sure on whether or not a person has had sex is if there is semen found inside of the vagina. Even then you can pretty much only 99% tell because for all you know the guy jacked off, got sperm on his finger, then fingered the girl.

Honestly, they may think you've had sex, but there's no sure fire way for them to know.

Oh, and by the way, masturbation and sex aren't the only ways your hymen (cherry) will break (pop).

It can happen from riding a bike, running, doing a split, riding a horse, wearing a tampon, etc.

So just because your hymen has broken doesn't mean you've had sex.

Don't worry, your gyno won't know 100% if you're a virgin or not unless you actually tell them. Which if you aren't one you should tell them just so they can make sure you don't have any STD's. I'm not saying you aren't one (it's better if you are since you're so young), I'm just saying when you lose your virginity if you haven't already then let them know. Because of doctor/patient confidentiality they aren't supposed to inform anyone, including your parents.

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does anyone know where to buy cheap skateboard?

There are tons of places to get cheap skateboards. The only problem is most of those places have crappy skateboards.

Ebay
Wal-mart
Target
K-Mart

etc.

You're best off saving up your money and going to a sporting equipment store to get a nice one that will last.

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do they have clubbing for teeagers?

Kind of. I live near a big city and they have this club called Club Charlotte and every Monday night is teen night. So if you live near a city where there are a bunch of clubs just check and see if they hae any nights dedicated to teens.

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Ok i weigh like 180-190 pounds and really dont have much of gut but anyways can it be possible to lose a lot of weight if you eat nothing but water and excercise by doing sit ups, crunches, and push ups every day? plus im gonna teach myself to skateboard so thats included. if so, how much weight would i lose? i'm planning on doing this for my whole summer vacation and yes i know it's kinda hard going with nothing but water but i've done this before and i only lasted half a month since i ended up constipated but now its gonna be even tougher my goal is 3 months which is like 90 days!

I'm going to get straight to the point and not try and be nice about this. So just a heads up.

This is so incredibly stupid that I don't know where to begin! Why on earth would you want to do that to your body?! It's as if willingly becoming anorexic! That's not how things work.
If you want to lose weight, do it the right way. Keep a healthy diet and excercise.

Get a good meal plan and a good excercise routine, don't attempt to starve your body. You actually start to gain weight when you do that to yourself.

Just please, take the advice from someone who has unwillingly been down that path - don't do it. Don't starve your body. It's just so absolutely ridiculous that all these young kids would want to do something like that to themselves. Whether guys or girls, it's just insane.

Like I said before, a good meal plan and a good workout routine is all you need to drop the pounds. Ask MikeCFT he's a fitness instructer. He could probably tell you about good foods to eat and good excercises to do so you can drop the pounds. In a 3 month period you'll probably be able to drop anywhere from 20-40 pounds.

But remember this - Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. You need it to start up your metabolism so it can burn the foods and help you lose the pounds rather than pack them on.

Whatever you do, just please don't do this.

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Will you please give me some good questions to ask for truth or dare? Anything random. You're good at it. Thank you!

Dare, I couldn't really tell you. Just use whatever you have around. Make it embarassing, but nothing you wouldn't (somewhere in the back of your mind) do.

Truth - ask creepy/crazy things. Uhh, it's been about 2 years since I've played the game.

"Who do you think would be the first of all of us to get a speeding ticket?"
"... lose their virginity?"
"... into a car accident - major or not?"
"...get married?"
"... get divorced"
"... have kids?"

"How do you think ____ will die?"

Then some others such as

Do you regret....
1st kiss
1st boyfriend
1st crush
1st time you had sex (if they've gone that far)
1st party/alcohol experience
1st time smoked (ciggs or drugs)

Ask if they're a virgin
If they've ever gotten smashed at a party
If they've ever done drugs
What the most embarassing object in their life is that they can't give up
Their most embarassing moment.

That's all I can really think of.

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i want to be really skinny, and nothing will work! so i decided to be anorexic, how do i become anorexic? like, how do i start, i know that ussually it an illness but it just seems easey! please help! :D

This question disgusts me. You can't be serious. I suffered from anorexia a few years ago, it's not something you just wake up and decide to be. Anorexia is more of a mental disease than anything. People who are anorexic physically see themselves as overweight. They can be starting at only bones but they don't see that, they see skin and chunks of it.

You wanting to starve yourself to become really skinny is ridiculous. Why would you want to become that thin anyway? It's so disgusting.

You may think I'm being hypocritcal, but I didn't choose to do anorexia to myself. It was something that just kind of happened over time.

If you really want to lose weight and nothing you have done is working then you need to see a nutritionist for ways to be healthy. For all you know you are an average size but are unhealthy about it.

If this question was just to see what types of answers you could get then you should be ashamed of yourself. There are people out there who truly are suffering from something as terrible as anorexia and who physically can not eat. When you get so far into the disease your body starts rejecting food. In my own terms you physically cannot swallow the food. You basically choke on it until you cough it up. Anorexia is serious and I'm so shocked that someone would want to do that to themselves. Call me hypocritical or whatever you want. But if you saw me now, I'm definitly not the healthiest person ever and you wouldn't have a clue that I've ever had an eating disorder, but it shouldn't matter. I'm not that big of a hypocrite because I pulled through. It sickens me to hear anyone WANT to do that to themselves. You need help and you need a professional.

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