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How can you tell if your depressed or going crazy is there any signs of it ?

Yeah, well basically, when you are depressed, you feel very sad and you don't want to be around anyone else and when they try cheering you up you just feel annoyed. Ehmm... going crazy you hear little voices inside your head, or you just go wild and start banging your head against walls, or just start screaming and getting high off of sniffing glue. :)

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hey i was reading your cloumn and i needed suim advice .. ok so here it is .. i havea friend who always lies to me and she treats me like crap and im so fed up with it. then a couple months ago she lied to me sayin we couldnt hang out cuz she got grounded and she did the same exact thing last nite. i was about ready to have a breakdown and cry. i am so confused and i dont know what to do. i love her to death but i dont kno if i should just forget about her and move on .. or should i confront her about it. but the thing is that its happened twice and im scared it will happen again she has no idea how much she hurts me when she treats me this way. please help me i dont know what to do.

Oh, wow, that sounds really mean. She is one of those people you call "toxic friends" in which they use you for things such as money, possessions, etc. You really don't need to confront her, just tell her that you've tried to be her friend but it's not working out for you. If you want something snappy to tell her, say, "Hey, do I smell bad? Because you seem to be treating me like crap." Find other friends who are worth your time. I'm really sorry, because I know how painful this is. I once had a friend like that. You can e-mail me or IM me if you ever have anymore questions. Good luck hunny :)

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All right, I have a friend Lizzie, and we are really close. She has a group of friends that I always knew didn't like me that much, and that never bothered me. but all of a sudden she's telling me that she can only hang out with me on the bus on Thursdays, and doesn't talk to me anymore. I know I should give up on her but she's my best friend!! Please tell me what to do.

Yeah, I once had a situation like that. On Thursday, when she starts talking to you, have a very pained look on your face and start moaning. When she asks you what's wrong, look at her and say, "Ohhh, it feels like, like, I've been stabbed in the back." Then switch seats. Forget about her. It will be hard, and it will be painful, but honestly, girls like those are a HUGE waste of time. If she trys groveling, don't settle for one day of the week, but 24/7. Good luck in all you do. :) If you ever need to talk to someone, I have had experience, feel free to e-mail or Instant Message me. (My e-mail address and Screen name are both on my advice column)

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okay im 15 and i might be getting a job soon. the place were ill be working at my mom, my older sister and my older brother have worked there. all ill be doing is re-stocking the shelves and cleaning up after the day is over and ill be doin cashier. im reallly nervous becuase its my 1st reallll job and i dont wanna mess up. has anyone been realllly nervous their 1st job? and is that ok? n what tips do u have for me? and is it ok to let the manager know that im sorta nervouse about messing up?

No need to worry, I have never had a job, but let me tell you about my sister's experience: She used to work at Subway, wrapping sandwiches. Nothing could go wrong, right? Wrong. She accidentally wrapped up a plastic knife INSIDE a sub sandwich and gave it to a customer. Thank goodness the customer checked the sandwich before taking a bite, cutting her tongue, and sueing my sister (Don't worry, my sister has vowed to never again work a a food place). Okay, so everyone is going to be nervous on their first job, and one tip is to relax, be excited that you are on your way to becoming a true adult. You are entering the Real World, and that is a little nerve-wracking. But everything will be alright, just be alert about everything you do, and smile and be nice to everyone you meet. If you are acquainted with the manager, you can tell him/her that you are a little nervous about your very first job. He / she will understand, possibly may even be pleased that you are so committed to a job and want to exceed in it. Good luck! :)

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Wow! Your really good at this advice stuff! I looked on your column for the moving tips, so lets hope i can get mine to work! Keep up the good work and check out my column and give me some tips on how to make it better! :
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ill add u as a favorite columnist so everyone who looks at mine can be sure to get help from you as well! thanks a bunch! you seem like an awesome friend to have!

Gee thank you for the compliment! You give awesome advice too! Hmmm, suggestions on how to make it better? Try coordinating the colors to add more pizazz. Take advantage of the Page Backrounds Advicenators supplied all of us with (Check at the side of the website page where it says Page Backrounds). Also, fabulousxkay8 gave me a cool website: http://www3.buddy4u.com/view/?u=xXx+HTML+xXx&redirect=true (isn't she fabulous? lol). This website has all these cool marquees, transitions, all this awesome stuff you can do to your advice column! Just paste the codes in your biospace (Profile Settings, big white blank textbox at the bottom of the page) and type in whatever words you want where the coes say "TEXT". Good luck!

P.S. On that website that I suggested to you, if you were wondering how to copy the codes, hilight the code, hold down the Ctrl key then press the C key at the same time. To paste the code, hold down the Ctrl key and press the V key at the same time.


P.P.S. You don't need fancy stuff to make your advice column spectacular. The advice part is what makes it truly special :)

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hey this is Ask_Me_A_Question.... you seem cool and we seem kind of alike.... I was wondering if I could add you as a fave.... maybe you could add me too... ? Just wondering
check out my column
thanks
xo Ask_Me

Hey, thanks for the compliment :) You have a pretty good column too. Sure, feel free to add me as a fave, I'll add you too. :) Once again, thanks.

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hey! i really need help cause i dont know how to kiss :-/ I am going to a party and like i have to kiss people (haha i sound so dumb!) and i dont know how to...like how am i supposed to french if i dont know how to? lol please answer!

Okay, when you kiss somebody, you just kind of lean forward and put your mouth against that person's. Sounds simple, in a way haha. I suggest you leave your mouth a little bit open, but not really wide. Try this: Say the word "peaches", and when you reach the part where you sound out the "s" pause and look at yourself in the mirror. That's probably the best way to leave your mouth when you kiss someone, otherwise you might clank teeth. Okay, you don't have to french kiss somebody to make a kiss special, but if you wanna, here's how: Just when you are kissing someone and you feel his tongue sort of touching your lips, open you mouth a little more to pursue the idea, or keep your mouth shut if you don't. Just relax, and have fun at the party! P.S. bring mints!

P.P.S. You don't need to kiss someone to be cool. If you don't want to kiss, or if you feel uncomfortable at your age, then feel free to go unpuckered! :) Good Luck!

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hey well start it off im 13-m. ok well about how hard would it be to find a girl that is like only interested in sex after marriage for dating material? because seems like everywhere i look on here, theirs a pregnant girl or one worried about it. i'm just talking about like later in my life, in my twenties right out of college. just to be prepared. also, i was reading a book, and a guy asked the girl if she was a virgin, and she said that she wasnt even embarrased. so are you like supposed to be embarrassed if your a virgin?


(deeply confused in matters i shouldn't have my paws in)

Okay, well I wouldn't find it that hard, because I am 13 and I believe in the no sex until marriage rule. All of my friends say that they feel the same way also. I wouldn't be embarrassed if someone asked me if I were a virgin, because I'm not ashamed of the decisions I make. I'm not gonna go have sex with someone just because some dumbasses think that it's cool to lose your virginity before marriage. All of my friends feel the same way :)

In the last question you asked, it really depends on who you are if you want to be embarrassed. Music, movies, and TV programs practically promote sex before marriage. That's why our society developed the idea that sex is perfectly okay in high school and / or college. I'm not embarrassed to admit I'm a virgin, and my opinion is that other people shouldn't be embarrassed either.

By the way, you are only 13, and you have your whole life ahead of you to make these kinds of decisions. Don't let me or any other advice-giver make a choice for you! Hope that this clarified something that had come to your attention, haha. :)

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Thank you! You're so nice. I checked out your advice column, and it is really cool! Thanks for the hair tips. I'll add you to my fave columnists! Once again, thank you :)

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I feeldumb asking this question but imma go ahead. Well okay. My bestfriend is a guy. He and i went out this summer but then we broke up. I still have feelinsg 4 him, but he's going out with one of my really close friends cuz she asked him out. Since he started going out with my friend, he's been acting weird around me. Like, one day he thought i was pissed at him, and he's like "jules r u mad at me?" and his voice was shaking and so was he. It freaked me out. And then ppl keep telling me how good of a couple we make and how much he flirts with me and how much he neva stops like touching me. Anyways idk wat 2 do. Then other day, he was whispering something 2 me during this sleep-over while we were watching the movie. i didnt get it, so i asked him 2 tell me agin and he refused to. He told me he feels bad 4 breaking up with me and that he cant live with me being mad at him. I've told him that it's okay but he just doesnt get it i guess. But now after the sleep-over things have been even more tense i guess. I don't know if he really likes his g/f, who's one of my close friends cuz they neva hang out and him and i hang out more, and we also made out once, NOT MEANING TO emotions just came running basically. I feel really horrible. I just don't know what 2 do anymore. I don't wanna hang out with him that much anymore cuz im just scared of wat will happen. Any help?

If you don't want to hang out with him anymore, then you don't have to. Just tell him that you don't think that it is fair to his girlfriend. If you still want to hang out, then you still can. But he can't control your actions; only YOU can. If he tries making a move on you tell him to stop, he'll be cheating on his girlfriend again, and you will be in the middle of it. Continue to be nice to him, and if he says that he can't live with you being mad at him, just say, "Oh, shutup! I'm not mad at you" in a jokey way.

It seems like you have mixed emotions about him. If you still have feelings, let him know in a subtle way that you are interested, and still you know, be his friend and all. But he can't make you do anything, if he does, then that is harassment. Since you said you were scared, you really shouldn't be, because it sounds like he still has feelings for you, and he would never try doing anything bad to you. :) Just don't make the first move, otherwise your friend that is also his g/f might not be that happy. Good luck sweety :) Sorry, this was a tough question, and it took me a while to think up an answer.

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I met a guy almost 5 years ago who was everything I could have ever wanted. He was perfect in every way for me...then we lost touch. We were too shy to keep in touch, but for awhile after we left each other...I can't stop thinking about how perfect it was. What do I do now?

Send him a card letting him know that you are thinking about him. E-mail him. Call him if you have his number. Arrange a casual lunch to catch up on your news with each other. Stay in touch, because you don't want to lose a loved one. Eventually you can work up the courage to tell him that you want to be in a relationship with him. Good luck hunny! If you need any more tips email or IM me!

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you give great advice could you add me to your fav columnists please user name is charmed-cherry21

thanks

Sure, I'll add you to my fave columnists. Your column is really cool and you give awesome advice also :) Thank you for the compliment!

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I'm 14 i have bluish green eyes, long dark hair, and tan skin. although i have been told by guys that i am pretty, they all say they could never date me because of my body. i am 5'8 130 LBs (a size two pants) with a size B cup. i have never met a guy who liked tall girls. i am starting to get selfsonscience. HELP!

You sound very pretty, and I wouldn't worry if I were you. You are probably taller than most guys your age right now because of puberty. Girls have their final growth spurt probably from 5th or 6th grade and they stop growing around their freshman or sophomore year of high school. Boys may not shoot up to over 5 foot 5 until sophomore / junior year of high school! Most of the boys who said you were too tall probably only said it because they are shorter than you, and haven't had their big growth spurt yet. From my point of view, I think that you are done growing. Don't worry, there's a LOT of guys that are past 5'8, and a great guy will come along in no time, and won't be so shallow as to tell you that you are too tall for his likings :) Good luck!

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okay, I didn't really think I'd get any more answers to my previous question, so I'm going to put my addition to my additional answer here.
Here is my question. When you cut yourself, which by the way I'm trying to stop, so I don't really need help there, I was wondering, will the scars ever go away? Because I cut first letter of my first name in my arm, and now I regret it, and it's not that deep. None of the cuts I made had actually bled, they jstu got scabs over them. So will the scars be there forever?

I highly doubt it. If the cut did not bleed, then it will merely scab and heal and disappear. If the cut is deeper than one centimeter, then yes, there is a chance of a scar. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Don't try making a big deal out of trying to make it disappear (i.e. wear lots of bracelets). Please try minimizing on the cutting (sorry, I don't like to hear about people cutting, it makes me sad and worried, lol) Good luck! God Bless

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Okay, so I'm 14 and a female. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago because he 'wanted to stop dating for awhile'. I pretended not to care and all this. My friends ended up getting all up in it and now he knows I still love him and he said he loved me, but I think he was lying. I still haven't directly told him I still love him because he said he didn't want to go out with anyone for awhile and I totally respect his wishes. My friends just don't get this. What should I do? Because I mean, I'd do anything to get my boyfriend back, I just don't think he's really in to me anymore.

That must be a rough time for you :( But one thing to remember: If your ex-boyfriend really wanted to cut off your love relationship, he would have told you that he didn't love you anymore, or would have said, "Let's just be friends." I think that he still loves you, but maybe he's going through a rough time, or has lots of schoolwork, or has football practice daily. Let him know that you'll always be there for him as a friend, and that you respect his wishes about his no-comittment thing for a while. Whatever you do, don't try to push back into the relationship, otherwise the outcome may not be that great. Since he broke things off, let him do the mending if necessary. :) Good luck in all you do :)

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I want to start taking double courses and graduate very early because in a weird way i cant stand high school. I need to go to a different place and begin something new. My Question: Does anybody know of any reallly good schools in New York State, Pennsylvania area? PLEASE help me here .lol thank you so much!

*-Janine

I know that NYU (New York University) is an excellent college, but is a little difficult to get into. Still, you sound very hardworking and like you have the potential to exceed in college! Anyway, Philadelphia University is really good too! My mom's best friend's son (he's almost like my cousin) goes there and he loves it. There's also University of Pennsylvania. Now, there's a website I looked up for you: http://www.search4careercolleges.com/state_careers.asp?sitestate=career=0;state=32 You just go there, click on a state that you want to find a college in, and click on what you are interested in (Finance, Medicine, Biology, etc.). I can't do that for you, but you can! lol Good luck sweety! :) Hope all goes well.

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i had this dog i loved and still do love, but some time ago it was killed by two really big and mean dogs my twin and i got this dog for a birthday gift from are parents because are really old dog died the thing is i really miss her and i just moved from Tx to Mass its not like my first move or anything its just i need to talk to someone about this and i cant talk to my family because they all miss hervery much too

Aww, I'm really sorry about your dog. I know how it feels. I used to have a cat that I really loved. Her name was Maxine, and one night, she was assualted by about 3 rotweilers and was killed. My neighbor brought her remains over to our house in a box with a cloth over it. I loved her, and I still can't get over her.

Didn't mean to ramble on, but I wanted you to know that I can really relate with you. There will be some creatures in the world that will make you very mad (people and animals), but that is life. Hervery is gone, but you should pray to whoever you worship every night and remember that she is in a less painful place now. If you ever need to talk to me, you can e-mail me at Annibellia47@yahoo.com. You can Instant Message me at redheadzrock24 OR at babyblu824. I hope that you feel much better. God Bless

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well today in lunch my boyfriend, i duno if hes really my boyfriend, but im guessing he is cuz he told me he wass. i can't trust him AT ALL. he took my purse from me and took my cellphone and wouldn't give it back. i thought he was goin to do something to it, like break it or call people n stuff. so i turned him in, because hes like that he would do something bad to my phone, and that phone was so expensive. my friends say i did the right thing. but would u hate me? he got 3 days suspension by the way.

You did the right thing, definately. Some people, including him and his cronies, will call you a tattletale, but would you rather be called a tattletale by a few number of people, or would you rather have a pushy-jerk-boy steal your purse and cell phone, and possibly ruin both? I wouldn't hate you if I knew you. He's an asshole, he deserved those three days of suspension. Right on :]

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This is going to be long because I have to give a bit of background information to make you understand this better. I am 14 years old, a freshman in highschool and I have a great friend named Brian, aslo 14 and a freshman in highschool. When Brian was in 4th grade he had to get surgery on his... area (if you get where I'm going with this) The reason for the surgery was that one testical wasn't where it should be so basically they had to put it back in place. He had confided this secret in his best friend, so he thought. About a week later he found out that his "best friend" had told everyone about the surgery and that he had said to everyone that he had a tesical removed. From then on, he was known as uni- ball, one balled brian, rude, childish names like that. He has a somewhat feminine voice so his voice would make you think that he was gay. He isn't gay at all, he's completely straight and has had girlfriends in the past. On top of him being called uni-ball and whatnot, people started calling him, fag, homo, fudge packer... that kind of stuff. He got depressed and started cutting. We are now in 9th grade and he seems to be okay. Everything just mentioned is only what I know from him because he will not for the life of him go into detail about anything because he is too embarassed and will not trust anyone. When we started highschool the rumors started up again. Today in class we were assigned to get into our groups and I sat with him and asked him what was wrong. He was ready to break down and cry at that point. He was so upset that the rumors had started up again. Brian is a very nice guy, he's not gay and he is NOT missing a testical! Everyone is tourmenting him about it and I fear for him that he is going to start getting depressed again. I want to help him out and be there to comfort him but I don't know what to say to him, I obviously can't say I know how you feel because I don't. I just met him this year and he's one of my best friends. I'm very hurt by everything that is being said about him and I want to have the rumors stopped. With me, my friends come first no matter what. I want to help him out so bad, it hurts me to see him so upset. I gave him a hug and told him everything was going to be okay and he just broke down in tears because of everything that was going on. He can't trust anyone. I want to make him beleive that he can trust me and he can tell me anything! I understand that he's not able to trust people but I feel so horrible about everything that is going on. How can I help him? And how the hell can I make these terrible rumors stop because they are hurting one of my wonderful friends. I hate to see my friends in so much pain. Please help. Sorry this was so long.


Also... Please don't give smart ass remarks because this is a touchy subject.

I have no feelings for Brian in anyway like that because I have a boyfriend... that was for anyone who might have said why don't you go out with him.... or something stupid like that.


Thanks again.

It's great that you care so much about your best friend. What you need to do is stand up for him. I'm not saying that he can't stand up for himself, just that maybe he has, and just can't get the message across on his own. When someone calls him a stupid nickname, say, "Oh, shutup! Are you really that immature to think stupid things like that?" Tell Brian that he is a great friend of yours and that he really shouldn't let the insults get to his head, because the teasers are just insecure assholes. Seriously, the people who tease him sound like real jerks. Another thing to say is, "Hey, why are you so obsessed with Brian's balls? Are you a pervert?" (That might be a little awkward, so you don't have to say it. If your friend wants to say something like that, he can, except he should say it in first person, duh.) Give Brian more hugs and try to always be there for him. One thing for Brian to remember: Showing that the teasing hurts only eggs them on. They love to see that people are being affected by their insults. Also, he definately shouldn't cut. He knows what's true and maybe he should just laugh at how ridiculous the assholes are being. I seriously would be all, "Wow, those rumors are so old, and you still believe them?" if I were in his position. Hope I helped! I hope Brian feels better! He is so lucky to have a friend as sweet as you:)

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Okay. Well there is this story. A "guy" and a "girl" started out flirting this one night but b4 they realized it they were making out. The problem is that the guy already has a g/f and his g/f is the "girl's" bestfriend's sister and also her bestfriend too. That "guy" and the "girl" who made out r bestfriends to begin with and emotions got caught. So the "girl" doesn't know wat to do since she feels this guilt in her each day and it won't go away. Also, the "guy" and the "girl" are keeping the whole make out thing a secret. What do u have 2 say about that story? (p.s i'm the "girl" and i'm 14)

Man, that is a tough situation. Well, at your age, emotions will most definately "run high". Hormones do make you do crazy things. I think that it is normal that you two kissed. I'm not saying that it is okay that you two made-out, but it is normal for boys and girls to get curious or caught up in "a moment". It is not okay, though, if you and this boy make-out on a regular basis. So, clear things up between you two (if there is anything to clear up). Make sure you both understand that if you two were to kiss again, that you would both be single. If you really like him, and he really likes you, then he should be gentleman enough to break off relationships with his current girlfriend. But if the guilt is killing you, tell the boy that you kissed that you two should tell what you both did, and that you really didn't mean to.

P.S. It's really not that big of a deal, because he's not married, and both of you regret it a lot. Just never do it again haha. :)

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