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Flirting????
I feeldumb asking this question but imma go ahead. Well okay. My bestfriend is a guy. He and i went out this summer but then we broke up. I still have feelinsg 4 him, but he's going out with one of my really close friends cuz she asked him out. Since he started going out with my friend, he's been acting weird around me. Like, one day he thought i was pissed at him, and he's like "jules r u mad at me?" and his voice was shaking and so was he. It freaked me out. And then ppl keep telling me how good of a couple we make and how much he flirts with me and how much he neva stops like touching me. Anyways idk wat 2 do. Then other day, he was whispering something 2 me during this sleep-over while we were watching the movie. i didnt get it, so i asked him 2 tell me agin and he refused to. He told me he feels bad 4 breaking up with me and that he cant live with me being mad at him. I've told him that it's okay but he just doesnt get it i guess. But now after the sleep-over things have been even more tense i guess. I don't know if he really likes his g/f, who's one of my close friends cuz they neva hang out and him and i hang out more, and we also made out once, NOT MEANING TO emotions just came running basically. I feel really horrible. I just don't know what 2 do anymore. I don't wanna hang out with him that much anymore cuz im just scared of wat will happen. Any help?
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If you don't want to hang out with him anymore, then you don't have to. Just tell him that you don't think that it is fair to his girlfriend. If you still want to hang out, then you still can. But he can't control your actions; only YOU can. If he tries making a move on you tell him to stop, he'll be cheating on his girlfriend again, and you will be in the middle of it. Continue to be nice to him, and if he says that he can't live with you being mad at him, just say, "Oh, shutup! I'm not mad at you" in a jokey way.
It seems like you have mixed emotions about him. If you still have feelings, let him know in a subtle way that you are interested, and still you know, be his friend and all. But he can't make you do anything, if he does, then that is harassment. Since you said you were scared, you really shouldn't be, because it sounds like he still has feelings for you, and he would never try doing anything bad to you. :) Just don't make the first move, otherwise your friend that is also his g/f might not be that happy. Good luck sweety :) Sorry, this was a tough question, and it took me a while to think up an answer.
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Well since hes one of your best friends..you probably are able to talk to him about his relationship with this girl, right? Ask him how everythings going and stuff and how serious they are (*girl friends talk about it all the time...so if you're best friends with this guy...then you'll probably be able to talk to him about that stuff) Since he confessed he feels bad about breaking up w.you, then he probably still has feelings for you too (*or @ least cares about you...why would he feel bad if he didn't care) And if he can't live with you being mad @ him..then he def. cares. Ask him again what it is he said untill he tells you..but don't ask too much or he'll just get annoyed. Hopefully when you talk to him he'll tell you how their relationship is going (*wether he wants to break up w.her or not) But really I think you should just be a good friend for him and support him wether he wants to break up w.her (*for you or for someone else) or if he wants to stay with her. If he hangs out w.you more then her then he probably likes you better, but he might think he can't have a relationship with you. Or maybe she is the one who doesn't wanna hang out w.him so they never make plans. If you hang out w.him...just tell him you don't wanna do anything w.him becuase he has a girlfriend and you guys are just friends. If he makes a big deal just tell him if you were his girlfriend, it'd be different, but you're not so you have to stay on the friend level
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