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boy issues.
I know this girl,Carly, we were friendly, but we werent really friends. Then we went to a mutual friend, Gavin's party. There, I found out she had a very big crush on Clay, and that night there was serious flirting between me and Clay. The next day teher was another party, and Carly was telling me that she thought Clay liked me. I was so happy, but I couldnt tell her. At some point throughout the conversation, I said it doesnt matter, its not like I'd go out with him if you liked him. The last day of school, me, Clay and two other friends hung out after school for like 6-7 hours. It was crazy, but soo much fun. And then, I went out of town. ME and Clay were talking online and he asked me out. I was like. I have to think of one person, and how it affects them. But Carly didnt sign on. So I just said yes. When I told her, she started warning me telling me hed break my heart. I was going crazy. She was bragging about her relationship with him in teh past. He doesnt even like her as a friend. So, whatever. I was always nice to her. But I never truly liked her. She was always trying to break us up. So when I came back to town, I was crazy about him. Pretty close to love. And he felt teh same way about me. At school, we'd hug in teh hallways, but I didnt wanna kiss him. She found out and told me how when they were in THIRD grade they made out through like 3 movies...proibably not true. But still..gross. I was like, okay whatever. My world was going great, everytime something bad happened, I'd think of him and my wolr dwould be complete again. I could face anything knowing he was at my side. All my friends told me he ALWAYS talked about me, and that we were the cutest couple ever. One of my firneds even told me that he looked at me different, he was my first boyfriend, so I wasnt used to this. I loved it. I was crazy for him. But then...my feelings truned into doubt, everyone was feeding me crazp about him. Telling me he was only different around me, but soon he'd be himself again. I didnt like who I heard he was. But I loved who I knew he was. After a while, my two best friends told me he wasnt worth the pain and doubt, so I decided to break up with him. I was kinda nervous, honestly,I'd never done that before. Just as I was about to do it, he signed on and we started talking he broke up with me. I'm grateful that he did, because he really wasnt worth it anymore. My feelings beacsme less and less, but they were still strong. It took me like three weeks to get over the break up, and I'm still not sure I'm complteley healed. However, hes a jerk to me now. He doesnt talk to me, he blcoked me when I finally got the guts to tellhim how I felt, and yet still, when I'm flirting or hugging or anything touchy with guys, he gives me this look. I dont know what to do about any of this. Not Carly, and vertainly not Clay. I may not think of him like that anymore, but I still care for him and want to be his friend. How do I do that? Not to mention, some of his friends are ditching me now. I just wanna feel teh same way I did when he used to hold me. I miss the feeling I had when I was around him. I miss him. But more importantly, I miss how I felt about him.
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Ask him why he broke up with you and tell your friends that it was your first boyfriend and you wanted to experience how it was like
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If you want to be his friend, I truely suggest randomly striking up a conversation, just ask him hows like and talk a lot, and say you were confused about what happend and your sorry if you hurt his feelings or anything. Make sure you stay on a friendly talking basis and more might happen from there, who knows. It might be hard to talk to him at first but try to find him when there aren't that many people with him.
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I don't think you miss him, you miss the idea of him. The idea that you had a boyfriend. He doesn't seem to be totally missing you, because he's kind of acting like a jerk with the whole blocking you thing, but he might still like you just because he's jealous when you talk to other guys and what not. You need to confront him and tell him that what he's doing to you is bullshit and that you want to be left alone. Also, don't tell ANY of your friends you still like him if you don't completely trust them to keep a secret, because with me there's been at least two instances where they've told the guy I still liked who broke up with me that I still liked him. And it might've been true before, but you know. You don't want to come off desperate. If you're all: But I can't live without you! I love you still! Please go back out with me! Waa!, then he won't want to go back out with you at all because things that a guy can easily have don't interest them, right? Yea, hope I helped. :) -Manda
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I don't think you miss him, you miss having a boyfriend. Obviously, he doesn't miss you, acting like a jerk and blocking you. I think you should tell him you don't want anymore of his bullshit and to stop bothering you when you talk to guys. Also, he broke up with you, if you crawl back to him you will seem desperate.
Just be patient, eventually the right guy will come.
-Farren
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