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Hey guys, I'm Maddie. Yes, my advicenators name is ridiculously dorky.ask anything :-)
I'm fifteen and as far as I know, I give pretty good advice, to anyone, about mostly anything.
So ask, and rate, if you don't mind :-D.
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14/f. im a freshmen and there is a junior asking me to prom. his friend texted me saying that he was. he texted me and said "scott wants to ask you to prom." what should i say back? i want to go with him but i dont know what to say. im bad with words i guess. thanx!
ariella
txt back:
"Tell scott to stop being a pussy and ask me himself!"
when he asks, say "sure"
and if he's too wimpy to do it, he's not worth it.
I love your answer to the girl who asked if it's okay to feel jealous if her boyfriend watches porn. I whole-heartedly agree with you that if it is hurting her, he should respect that.
That being said, my boyfriend said I could use his computer to edit photos of the two of us. While I was doing so, I threw one away accidently and went to the recycle bin to retrieve it. I found all kinds of porn movies that he had downloaded. It literally made me sick: especially since he and I took dirty pictures and made dirty movies that he has on his computer. Why would he want to watch other girls and not me? It makes me extremely jealous.
My question is: how do I bring this up to him? I was by no means snooping, but I think it might come of that way. I have a feeling he'll get defensive as well. I just need a place to start from. Do I tell him the story of how I found it? Do I just come out and say "You looking at porn is hurtful to me"? Since you share my opinion about this, I thought it would be best to ask you. Thank you for the advice in advance.
First of all, it's totally justifiable for you to feel this way, and i hope for your sake that he isn't difficult about it, as many guys would be in this position.
I would definitely tell him the story of how you found it, because if not he will without a doubt think you were snooping. Tell him that it hurts you to see him looking at other girls in that way, but also be sure to understand where he's coming from. It's natural for guys to go looking for "visual aids", often outside of their real-life relationship. Listen to where he's coming from, and in the end ask him to stop looking at other women. If he respects you AND you approach the topic in an understanding way, things will go smoothly for both of you.
Good luck!
love, maddie
can anyone think of any reason why a bf wouldnt be happy for his gf if she found a job that she really liked?
I'll right anyone who answers with a 5. Thanks!
It could be that he's afraid you won't spend as much time with him...
Dear Advicegiving people,
Yeah.. that subject was REALLY retarded. But yeah.. ok.. my LOVING boyfriend and I have been going out since July 8th & he's really sweet & all & I know he loves me because he tells me all the time & like.. I just DONT want that right now. I DONT want a serious relationship. And he's not the cutest thing ever, but he IS sweet & would give me the moon if I asked, like he's like the perfect boyfriend, but I dont WANT that. I want there to be rough times & I actually want him to disagree with me from time to time, but he treats me like a princess & thats just not what i want, but i dont want to be treated like crap either.. I just dont know right now. I want to break up with him, but i dont want to hurt him! HOW can I? Is it even possible? He's 15 by the way & so am I.
**Sorry it's soo long**
It sounds to me that this guy isn't the perfect boyfriend for you, but he sounds like he would make a really really good friend, just because he sounds so kind and generous. So if you do end it with him, it's probably in your best interest to make a real effort to stay close. That way, if you realize that he really was right for you, then you have a chance at making it work again.
good luck
xo maddie
Does neone know, it there is a way to find out if a female has a disease like by symptoms. She didn't go to the doctor, so how can she tell if she has a vaginal disease?
There are STD-testing kits you can buy at some stores, but they're pretty expensive and sometimes not reliable. Your best bet is to find a doctor that will keep the situation confidential or look up a local planned parenthood chapter. good luck!
xo maddie
ok,
this guy asked me out over myspace.
i said yes.
now he dosnt talk to me.
i have to start everything and he dosnt reply.
i met him once before i even found him on myspace.
and i asked if he wanted to hangout
he didnt reply.
then i left a bulletin asking for peoples advice.
and i was like.
now the guy i like dosnt like me.
he replyed.
the guy you like better be me.
so now i left one HOPEING he will see it saying how this guy dosnt talk to me.
so now what do i do.
is he playing me?
i mean.
if he dosnt reply to hanging out.
PLEASE HELP ME I RATE HIGH
this sounds like a pretty sketchy relationship... you can never really trust anything with people you don't hang out with in person... it sounds like he's kind of uninterested, maybe just becuse its an internet relationship. Maybe make an effort to see him outside of myspace, as long as you're sure that you're not in danger or anything. But if this continues, just tell him you're better off as friends... or nothing.
good luck
xo maddie
I have no idea what to do. There is this guy named Nick that I am totally crazy for. And me and him have gotten so close. He comes over now and then and hangs out. He HATES talking on the phone but with only me, he is on it for about 5 hours a day. He flirts with my hardcore and everyone thinks he likes me but I just can`t tell. He tells me a lot of stuff I am surprised he trusts me with and everytime we talk about me liking him, (yes he knows), he changes the subject. But when we are together...he acts like he likes me too. His mom and I get along and she told me that Nick gets shy around girls he likes. Nick isn`t relaly shy around me. Cuz we flirt non-stop. I mean, he was shy at first...but now we can flirt and not be embarrassed. What are some clues/ways I can tell if he truly does like me?
From the way you're describing it, it sounds to me that you're pretty confident that he likes you. It sounds about right to me... to check just talk to his friends and see if he's said anything about you. If it turns out he hasn't, just keep flirting.. he's gotta come around sometime soon!
good luck
xo maddie
ok sorry this is sort of long but ill rate all 5's. alright well whenever im trying to state my opinion or get my point across to someone i end up in tears. im not an emotional person at all. but its just i just start crying when im trying to get my point across like to my parents and stuff. and its not good because they dont take me seriously!!! like whenever im arguing with them i start to cry. how can i learn not to do this and to just you know, be cool about it and everything and not freak? please help me. thanks!!!!
Lets see. I'm sort of one of these people.. depending on the situation of course. It's just something your body does.. it doesnt have much to do with your emotions. When you are under stress, certain toxins build up in the fluid around your eyes, and you cry to release them. Since you can't really help this, the best you can do is to just focus on being clear and concise in making your point without getting too weepy.
Good luck
xo maddie
Maybe this sounds stupid but....
..Do u also have the problem that your hair tie/scrunchie slides out? Tell me! I getting sick of it! please help! X'O
Yes, I certainly do. I have enormously thick hair and the elastic often slides out when i'm in dance class, which sucks. It depends on what kind of elastic you use... don't use the thin ones, they suck... and scrunchies are almost guaranteed to fall out. So just use the thick ones, and you can use more than one.
Just know this: You're not alone. hehe
good luck, i guess?
xo maddie
Umm! Well a guy lent me his and I have no idea how to wash them! Can you just shove it in with a normal 40 degree wash or should I hand wash it or??
Heeelp! lol
If you're worried about it, hand wash it.
is there any websites that will amke a picture bigger?
You don't really need a website, just open the image in paint. Then select image on the menu and click stretch/skew. then enter percentages over 100% in the boxes (make sure you use the same percentage in them both). Then hit OK and save your changes. Hope i helped :)
do you think it's bad to but everyone the same thing for christmas? like all of your friends?
Nahh, it's not really a bad idea.
But if you're worried about it, this is what i do...
For all my closest/most worthwhile friends, I get something personalized/different from everyone else. For all the others, i give them all the same cute but inexpensive gift.
It's all good.
can social isolation make you go insane?
Watch the movie "The Shining."
lol
Ok. I'm going to this party tongith and the guy I like is gonna be there. My friend likes him to...we are definetly gonna play spin the bottle.
What the heck should I do!!!!!!
Just go, looking cute, feeling confident, and ready to hook him! When it comes to the whole spin the bottle thing, just go with the flow. Chances are he'll end up kissing other girls, so make sure you're prepared for that. But make sure you get your turn with him too!
Have fun!
I am a very popular female at mi highschool, and mi highschool is known for a lot of lesbians and gay males. It is crazy because I always said how it was nasty to date the same sex. Well I am realizing that I am attracted to females. Well it's one inparticular tho. It's like no one turned me out or ne thing I just catch mi palms sweating wen I get around her and me daydreamin' about her. It's even more crazier because we are so close. I don't know what to do, maybe it's just lust but I really like her. I am afarid because mi cousins would kill me if they knew, I want to tell her but don't know how. Should I give hints or just tell her? Wen would be the right time to tell mi bf and mi fav. cousin. It's not like I care if others know, I just need those three people to kno. PLEASE HELP me, rate 5's for any useful advice
This is a real toughie.
When it comes to telling the girl herself, just be careful that she won't freak out... is she attracted to girls too? Other than that though, just let her know in the same way you would if she was a guy you liked.
When it comes to the bf, be careful, because it might hurt his feelings that you have a thing for someone else, even if it isn't a guy.
The cousin though... if she's prejudiced against gays/lesbians... that will be really hard. I'm not sure what you'd do about that one.. Just let her know very matter-of-factly, and you'll have to kinda deal with whatever she says.
good luck!
Yeah im 13 and regular tampons are to big for me, do you kno if they make junior tampons, if so what are they called.
Tampax Satin Teen.
They're cardboard with a rounded tip so theyre easy to use.. the multipax have "slender regulars" "lites junior" and "super something"
lol. They're excellent. :) i dont use them anymore but sounds right for you.
good luck
xo maddie
im thinking about getting an ipod. i was just wondering, when you get it, i hear you have to get iTunes. ive had that before, and do you have to buy songs off of that. is there any way to download songs from limewire or other programs, or is it free when you have an ipd. thanks!
*i rate everyones answer*
yeah, i do thiss... just download the songs from limewire or where ever. then go to the folder and right click the music file.. hit open with... itunes. then its in your library and you can add it to your ipod from there.
so you're all set :)
ok well i have a best friend and i lov eher so mucha dn weve been best friends from like the first time we met and were always together and everyone is always like 'ur like the olsen twins,always together, always the same, never fighting' and we love that were totally different, shes blond long hair with fair skin and angelic girlie dress sense and im brown hair rock chick.
anyway this new girl has come and totally taken her away! what do i do ignore or say something
thanx
xxx
I know that this is a really rough thing to go through. But don't let your amazing friendship fade away! This new girl is a threat to you, but i think the best you can do is stay with your friend, and continue doing the things together that you always have. It's not really worth trying to sabotage the new friendship, because that will just hurt everyone. Actually, if you like the new girl enough, you could try hanging out, the three of you, together. If you develop a friendship with this new girl, it could be the beginning of something new, and very good. But if that's not gonna happen, then just stick it out and do your best to keep your old friend too.
good luck!
xo maddie
ok to guys out there plese help, would it sound all clingy and stuff if i asked my boyfriend if he loves me more than he loved his ex?
please help
rate high
xxx
It's probably not the greatest idea. I've seen firsthand that this is the kind of stuff that gets a relationship into trouble... of course i dont know the guy, but generally, guys arent big on uncomfortable questions about exes, etc.
He loves you! Definitely be grateful for that. Don't worry about his past relationships, because you have him now and you're a lucky girl for it.
good luck
okay, i have dirty blonde hair that is long. i wanna cut it shorter with choppy layers. also, im thinking about getting side bangs. do you think it will look good? here is what i look like. www.myspace.com/tara_xoxo
side bangs would def. be cute on you. :)