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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.













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So, my dad went to prison 14 years ago (unrelated to any of this) and just got out last month. He's made attempts to contact me and my brother; we both decided to have dinner with him and have already done that.
My sister, for many years, has said that our dad molested her for years. None of this was investigated, there were no witnesses, it's all on her word.
It's an awful situation. I feel a huge loyalty to my sister, I love her so much obviously. I can only imagine what it'd be like, the betrayal to see your bothers do that to you and be around your molester. However, no one knows this actually happened, and I feel like it'd be unfair to cut my dad out of my life because of my sister's, well frankly, accusations.
I don't know what to do. Nothing was ever proven but why would someone lie about that?
Any advice on the subject would be much appreciated
thanks



I find it hard to believe that your sister would just come up with a lie like that. How old is she? Is she an adult?

I understand this is your father and you have every right to have him in your life but you need to decide for yourself if he should be "actively" involved or if you want him to be involved to a certain extent. Again, Why was this man in prison? What was the severity of the case? This would all determine on how much I would want him involved in my life.

Is your sister a liar? Is she a trustworthy person? Again, This would determine on whether I would believe her or not. Even so, I wouldn't shut the door on her statements as even a liar could tell the truth when they were molested. I would keep it in the back of your mind and be a bit cautious around your father. Learn to make boundaries and keep them and even leave some things in your life to yourself and not repeated.

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I am newly seperated. I was married or am married four years to a man who lie and stole from my entire family including my children. It was an " abusive" situation. Some call me a survier I call me an idiot. Long story short he left me. I ended up moving several states away. Not much of a choose. I am staying with family who help watch my children while I work, because my son is Autistic and doesn't do well with other baby sitters. I don't know anyone where I live other than a few people were I work ( tele marketing). I found a "dating" web site just to meet friends. Meet someone, have been dating a few months. He quit his job to start another one has not started the other job (union?) weather thats at excuse I am clueless. I was paying for his cigeretes when I don't smoke. When we would go out weather to a bar or what not. I paid. Finally I told him I am not paying for anything anymore. We started putting in applications so he says until he heres from the other job. We started fighting a lot. "Broke Up" gave in went back. I know what I want out of life just not out of a relationship and thinking maybe I am not ready for a relationship I just want friends someone to confide in. I dont want to be like yeah it is over after breaking up and talking it back out having a god conversation I dont know weather to continue working at this relationship I guess I am looking for what would you type of response.




The guy you met on a dating site is a user, He isn't in the relationship to be committed but to rather have someone to mooch off of.

If you are looking to meet people then try getting involved in the community. You can make friends at work, You can make through family, friends of friends etc.

It is harmless to talk to people on dating sites but I would be careful of how much you reveal right away and hold off on meeting them in person until you have spoken to them for awhile. Sometimes the problem with dating sites is that people lie about who they are.


Right now I would focus on you and your family, Your family should be the people you lean on when you need someone to talk too. In your own time see if you can pick up some volunteer work or get involved somehow. Sometimes local towns or cities have events or outings.

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I'm 19, female and my ex boyfriend is 20, male. We were together for over 2 years.

He broke up with me a couple weeks ago. In the moment he said it was because he didn't feel the same. He's not very good at communicating, so our relationship was more difficult than it should have been because he couldn't really express what he was thinking.
So we didn't talk for awhile after he had broken up with me. Then we hung out, got some food and talked. He said he was sorry for the way he did it, apologized for not being able to tell me what was going on, ect.
He told me he was stressed and is confused about our relationship. Not that he doesn't care about me anymore, but our relationship had some pretty stressful moments. So we went over and talked through them, figured out where we both went wrong in handling certain situations but in the end he said the relationship was unhealthy.

So at this point, I'm really not sure what to do. We talked about getting back together, giving it more time. But then he said he still doesn't know yet.

So I don't want to wait around because who knows how long, or even if he'll actually want to get back together. I did reflect on whether or not these problems we had can be fixed. I do believe he cares about me. I know he just doesn't want to have the fights we had before. So I've been getting advice from people on how to handle the certain situations we've been having problems in.

To be honest, I'm scared of asking him. If he says no, I'll be upset of course. But if he keeps telling me I don't know, then what do I do? Just let him go and move on? I'm thinking of giving it a couple weeks till we talk again. Good idea or just wait till the next time he contacts me?

I talked to my dad about it. He told me he's a good guy and all that, but if he can't figure out what he wants in two or three weeks, then don't wait around.

I've never been in a situation like this. I've dated quite a bit before him, but was never broken up with. I always ended the relationship or the "talking". He truly is a good guy, just a very confused good guy...he has good qualities and is overall just amazing. Even though I was mad at him for how he handled the break up, I can't really talk trash about him. So hopefully that helps showing you how I feel about him.

Just any advice at all would be appreciated. Sorry it was long.



I agree with your Dad, Wait about a week and if he doesn't come around then move on from it.

If you both do decide to rekindle bare in mind that there needs to be boundaries in the relationship. Communicating is very important and if you both can't freely express how you feel to one another then the problem is going to remain until you figure out how to fix it. Another thing you need to bare in mind is that once a relationship is damaged, It is going to take a long time to be able to trust the relationship and your partner as you once did.

I personally feel there is more to the story then what you know. Meaning, That he isn't telling you the entire story. When someone drops the "I don't feel the same" bomb on someone it sometimes could mean there is someone else in mind or someone may be questioning their sexuality. I'm not saying there is, I just thing it sounds a bit fishy from an outsiders view. However maybe he really did loose feelings for you and the relationship this is something HE needs to talk about. If he doesn't decide to come around then I believe your best option is to end any sort of contact so you don't prolong your pain. I believe in the only real reason two people should remain friends or on a mutual level of any kind is when there are children involved.

It's hard to give good advice because the lack of communication on his part. I most certainly wouldn't put yourself on hold though, As a 19 year old you've got a life to live.

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Im a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend is 14
We have been on and off for like 4 years at first it was like whatever's but as the years passed we've gotten more serious 
We were dating for about 10 months and in march 2013 I broke up with her because I kind of got bored with her.. I went out with a girl  2 days later. I never suspected that my ex hated the new girl untill a while. We were together for 6 months and I didn't really know why I was even with her so I dumped her because we never saw each other and she just didn't understand me like my ex.
I started talking to my ex again and we got back together but shortly after I left her for the other girl she hated because I wanted to see it I could work it out..
That's fucked up I know. 
But it was pointless I never saw her , cheated on her and she just didn't understand me she made me feel so depressed so I dumped her. A month later I messaged my ex and she didn't really want anything to do with me and i started having suicidal thoughts I realized that I fucked up and I felt like shit 
Eventually we hung out and we couldn't make it work at first but then later he decide to give me a chance 
I was still talking to the other ex and she did t want me to but I still was.. Fcked up I know! I talked to her plenty and hid it from my gf. 
Everyhing came out eventually.. All the lies.. Everything .
My girlfriend says she can't trust me and I don't wanna lose her :( she said she can't keep doing this
I don't know what to do she doesn't trust me and I fucke up I know but I didn't think about it all untill after I haven't done anything but idk how to make her trust me 



Oh man here we go...


You played your girlfriend not once, but twice.

You have pretty much broke every "don't" rule in a relationship. Do you blame her for not wanting anything to do with you? Not only is this situation fucked up yes, but she is FOURTEEN. In many states the legal age to even consent to sex is 16.

You were sneaky, dishonest and you betrayed her. The best thing you really can do at this point IF she is still willing to even talk to you is be her friend. IF she wants to be with you again (Which keep in mind she is FOURTEEN, She will when she is ready. I hope you learned from your mistakes, I really do. People don't just dump someone because they are bored, They talk about it and they fix it. If someone isn't happy, The right thing to do is to tell them and move on. Leading them on and crawling back to someone because you can't find someone that wants to put up with your crap is wrong. I am sorry for this I really am dude but I am just the type to tell it how it is.

Leave the poor girl alone and find someone new. Move on, Start fresh and learn from your mistakes. If you don't want to be known as the guy with the bad rap then don't create one. Be genuine and honest, When you have a problem you talk about it and work it out.

You broke her trust and even if you were to get back together, It will never be the same again. The girl will never completely feel safe because you bailed on her. Stop the pity story and learn to accept the consequences.

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I beleive I may be pregnant, I have been terribly moody and its not my pms time yet, been sensitive to smells and had some other possible symptoms. I brushed it off until I was laying down just now and feeling my abdomen absent mindedly, and I can feel a hard knot about even with my pubic bone, about the size of a medium grape. I can't find online what its supposed to feel like.

Can anyone share their experience with what their uterus felt in early pregnancy? (Probably 8 weeks or earlier, its hard to say when it would have happened). I just want to confirm what I'm feeling may possibly be my uterus, I'm getting a pregnancy test first thing in the morning!

Thank you!


EDIT: My answer does NOT change, We are not authorized to give medical advice like this. If you are in urgent need of care you see a doctor. That's what people do when they have questions like this!

Good luck..



None of us can tell you, This is something you may need to to talk to a doctor about.

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I really like him. But Iam not ready for a sexual relationship with him yet. How should I tell hom that?

Assuming you aren't dating, What is the rush to tell him?

If a guy likes you for who you are, They won't pressure you. They will respect you and wait until you are ready. A relationship isn't about sex or being sexual, It's about getting to know the other half as a person. If he pressures you then he isn't worth your time.

Tell him straight up if he wants a relationship with you that you like him but want to take things slow. If he respects that then go with it, If not give him the boot

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Sorry about the lame title, but I don't know how else to word it. I had considered myself a Christian for most of my life until about two years ago. I don't put any particular label on my beliefs, but I'm leaning toward atheism. My family, who are all conservative Christians, have absolutely no idea. I don't want to ever tell them what I believe, because I wonder if this is just a "college-age phase" or something. It would hurt them so much, and I know without a doubt I would lose love from them. But let me get down to the real question...I am trying to find my first job, and my mother keeps telling me to apply for Lifeway, which is a Christian bookstore. Needless to say, I would be quite uncomfortable working there. How can I tell her that I'd rather not work there without revealing too much? Thank you.




Assuming you are over the age of 18, You are entitled to believe what you want. Sometimes in life, People figure things out and that often includes religion.

I grew up a hardcore catholic, From going to church on Sundays to Sunday school and saying prayers before bed. Once I hit my mid 20's I discovered that I am more on the Unitarian side then Catholic.

You don't need to tell your parents anything really, If you are not comfortable working at a bookstore then tell them that you don't feel it would be the job for you. You do not have to explain why. If they ask why then just simply say you are looking for something more active then a bookstore.

Religion is a personal thing and who you tell is entirely up too you. I do not practice the UU religion but if someone ask, I just simply say UU to make it more simple.

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It was New years day when I met him on the internet. I was on this site called Omegel .I wanted to make a few guy friends ,anyways I started talking to this one guy .He was cool.He asked for my age and I told him I was 14. He told me he was 18 .I really like talking to him and I really wanted to be friends.So I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship n that I don't send nudes.So we exchange numbers.He had a girl friend n they were kind of fighting,so I faced him advice .but at the end he ended up breaking up with her.Anyways we would stay up every night talking.I told him my real age,and he was cool with.He told me his darkest secrets so did I,then one day he told me he loved me.I wasn't sure what he meant ,so I said I loved him ,and we ended up staying up another night texting ,but now the texts messages we send to each other are getting shorter and shorter because were always busy .He lives in Michigan and I live in California .(I'm a girl) I don't know what to do we haven't talked to each other in a few days .should I end our friendship or fight for it?(sorry for it being long)



There is clearly something wrong when an 18 year old man is showing feelings for a 14 year old.

You are a minor, He is an adult. It doesn't matter how mature you may be, It is wrong.

End it, Cut contact with him and stop talking to him

Obviously he has some issues

Find someone who is your own age and better for you. The internet is the worst way to meet people, Not only are they not always who they say they are but people lie all the time. Remember this, They only tell you what they WANT you to know and that isn't always the truth.

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I need your help. I have a problem getting across to my boyfriend and it's that point where I feel like a break up is inevitable.
I have always raised the issue about our need to communicate, that being that I don't like that days can go by without us saying a word to each other.It makes the bond disappear,and it makes us miss out on each others lives.Of concern is the fact that it always has to be me initiating things alot of the times.I know they say that I need to find other things to fill up my life but it's so hard to go days without talking to someone you love,especially if previously we had good communication.
I'm feeling like either he is slowly distancing himself from me,or he just doesn't want to be in this relationship all together. Just now I called him and he sounded defensive when I wanted to know what was going on with him.Its as though work is a secret.So that prompted me to ask us to meet up for coffee in which I plan to say what I need to say one last time..and if a break up needs to happen then I am fine with that.Its better that than feeling lonely,when I do the opposite with him.I give and never receive anything in return.

Lina,24 years old. Dating for over a year.




A relationship takes two to work, Communication is one of the golden keys.

Without communication, You have nothing. You're feelings are legit, This relationship isn't 50/50 and sounds like he may be drifting slowly but surely. A good partnership is when two people can talk openly and honestly with one another. While bringing it up and his acts of becoming defensive, Obviously he must know there is an issue.

If you are feeling lonely and this relationship has no communication, Then you are already in some aspect on your own. You need to set boundaries and lay them out too him, That if it doesn't change it's ways, You will have no choice but to call it a end.

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So, in a nutshell. I met a girl online and we have been talking for over a month. First day we talked on PS3 we exchanged phone numbers and had a very lengthy conversation, and honestly since then that is the case. We have fun conversations, now she was engaged when we first met.

Out of no where she explained that they are no longer a couple, to be honest I am not sure if I believe that; however, she has been spending more time talking and texting me recently. And my confusion lies in the fact that she insists on talking with me every night and we end up falling asleep. She actually even text me asking if i will fall sleep with her on the phone. She states she lives at home with her parents, which I assume is true.

I honestly don't know what to make of the connection we have at this point. We have traded photos with each other, talk every day throughout the day, literally almost fall asleep with each other every night. she's 24 lives in a small town in Ohio and I'm 26 and I live in Los Angeles.



Honestly, This is just a crush thing.


Nobody can truly fall for someone they never met, Yet alone you both live in completely different states. If she was engaged, I would find it really hard that she would suddenly sacrifice her engagement to someone she met online and never met in person. IF she did, Obviously engagement and being in a committed relationship doesn't mean much to her does it?

Fact is, You live in Los Angeles and she is in Ohio. Do you even know if she is who she says she is? No. You only know what she wants you to know. Doesn't it tell you something that she is falling for someone offline when she was engaged? No offense to you but this doesn't strike you as desperate at all?... Perhaps she has commitment problems If someone broke off an engagement or suddenly said "It didn't work out" and started talking to me more off the internet, I'd be a bit sketchy.

Realistically, She isn't into you. She is into the attention she is getting from you. This women doesn't even know you and you don't know her. Again, You only know what she wants you too know that's it.

I honestly wouldn't think much of it, One thing that really gets me is that she was or is engaged and talking to you. If she is that gullible and that easily seduced then maybe she isn't all that "catchy" in the first place. Sorry to break it to you and sorry for my brutality but she is nothing but a dumb broad looking for extra attention.

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I went out with my boyfriend for 7 months we broke up before and he left me for his ex he then he begged for me back and ended up leaving me again he use to go to different schools now he goes to mine and I have him in a class I love him so much I fell in love with him I have begged for him but it doesn't work I'm trying to make his gf mad do she can dump him buy she doesn't what can I do he needs to be mine again I live him so much I'm 17 btw




If a man really wants to be with you, He will faithfully.

Anyone who wants to play the field and bounce back and forth between relationships isn't worth being with. Why would you want anyone back after dating them for 7 months and then they leave you for an ex? Wouldn't that tell you that the relationship you had with him to begin with wasn't really a relationship. You can't make her mad so she will dump him, This isn't just about her. It takes two too tango, HE was also involved. If HE wants to be with her, He will. This isn't just about his ex girlfriend.

If he loved you, He wouldn't of thought about leaving you. If he wanted to be with you, He would of had enough balls to tell his ex he wanted nothing to do with her and he didn't. This isn't love, Someone who loves you would stick with you through thick and thin, Not leave you for someone else.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months. We've been on and off for a while and one time when we were broken up he started dating a girl he knew I hated. They broke up and we got back together then broke up and he left me for her again. We got back together but she doesn't leave him alone. He says he only won out with her and got back with her because she gave him money for his drugs but she claims shr never has. They both are liars about tons of stuff so I don't believe them. Anyway yesterday he said he talked to her. I was beyond pissed because he said he wouldn't but he did. He claims she kept bugging and crying and he felt like a dick for supposeably saying something rude to her. He said that's the only reason why he talked to.her. seems fishy because he shouldn't be talking or caring for her. But she just doesn't stop! I've told her plenty times and my boyfriend claims he has too but she doesn't stop. What can I do?




You are falling for his bullshit and wasting your time.



He cheated, He is still hung up on his ex and he isn't willing to be a man to tell her that he is with you. You just called the both of them liars, Why the hell are you in a relationship with someone if you can't trust him and he can't be faithful to you? He isn't over her, This is exactly why he keeps talking to her.

The guy left you, Then you went and took him back and he did it again. You are a fall back, You are allowing him to use you. YOU need to put your foot down and learn that he is still hung up on old baggage and find someone who is into you. This isn't a relationship, It's a pity party.

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Alright, I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for this (and I deserve it)... I pierced my lobes at home using a safety pin.

I used rubbing alcohol to clean the pin as well as my ear lobes. This was my second set of earlobe piercings - the first set was done by a professional. I have been wearing earrings made out of surgical steel.

At first, I had no problems with the piercings. Now, two/three weeks after doing them, one of them hurts very badly when I turn it, and the area around it is very kind of red and hard. The other one doesn't hurt at all but when I took it out to clean it, there was dark green stuff coming out of it.

I know it was stupid of me to pierce them by myself. Lesson learned.

Now what do I do?

Thanks :)




It sounds like it's infected, If it is red and crusty then the piercing needs to be taken out.

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Do you think my gym teacher enjoys looking at the male students in her class?
In 10th grade I am doing gym class and the teacher is this young lady (younger than 30) and she is pretty good looking. We are doing the swim unit and all the boys in the class of course are just in their swimming shorts. I wonder if the female gym teacher is enjoying looking at all the shirtless boys in the water?
Even just to see how fit everyone really is?



Very likely not


As a teacher, Her profession is to educate not check out young boys in bathing suits. I think you have the wrong idea yet intentions. I am 28 years old, To me anyone that is in high school is seen as a young adult or even a kid in my eyes.

This women does not fantasy her students and is very unlikely looking at anyone in a sexual manner. She has higher authority over you

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One of my male friends said that if his wife does not want to satisfy him sexually then he has a right to cheat on her with another woman. Or if she denies him sex then he should cheat. He says that women should always please their husbands. A lot of people agreed with him on this. I don't its okay to cheat just because your wife doesn't feel like having sex. What if your wife can't have sex because of medical conditions? What do you think?




No, I don't believe in cheating or having affairs for any reason.


If he isn't satisfied or happy in his marriage then I think he should either address marriage counseling or file for divorce. I do not think cheating is okay, I do not think having affairs okay either. No excuse for it

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I have a serious problem with my face make up.i use bb cream from garnier,its for light skin,and i put moisturizer before but awlays when i put the bb cream(imuse a sponge) it looks caked,i use really small amounts but it doesnt look blended and i tried,i used a brush after,nothing.i dont know if its important but i have shity oily skin and acne.should i use a different product or? Please help me




I've always had very pale, dry skin.


Have you tried using this?

http://www.musingsofamuse.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/Maybelline-Dream-Mousse-Concealer-1.jpg

I have been using it for a few years, Never had an issue. It's about $10.00 at CVS, Riteaide and Walgreens.

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I know this is an interesting question, but I was wondering.. should I get up at nighttime to wee? I'm only fourteen and every time I do get up to use the toilet, I end up staying up! So should I go to the toilet, or should I just stay in bed. I don't drink water before bed and.. I just don't know what to do. Help??




Are you on any medications? Sometimes certain medications can cause frequent urination.


If this is a continuing problem, I would address it too a doctor. Do not drink anything within 2 hours before bed.

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Me and my ex were dating for a year and everything seemed almost perfect. Of course we would argue quite a bit but it was small stuff that every couple goes through. We both loved each other very much and never lied to each other or anything like that. Sadly my dad passed away from brain cancer and it took a toll on our relationship. I wasn't able to be there for him and
I became depressed. We had a small argument on December 19th and he told me he was done with me. I told him I was so sorry for everything and that I would try harder but he didn't want me anymore. He said he was doing it for me and that he wasn't able to be there for me, he aslo said he wanted to fix himself. I told him multiple times how sorry I was and that I realized I was not there for him. I told him how much I loved him and that I wanted to be there for him now and that I regretted everything I did. He said he still cared about me but he just couldn't be with me anymore but maybe in the future. A couple days later he tells me that he is over me and that he has moved on and I should move on. Then a couple days later he tells me he still has feelings for me again and that he wants to love me. Then he popped by my class two days in a row and we had lunch together and he asked for a hug. Only to have him ignore me again. It seems that he is constantly changing his mind about how he feels about me and ignoring me. I finally sent him a message about how angry I was that he was constantly changing his mind and told him to talk to me when he made a final choice and that I still loved him. I also told him I would always be waiting for him because I dont want anyone else, he was a big part of my life. I told him that if he never messages me after that I will message him in June to see how he is. It hurts because he was able to move on so quickly and all I want to do is love him and be there for him. He never replied to the message and I know he read it. I feel so confused because he would message me and see me and then ignore me again. I dont know what to do I love him so much and I know he is going through a lot right now. He even admitted he keeps pushing me away because he feels numb right now and doesnt care about anything. He also said he couldnt keep going on knowing how much he is hurting me right now. Is their even a possibility we could get back together? I feel like a part of me is missing I just care about him so much.



First my condolence to your fathers passing.


As for the boyfriend, He needs to go. It was wrong of him to bail on you when you needed him the most. Understandably, You have every reason to be depressed. As sorry as he may be, It doesn't cut it. Relationships are about trust and most of all supporting one another and if he can't be supportive in one of your most needed times, Then he just isn't the one for you. I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who I can't rely on when I need them the most. It was wrong for him to jet, I don't care what his excuse is or was. Darling, Sometimes we need to find our strength and learn that toxic people only cause us harm in the long run. You do not need him, You do not want him and most of all you do not love him. You need and should find someone who loves you, Someone who will support you through the good and the bad and will be there when you need them. You have nothing to apologize for, You've done nothing wrong. Lift yourself up, Be strong. If you need help, Get yourself therapy. Don't let more pain in, He isn't worth your pain.

Be well

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I'm from Maryland and I was hanging out with some friends. They were smoking weed and had some on the table. A cop came to the house and knew they were smoking. Can I get in trouble for being there even if I didn't smoke or didn't have any in my possession?? I'm 17 by the way




Yep


It's like being with a friend breaking into a house, You were an acquainted to the crime. You were in possession whether you were smoking or not.

Unfortunately, The law doesn't care who smokes weed and who didn't. You were around it, You were around your friends and you knew about it. This is enough to slap charges

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I'm 16/f. So, about a month ago, this kid in my class called me a slut. He said "go away, slut." Under his breath when I went to get a pencil. And since then I have been observing myself, and wondering why he said that. It didn't exactly hurt, more like caught me off guard and got me thinking, what could I have done to make anyone think that? I mean, I'm pretty conservative.


The only things I can honestly possibly think of are;

1.The fact that I flirt with the guys that flirt with me,
2. I make a lot of sexual jokes,
3. One day at the end of class when everyone was walking out I waited a little bit and took my top shirt off (I had a tank top under with my bra straps hidden) and left my top shirt on only around my neck, so I could pull my shirt off after my sweater was on to make sure that no skin that wasn't my arms showed. But still, just because he was there, a different boy was like, "Yeah, your clothes. Put them on." Which I can understand, but don't agree with... Only my arm skin was out the whole time.
4. I am horny almost ALL of the time and I find myself fantasizing about some of the boys in my school more and more every week -.-
5. A guy friend of mine once grabbed me as if he was listening to my stomach as I walked by him (he touches me like this a lot, arm around the shoulders, hugs, holds my face briefly, touches my hair and arms, things like that) he was sitting, I was standing. He put his head on my stomach & instead of pushing him away I touched his head, & I don't know, I guess it looked wrong? Everyone that saw said "woahhh" & I just gently backed away from him after a moment I took to process.
6. I stretch in class from time to time (I bend backwards in my seat)
7. When I catch a guy looking at me, I'm flattered instead of disgusted. I don't know if my face shows that or not.
8. When men on the street cat call to me, I smile politely at them (I feel rude ignoring them, even if they might rape me)
9. When the same boy that called me a slut smacked my butt one time, I didn't defend myself, I kind of just stood there & stared at him in shock, & I guess this is why? I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm too nice to the disrespectful guys that surround me?
10. I wore these stretchy leggings that look like jeans with pockets to school for literally the first time yesterday, and my best friend told me "those are the slut pants."
11. When I had swimming last year, I have walked around in my underwear in front of the other girls a few times. I was maybe about 50% comfortable with this,

Looking at this list makes me think I probably am a slut, but I want other comments. If any of you think this makes me a slut, please don't hesitate to tell me, and tell me why. I want honesty. I have been beating myself up about this, I know I should have more of a backbone about this, but I just don't know how, or what to say, or what to do...
Thank you for all of your answers in advance. Anything is appreciated :)




People are stereotypical, Judgmental and rude.

This doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong, It means they are judging you and treating you poorly like Razhie said. Again, If you aren't happy with the way you do things then change it.

Some people tend to judge more then others, It's the way society is nowadays.

I, Am a very judgmental person. I admire people who show self respect and are proper. I tend to down people more who try and draw attention to themselves because in my eyes it shows lack of self respect and desperation.

Is it okay to feel this way? Sure. Everyone is entitled to their opinions but I would never mumble under my breath something rude to hurt someone's feelings. People are opinionated, Sometimes others are opinionated in rude ways. Because someone called you a "slut" doesn't mean you are one or you did something to make them think you are. It means they are stereotypical jerks who express it freely.

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