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My girlfriend
Im a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend is 14
We have been on and off for like 4 years at first it was like whatever's but as the years passed we've gotten more serious
We were dating for about 10 months and in march 2013 I broke up with her because I kind of got bored with her.. I went out with a girl 2 days later. I never suspected that my ex hated the new girl untill a while. We were together for 6 months and I didn't really know why I was even with her so I dumped her because we never saw each other and she just didn't understand me like my ex.
I started talking to my ex again and we got back together but shortly after I left her for the other girl she hated because I wanted to see it I could work it out..
That's fucked up I know.
But it was pointless I never saw her , cheated on her and she just didn't understand me she made me feel so depressed so I dumped her. A month later I messaged my ex and she didn't really want anything to do with me and i started having suicidal thoughts I realized that I fucked up and I felt like shit
Eventually we hung out and we couldn't make it work at first but then later he decide to give me a chance
I was still talking to the other ex and she did t want me to but I still was.. Fcked up I know! I talked to her plenty and hid it from my gf.
Everyhing came out eventually.. All the lies.. Everything .
My girlfriend says she can't trust me and I don't wanna lose her :( she said she can't keep doing this
I don't know what to do she doesn't trust me and I fucke up I know but I didn't think about it all untill after I haven't done anything but idk how to make her trust me
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You both are so young. Just as you were bored once before it will happen again. Honestly there is nothing wrong with dating other people and enjoying the company of others as long as you let others know you are not in a committed relationship. It isn't fair to others or yourself to get tied down so early. Enjoy life, meet new people before you make a commitment. Give your girlfriend time to see that you are honest and allow her to trust you over time. I have a feeling life is going to take you both in different directions before this is all said and done.
If you want to regain her trust simple be honest and forth coming and time will change her feelings but there is little else that can be done. Just give it some time.
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You already knew you screwed up. But do you really blame her for not trusting you?
The problem is, you don't know how to have a real relationship or really know how to treat a girl to be able to have a good, healthy relationship.
She's only 14 and you've already hurt her in some of the worst ways. You need to let her go and let her move on to a guy who won't pull this crap with her.
Like the other adviser said, people don't just dump somebody because their bored. They talk it out and work through it.
You can't just keep breaking up with people, getting back together, cheating, and lying. It's just not what you do.
So take a break. Take a break from girls. You need to get your head together and figure out how you feel, what you want and how you need to be.
Let her go and figure everything out. If you are actually serious about being with her, don't expect her to give you another chance because if I was her, I'd be so tired of it. So for now, don't talk to her, figure everything out, then maybe talk to her as a friend then go from there.
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Oh man here we go...
You played your girlfriend not once, but twice.
You have pretty much broke every "don't" rule in a relationship. Do you blame her for not wanting anything to do with you? Not only is this situation fucked up yes, but she is FOURTEEN. In many states the legal age to even consent to sex is 16.
You were sneaky, dishonest and you betrayed her. The best thing you really can do at this point IF she is still willing to even talk to you is be her friend. IF she wants to be with you again (Which keep in mind she is FOURTEEN, She will when she is ready. I hope you learned from your mistakes, I really do. People don't just dump someone because they are bored, They talk about it and they fix it. If someone isn't happy, The right thing to do is to tell them and move on. Leading them on and crawling back to someone because you can't find someone that wants to put up with your crap is wrong. I am sorry for this I really am dude but I am just the type to tell it how it is.
Leave the poor girl alone and find someone new. Move on, Start fresh and learn from your mistakes. If you don't want to be known as the guy with the bad rap then don't create one. Be genuine and honest, When you have a problem you talk about it and work it out.
You broke her trust and even if you were to get back together, It will never be the same again. The girl will never completely feel safe because you bailed on her. Stop the pity story and learn to accept the consequences.
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