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im 13 ,he's 18
It was New years day when I met him on the internet. I was on this site called Omegel .I wanted to make a few guy friends ,anyways I started talking to this one guy .He was cool.He asked for my age and I told him I was 14. He told me he was 18 .I really like talking to him and I really wanted to be friends.So I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship n that I don't send nudes.So we exchange numbers.He had a girl friend n they were kind of fighting,so I faced him advice .but at the end he ended up breaking up with her.Anyways we would stay up every night talking.I told him my real age,and he was cool with.He told me his darkest secrets so did I,then one day he told me he loved me.I wasn't sure what he meant ,so I said I loved him ,and we ended up staying up another night texting ,but now the texts messages we send to each other are getting shorter and shorter because were always busy .He lives in Michigan and I live in California .(I'm a girl) I don't know what to do we haven't talked to each other in a few days .should I end our friendship or fight for it?(sorry for it being long)
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Let's start with the fact that he's 18. So he's an adult. There's something wrong when an adult is wanting more than a friendship with a girl who is 13. He seriously might not be a bad guy, but this honestly just sounds weird. He needs someone around his age and you need someone around your age.
Obviously, he doesn't love you in a romantic way. He could have said that to get more out of you. To get you to send nude pics, who knows.
Not only that, when people love each other, they don't stop talking for a few days. So he had other things on his mind when he said that.
Also, when someone says something you don't understand. You should probably ask for clarification, just in general because I found it weird that you said I love you back when you weren't even sure what he meant.
You should end whatever is going on here because whatever it is, it's not safe.
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There is clearly something wrong when an 18 year old man is showing feelings for a 14 year old.
You are a minor, He is an adult. It doesn't matter how mature you may be, It is wrong.
End it, Cut contact with him and stop talking to him
Obviously he has some issues
Find someone who is your own age and better for you. The internet is the worst way to meet people, Not only are they not always who they say they are but people lie all the time. Remember this, They only tell you what they WANT you to know and that isn't always the truth.
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Both the age and the geographic distance are too big to bridge to form any type of lasting relationship. While 5 years does not seem like a large number at your present time you may as well try to span the Grand Canyon. You are just learning about relationships and how to handle boys. He has gone through everything you need to grow through in order to have the adult type of relationship he needs. Which is why I believe his messaging is falling off.
If the above weren't enough you have the geographic limitations to deal with. Michigan is 2/3 the way across the country from you. As I parent I would never let my 14 or 14 year old daughter go off and meet an 18 year old man. In fact you would have to be 18 or older before I could not stop you. For him, while there is no one to stop him from coming to see you the cost involved makes it doubtful that will happen other than maybe once if he has another reason to come to the west coast.
My advice is enjoy what you had. Now go out and find a boy or boys closer to your own age to date and learn what you need to learn about dating and boys to keep you safe as an adult lady.
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You should end the friendship.
The truth is, there wasn't quite enough to base a really strong friendship on. You are talking over a long distance, and you are also talking across a large amount of years.
At 18, he should have a different idea of what he wants from a friendship or relationship than you. There is nothing wrong with that, it's just the way things should be.
It's sad anytime a connection drifts away, but the best thing you can do is appreciate what you had, and recognize that those wonderful conversations were all you had to offer one another given the situation.
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