about

Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City.



I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.



I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.



I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.



For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)



Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.


advice

Ugh I'm chinese..yeah yeah..the first thing that comes to mind are those tiny tiny eyes..whatever..but yeah i'm so insecure of myself.. is there anything i can do to make them look BIGGER?! pleaseeee..(don't say surgery!..im only like 13) but yeahh please help..here is my ratins system: (5)-great advice, (4)-ok advice but somewhat questionable :-\ (3)-about to fall off the curb kinda ok but useless advice, (2)-unhelpful and useless,(1)-if you critisize me or basically give useless advice..thanks in advance!

Listen babe, you're born with those eyes forever. So, you're going to have to feel comfortable in your own skin and learn to love them. And you really should! Those eyes are unique, mysterious, exotic, and beautifully shaped! Why not show them off?!


The way you do your makeup can help draw attention to your eyes. Because that's what you should want. Rather than make them bigger, try to bring out attraction in them.


Mascara will probably be your new best friend because it truly opens up your eyes make your lashes stand out and draw attention to the color of your eyes.


When you think about grabbing attention, you think about the word bold. It's true. Bold colors will really compliment your eyes making people take a second look. Because it's not usually something that they'd expect.


If your parents are okay with you wearing make up there is so much fun and different things you could try! Colors that stand out are greens. Whether it be sparkly greens, lime green, dark green, pastel green. Purples. Reds. Blues. (try the dark blues)
Fake lashes. Yes, I'm being serious. Not only do fake lashes make your eyes look flirty and big, they add dramatic attention to your eyes. If that sounds like too much try using mascara. But really, have fun with it. Try new thing and experiment.


If you're going to try to be natural stick to coppers, browns, tans. Earthy tones. Use mascara to open up your eyes. Another good idea is using eyeliner. Try black eyeliner. Just line the bottom of your eyes. Shape it anyway you want to. You can try to flip out the liner towards the corner of you eye. It's hard to explain. Think cat eyes. You know? Yeah, maybe not. lol I tried.


And just because I think you should know this...when I took modeling classes, everyone raved about asian and chinese eyes. They told me that they are unpredictable and lots of fun to play up with. (The eye make up) I personally think that you're eyes make you stand out from everyone else. Even if all the others have your kind of eyes, you guys are very lucky! The shape of your eyes are so beautiful. You should be happy to have that feature! It's really apart of who you are. There's no reason for you to think that they are not big enough or good enough.


Love,
Mandee

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Hey well i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half this month and I love him with my life and we have talked about having sex and I do think about the consequences, but i mean i feel like I'm mature enough and emotionaly ready to have sex we have talked it over more than once and we would like to try it out. The thing is, is that I'm only 14, but dont you think if i feel that I'm ready and so does he then there would be no problem I know it sounds young but wat do you think? i know its going to hurt but I dont even want to have sex with him.....I want to make love to him. I love him so much and even if anything were to happen between us then i wouldnt regret it because i got to share something so special with some one i truly love and I'm inlove with... so Do you think I'm to young? and i mean its not like you could prevent me from doing it but i just want your opinion so i can think it all through a couple more times. I appreciate the advice you have given to me before about different topics and im sure you will give me more good advice on this one! thanx♥

First, let me appologize for the long, long wait. I am very sorry for that! My laptop has been broke lately, which is why I couldn't respond to you earlier.


I am so happy that you want my opinion on this! This is a serious issue, and I promise to give my honest opinion. I don't think having sex is based on age, but rather the maturity level of the people thiking about it. If you honestly believe that you are ready for sex and are aware of the risks that come with it, I think you should be entitled to have sex. Fourteen is young, but as I stated before, if you are a very matured for your age and know what you're doing, why not? You're young, and you seem very mature. You'll be experinced fo future years, and if something did happen after having sex, you will learn from it. Just like you'd learn from any other mistakes you made. I could kill myself for telling this about me over the internet since it's very personal, but I had sex when I was thriteen years old. I was ready for it even though I was still learning about life in general. It was with a guy I really liked, and I felt that I shouldn't do it to make him happy, but just do it so that I experince it. It felt really painful for me the first time, but it was enjoyable. And I don't regret it to this day. But not everything was all peachy, because he broke up with me about, well, a couple weeks after. I was kind of ashamed though. Because I would tell everyone I was a virgin even thouh I wasn't. Just because people expect that you'd be sleezy if you weren't a virgin and I didn't want people to think that of me. But it's better just to tell them because then you aren't hiding anything. But yeah, if you know that you are ready, then I think you're prepared enough for it. But make sure that you know you are ready! But be careful hunnie!!!

Thanks for such a great question!!! Sorry again, I really am!

Love,
Mandee

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Hey im getting into alot of fights with my really good friend on the internet and 1 day my mom read our confersation and now she never aloud over at my house again and at school we hang out alot and we havent got in a fight yet and i realyy want to ask my mom if she could come over but im to scared shell yell at me!! what should i do??

Hey! I'm very sorry about your mom's reaction about that fight with your friend. But keep in mind, she shouldn't read your conversations on AIM because that's too personal for anyone else to see besides you.


Moving on, you need to talk to her. Don't even worry about her yelling at you, if you want to get things cleared up, talking is the most effective way. It's important that you stay calm, even if she does start to raise her voice at you. The truth is she does have a reason for doing this. In this case, I think she wants to protect you. But I think she needs to let you take control of the situation. You're probably old enough that you should be able to deal with whatever comes you way. Such as the highschool drama, and the kids. You need to defend yourself rather than having somebody else defend you. And the more you do this the more you'll be stronger. I think your mom has also fought with her friends a couple times in her life.


If you agree, you should tell her that. But do it gently and let her talk. You could say "Mom, I'd really wish you'd reconsider having ______ over. Because, she is my friend but we just had a disagreement. And I'm sure you've had fights with your friends before. I want to tryand fix things, but I need you to let me do that. I want to be able to handle it myself and I'll talk to her about what she said. She probably didn't even mean what she said, she just said that because she was mad at the time. But we can probably get through this. And if we do, I hope that she can come over again because she's too good of a friend to lose."


That will get her attention. Let her say what she has to say about it. And hopefully it will work and things will get figured out! Let me know if you need anything else hun!

Love,
Mandee

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Hello Mandee,
Hi, I've asked you a question before and it really worked I just really want to thank you for taking so much time to help me when I was in need. You're so sweet!

Now, I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months and for the past month and a half we've been really talking about having sex. We pretty much have phone sex, but he makes it sound so good that I really want to have sex with him. Well the problem is I said I am ready and whenever I say that I'm not he says to me "oh that answer will change since you have mood swings." Pretty much saying that at times I am ready but other times I am not.

But the thing he doesnt understand is that I am only 13 and he is 16 and if he talks about having sex and makes it sound good then how the hell am I not supposed to want that? We've gone to second base and he knew I wanted to but I told him no. So he kept pushing me to do it. So ofcourse I did it. Theres no way to turn him down But at the same time I dont want to turn him down. Like I want to have sex with him and share that one moment with him but also I'm scared it will hurt and when we break up I will be so crushed.

Also he just says he wants to BANG me and I want it to be more then sex I want it to be I guess you would call it "making love." so my question also is what is a test that I can know that if he really loves me and that I am ready?

This may be confusing but I really need help. Thank you for even reading this I know you have better things to do.

Ps. Another reason why I am scared is all of the negative results to sex like , heartache, pregnancy, and STD's.

Sincerly,
All mixed up

Wow! I just thought that you should know that my day sucked until I read your comment to me. I came back from work dead tired, and started to get ready for my trip. Then, I got a cup of coffee and sat down to check out Advicenators. And sitting here reading your question and nice comment to me really made me feel useful! So, I want to thank you so much for that!


Something you should know about sex is that having it is all up to you. You are thirteen, and to some people that may seem to young, but others back up the idea that you should have sex at thirteen. Your boyfriend is going to keep pushing you to have sex with him. Why? Because he is a guy, and guys want to have sex. It's like a competition for them. They'll tell their friend they've had sex and start bragging about it. But back to you. You need to decide if you want to have sex or not. No one else can make you have sex but yourself. There is advantages and disadvantages to sex.


It is difficult with him pushing you into the thought of having sex with him. But if you know for a fact you just are not ready or wouldn't feel comfortable, don't even give in to him yet. I think all you need is time. Even if it's a lot of time, you need to think what you want and not what he wants. Does he want you to have sex or do you want to have sex? Maybe you should try to tell him that you realize this is important to him, and you somewhat understand, but what you need is time to think it over. It would be significant if he knows that you are younger than him and he shoudl consider waiting until you get a little older before putting that pressure on you.


This may sound like a weird idea, but why don't you pick up the Cosmopolitan magazine. I know you're probably thinking what is Mandee on?! Haha. But in all honesty, I think, if you read about sex, and what you could do it will help you decide. I love that magazine, by the way! Really helpful!! Anyways, the more you know about sex and different techniques you'll be able to tell yourself "Hey, this sounds kinda cool...we could try oral and if that goes well who knows" or "No, I'm just not ready for this now".


You know what you want, and you know what you don't want. Do you want sex right now, or is it just too early? I can't really answer this for you. It's hard to explain, only you know what you really want. But I agree that you should test yourself, know the basics and see if you like those ideas. If you do, you can try it. And if you don't, don't try it. You wouldn't be doing anything wrong either way. You always have risks, but sometimes you just have to take them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should go out and have sex. What I'm saying is that people are going to push you to the limits, especially your boyfriends. It's what they want. And remember, they are not the ones who can get pregnant, but unfortunally, we have that risk. You're really mature for being thirteen, and I think you know right from wrong.


And if your boyfriend really loves you, he'll back your decision up. If he starts to bitch about your decisions or doesn't listen to you, you should question that. A fun idea, but kind of cruel would be to ask him if you weren't going to have sex with him, would he still stay with you? If he seems hesitant about his answers or just laughs at you, I would think he just wants sex. If he seems understanding and sure that he is going to stay with you, I would trust him on that one. If he seems interested in what you have to say, calls often, and does little things for you to make you happy, he loves you!


Was that helpful? Let me know if I didn't answer what you wanted. I'm always here 24/7 and I'm so glad I helped you the last time. Thanks for making my day!


Love,
Mandee

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I am 14, female int he 9th grade. I'm also usually a straight A student. My sister graduated 2nd in her class. She recieved an full scholorship to the college she attends. My brother was expelled in 11th grade. My parents had stressed how important grades were, I agreed to an extent. Working my butt off to earn straight A' and a high GPA. This Marking Period. I am in Algebra 2(normally a 11th grade class) and French 1. I was doing okay in Algebra untill I failed a quiz and recieved a 80% on a unit test. This brings my grade to 88.5%, the MP ends in 3 days. no way i can bring that up. in french, i got a 70% on the Unit test. I failed most the tests in their. But my grades were usually up. Now I face the problem of having 2B's (a possible C) on my usually perfect report card. I told my mother this afternoon and she shook her head and simply said "Shit *insert name*". She then turned and walked away.
I WORK MY BUTT OF IN SCHOOL. I'm taking all Honors and the most difficult classes. I can't be perfect like my sister, I can't always get straight A's. How do I tell my parents this respectfully. ??I'm sorry It's such a long question.:-/ Help

What your parents need to understand is that YOU are NOT your sister. That is a lot for you to live up to! Getting straight A's and graduating second in her class is great, but it's not you. You can do that, but it takes a lot of work! And right now grades can't be your most concern. You probably don't have a lot of free time to hang out with friends and such. Your parents are expecting too much from you. You need to be heard and let them know that.


Try to sit down with your parents at dinner, or some place where they can't get up and leave right away. Maybe you can explain to them that you are trying really hard to maintain good grades, but you are not your sister and you can't be expected to have the same level of skills as she. Tell them you know they love you, and they want what is best for you. You want that too, but you need a break here and there. Explain to them that you can't pass every test because there are some chapters of the unit that you just don't get as well as the others.


Here comes the most important part: let them know you are willing to change this. Maybe you are just in a much higher advanced class than you should be and you should see if you can change that. After all babe, you're only in 9th grade and you're in 11th garde classes. Back it down a little. See if that's okay with them. If it's too late this year, try for next year. There is nothing wrong with that either! Would it be better to fail an advanced class or get an A in a class that a student your age should be in? If that doesn't work, tell them you learned from this marking period. And if you don't understand a subject you will seek extra help whether it be asking the teacher, or studying hard.


Back to the expectations. Tell them that you are going to try your best, but straight A's are very hard. And you'll try to get them, but for if some reason you can't get straight A's you know that you put as much effort in to it as you could have. Tell them they need to support you on this, and understand that you are not perfect. You won't be a failure in life, you'e going to try to achieve whatever you want and get the most out of life. That should get their attention. And if it doesn't, you should try to get the teacher to talk to them, or someone who will make them listen. Don't stress over this, if you're doing the best you can do, that's all that matters. Give yourself the confidence you need to realize that this is your future, not your parents. Do what you think is good enough for you! Okay? =D

Love,
Mandee

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Ugh. My best friend kelly thinks she's a really good singer. The problem is... she sux! She's also going to be in the talent show and perform a song. When she does, she's gonna be sooo emmbarrased aftwerwards! Everyone's gonna make fum of her. I don't know what to do, or how to break it to her!! Should I just let her be TOTALLY embarrased? Help!! Please!!

You do know that there are two things you can do to help her. You could be honest and tell her the truth in a nice manner. Or you can let things go and see what happens. Meaning that, she would still do her preformance, and the results of her show would hint that she isn't that good.

If I were you, I would put myself in her position. Would Kelly want you to be honest with her before she embarrasses herself, or do you think she would take it the wrong way and it would be better if you let her find out for herself? You know Kelly, and I don't. I can't make that decision for you.

You can try to figure out what you'd want. Would you want the truth, or would you get mad if you were told the truth?

If you are going to tell her that she isn't a good singer, approach her in a supportive way. You could start off with something along the lines of "I just thought that you should know the truth, because I don't want you to be humiliated". Then, you might want to tell her that you support her, and understand that she loves singing. Tell her that she might want to work on improving her singing before she goes on with the show. She should get the message. Now, she might get mad or be thankful for your honesty. Let her know that if she enjoys singing and feels like she truly is good, don't stop her. Let her go do her show, because obviously she doesn't care about the audience's reaction.

If you think she just can't handle the the truth, and it's better to let it go then do so. Because not everyone understands the meaning of honesty. They might take what you say in a whole different direction. If that sounds like her, just cheer her on and let her sing! Support her and be on her side 100%.

Good luck!
Love,
Mandee

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i've been using this 3step acne thing called proactiv. i'm sure most of you know what it is, theres alot of infomercials on tv about it. anyway, i've been using it for about 2 weeks now and it dries up my face alot and it makes my face sting or feel numb and makes it extremely red. does anybody know how i can get rid of this? because i dunlike my newfound redness on the face. please help! thanks in advance

I don't use Proactiv, but I used to work at Clinique, so maybe I can help you out.

You probably have sensitive skin. Now, if you weren't aware of this already, some people's skin changes. Why? Not too sure, maybe because of hormones or weather. Anyways, the point is that Proactiv may be too harsh on your skin. If it's been two weeks, and you still have that same problem, you need to switch to something that won't be as tough on your face. Since your face is dry, pick up a skin care routine that will be soft enough to handle on your face, while taking care of the problem areas. And that will fix it without having that redness to it. Mosturize your face everyday. Especially if you are a teenager. It really does help. And use an SPF of 15.

If they give you a phone number on Proactiv for help, call them and ask them what's going on if you think it's some chemical in the product. I'm not exactly sure what they put in their products. But I think it's time for you to stop using that if it causes your skin to do that. If you ever feel a stinging or burning feeling on your face, when there shouldn't be you probably have very fair and sensitive skin, unless you're reacting to something in the product.

Love ya!
Mandee

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i was wondering, why are there so many groups in skool? like preps, goths, punks, metalheads, populars, secondary populars, loners, gunks(a mix of punks and goths), and just "others". it all just creates mayhem, like a popular cant go out with a goth, or they will loose all their friends. i think it is so stupid. can you explain to me why people must insist on putting people in different catigories? does it really matter?

Hah, I've always wondered about that too. What I've learned is that everyone is a bit judgemental. Even if you won't admit to that, we all are. That's just human nature, because our society has grown to judge on everything including people.

When I was in highschool, you could have considered me popular. But as every year past, I just started hanging out with all kinds of people. I think that it's whatever you make it to be. If you're going to listen to them, and do what everyone else does, you're just the same as them. And what improvement does that make? No change, nothing happens. I sat my friends down and told them "Look, if you have a problem with my new friends, you are not any different from everyone else. You say that you're open to new things, but you're just contradicting yourself." If someone tries to make a difference, eventually it will work. So if you're unhappy with the way your school judges people, change it. That's what worked for me. It doesn't matter, honestly, it doesn't.

Love ya!
Mandee

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well i'm 13 and i'm a female and i totally broke out on my forehead and i have a dance coming up!! i need help on how to get rid of it fast!! any advice or suggestions? also, is it because i ate chocolate or like junk foods? (i've heard that the reason people break out...)ThAnkS fOr uR HeLp!!! *i RaTe*

Hey Sweetie!

No, chocolate and junk food hasn't been proven to make your skin break out. Usually the amount of breakouts you get are from your genes, your hormones, and stress. Fun stuff, I know. =/

Anyways, put ice on the problem areas to help reduce the redness. Then, wash your face, with an oil free soap or facial cleanser. But if you know what kind of skin type you have, I would get a skin care routine for your skin type. You can do this by going to the mall and go to Clinque. They do a good job of that. Try using an acne medication if you have one to put on your break outs. Drinking lots of water helps keep your skin mosturized and might speed up the healing process. So try that for now. But I think it's best to just do what you can for the moment and let the breakouts run it's course. Covering it up with your skin tone concealer will do the trick the night of your dance. You can't magically clear it up hun. Sorry. But the lighting of the stage (if you're on stage) won't show redness in your skin. So don't worry about a thing! Poeple aren't going to say "Look, oh my God, that girl has break outs!" People won't notice..and besides it's so common.

Love ya!
Mandee

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Ok, I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I love him to death. and he's one of my best friends. I only knew him 2 weeks when he moved to Indiana. I live in New York. It's long distance, but we've managed without a single thought.

I started talking to a guy who lives in NYC. Hes madd funny, and sweet and he likes me. I'm starting to like him too. I actually told him I loved him, and we have so much fun talking.

I want to meet him, and I want to tell my bf. But i dont want things to end with either one of them. I want to be more than friends wit the NYC guy.

I dont know what to do. Im 15, and obviously a girl. They are the same age.

and I dont see my bf at all. i did once last year, and if it matters we had sex....

PLEASE help...

Hey Honey!

The thing about long distance relationships is the matter of how you would handle it. You really, really have to be strong, independent and dedicated to keep the relationship going. However, you do want to consider what makes you happy, what would be easier for you, and what would be more realistic. Asking yourself these question might confuse you, because you think you don't know what to do. But you'll figure it out in time.

You know you can't have both guys. And you know that would be disloyal to your boyfriend, and he would be mad. So, why put yourself through this? It's not likely that he'll be okay with you having a friend with benefits when he is your boyfriend.

What you should consider is finding out which guy you want. Get to know them both, even if you think you already know them well. Continue talking to that NYC guy, but don't take it to the next step yet. Find out about him, what his favorites are, what he likes doing. Then meet him and hang out with him just as friends. Call your boyfriend..maybe see him on the weekend. This will be hard, and you'll be stressed out. But you need to figure this one out by yourself. I can't give you answers and tell you who to choose because I don't know these guys. I don't even know you. And it wouldn't be fair to you for me to tell you who you should date without knowing anything about you or them. Plus, it's a decision only you can make. =P

But here's what I will do, I'll tell you about my long distance relationship now. Maybe it'll help you out a bit.

Travis and I have been together for about four years now. Recently, I moved to Miami to get a good job and career and just wanted to because this was where I belonged. And my boyfriend stayed in my home state. Our relationship started out good. I flew in to see him on weekends. It got very expensive, but it was worth it. And in the summer he lived with me. So, we were still together somewhat. But currently, we lost touch. And I was confused because I didn't even know if we were still together. So it was about two months and just about a week ago I called him for the first time in those two months. I missed him so much I made myself throw up. Talking to him calmed me down and we talked about our relationship. It was definitely crashing, but we're working on improvement right now. We are still together, and I'm seeing him this weekend. I can't wait! Haha.

All I want to let you know is that, it's an emotional roller coaster. It depends on how much you love the guy and how much your relationship can hold. Since you like this other guy, that makes me question if you're in love with your boyfriend. I think you are, but being in love with two people isn't acceptable, meaning that it can happen, but because it's so rare people won't understand it. Find out what you want in a relationship. And don't hold on to something thats not there. If you want someone there with you and around you, maybe consider going out with the guy from NYC because he's probably closer. But if you think the love you and boyfriend have is able to last, then stick by him. One thing is that you'll have to give up on somebody. And I know that's hard, but it's a part of life.

I'm so sorry this wasn't what you wanted to hear. I just really believe you can do this, and that you need to do this for yourself since you know them both and the people on Advicenators dont. Good luck with whoever you decide!

Love ya!
Mandee

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Last year I broke up with my ex. I thought that we myte have juss been taking a break but we were really done for good. Now i relized that i still like him and i dont know if i should tell him or not. I know that he thinks i am a b***h and i dont kno if he likes me and i dont want to take the chance...Should i tell him?

Hey Sweetie! Now you obviously know that this decision is up to you. But in my opinion, I think you should tell him you still like him. Why? Because I see so many girls out there, that are afraid to take a chance, and nothing ever improves if they don't. It makes sense, right? If you didn't tell him you liked him, you'd be sitting around thinking about him all of the time wondering if he would like you, instead of actually knowing if he does or not. And once you find out, you can easily find out if it's worth another try, or to move on and find another guy. Why put yourself through all of that waiting, and asking yourself without the answer. You'll never know if he still likes you, unless you find out from him. Even if his friends told you, it wouldn't be his true answer.

Don't be afraid to take chances. Because if you don't start taking risks now, you'll waste more of your lifetime wishing you would have done something differently. Trust me on this one, babe! Good luck with whatever you decide to do and try not to hold yourself back from things, okay? =D

Love ya!
Mandee

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I'm a thirteen year old female. Recently Iv'e started eating super healthy. When I'm at home eating the food there, or eating foods with nutrition information I'm fine, but whenever I eat at someone else's house or eat out and the food served looks fattening or sugary I panic. I don't know whats in it and so on. Sometimes I make up excuses for not eating things. My friends jokingly said I was anorexic before. That didn't bother me. However, now they have started to say it seriously and my own mum said I was eating in an anorexic way. I know people suffering from anorexia have poor self image, but I think I am at a perfect weight. Please tell me if I am anorexic or not. Honestly.

Honestly, I don't know because I would need a little more detail. But I do believe that you are on the borderline of an eating disorder. Let me ask you this, why did all of a sudden you start to eat healthy if you think you're at a perfect weight? Why would you stop your eating habits now, if you're fine with how you look? Some people become anorexic, and they don't even mean to, but most of the time, they do.

It scares me that you said you panic because if you're at someone's house or a restaurant you don't know what exactly is in the food you're eating. And that is taking it too far.

Usually, it starts out with a new, healthy diet, or eating approach. And it's like you have to know every single calorie in every food, and know what the food contains. But then you'll start being obsessed with calorie, cutting them out until eventually there's nothing left. That's normally the case.

I think it's important for you to know the symptoms of anorexia and decide for yourself if you have it. I can't do that for you because I don't know what applies to you and what doesn't, I just took a realistic guess.

Anorexia Nervosa has four primary symptoms:

Resistance to maintaining body weight at or above a minimally normal weight for age and height
Intense fear of weight gain or being “fat” even though underweight.
Disturbance in the experience of body weight or shape, undue influence of weight or shape on self-evaluation, or denial of the seriousness of low body weight.
Loss of menstrual periods in girls and women post-puberty.

Warning Signs of Anorexia Nervosa:

Dramatic weight loss.
Preoccupation with weight, food, calories, fat grams, and dieting.
Refusal to eat certain foods, progressing to restrictions against whole categories of food (e.g. no carbohydrates, etc.).
Frequent comments about feeling “fat” or overweight despite weight loss.
Anxiety about gaining weight or being “fat.”
Denial of hunger.
Development of food rituals (e.g. eating foods in certain orders, excessive chewing, rearranging food on a plate).
Consistent excuses to avoid mealtimes or situations involving food.
Excessive, rigid exercise regimen--despite weather, fatigue, illness, or injury--the need to “burn off” calories taken in.
Withdrawal from usual friends and activities.
In general, behaviors and attitudes indicating that weight loss, dieting, and control of food are becoming primary concerns

Health Consequences of Anorexia Nervosa:

Abnormally slow heart rate and low blood pressure, which mean that the heart muscle is changing. The risk for heart failure rises as heart rate and blood pressure levels sink lower and lower.
Reduction of bone density (osteoporosis), which results in dry, brittle bones.
Muscle loss and weakness.
Severe dehydration, which can result in kidney failure.
Fainting, fatigue, and overall weakness.
Dry hair and skin, hair loss is common.
Growth of a downy layer of hair called lanugo all over the body, including the face, in an effort to keep the body warm.

(By the way, these symptoms of anorexia can be found at www.nationaleatingdisorders.org)

Take care of yourself, babe. And be careful!

Love,
Mandee

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Hey cool site. I was wondering what website i could go to to get like those pictures with the words on them and were to put them like in my profile so they show up on my site? Thanks a bunch.

First of all, thank you so much for the sweet compliment! I'm thinking that you mean icons? Usually Xanga has sites which provide you to save icons(those pink picture with the moving words I have on my site towards the bottem.)

So, once you've found a site to get some pictures...wait, I'll give you some sites.
Okay, try this site, it has a lot to choose from.

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=iconz__o0oo

Now, once you've selected some that you like, right click and save to your documents or wherever you want to save it to.

There is a lot to explain, so hopefully you know a little about HTML, but if you don't understand something, please let me know.

You need to get a code in order for pictures to show up on your column. Go to

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?u=xXx+HTML+xXx&redirect=true3star

And choose the option Insert a picture. Copy that code and put it in your Profile. It will ask you for a URL. So if you have photobucket save your picture (icon) there. And it will give you a URL with that picture. Go to

www.photobucket.com and set up a free account.

Did that help? Let me know if you have questions!

Love,
Mandee

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alright. i just made a "myspace" thing. and i was wondering if you knew how to put a song on them. and put like a backround thats not just a color.

thanks

I don't have a my space. But my guess would be to find a music code and get the link to your song and paste it in there. For a backround maybe if there is a URL option they give you, you should find a backround you like on the net and paste that also. But to be honest with you, I don't have a my space, so I have no clue how that site works. Sorry babe. =(
Love,
Mandee

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Are diet pills safe for me to take if I am only 16 years old? And is their quick results? Thanks!

No diet pill is proven to be safe, regardless of what you hear or see on tv. Diet pills reduce your appetite, but your normal appetite will return in a couple weeks. Diet pills may work quickly depending on your body type and if you'r eating right and exercising with it. Keep in mind, some pills will nto even work. I don't recommend you taking them because of experinces or events that I saw. Your body is still growing, therefore taking pills which contain all of these elements of which you don't even know may cause some serious side affects. But this is totally up to you. If you're worried, I suggest you loose weight the natural way. It does work. Think about it, before you consider it, hun! Need anything else? Don't hesitate to ask.

Love,
Mandee

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13-M----OK my problem is that im not gonna have
n e 1 for valentines day! this may not seem so big to everyone else but my new years resolution was to get a real g/f by then. Im not extremly unpopular, its just everyone thinks im wierd. so someone halp me find a resolution for this!

Nothing will change or happen unless you do this yourself. No one can do it for you, you need to do it yourself. If you wanted this so bad, you'd be willing to do anything for it. (Even if it means pushing yourself to do it.)

The thing about Valentines Day is that you either hate it, or you love it. Since you don't have a girlfriend, you'll probably feel left out and depressed. But millions of people feel the exact same way.

You can't rush a relationship, it's a long-term thing. You need to take things one step at a time and see where you end up. How do you think that you'd ever get a girlfriend before Valentines Day if you haven't forced yourself to start talking to girls.

Talking is the key issue. If you don't talk to girls, how would you be able to communicate well when you're going out? Don't assume people think you're weird. Being yourself is the only way someone can really get to know you. Much easier said than done. But you can do this. If you don't know who you are yet, find out. Get new hobbies. Also, raising your hand in class helps a lot.

You're still just thirteen. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush things along. Enjoy being single and flirting with the girls. See where it goes from there.

Love,
Mandee

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Erggg...I'm 13 and i STILL weigh only 70 pounds!! i'm not worried that i'm short, it's okay with me, but i really need to gain weight! i dont wanna die form this! And pigging out on junk food dont help either....

First it's important to understand why you are underweight and what causes you to be underweight. And then we can work on how to get you to gain more weight so you aren't so light.

People who are underweight do not consume enough food energy, and overweight people consume more than enough food energy than needed. Maybe you're underweight because of genes, or your hunger and appetite haven't been balanced in early years, and you still carry on those eating habits.

In English, what I mean is simply that being underweight is in your genetics or you don't have as many kcalories as needed for what you eat daily. You might have developed poor eating habits when you were a child, and now that you're a teen, they've kind of stuck with you.

Basically, you need to change the way you eat in order to gain weight. Here's some ideas I came up with that will hopefully be helpful to you: You need to eat more food. And this does not mean pigging out. Infact, pigging out like that will do nothing for you. Normally, people think that if they eat junk food like crazy that's how you gain weight. But that isn't true. It does nothing but confuse your eating habits, or it could cause a diesease such as diabetes. What you should eat is high calorie milkshakes, yogurts, and frozen yogurts. Meats, breads, and vegetables. Make your portions of the food that you eat a reasonable size for your metabolism. (Don't think BIG servings but an amount that will make you comfortable with.) Try to make each week count by added more servings per week, just don't go overboard.

If you need further information, you may ask me more, or even talk to your doctor. Remember, you're still growing.

*Don't be afraid to exercise, if you usually do. Exercising keeps you in shape. Because of the way you are eating that will not affect it. (This is why people who want to lose weight must reduce their food intake and excersize. Because the limited amount of food and the exercising goes hand in hand.)

Love,
Mandee

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OK,let me retell you this story so you can accually understand it.ok let me break it down 4 you! 1.me and nick started goin out in 2003! 2.we last went out like jan. 2004. 3. after the last time we broke he never moved on and i did and he knew about it. 4. i kept asking him out even when i did have a bf and that was no problem 4 him or me. 5.he always said idk. 6.like 2 weeks ago i was single and he was single and since he kept saying idk i made out with some one named chad!7.he called and asked me if that was true and i said yea and then he said he wasnt gonna lie to me either and then he said he still like his ex! i threated to hurt myself!and then he said he wouldnt go out with her!the next day they were goin out! and my friend called nick and said i was in the hospital! and he still contined to go out with her! they broke up yesterday and i called him and asked if they did and it was true! he siad i wasnt in the hospital and i said yes i was hun! just bein sarcastic! and he said he wasnt my hun and that was just a waste of time when we went out! and then he called back and called me a whore! and i havent talked to him since! yea soo now it will probably be easyer to tell me what to do to get him back! i STILL need help! IM me lildreamhunny14 or call 314-221-5695 *kayla*

It seems like he's mad at you right now. So I think to keep things on a good level, you should call him again. Handle it gently, don't try to fight. Be really mature about it, he will appreciate that. And ask if he really meant that it was a watse of time when you went out, because you didn't think it was. If you say something along the lines of that it will hint that you still like him, and want to go out. But it will also let him know that you care about what he says and that is important because guys want a girl that won't bitch a lot. It might even keep him guessing about what you meant by saying you didn't think it was a waste of time going out.



Interest him. Seriously, guys don't like the typical girls, they want someone interesting. And I think it would be best if you built up a friendship with him to start off with. This would be good for the reason that you still have him, so you won't miss him and it can help your chances of getting him back. He will notice the little things you do. So if he accomplished something, send him a cute card or make him something that he likes. He will be suprised and very happy. The trick is to make him happy, and let him be able to open up to you. Talk about the hard times you guys went through, and maybe you'll be able to work something out.




Tell him you want him back when you feel the time is right. Just like girls, guys don't want to guess how you feel. Tell him that you didn't like it when he went out with his ex, because you still do like him and you miss going out with him. Keep in mind, that you shouldn't get all gushy over that. Just keep it simple and to the point. If you say something like " I couldn't imagine my life without you, I just want to be yours..no one else, just me" you might scare him off. If he disagress and just wants to be friends, then I don't know what to tell you. You can't make him like you. He has to make his own decisions. So just trust him on that.



Is this better? =D Thank you so much for explaining to me more! I don't think I quite understood the first time, so thank you again for clearing that up for me! Let me know if you need anything else!



Love,
Mandee

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how can you tell if a guy is sircumsized?

Hey! If a guy is circumsized you will notice that there is no skin on the head of his penis. A guy who is not circumsized will have foreskin covering the penis. And it will be loose, so skin will be covering the head of the penis, making it difficult to see the head. Now, back to guys who are circumsized, you'll be able to see the whole head of the penis because their will be no skin covering it. That helped, right? =P And you always can ask the guy if he's been circumsized too. ( Jewish guys must be circumsized because it's part of their religion.)


Love,
Mandee

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hi mandee this is kayla im 14!! i need help with this boy named nick!! i went out with him like 13 times!! he broke up with me 1 time out of 13!!! we met in 2003!!! we havent went out since like jan.last year 2004!!! he tells me he luvs me and stuff and i say it back!! im having a hard time cause i really have strong feelings 4 him!!since last week he started goin back out with his xx gf!! i want to beat her azz sooo bad!! i really love him still but i also bein moving on since last night!! im goin back out with my xxx nick!! but i still cant get him out of my mind!! im not sure if he still loves me cause he has a gf and i try to talk to him about how im feeling but he dosent sayany thing!! at this point ill do ANYTHING whatso ever to get him back!! i have more guestions but ill ask later!!! pleaze give me good advise!! i need help and i cant seem to find any!! thanx!! call 1-314-221-5695 if any answers or IM me lildreamhunny14 *kayla*

Hey Kayla!! =D



Maybe he doesn't say anything because he's shy to tell you how he really feels, if he's moved on completely, or if he's trying to make you jealous with his ex girlfriend. But how will he know that you mean what you say if you hooked up with another guy? You're not available right now, so I would probably think he knows that your taken. Make it clear that you miss him and want him. I don't think going out with someone else would help. You need to be available.



Once that's taken care of you need to understand that he has to feel the same way you do to make this work. Get it? lol For example since you really love this guy and want him back, he has to really love you and want you back as well. Keep trying to tell him how you feel, maybe in sometime he will open up more. Give it some time, babe. And make sure you really know if he's moved on.Its hard to explain, but trust me, you'll know.


Now, I know that you wanted an answer telling you how to get him back. But in all honestly, you can't make a guy love you back again. It just has to happen, and the decision is up to him. No matter how cute you are, or how nice your relationship was, it's time to go on with your life. And if it was meant to be that you two should still be together, it might happen at a later time. For now, find news guys, you'll get to see that there is a lot of other people out there. It's not good to worry about him so much. He's living his life, and I think you need to live yours too. I know this isn't easy to get through. (Its harder for the girls.) But you'll get by just fine. I know it! And if you just hang out with your friends, get a job, and meet new guys, you'll have less time to worry about him.



I do understand that I'm making this sound easy, and it really isn't. But you know what? If you ever need someone to help you get through it, I will. I'm always here or online, so if you wanna talk more about it just let me know. I'm on vacation now, but you can catch me when I come back. Take care, Kayla! It'll be okay! =) Sorry if this wasn't what you had in mind as an answer!



Love,
Mandee

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