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Ok, I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I love him to death. and he's one of my best friends. I only knew him 2 weeks when he moved to Indiana. I live in New York. It's long distance, but we've managed without a single thought.
I started talking to a guy who lives in NYC. Hes madd funny, and sweet and he likes me. I'm starting to like him too. I actually told him I loved him, and we have so much fun talking.
I want to meet him, and I want to tell my bf. But i dont want things to end with either one of them. I want to be more than friends wit the NYC guy.
I dont know what to do. Im 15, and obviously a girl. They are the same age.
and I dont see my bf at all. i did once last year, and if it matters we had sex....
PLEASE help...
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you obviously care very much about teh indiana boy if you slept with him. however you are only fifteen so why not have fun with both lads! its a risk one of them may get hurt but you love them both! try not to take the fun to far else you'll end up with a bad rep. and no boyfriend at all! good luck and enjoy!!!!!
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Crazy conflict!... Look! Im gonna give it to you straight. It seems time to let Indiana go. You too had fun had sex and you love him. But if you keep this up you will just hurt him. Loving is being grown enough to not be selfish. Are you sure that you love this guy in New york? If so then this New York guy could be good for you. You and this guy from Indiana are obviously growing apart. Don't tell him what you did! You have to carry that burden all by yourself. Just end it if you don't want to continue playin them both! Chalk it up to experience and move on with the guy from New York. Hope I helped
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Pick the guy that matters most to you and that talks to you more and is seen more with you and just because you had sex with your long distance boyfriend, doesn't mean that you have to stay with him always. You can break up if you want to and go out with the other guy. You love him, don't you? I hope I helped. P.S. Go with NYC! :-)
Luv, Brittany~~~
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well i think you should dump the guy whos lives far away cause i mean you 15 you need to have fun and not worry about him if it was ment to be you guys can always take a break and see other people for a while
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Hey Honey!
The thing about long distance relationships is the matter of how you would handle it. You really, really have to be strong, independent and dedicated to keep the relationship going. However, you do want to consider what makes you happy, what would be easier for you, and what would be more realistic. Asking yourself these question might confuse you, because you think you don't know what to do. But you'll figure it out in time.
You know you can't have both guys. And you know that would be disloyal to your boyfriend, and he would be mad. So, why put yourself through this? It's not likely that he'll be okay with you having a friend with benefits when he is your boyfriend.
What you should consider is finding out which guy you want. Get to know them both, even if you think you already know them well. Continue talking to that NYC guy, but don't take it to the next step yet. Find out about him, what his favorites are, what he likes doing. Then meet him and hang out with him just as friends. Call your boyfriend..maybe see him on the weekend. This will be hard, and you'll be stressed out. But you need to figure this one out by yourself. I can't give you answers and tell you who to choose because I don't know these guys. I don't even know you. And it wouldn't be fair to you for me to tell you who you should date without knowing anything about you or them. Plus, it's a decision only you can make. =P
But here's what I will do, I'll tell you about my long distance relationship now. Maybe it'll help you out a bit.
Travis and I have been together for about four years now. Recently, I moved to Miami to get a good job and career and just wanted to because this was where I belonged. And my boyfriend stayed in my home state. Our relationship started out good. I flew in to see him on weekends. It got very expensive, but it was worth it. And in the summer he lived with me. So, we were still together somewhat. But currently, we lost touch. And I was confused because I didn't even know if we were still together. So it was about two months and just about a week ago I called him for the first time in those two months. I missed him so much I made myself throw up. Talking to him calmed me down and we talked about our relationship. It was definitely crashing, but we're working on improvement right now. We are still together, and I'm seeing him this weekend. I can't wait! Haha.
All I want to let you know is that, it's an emotional roller coaster. It depends on how much you love the guy and how much your relationship can hold. Since you like this other guy, that makes me question if you're in love with your boyfriend. I think you are, but being in love with two people isn't acceptable, meaning that it can happen, but because it's so rare people won't understand it. Find out what you want in a relationship. And don't hold on to something thats not there. If you want someone there with you and around you, maybe consider going out with the guy from NYC because he's probably closer. But if you think the love you and boyfriend have is able to last, then stick by him. One thing is that you'll have to give up on somebody. And I know that's hard, but it's a part of life.
I'm so sorry this wasn't what you wanted to hear. I just really believe you can do this, and that you need to do this for yourself since you know them both and the people on Advicenators dont. Good luck with whoever you decide!
Love ya!
Mandee
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Well, try seeing how they each feel about you dating both of them at the same time. It's not all that uncommon to date more than one person at a time when you young. There's no reason not to, as long as everyone knows what's going on and is ok with it. Some people continue to date more than one person even when they have committed to a lifelong relationship. Such people are called polyamorous.
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well id go with the guy who has more (ugh i dont know how to word this) more uggh sparks flying than just a dud one but i cant make you pick its up yto you really
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i diffeantly knwo wat your ogign through! i like sumone and they live in CALIFORNIA witch is 2,000 miles away from me! all i can say is follow your heart even though its on your left its alwyas right! good luck! =) x0x
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Id have to say...Heck yeah it matters.I might be 1 of those old time freaks but i believe sex b/w only 2 people ever.So i say that since it is none of my business to begin w/but just 2 give you advice I say go with the one that is the oldest... down to the last second...and if thats the same...flip a coin heads=Long distance bf Tails=the funny yankee
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