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im 5 months, maybe a week more than that. before i was really skinny plus im tall, so my bump isnt that big at all.
the thing is, i cant feel my baby move at ALL. i mean, i thought that i did when i was 4 months just like little flutters. but now when its supposed to be more noticable i cant feel it at all.
is this normal ?
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this is totally normal my friend didn't feel her kid ubtil she was six months.she went to the doctor and all was well. chances are he's just growing and saving his energy.
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theres this boy im dateing i just started dateing like a couple days ago i realy like him ive liked him for a long time but im afraid of getting hert again and hed be the last persorn i would want to be hert by he tell me all kinds so stuff to let me know he care but im afraid of how it will end up i couldt take another crack in my heart plus it would brake if he hert me or if i wasnt with him what do i do i dont want to get to deep so it can hert worse please what do i do
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well the first thing you do is realize that in love you can not tell if somebody is going to do right by you. If you trust him with the same info you just gave me then you will let him know where you stand and hopefully he won't take advantage of you. You can not stay scared darling. The sweet is not as sweet without the bitter! Best of luck!
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I think there should be a requirement on this website saying "PEOPLE SHOULD BE FAMILIAR WITH A TOPIC BEFORE SUBMITTING THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS". Frankly, I feel this is a helpful and useful site. But far to often, people are excercising their "freedom of speech" rights, and disguising their opinions as bonifide advice.
What set me off was a question asked by a friend of a gay male teen. A large majority of the answers were hateful diatribes delivered by self-righteous homophobes. From the advice you would of thought that her friend had leaprosy. Life is too short to HATE.
I had a good friend in high school that was the son of a youth pastor. The son, my friend, was gay. He chose to kill himself rather than live a life hating himself because he was gay. I did not know he was gay until after he died. I have so many woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Much of my advice on this website is given to those that are gay or know someone who is gay. To me, this is common sense. How can someone who is not gay, does not associate with anyone who is gay, has never associated with anyone who is gay, HOW CAN THEY give advice on a subject dealing with being GAY. I cannot give advice to someone about what it is like to give birth to a baby!! I cannot even attempt anything as such for I do not understand what mothers go through. Its silly. Now imagine if I was trained by others to believe that giving birth to a baby is disgusting and I hated mothers. This analogy is outlandish, but this is how I feel about the "advice" many people give.
Now throughout this "STATEMENT" I do have a question. What do you think? Help me to understand. Am I judging the judgemental, making me just as bad? Or do I have a point? This is the one time that I'd like to hear the opinions. (link)
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ad·vice ( P ) Pronunciation Key (d-vs)
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1. Opinion about what could or should be done about a situation or problem; counsel.
To answer your question you are being both judgemental and you do have a point. Judging the judgers makes you just as bad as they are,but it is not your fault.It HAD to be said!
I feel for your situation but your views of those people who give this dumb advice is terribly slated because your opinion is so closely related to your own personal tragedy. Putting anything on this site leaves you vulnerable to total idiots and thats the risk you take.
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This boy asked me out the other day for this friday. I really, really like him. But the thing is, I'm afraid I might say something. I don't want to give away his name...he's actually "famous" or w/e (my dad's a prop manager for the show he's on).
So we're supposed to go out this friday and its going to be hard. I know he's a normal guy...and so far I've treated him normal, when I see him for like 2 minutes at a time... and thats just on the set. Whats it going to be like out in the public with other girls everywhere?? And what do we talk about? Should I bring up the fact that he's on tv? That my friends want to meet him? IDK!!!!
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First off DON'T FAKE IT! If you try too hard you're going to fall flat on your face. If he was cool enough to be interested in you then it will flow. As far as telling your friends all of the glitsy stuff don't unless you are prepared to deal with the comments that will more than likely follow this flashy (but totally cool!)bit of information. As far as the other girls are concerned, Don't worry yourself with that.He should run this buy his agent or handlers to see if you guys should do the public eye thing. Other than that just be yourself!
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there are 2 guys that like me and one is very outgoing but he can be rude sometimes but he loves me and then the other guy is very sweet but he is quiet. which one should i go for??? (link)
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If it were me I would go for the quiet guy because I can't stand rude people no matter what their attributes are. Rude is rude. There is actually an easy way to figure which one is right for you however. If you are looking for a long term relationship go with the sweet and quiet.He will probably treat you better and listen to you more. If you are just having fun then go with the wild child. Perks are that he is probably down for anything but you have to bear with his rudeness. best of luck and I hope I helped!
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It feels like everything I do doesn't make a difference. I always feel like screaming and running away. I feel like running away from my problems all the time, but I know I will never get anything solved if I do get away. What should I do when I get down like that? Also, when I feel like running away...I feel like killing myself, too. What should I do? (link)
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I think it is just a part of being sixteen. I felt like that all the time. In fact I wrote about it, threatened to leave to my parents, and suicede was a daily topic. Talk to someone. I had my boyfriend to keep me from running. Don't run because on top of every thing you will develop some bad habits that will continue into adult hood.You will never learn to face anything if you keep running Try to be open and talk to someone who won't freak out when they hear about these problems. You can email me if you want. I'm 21/f. ktsu0723@aol.com
I hope I helped.
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how can i be more confident? i'm really ugly, shy and boring - i have nothing to live for really, i wont ever get married or have a life. seeing as i look bad, i want to get more confident. the thing is, i read something and it said write a list of what you like about yourself. i cant do that, i hate everything about myself lol =/ and plus i'd feel really bigheaded if i write good things about myself, that's why i hate myself so much, so i don't look like i'm self-obesssed or something. please help, thanks xo (link)
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I feel ya. When I was young I was told I was ugly and that my head big and even that I looked dead. I heard this every day(I kid you not) until I was fourteen. Then I was ultra hot to everybody and my dead looking skin looked smooth and creamy all of a sudden. MY POINT IS. People give you to fit into their little expectations. Learn to love you one part by one. Suicide is not the way to go. I know. (especially if youre not successful the first time) Shy is fine and marriage is not everything! There is always hope. Love yourself first then see what happens.
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I am so lonely. I can't get a boyfriend. I have been so broken lately. I don't know what to do to make a guy want to be with me. I have guy friends and i mean i am a unique person but i can't get a guy. i am not skinny but i am not too heavy. i am 15 and i probably weigh about 190 lbs. what do i do to make myself more attractive for guys to look at? are there any certain measures i should take such as loosing weight or changing my personality? please help...luv forever--->kelsey lou (link)
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If your only motivation is to get guys then you will have a problem. I am not trying to get all after school special on ya but you have to want you before anyone else will. After you have decided how hot you want to be then follow through. I guarantee once you find that confidece to be hot they will come in flocks. On a purely health note. Yes you should lose some weight depending on your height.If youre 6 foot then your good.
You will only gain as you get older. That could cause you some health problems.
I hope I helped
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Hey, the hair on my arms is kinda dark and I'm very self concious about it. I wanna bleach it blonde and I was wondering what stores you can get easy to use bleach that isn't very expensive. Thanks, and I rate 5's! (link)
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NO BLEACH! Just wax it! It will hurt some but your arms will look great! I know. If you don't want to use wax use NAIR!
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Hi. My problem is a long long story. It starts like this. Me and my punkish/gothy friends have been together since like…4th and even earlier. This year I’m a freshman in high school and I’ve started hanging out with new people. Preppy but they’re not that preppy. They like emo and rock and accept everything. I don’t even want to call them preppy…They’re very popular and just normal. Amanda has become my new best friend and she in the normal group. My old best friend alix has drifted away from me and so had the whole punky group. They even stopped inviting me to hang places with them…I am pretty social and I need people so I made new friends still being friends just not best friends with my old friends. I’m talking to Alix one day on my way to lunch and it’s fine and then she says she has to go to her locker and I say I don’t feel like it and then another old friend of mine (Michelle) says why don’t you go hang out with your other friends like Amanda and them all. And then Alix says Amanda’s a snobby bitchy skank. I swear Amanda must be the nicest person in the world. She has nun potential. She’s really nice and does everything for me and sometimes I feel like a leech but Amanda says it’s fine. She is definitely not a bitch and I am sure of it because I asked many many people about what they think of her and the first thing they said was she’s nice. So that makes the bitch part wrong. As for skank? Amanda doesn’t date much…I don’t remember her ever having a boyfriend. She has crushes but she gets shy around them…So I don’t know where the skank came from…The snobby part? Well her parents do have money but it’s not like she acts or dresses like a rich snob. I told Alix that she shouldn’t say that because she doesn’t know her. And Alix said that if shes a skank she doesn’t want to get to know her. I told her I really don’t appreciate her saying that and then I left..So I told Amanda and my new friends what Alix said about her. Sara (emoish cheerleader and also very nice friend of mine) said that if Amanda’s a bitch then Sara must be like Satan or something. I’ve been friends with Sara since elementary school. None of my old friends believe me because I JUST started hanging out with her a lot again now. Back in like 3rd grade we were partners for a field trip to a water park. Well I could tell that Amanda was upset but shes acted careless and had to tell me not to worry. And a good point is that none of my new friends said anything bad back about her. I really like these new people. They have a good influence on me. I don’t want to tell anyone but Alix is a bigger bitch skank and snob then Amanda. Saying that stuff about Amanda was bitchy. Alix has let random guys give her hickeys and done other stuff too….I don’t think she realized that when she called Amanda a skank. Alix’s mom also has money….As a matter of fact Alix gets just about everything she wants. She gets a new cell phone every once in a while. Amanda doesn’t even have one right now….My new friends are also smart. They’re in all the honors classes with me and doing well….I like being on the same level with people instead of being with my old friends who give “me damn your smart”. Alix is in my honors English and global class but shes not doing well at all….My new friends are the ones my mom always wanted me to have…So now Alix is mad at me…She didn’t even really notice me before….And I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to completely abandon my old friends for my new friends because we have been friends for so long and we used to be so close…But they won’t accept me being with new people no matter what…I know it has to do with typical high school stereotype but no one really wants to admit it…And it would take me all through high school to establish and entirely new group of friends as big as the old one….I cried over this once but it’s really stupid how my old friends are acting and I don’t know what to do…Since this was really long and you might have gotten confused leave a message if you have any questions. Please Please help me!
Love,
Cup of orange juice
(picked a random object in my room) (link)
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Okay here is the situation as I see it. Your old friends from high school are abandoning you because your circle of friends has expanded in diversity? Are you kidding? you gotta be kidding? I am not trying to talk down about your old friends but they really need to grow up! Alix is just practicing one the oldest and most common forms of jealousy...projection! She is personality trading with Amanda because she is insecure! She wants you to think Amanda is bad and that she is good. She is telling you "I don't want you to be her friend be mine and mine only" Pardon me but that is just crappy. I understand that these are your friends from way back but it is time to go with the people who accept you for who you are. A social butterfly. As my favorite song lyrics go "you should Cut ties with all the lies that you've been living in" You know what is best for you. It will hurt but knowing and growing go hand in hand. Don't you want friends that lift you up in stead of hold you back? This is not uppity or snobby of you its just called maturing!
I hope I helped
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1st of i'm 16 and i'm in 10th grade and a girl...and i have some pretty awesome best girl friends...well i make-out with a few of them...i don't mind it i actually have fun doing...but i wouldn't call my self bi...i read this thing online and it says that we experment to find out what we like...well i love makeing-out with both sexes! but i've never done more with a girl...i have and talked about eating girls out with my other best friend and we have talked about doing to each other...but i could never see my self with a girl...because i just love boys...but what i am getting at is it wrong to want to do this stuff with girls...it's mainly with my best friend...it's just a experment..is it wrong to experment with her? she has ate a girl out before..i mean i'm not scared to do it and i don't feel un-comfortable caouse she is my best frined...my point...does any of this seem wrong?
((i don't want the stupid rood people to answer this...or jerks who think it's "nasty"))
love: the girl who doesn't know!! (link)
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Depends on what you mean by wrong. I personally don't see anything wrong with you experimenting with your best girl. I would advise you to be prepared for any wierdness between you two. I have never got that far with a girl (engaged to a guy) but I feel that it is an awesome voyage to seelf discovery! Don't be silly it's not wrong! I hope I helped
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I am a nineteen year old female living in Southern California. Years ago, when I was barely in elementary school, I was physically and sexually abused.
Though I believe I've moved past those issues, I notice that try as I might, I can't have an orgasm. I want to know how I would move beyond this problem and continue with my daily life.
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Sadly, some women can not have orgasms. Don't get me wrong its worth a try. You need to find a way to find the pleasure without one. Relax and enjoy the sensation. If you are trying to get off to the penetration alone... stop it! Most women can't get off on penetration (not even the ones who can "o") what you need to do is find what makes you hot there is nothing wrong with giving instructions when they are given correctly. If you are alone and you just want one by yourself then just "explore". I hope you find your "o"
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What does a yeast infection look like. Is it a rash? Or a discharge. What does the rash look like if so??? Oh, 13/f (link)
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It sort of looks like a rash. It actually is an inflammation(red and swell) of the vagina. It itches like nuts but if you scratch it it gets so much worse! It is accompanied by a yellowish thick discharge that sort of looks like clumpy dough! Go to a doctor if you suspect it is a yeast infection. If you get the over the counter stuff and it's not a yeast infection when (and I do mean when) you get a yeast infection it will be harder to get rid of. (super yeast) Hope I helped!
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Ok, I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I love him to death. and he's one of my best friends. I only knew him 2 weeks when he moved to Indiana. I live in New York. It's long distance, but we've managed without a single thought.
I started talking to a guy who lives in NYC. Hes madd funny, and sweet and he likes me. I'm starting to like him too. I actually told him I loved him, and we have so much fun talking.
I want to meet him, and I want to tell my bf. But i dont want things to end with either one of them. I want to be more than friends wit the NYC guy.
I dont know what to do. Im 15, and obviously a girl. They are the same age.
and I dont see my bf at all. i did once last year, and if it matters we had sex....
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Crazy conflict!... Look! Im gonna give it to you straight. It seems time to let Indiana go. You too had fun had sex and you love him. But if you keep this up you will just hurt him. Loving is being grown enough to not be selfish. Are you sure that you love this guy in New york? If so then this New York guy could be good for you. You and this guy from Indiana are obviously growing apart. Don't tell him what you did! You have to carry that burden all by yourself. Just end it if you don't want to continue playin them both! Chalk it up to experience and move on with the guy from New York. Hope I helped
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Theres this boy that I used to like and he didn't even know what I looked like. Recently, I said hi to him in the halls and now he knows what I look like. My friend asked him if he thought I was pretty and he said yes. We have been talking online everyday for a long time and we feel we know each other pretty well. We don't know each other well enough in person, which I'm going to try to accomplish soon. I had a friend talk to him and he was saying that I wasn't the right type of girl for him, all though when he described to me the girls he likes, it sounded so much like me it was scary. He says I would be a better friend, like I am now, then a girlfriend. I really want to change his mind! Maybe if he gets to know me in person, he would! What can I do? I know we are perfect for each other, and his friends and my friends know it too. I have started developing feelings for him again, but he doesn't know and if I tell him, i'm afraid he'll reject me. Help!
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Many a young women fall pray to this cycle. If he said he wants to be friends then you will just learn to accept it! You can't convince someone that you are what they need. By the same token you should not have to pretend that you don't want more. Tell him how you feel and that you would like to pursue a deeper relationship. The trick is in the wording. If you let him know up front that you can handle a friendship too then it won't be rejection. It will just be growing together. By showing him that you are an understanding and appreciative person he may figure out that he would be happy with you as a girlfriend! It's all in the wording! Just don't expect too much. To be fair he did say he wants to be friends.
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Hi, I am a freshman in Hight School and I am doing track, short distances and hurdles. I was wondering if anyone knew some good tips or anything about this. and i am also having a hard time with hurdles, so does anyone know, or has anyone does hurdles, and can give me some good pointers? My coaches help, but I know that i am not good enough for our first meet in 2 weeks do do hurdles.
Also, I get cramps in my kneck when i run. ANyone know how to solve this?
Lastly- Any good streatches for hurdlers and sprinters??
Thanks soo Much!!!
*-KeLs-* (link)
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My fiancee used to run track. He said for your neck stiffness do neck rolls. Start with your head down and slowly roll your neck all around to the head down position. Don't slow down when you get to the hurdle it makes your time longer. practice your footing alot!Know how many steps until the hurdle so you can anticipate how long it will take to vlear it! Also do hurdle stretches. (one leg bent in hurdle postion on the floor then lay back) stay there until it burns! Hope I helped
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What do you guys think about having an "Ask Alice" column in a school newspaper.
like where an annonymous person (possibly me) answers annonymous questions asked my students in the school. some could be put online, and some just sent back to the students. do you think that it is a good idea, i read about it in a book, it was called "Teen Idol" by Meg Cabbot, anyone ever read it? then you may know what i am talking about, only in the book it was called "Ask Annie"
the person (maybe me) would remain annonymous so that the people asking the questions would not know who you were or if you were apart of one group or clique and them another, that way the person asking the question isnt scare or whatever!!
So, do you think that this is a good idea?
Thanks!!
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I don't think its a terrible idea if that helps any. It sounds like a great plan to get some unity brewing in the school. This could help the kids get rid of that "I'm alone" vibe The draw back is that they could just as easily come here if they are age appropriate! Don't you think?
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i hear constantly about 14 year olds having sex... this is scary. what has the world come to? one day people will be having sex at 8 and then people will finally realise there is a problem. i dont see why 14 year olds have sex when they are so young... at 14 i was like, gross, why have sex? i'm 17 now and i am a virgin... i am proud of that and i like it coz guys respect me and i know a guy isn't going out with me for sex. what i want to know is why do girls lose that respect at such a young age? and how young were people when they lost their virginity???
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Young girls are impressionable. They hear a friend got it on and then they want to get it on. They don't look at the amount of self respect they are surrendering over to this guy. They are usually thoughtless bundles of hormones and that's all it takes to be taken advantage of. Some are even proud. My next door neighbor a while back revealed she had a 16 year old daughter. My neighbor is only 26! So beleive it or not they are having sex at 8 some are. i had two pregnant girls in my sixth grade class! (in college now) some young girls look at a lot of tv. They see women who are shaped like them and they think they(the teens) are adults. It happens.
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What should you do if you keep on babysitting and they always say they will pay you but never do, and you are too nervous to ask them to pay you? (link)
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Well honey you will jut have to take the bull by the horns. After babysitting one day, they run you that I'll pay you later line simply say When! Look them straight in the eyes and wait for their reply! you don't have to be mean! You provided a service. They have to pay up!
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I have to do a speech and presentation in English on Tuesday. I am really nervous and hate looking at people, and if I look at my friends I just laugh. However, I can't get anything higher than a B if I don't have 'audience awareness' and I have to get all A's. So does anyone have any tips on how to be less nervous or how I can have more 'audience awareness' or even how to stop myself laughing at the funny parts of my presentation?
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I took a speech class last semester and what helped me through my speech was singing and screaming the nerves out of myself. You have all of that nervouseness pent up you gotta let it out. Scream, shout, breath deeply, giggle alot and recite your speech as often as you can to get used to it. Be casual with your speech. You don't have to word for word it. 64% of people have a fear of public speaking! WE are all human. Make the connection it works!
I hope this helps and good luck on your speech!
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