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lonely and hating it
I am so lonely. I can't get a boyfriend. I have been so broken lately. I don't know what to do to make a guy want to be with me. I have guy friends and i mean i am a unique person but i can't get a guy. i am not skinny but i am not too heavy. i am 15 and i probably weigh about 190 lbs. what do i do to make myself more attractive for guys to look at? are there any certain measures i should take such as loosing weight or changing my personality? please help...luv forever--->kelsey lou
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Do not change your personality!!!!Whatever you want but dont change your personality!
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you shouldnt be so into what a guy thinks about you. my advice to you is to be alone until you are completely independent. when you know for sure that you dont need a guy to make you happy.. thats the time when you should get one. guys are great but if you cant handle just being you then you have a problem. you shouldnt change yourself to make some guy happy. leave yourself how you are and get comfortable in your skin if a guy that matters comes along he'll fall for you without you having to be barbie. at age 15 boyfriends are just something to have on the side.. they are not your whole life and as selfish as it sounds the only person you need to worry about is you. so fuck other people you are beautiful make yourself believe that and dont change yourself for anybody okay!
goodluck--lovemucho
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Whatever you do, don't change your personality for someone else. That part of you is more unique than your fingerprints because it's something that develops with you as time goes by.
If you decide to change your physical appearance, make sure it's for you, not for someone else (or to just get someone else). Fifteen is a dangerous age to be, as you're on the edge of adulthood and adolescence, so it's important for you to learn your self worth now, not later. Don't worry so much about pleasing others with how you look or how much you weigh. If you want to become thinner, than do so for yourself.
And while fifteen is the year you really start learning what adulthood is about, you're still youthful. You have plenty of time to find a boyfriend, but remember: confidence is the best accessory a girl can have!
Cheers.
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i have the same problem, but im not going to change for a guy to like me, and neither should you. cause once you change its not you. if guys dont like you for who you are then screw them. (not literally)(lol). because eventually that guy will come around and youll be the happiest person ever.guys arent that important anyways, i havent had a boyfriend since i was 14. I have a lot of guy friends that are not attracted to me but im ok with that. so dont worry, someone will come along that likes you for who you are.
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i know exactly how you feel
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Confidence is key! The only thing you ought to change is your attitude and self-esteem.
If losing weight, changing your look would help you feel better about yourself, make you feel pretty- then do it. But only if you feel it will benefit YOU- don't do it for anyone else. And if you do choose to lose weight, make sure you're healthy about it- eat good food and exercise, not crash diets!
Smile more! A smile automatically brightens your face, makes you more attractive, AND it's contagious! It makes people WANT to be around you, because you're bubbly and fun!
Don't try to change who you are- you'd probably fail and just come accross as fake. And That's not attractive to anyone.
Try to convince yourself that you don't have to have a boyfriend to be happy. That's a much better solution than trying to change in order to get a boyfriend, and in the end, your newfound happiness just might make you very attractive to a guy you would have never considered to be a possible boyfriend.
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Hey kelsey lou....You say you have guy friends so you must be doing something right!Don't start getting self consious about your appearence.Be yourself and don't worry the boys will soon start asking you out.
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guys love confidance. sure they are attracted to looks at first but if they get to know you they will like you for you. trust me. be yourself and you will find new admirers more forthcoming. if you feel really bad about yourself maybe a makeover will improve your confidance?
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First of all don't change your perosnality. That's just who you are. But some ways are... maybe dress different. Maybe more sofisticated or the new trendy styles. Lose weight? just eat healthy. But most of all be yourself. There's a guy out there for you but you just havent found him yet.
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Oh, thats really sad, please don't ask how to lose weight for a guy, I don't mean to show you that stupid but real quote on your answer, but you're beautiful in your very own ways. A guy needs to accept you for this, and someday they will, just not now because you're probably in middle or high school. Guys in their teen years are not the best guys to hook up with at the time, you are not alone in this. Life may suck right now because you aren't in love and happily in love, but there are still lots of other things until then, hang with your friends, and talk to any friends that are girls that you have, because they are probably more mature than your guy friends. But don't give up hope now, and you are a unique person I bet! But, nobody probably notices because you may not be the talkative type, and thats ok, but you don't need to lose weight for a guy. The only reason you should ever lose weight is:
*If you are dangerously overweight, which you aren't.
*And if you are doing it for yourself and not to impress someone.
Please, I don't know you, but I am begging you to try to survive and live life like a child, like you are, and you should be, if you need anyone to talk to, you can instant message me at Evanescence0o01. Don't hesitate, I will talk to you.
-TheTeenGirl
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If your only motivation is to get guys then you will have a problem. I am not trying to get all after school special on ya but you have to want you before anyone else will. After you have decided how hot you want to be then follow through. I guarantee once you find that confidece to be hot they will come in flocks. On a purely health note. Yes you should lose some weight depending on your height.If youre 6 foot then your good.
You will only gain as you get older. That could cause you some health problems.
I hope I helped
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Rather than trying to get guys to like you, find a guy who you like and ask him out. It doesn't matter how you appear to others as long as you have a good body image. Would you really want to go out with a guy who likes you only for your looks anyway?
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