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self-confidence and esteem.
how can i be more confident? i'm really ugly, shy and boring - i have nothing to live for really, i wont ever get married or have a life. seeing as i look bad, i want to get more confident. the thing is, i read something and it said write a list of what you like about yourself. i cant do that, i hate everything about myself lol =/ and plus i'd feel really bigheaded if i write good things about myself, that's why i hate myself so much, so i don't look like i'm self-obesssed or something. please help, thanks xo
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First of all, you might not want to try calling yourself ugly, shy, and boring. And you wont look big headed. Like me, physicially, I think I have the most prettiest eyes in the world, and personality wise, I think I'm very down to earth and funny. Did that sound bidheaded? Nah!
I've dealt with this--to a bigger extreme. Uhm, What you could do is write lists of all of your friends so when You look at it you know how many people care for you and that'll make you feel better. I started a scrap book, but I'm also a really crafty person.
And if worst comes to worst, talk to your parental units--even better, someone with a degree. Go to a shrink. I do. They're not the stereotypical thing you get. Mine is acually a femenist and buddhist.
NO problem
-Maddy
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im shour your not ugly,and not boring maby shy lol but every one thinks they look at least kinda ugly just tell your self your not ugly but if your shy or boring try and make your self stand out act funny say wird things do crazy stuff maby people will think your more interesting tell me how it gose
*~stacey~*
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I am sure that you aren't as ugly as you think. Besides, not all guys are interested in looks. They will love you for the beauty inside. ♥
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you have completely contradicted yourself honey. even if you feel this way you shouldnt constantly tell yourself that you are all these bad things. talk to your friends, because obviously they care about you, and your family. No one will think you're self obsessed but they will see that your perception is off of who you are. And confidence is never bigheaded. Find things you truly like about yourself. Look at yourself from someone you love's perspective and see why they love you. Confidence is never bigheaded unless you are thinking you are god. thats not confidence. thats ego. =) I think you're a smart person for seeking advice.
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Everyone has good things about themselves,no matter who you are.Have you thought about your inner qualities?Are you a good person, are you kind to people?Think about those things.And everyone is beautiful, even if you don't look like a supermodel.Just start thinking positively about yourself, and maybe go talk to your school's counselor and they will help you.Also try to find a friend or family memeber that you can talk to.If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to im me on aim my sn is
sp0iled shedevil
♥ashley♥
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*"i'm really ugly, shy and boring"
*"i have nothing to live for really, i wont ever get married or have a life. seeing as i look bad"
*" i hate everything about myself"
*" i hate myself so much"
These are your 4 major statements that stand out in your question. That is the root of your low self-esteem problem. Not only would you tolerate people telling you that you're ugly, but you say it to yourself on a daily basis. The path you're taking with yourself, will be a long way back home, I can already tell, but, I will try and help you. Every single day, I want you to do the following:
*Every morning when looking in the mirror, say "[YOUR NAME], you are beautiful, you are pretty no matter what, your personality is beautiful, which makes you beautiful."
*Take a piece of paper, look in the mirror, and take a look at everything on you, and write down every good thing about it. Example: My eyes are very pretty because of its rare color. My hair is really nice because its easy to take care of, and its color is very special to me.
*On the back of the paper, pretend you are a friend of your own, and write everything you love about her [yourself]. Write about how beautiful you are if you had a best friend just like you, write about how nice they are. Write very nice things about yourself.
*What will really help is if you go to a friend, mom, or dad, and ask them whats they love the most about you, and ask what quality is best, and ask them what is the best looking on you.
*Try adding some make up and tell yourself whats best about it on YOU. Don't compliment it on a friend, don't compliment the make up color, say, "hey, this looks very good on you because...."
There is absolutely nothing wrong with writing good things about yourself. Being self confident is something special to have, its so much better than hating yourself all the time, and if people ever say that you are not a beautiful girl, then don't speak to them, because they are wrong, and they are rude. You have to make sure that you know that you're beautiful, do not try to accomplish making everyone love your looks, the important thing is that you know yourself truly that you are a beautiful young women. I hope I helped.
-TheTeenGirl
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I feel ya. When I was young I was told I was ugly and that my head big and even that I looked dead. I heard this every day(I kid you not) until I was fourteen. Then I was ultra hot to everybody and my dead looking skin looked smooth and creamy all of a sudden. MY POINT IS. People give you to fit into their little expectations. Learn to love you one part by one. Suicide is not the way to go. I know. (especially if youre not successful the first time) Shy is fine and marriage is not everything! There is always hope. Love yourself first then see what happens.
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ok, this sounds so obvious, but get a make-over or save up money and shop at a new store. if you improve your image, that may help. if you need a soul make-over then i would do yoga. it sounds weird but seriously, it will let out a lot of negative energy. keep your hygeine good. brush your teeth, wash you face, just make sure you keep those things in check. if it's suicidal bad, then switch schools. seriously. that's what i did and i became extremely popular. i sware
i hope i helped,
~mandy
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hunni you should never feel ugly. Everybody is beutiful in their own skin. You are you. Love it! embrace it! You seem like you a sweet and caring girl. You're humble, i mean you dont want to be big headed. Confidence is being able to admit you're flaws. The next step is admitting you are just as good as everybody else. Wake up and every morning look yourself in the mirror and say " I'm ready! And I'm best at what I do! and I can do anything life throws at me! " Dont be afraid to stadn up to some loser who thinks they are better than you.
I hope I helped sweetie.
your 15 yr old friend ;)
N I K K I
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thats the same way with me,i cant write something about myself because ill think that people will talk about it and everything and i can never think of anything thats good about me because i suck at sports and everything like that and if someone says something to me i wont have the guts to say something to them because i will think that their looking at me and saying stuff about me. just be yourself. and everyone is beautiful in there own way you might have a special feature that someone else might have.
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When I was 13, I HATED myself. I hated my nose. My nose was so huge that I was afraid to kiss my boyfriend because I might have knocked him down with my huge nose! LOL. Everybody (no matter how "hot" or beautiful they may e) hates SOMETHING about themselves. Some people hate their hair, nose, skin, feet, ANYTHING. My nose was so embarassing to "carry around" through middle school. People called me names like "Pinochio" and I hated it. Almost every day, I went home crying but I didn't let my mom and sister know. Do you know what I did? I didn't write a list of what I like about myself because I feel the same way about myself.
My family TRIED to help but they said I was beautiful but I thought they only said that because they were my family. They had to say that. Make up doesn't make you prettier. You're still the same person even with it on. To become more confident, I listened to my family and friends. I told off the people who made of my nose and they NEVER did it again! I lived with it. I hated myself. You WILL get married and you WILL hve a life with beautiful kids and you'll be VERY beautiful. Just listen to the people who say you're pretty. Don't ignore them and say, "You're just saying that." You have to believe them because nobody is going to lie. (By the way, listen to someone who has a history of honesty. LOL) Best of luck and I know EXACTLY what you're going through! Luv ya lots. :-)
~~~Kayla Hutchinson~~~
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