Hey I'm Deanna and I decided to do this because i figure ill give advice one way or another and this is a way to reach more people. feel free to ask me anything, and if you need to talk let me know.
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Gender: Female
Location: Boston
Occupation: Karate Teacher
Age: 16
AIM: deathbyoatmeal1
Member Since: March 15, 2005
Answers: 14
Last Update: March 17, 2005
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Well.. I'm 16/f. A while ago my boyfriend and I broke up and we fought a LOT afterwards. We were always fighting. So then we finally started becoming friends again and I started to like him again. Then he went out with my best friend, Cara. So now I don't know what to do. I feel really awkward when I'm with them. He really loves her.. but still. (link)
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Hey. It sounds like what you should do for now is try to be supportive of your ex because if he really does love her, then maybe its not meant to be with you and him... at least not for now. In high school people abuse the hell out of the word love so you never know if he means it. considering its your best friend and your ex i'd say try not to make waves. Maybe in the future they will break up.... and you will be his shoulder to cry on. But if not... dont try to break them up because you'll lose the friendships
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16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them? (link)
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they're counsillers. go through ur school
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Okay, this may sound dumb, but im confused.
If you call a suicide hotline, do they call the cops? Especially since you are in danger? I have always wondered this and my councelor at school gave me a list of hotlines because I am always thinking about suicide.
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no they dont. i called. they connect you to someone close by and they ask if u want them to call ur parents or w/e but they dont call the cops.
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I skateboard, and my friend wants to learn.. So.. what is the best kind of skateboard for a beginner?? (link)
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old ones with crappy bearings and good trucks
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I took like a week break from gymnastics and now I am going back tomorrow with a bunch of cuts on my wrist because I slit my wrists a few times over the week. I didn't think I was going to go back to gymnastics and I'm still not sure but I might and everyone will see the cuts and they're going to wonder what they are. I don't think they will believe it's from my cat. What should I say? I can't wear bracelets or anything over them that is noticable because we're not supposed to. Help!! How do I hide them? (link)
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Um.... honey? you should probobly get some help. i know how you feel cuz i've been there but the problem will get bigger and bigger if you dont
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Okay. i have a problem with my baseball coach. I am 14 yrs old and his son is 14 also. My baseball coach beats hi son but i dont know how to tell n 1 about ....help me (link)
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Are you sure? if you are you should tell your parents and have them calll social services. you're doing him a favor
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Hey, does anyone know a good way to make your leg go higher in an arabesque and such? And also, how to get your split better? Thanks so much! (link)
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stretch. lol
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I just started cheerleading this year and it was really hard for me to do anything, like tumbling or stunting, because I have like no upper body strength. This is mostly because of my wrists, they're weak and crack a lot. I did gymnastics about a year ago but it made my wrists worse. What I want to know is, is there anyway for me to build up some arm strength so I can start doing gymnastics again? (link)
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see your doc or ask your coach if its safe w/ ur wrists but try pushups and light weight training to start strengthening your arms. dont overdo it and hurt yourself
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Last night I was over at some friends house and I was the only girl and there was three boys (I'm 19) and we were drinking and they must have got drunk becasue they grabbed me and flung me onto the bed and started having sex and I didn't want to! Now this morning I won't stop bleeding! PLEASE HELP...oh my god I don't want this to happen to me I'M A GOOD GIRL! (link)
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Honey in the future- only drink with people you trust. For now... get checked out. its not your fault.
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how can i be more confident? i'm really ugly, shy and boring - i have nothing to live for really, i wont ever get married or have a life. seeing as i look bad, i want to get more confident. the thing is, i read something and it said write a list of what you like about yourself. i cant do that, i hate everything about myself lol =/ and plus i'd feel really bigheaded if i write good things about myself, that's why i hate myself so much, so i don't look like i'm self-obesssed or something. please help, thanks xo (link)
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you have completely contradicted yourself honey. even if you feel this way you shouldnt constantly tell yourself that you are all these bad things. talk to your friends, because obviously they care about you, and your family. No one will think you're self obsessed but they will see that your perception is off of who you are. And confidence is never bigheaded. Find things you truly like about yourself. Look at yourself from someone you love's perspective and see why they love you. Confidence is never bigheaded unless you are thinking you are god. thats not confidence. thats ego. =) I think you're a smart person for seeking advice.
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My sister is 18 and has recently been kicked out by my mother due to dumb issues. Now I love them both, but my sister is telling me crap about my parents and my parents are telling me crap about my sister. They basically want me to pick sides. Do I pick my parents that have raised me and that I will be stuck with for at least 4 more years? Or do I pick my sister because shes like my best friend? (link)
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Dont pick either. tell them both how much you love them and how it is hurting you to feel you have to choose. ask them to not talk about each other in front of you because it hurts you. They should respect your wishes because they are your family and they love you.
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i have tried all kinds of ways to get my self esteem up. but i just cant figure it out. i like myself a little bit more then i used to but not much. i want to love myself so that people can see the confidence in me because they like that. but i dont know how to raise my self esteem. any ideas, advice, whatever? lol
~♥~ Carrie ~♥~ (link)
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To raise your self-esteem you must try to stop insulting yourself out loud. Try to accept compliments and really trust the person who gave them. see them as a mirror when they are kind to you because you deserve it.
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if you have read the previous post, you'd know how pathethic my love life is (20m never had gf). Anyway, where can i meet a nice girl? And how do i get to know her?
(any nice girl out there?) (link)
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You may want to stop focusing on the looking and more on letting her find you. The most beautiful things in life are serindipity. Plus when you finally find her, you dont want to be too wrapped up in looking around to realize it. she could be right under your nose. live your life as best you can and love will work itself in.
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i have a boyfriend who i love so much!! but then i met another guy and i think i'm starting to like him..i think my boyfriend is getting tired of me now and he doesn't call me anymore but the new guy does..what do i do??? (link)
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I think you need to talk to your boyfriend and let him know whats going on. Tell him how you feel about him and why you think you're losing him. If you're open with him he may start to open up to you more and perhaps you can get to the root of the problem. Dont start anything with the new guy until you talk to your boyfriend because your love interest may just be your excuse for attention from someone you feel cares about you.
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