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Hi. My problem is a long long story. It starts like this. Me and my punkish/gothy friends have been together since like…4th and even earlier. This year I’m a freshman in high school and I’ve started hanging out with new people. Preppy but they’re not that preppy. They like emo and rock and accept everything. I don’t even want to call them preppy…They’re very popular and just normal. Amanda has become my new best friend and she in the normal group. My old best friend alix has drifted away from me and so had the whole punky group. They even stopped inviting me to hang places with them…I am pretty social and I need people so I made new friends still being friends just not best friends with my old friends. I’m talking to Alix one day on my way to lunch and it’s fine and then she says she has to go to her locker and I say I don’t feel like it and then another old friend of mine (Michelle) says why don’t you go hang out with your other friends like Amanda and them all. And then Alix says Amanda’s a snobby bitchy skank. I swear Amanda must be the nicest person in the world. She has nun potential. She’s really nice and does everything for me and sometimes I feel like a leech but Amanda says it’s fine. She is definitely not a bitch and I am sure of it because I asked many many people about what they think of her and the first thing they said was she’s nice. So that makes the bitch part wrong. As for skank? Amanda doesn’t date much…I don’t remember her ever having a boyfriend. She has crushes but she gets shy around them…So I don’t know where the skank came from…The snobby part? Well her parents do have money but it’s not like she acts or dresses like a rich snob. I told Alix that she shouldn’t say that because she doesn’t know her. And Alix said that if shes a skank she doesn’t want to get to know her. I told her I really don’t appreciate her saying that and then I left..So I told Amanda and my new friends what Alix said about her. Sara (emoish cheerleader and also very nice friend of mine) said that if Amanda’s a bitch then Sara must be like Satan or something. I’ve been friends with Sara since elementary school. None of my old friends believe me because I JUST started hanging out with her a lot again now. Back in like 3rd grade we were partners for a field trip to a water park. Well I could tell that Amanda was upset but shes acted careless and had to tell me not to worry. And a good point is that none of my new friends said anything bad back about her. I really like these new people. They have a good influence on me. I don’t want to tell anyone but Alix is a bigger bitch skank and snob then Amanda. Saying that stuff about Amanda was bitchy. Alix has let random guys give her hickeys and done other stuff too….I don’t think she realized that when she called Amanda a skank. Alix’s mom also has money….As a matter of fact Alix gets just about everything she wants. She gets a new cell phone every once in a while. Amanda doesn’t even have one right now….My new friends are also smart. They’re in all the honors classes with me and doing well….I like being on the same level with people instead of being with my old friends who give “me damn your smart”. Alix is in my honors English and global class but shes not doing well at all….My new friends are the ones my mom always wanted me to have…So now Alix is mad at me…She didn’t even really notice me before….And I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to completely abandon my old friends for my new friends because we have been friends for so long and we used to be so close…But they won’t accept me being with new people no matter what…I know it has to do with typical high school stereotype but no one really wants to admit it…And it would take me all through high school to establish and entirely new group of friends as big as the old one….I cried over this once but it’s really stupid how my old friends are acting and I don’t know what to do…Since this was really long and you might have gotten confused leave a message if you have any questions. Please Please help me!
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You are just growing up and people change.Most likely your old friends will change one day to.Until then I would say to hang around with the newer group of kids most often. If alix is mad at you and won't hang around with you anymore that is her problem.It sounds like she's probably jealous.I might add that if mom likes the newer crowd she will probably be more comfortable letting you go out and do things with them.She may have some doubts about the other crowd. All you can do is be nice to them all.Your true friends will stick by you.And when the old friends start bad mouthing the new ones, don't even contribute to it by listening.Just move on.
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Okay here is the situation as I see it. Your old friends from high school are abandoning you because your circle of friends has expanded in diversity? Are you kidding? you gotta be kidding? I am not trying to talk down about your old friends but they really need to grow up! Alix is just practicing one the oldest and most common forms of jealousy...projection! She is personality trading with Amanda because she is insecure! She wants you to think Amanda is bad and that she is good. She is telling you "I don't want you to be her friend be mine and mine only" Pardon me but that is just crappy. I understand that these are your friends from way back but it is time to go with the people who accept you for who you are. A social butterfly. As my favorite song lyrics go "you should Cut ties with all the lies that you've been living in" You know what is best for you. It will hurt but knowing and growing go hand in hand. Don't you want friends that lift you up in stead of hold you back? This is not uppity or snobby of you its just called maturing!
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Well, if they have treated you like that, then they really must not be your friends at all. What you could do is talk to them all and get them to see that they arent to bad somehow. Or you could just hang back and forth between the two groups, but that can get tiring aftre awhile. Just do what you think is best for YOU and follow YOUR heart as to what you want to do. Hope I helped. Get back to if you can and tell me what happens.
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