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Grades...
I am 14, female int he 9th grade. I'm also usually a straight A student. My sister graduated 2nd in her class. She recieved an full scholorship to the college she attends. My brother was expelled in 11th grade. My parents had stressed how important grades were, I agreed to an extent. Working my butt off to earn straight A' and a high GPA. This Marking Period. I am in Algebra 2(normally a 11th grade class) and French 1. I was doing okay in Algebra untill I failed a quiz and recieved a 80% on a unit test. This brings my grade to 88.5%, the MP ends in 3 days. no way i can bring that up. in french, i got a 70% on the Unit test. I failed most the tests in their. But my grades were usually up. Now I face the problem of having 2B's (a possible C) on my usually perfect report card. I told my mother this afternoon and she shook her head and simply said "Shit *insert name*". She then turned and walked away.
I WORK MY BUTT OF IN SCHOOL. I'm taking all Honors and the most difficult classes. I can't be perfect like my sister, I can't always get straight A's. How do I tell my parents this respectfully. ??I'm sorry It's such a long question.:-/ Help
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Edit to your feedback no i dont have to take geometry it isnt required and besides in 9th grade if it is possible i might skip algebra 2 and i might be able to go right to pre calcus because what my teachers havent been teaching mei have been teaching myself so i basically know all of algebra and im gona teach myself pre calcus if i canttake it next year...
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First off: dont your b's round up to A's since theyre honors...? thats how it is at my school...? And just tell your parents that you ARE not you sister! and that at least youre not your brother! You do better than normal kids all accross america! and tell them that you will bring it up for next time, and that you tried your hardest and thats all that matters! and stress the fact that this is just one time. And by the time the semester comes you can bring everything up, and tell them that youre gonna talk to the teachers and ask for extra credit (and do that too) then your parents will know that ure really affected by you grades and you want to do well in school! Everything will be fine... this is just one time! And tell your parents not to cuss at you its not healthy for the child...
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Sit them down to have a serious conversation. Tell them what you told us: You can't be perfect like your sister. Honors classes are hard! You're in 9th grade, taking an 11th grade class. Most 9th graders in your school probably aren't doing that. You have to explain that you are doing the best you can, and that you are an individual, and you don't want to be judged based on your sister. Just keep calm, don't raise your voice, and make your point. Good luck! Send me something if you need anything else. ♥ Kristen
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I liked Sherry's answer about the whole letter thing, because she's right, your parents probably would interupt you (I know mine would) And WOW! about the alg 2 thing. I'm doubling up next year in honors geometry and algebra 2, but some of my friends (I'm same age/grade as you) are in it and they're having a tough time. But I'm kinda like you. I want the perfect grades, and usually I'll work my butt off to get them. I once made a 90-something on a math test and I was complaining when some of my friends had failed it. But really I think the letter idea is good. Just tell them that you've tried your hardest and that should count for something, but that you'll work at it to get your grade back up, and if possible you'll do some extra credit or get some type of extra help from your teacher. Tell her that as a freshman you're taking on a lot. Not many freshman are in such advanced courses. I'm doubling up and stuff in my sophmore year, I'd like to graduate early, but I don't think I can do that because my grades have been falling. On my report card (got it last week) I made an A, a B, a B+ and a B-, TERRIBLE compared to what I normally make, first time in a long time that I'm not on A honor roll. But really I bet if you wrote a letter like Sherry suggested and told them that you're taking on a lot of stuff and there's a lot of pressure, and it's difficult but you're doing as best you can they'll understand. Maybe they'll even help you get your grades up. If you need extra help just talk to a teacher about it. Try and tell them that most parents would be very pleased that you're making B's, my parents are sooo happy when I make just B's, but I complain. My mom laughed at me when I told her I was disappointed that even though with all the extra credit I had and I made a 121 (w/ extra credit the highest I could've made was a 125) I was disappointed, my teacher even said I made the highest grade, I was upset that I didn't make a 123 or higher. I don't like missing 2-3 questions on a test, I think it's terrible. But really try and explain to them that you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed and maybe they'll undestand. Sorry if I didn't help any, and I apologize for going off on 'stories' about me.
Good luck, and I hope you get your grades back up!
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Don't spend your life trying to be perfect for everyone, just strive to do the very best that you can. You are who you are and as long as you do the best you can that no one should ask anymore from you. No one is perfect and the grades you have are good grades, just tell your parents that you are doing your best, but don't appologize for not being as perfect as your sister, because you are perfect just being you.
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What your parents need to understand is that YOU are NOT your sister. That is a lot for you to live up to! Getting straight A's and graduating second in her class is great, but it's not you. You can do that, but it takes a lot of work! And right now grades can't be your most concern. You probably don't have a lot of free time to hang out with friends and such. Your parents are expecting too much from you. You need to be heard and let them know that.
Try to sit down with your parents at dinner, or some place where they can't get up and leave right away. Maybe you can explain to them that you are trying really hard to maintain good grades, but you are not your sister and you can't be expected to have the same level of skills as she. Tell them you know they love you, and they want what is best for you. You want that too, but you need a break here and there. Explain to them that you can't pass every test because there are some chapters of the unit that you just don't get as well as the others.
Here comes the most important part: let them know you are willing to change this. Maybe you are just in a much higher advanced class than you should be and you should see if you can change that. After all babe, you're only in 9th grade and you're in 11th garde classes. Back it down a little. See if that's okay with them. If it's too late this year, try for next year. There is nothing wrong with that either! Would it be better to fail an advanced class or get an A in a class that a student your age should be in? If that doesn't work, tell them you learned from this marking period. And if you don't understand a subject you will seek extra help whether it be asking the teacher, or studying hard.
Back to the expectations. Tell them that you are going to try your best, but straight A's are very hard. And you'll try to get them, but for if some reason you can't get straight A's you know that you put as much effort in to it as you could have. Tell them they need to support you on this, and understand that you are not perfect. You won't be a failure in life, you'e going to try to achieve whatever you want and get the most out of life. That should get their attention. And if it doesn't, you should try to get the teacher to talk to them, or someone who will make them listen. Don't stress over this, if you're doing the best you can do, that's all that matters. Give yourself the confidence you need to realize that this is your future, not your parents. Do what you think is good enough for you! Okay? =D
Love,
Mandee
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Wow, Algerba 2..I wont even be taking it! Okay I think you should write a letter to them. I know it sounds corny but if you just talk to them, they'll interupt you..and yell at you. Just explain to them that you try so hard, and this is the most you can do. Say that you are your own individual person, and your not your sister. Say that you keep on pushing and this is all you can get. You have an a+ in effort but the quality of the work isint quite A+. Explain how you feel when you work so hard, but dont get straight A's...and explain how it hurts to see your mom hurt...but you try. and thats all you can do. I hope your parents understand. I personally believe your grades are awesome! High school is hard and its a lot of work. So I give you props for taking hard classes like Alg. 2!
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