Gender:
MaleMember Since:
June 18, 2009Answers:
8136Last Update:
May 26, 2019Visitors:
140687Favorite Columnists
karenR
AyyItsKristen
Erinn_the_bamf
Xui
storageanddisposal
lvr
Smartone
bewise
GradingCurve
anonymous99
HildaJrCarter
more...
Main Categories:
General Sex Questions
Abusive Relationships
Cooking
View All
about
My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
advice
So I have dark brown hair on all of these places, I keep shaving it..but it always grows back in a matter of hours!! How can I get rid of it for good?? (I'm 13) I feel really insecure about it and don't let anyone other that my closest friends know. I've tried hair removal cream, shaving, and bleaching. Nothing works!! Does anyone have advice on that I can do to get rid of/make the color get brighter so you can notie it as much?? PLEASE HELP!!!
Assuming you are a women it is understandable that you would want to get rid of this hair.
The only way that I know of for sure is both expensive and painful and would need to be done in several treatments because of the pain involved. I'm talking of electrolysis. Electrolysis burns the root of the hair effectively killing the hair and preventing it from regrowing.Depending on how much hair you actually have it can be a very long process as each individual hair must be done separately.
The procedure like any other of this type should be done by a licensed operator or technician. You should see before and after pictures of work they have done before. I would also suggest you interview several technicians before selecting one to get different opinions, costs and to get a comfort level with one of them.
As I said the procedure will take time, will be expensive and could be painful. In the end it should be a permanent removal of the hair if done correctly.
I was originally diagnosed with Depression a couple of years ago and had some therapy. In April this year I was prescribed antidepressants and my doctor upped my dose in November. I had a panic attack and a physiatric nurse told me that he thought it was unlikely that I was depressed and more likely that I had Anxiety Disorder. I went back to my doctor and she recommended that I continue taking the antidepressants and start a course of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in January.
Since then I have really been struggling to find any meaning or enjoyment in life. I'm feeling very lost and almost like I'm not really involved in my own life. I no longer feel sad all the time, just a constant sense of numbness and indifference.
Has anyone got any suggestions as to what I can do?
20/F
I too was diagnosed some years ago with depression and know the feeling you speak about. It was something I felt while being treated for my depression. I'm not sure CBT is the answer to your problem, then again I'm not a doctor and I;m not your doctor.
For me working with my psychologist, who some 6 years later I still see but not as much, helped me with talk therapy. My depression was and is the result of an auto accident and all the stressors it placed on me. I was the only innocent in a three car collision, yet I had to deal with Worker compensation, lawyers, my own employer and my injuries, which were disabling.
My injuries caused much of what you are feeling as it was truly a life changing event for me. I now had to deal with life in an entirely different manner even though to look at me you cannot tell I'm disabled.
I have a great therapist. We spoke for many hours about what I knew to be troubling me and what she worked at to draw from me were things I had buried so deeply I had not been aware were effecting me as well. She was not the first therapist I worked with. She was the third one I tried but she is the one I found success with and stayed with. The same is true with the psychiatrist who treated me with antidepressants. He was not the first he was actually the forth one I saw. But he was the one I trusted and found I could talk to as well.
This is what it boils down to. In order to beat the depression and everything that goes with it you need to be comfortable with and trust the doctors you work with. It took me several tries to find the right fit and when I did I started to get better.
I'm not sure this is the answer your looking for, but if you are not comfortable; if you find yourself holding back form your doctor or therapist. Then you need to find a new doctor or therapist.
Ask yourself those questions. If the answer is you are not comfortable or not trusting. Then you are not getting what you need and you need to find someone to replace them
Everytime we hang out my boyfriend gets a boner. Ive already given him head and used my hand. He texted me and asked me if i have any other ways of taking care of his boner then just using my mouth and hand are there any other ways besides those two and sex? What should i tell him?
DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT send him any type of naked pictures of yourself. For one thing once you do you loose control of the picture and it can be passed around to people who you don't want seeing you naked or even partially naked.
For another, and I am assuming you are a minor. You are breaking the law by doing so. Sending or receiving naked pictures of minors is considered distributing or being in possession of child pornography. The police are cracking down on this and social media such as facebook are cooperating. There are several instances of this happening in the mid-western states where a girl sent her boyfriend a naked picture and he then sent it to a friend. The picture then went viral. Her parents filed a police complaint. The two minors have been charged with distribution. SO DON'T DO IT.
As for your question; As a parent and a father I would suggest you search the web for your answer.
wife thinks husband cheated husband did not
This is probably the worst subject to try and advice someone on. If a wife is convinced her husband has cheated no amount of talking by him is going to convince her other wise. She has somehow convinced herself or someone she trusts has told her that they have seen her husband with another woman in the wrong place.
The only advice I have for this situation is marriage counselling. A good trained marriage counselor should be able to draw from her why she feels this way and then help convince her of the husbands innocence.
Ok...I decided to accompany my daughter and her father to a mini-christmas vacation and so we were about to eat dinner (reminder: with my ex). So I tell him "Are you happy we are here!" and his response is "Well, I am paying for it" with a certain attitude. I gave him 250.00 from his child support to help "US" with the trip expenses. I got upset and told him I would pay the 40.00 bill for the dinner. I did tell him those types of comments were totally uncalled for. He was amazingly upset saying I had twisted all his words around. It completely reminded me why I got a divorce in the first place, but I want to understand and get another man's perspective or woman's....did I over react...was my reaction uncalled for. I don't know please let me know.
Female 36 years old
Did you over react? From the little information at hand I would say that is a yes and no answer.
You reacted poorly and in the wrong place, in front of your daughter. Your ex may have just chosen the wrong words to express himself. There are a number of different meaning I could think of to what he said. I also think all of you were a little on edge. Most of all I think the mini-Vacation was to benefit your daughter to have a family vacation. With hindsight being 20/20 I would say the better way to have handled it would have been to hold you tongue and ask you ex what he meant by his remark out of hearing of your daughter.
What needs to be done is to explain to your daughter that you were on edge because of the dynamics of this situation and may have spoken improperly. If you upset her then you apologize to her and explain that no matter what; you and her father truly love her . That this mini-vacation was for her benefit to prove that. That this was a first attempt and you and her father will get better at it in the future.
You and her father need to find better ways to communicate when around your daughter.
To answer your question: Both you and your husband spoke improperly.
Okay, I almost positive this is not herpes or another STD because I have absolutely zero symptoms of anything. No odor, no painful urination, no burning or itching, no weird discharge. Everything is completely normal.
Except within the past month or so, I keep developing these little cuts in the area right above my clitoris. They sting slightly if touched but other than that, they don't cause me any discomfort. It's almost like the skin is splitting, kinda like dry winter skin or something. Usually they heal up within a few days on their own. I've been applying vagisil lately.
Does anyone know what this could be?
I have no idea what it could be. None of us are doctors and even if we were it would be wrong to make a diagnoses over the web. We would need to examine you which cannot be done over the web. It is very possible that if you are sexually active, this would include fingering and oral sex, that you could have some form of an STD.
The fact that you have no symptoms is not quite correct. You have a symptom; "They sting slightly if touched." That may or could be a symptom.
See a doctor and get tested.
I feel like I am trapped !
My Husband and I are constantly arguing and I don't think that I love him anymore.
We bicker about stupid things and he constantly frustrates me.
We have been together for nearly 16 years and married for nearly ten. It is the second marriage for both of us and we are in our early fifties.
At first we loved one another deeply and had a good sex life. He was caring and understanding and was a really nice caring person.
Things started going wrong a few years ago...I can't remember when or why. It was probably a slow degeneration.
Although he seems like the perfect Husband from an outsiders point of view..as he helps around the house, doesn't go out drinking with the boys or gamble and works hard.....I am really bored by him, and don't feel like we are matched intellectually. We argue most, about the fact that he just doesn't listen to me, and this then turns me into a nag !
We went shopping yesterday, and we had a conversation in the car on the way into town...which by the time we had got home, he had completely forgotten what I had said ! This happens on a daily basis...and he doesn't understand how frustrating this is, for me. I have told him that I have concerns about the fact that he might have the early stages of dementia..but he doesn't think so. However, he has a short term memory problem..that is difficult to deal with on a daily basis.
We also argue about the fact that he has no ambitions or goals in life and very much lets life wash all over him. I am much more of a go getter and I often feel that nothing would get done...if I didn't do them. I seem to organise everything that we do, from days out, to meals to holidays and everything inbetween.
He knows there is a huge problem in our marriage..as we have talked about it loads, but he won't go with me and get any outside help. It feels as though it is always me that is trying to sort out our differences and I am getting emotionally exhausted by it all.
We haven't had sex now for nearly six months and sleep in seperate bedrooms...as he works nights and also keeps me awake with his snoring. He doesn't seem very concerned about this..but I am.
The marriage seems to be getting worse and worse and I don't know how much more unhappiness I can take.
I keep telling him what I think is wrong..but he sticks his head in the sand and hopes that the problem will go away, if he ignores it.
We own a house together, and if I move out (becuase he won't) I have nowhere to go. I don't have any family in the area...and I certainly couldn't go to his family.
I don't know what to do !!!! Help.
Like Zane mentioned counselling would probably help. Considering he is s accepting of the fact that he might be in the early stages of dementia. His lack of a sex drive, ambition, short term memory loss and the other things you mentioned could all be systemic of early stages of dementia.
If your husband is in the early stages of dementia, possibly Alzheimer's he will not get better he can only get worse. There are medications that can slow the process but he has to see a doctor.
Divorce will solve your problem but who will care for him? Will his family care for him? There are groups that can help you deal with what is happening too you by virtue of what is happening to him. If he is suffering from some sort of dementia as he continues to decline these groups offer continued support and even help with care giving to the point of offering care giving relief so you can have some time off for yourself.
Unfortunately I don't see your sex life coming back. That is one of the problems inherent in dementia. But before you throw the marriage away make sure of your reason(s) and force your husband to see a doctor and get a proper diagnoses.
Once you have a proper diagnose you can make proper decisions. If your husband is suffering from dementia and it progresses quickly you may have to put him in a care facility. Here again you will be faced with choices, but they will be informed choices.
Once you have a diagnoses the two of you need to see a lawyer while you husband is still in the early stages of this disease. This will allow the two of you to make proper plans to protect your assets in the event you have to place your husband in a care facility. A lawyer will also advise you and your husband on the proper legal paperwork needed for your husband to layout instructions for the care he desire.
I may not have offered you the advice you seek. Hopefully I have offered you the advice you need.
One of my best friends likes me, I wanted to tell him I didn't like him and I tried to but he just isn't getting the point. I just wanna be friends. I couldn't see him as anything more than that. He wants to take me out on thursday and I wanna say no but i don't wanna hurt his feelings and mess up our friendship, what do I do?
The best way to tell a boy you don't want to date him but wish to remain friend is: Tell him you see him more like a brother than just a friend. Someone that you can confide in and look to for protection. To date him would feel like incest.
If that doesn't hit him like a cold shower then you will have to be brutally honest and tell him you just don't want to go out with him.
I believe telling him you see him more like a brother will work well. It is something he can understand and you are honoring your friendship at the same time as telling him you two just can't date because of how your feelings are for him.
so basically i'm so confused and im tired of bullshit. Why is it so hard for a guy to either tell us they like us, or be honest that they don't. Why do they have to play games? I'm in highschool but i'm one who hates hookups I would rather just have one special person there but it's seriously so hard to find because every guys ends up fucking you over and I'm terribly scared to have that happen. I've only kissed one guy but i've still gotten hurt by others...basically the guy I kissed just flat out stopped talking to me after like 6 months of non offical dating but like we both weren't seeing any one else. He made it clear he liked me and basically spent every weekend with me. Then out of nowhere doesn't talk to me and like ignores me at school but if im like walking to my car he'll drive past and stare me down. I just am seriously tired of drama and that feeling where basically you feel like you can't find anyone decent. I don't even know what i'm saying and i guess I just want your opinion why would he do that...=[ it's just how could he say all the things he did to me and one day act like he never said any of it
Teenage boys can be such idiots, I know I was once a teenage boy.
For some teenage boys part of dating is the conquest. Once the get what they are after they need to move on. If they don't get what they are after they need to move on. What they need and what they are looking for generally is sex.
I can't say sex is the reason behind how your, should I say boyfriend or boy friend, treated you is the reason. All teenage males and males in general up to the time they pass from puberty; which can be as late as the mid twenty's, confuse lust with love. As long as their sexual hormones are their driving force their actions can be idiotic, questionable and confusing.
Not all males are this way. In fact not all are this way. Most boys as the mature gain control over their hormones and start to act more responsible, finding them is the problem. In school around their peers force their actions making this the wrong place to find the right boy. I would suggest looking at places where a boy can be more himself and not have to conform to some social expectation or notion.
Where to look? I would suggest you start by sitting down and making a list of things that interest you. I have always found when faced with something like this that putting pen to paper and making a list puts a semblance of order to the situation.
Once you have your list and the list should include all those things you like to do. Eliminate all the strictly girlie things. Leaving things like hiking, boating, photography, nature, history and art to name a few. Cooking is not strictly a girlie thing there are a lot of boys that like to cook. You should include your church as well if you are religious.
Now that you have narrowed your list down to things of interest to both sexes. These are the places you will find the boys who have their heads screwed on more properly. Boys who will be as interested in you as a person as they are in you as a member of the opposite sex. The reason being is that you have a mutual interest in which to build a relationship on.
Sexual attraction and sex will only take a relationship so far. At some point there has to be more to a relationship. That more is mutual interests. A relationship that's starts with mutual interest can build to sexual interest rather than the other way around which frankly fails more often than not. Mutual interests lays a better foundation to build on that sexual attraction.
I hope I have helped. Have a good and Safe Holiday.
The other day this guy ask if he can eat my waffle of if i can suck his pickle but we werent eatin waffles or pickles?! can someone help me please!?
What does Waffle and pickle mean?
If you should write us again please include your age as it is helpful in how we form our answers.
While I have never heard these terms used before in this manner; I would think he is referring to the male(Pickle) and female(waffle) sexual organs.
i am 12 and this guy is 14 about to be 15 and he wants to date realy bad what should i do? i have a boyfriend my age but i still like this other guy! is he to old for me? also i am a girl.
Three years age difference may not sound like much. If you were older say 20 and he 23 it would not be as much of a difference as it is now. Like it or not you are both still considered children; although he is a teenager more mature and more experienced than you are.
It his maturity and experiences that you have yet to experience that is the problem here. You have not yet socialized as he has. You have not experienced how to fend off the advances of a young man seeking sexual gratification which makes you very vulnerable.
I question why a 15 year old would be looking to date a 12 year old. Do you even go to the same schools? Do you have any of the same friends? There are some alarm bells that go off in my head when someone his age looks to date someone so much younger than him. Words like predator and controller come to mind. These are words that make me fear for your safety as he should be dating girls in his own age group and school.
Stick with your current boyfriend. His wanting to date you really bad is another warning bell to me.
The fact that you have asked this question tells me that your internal warning system is telling you something is not right here. If so learn to listen to this alarm system as it will keep you safe. Tell the boy he is to old for you to date. If he continues to harass or plead with you to date him tell your parents and school officials.
Hello!
This may sound a bit odd, but I’m looking for research specifically on brain tumors. I’m looking mainly for links on symptoms, first hand accounts from people who have had malignant tumors, and any other links and information about it.
The reason why is my uncle recently died from some illness related to tumors that lowered his immune system (I think that was it?). All I’ve been able to understand from my family is that, when my uncle was a young man he ended up fainting in the middle of a bowling alley, going to the hospital, and discovered a very large tumor on his brain. They removed it, but the doctors mentioned that it probably would grow back, and chances were my uncle wouldn’t live very long. Well, he lived about thirty? years longer than they believed he would, having a few minor incidents where he had to get tumors removed as they’d started growing back. He was also, due to the chunk of his brain they removed, physically handicapped and unable to walk very well. It was about two years ago that the tumors started to grow back very rapidly, somehow deteriorating his immune system and weakening him.
I’d really just like to learn more about it in order to see the medical and personal things behind what my uncle went through, since I was mostly a child while it was all happening and didn‘t quite understand his death at the end. I’d also like to know about how the size of the tumor or placement affects the person, what happens during hospital procedures, possible chemotherapy? and the like. I’m not asking that someone explain all of this to me here, but if you have some links to decent medical pages about that particular problem or blogs/journals, I’d love to see them.
I have started googling, but to be honest I have no idea where to start (I‘d even be okay with a few topics to start on). I have attempted to ask my grandparents and parents about it, but it’s extremely awkward, they get very (understandably) upset, and I’d rather not have to do so.
Thank you in advance!
I think I understand what you are looking for and I did some web searching on my own. I came up with the same sites the previous advisor did.
I'm going to make a suggestion to you. You have asked some interesting questions. Questions I believe you will have a hard time finding answers to on the web. I'm not fully understanding of your reasons behind your questions though I believe your entitled to the answers.
There are a couple of things you can do to find the answers.
First: If there is a medical school near you. The answers you are seeking will be found for the most part in the medical library. You probably need to be a student of the medical school to access this library or have permission to access the library.
Go on line and find out who is the head of the Oncology Department for the school. Write to that person in a manner similar to how you wrote to us, though more formal and more of a friendly business letter. Ask for permission to use the library to research the information you are looking for. While you are it ask if there is s student or faculty memeber you that could be recommended you could be put in contact with should you need anything explained. Don't forget to put your age in the letter.
The other thing you can do, should there not be a medical school near by is look up the head of Oncology or Neurosurgery at a local hospital. I would look for a Level one Trauma Hospital as they have Neurosurgeons on staff. Write the same letter to us.
Most doctors like teenagers that are inquisitive about medicine and will do anything they can to foster their interest.
I was once taken by ambulance from my home, turned out I had a pinched nerve on my neck. My son a paramedic in training thought my problem was more severe and called for the fire department paramedics who rushed me to the local hospital. When the doctor found out, and after I was diagnosed, that my son was in training to be a paramedic, I became a practice dummy for my son to practice on under the doctors watchful eye. This even though the ER was full of patients.
So with this in mind I think if you make your case to one of these doctors you should find someone who will help you or at least allow you access to where the information you are seeking is more readily available.
Good luck and sorry for your loss.
of the two methods used to determine the volume of a solid, which is more accurate?
Please do your own homework. We are not here to answer homework questions. If you are having trouble with this or any other subject I suggest you ask for tutoring assistance
Hi, 19/f.
I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, we have protected sex.
For some reason, sex hurts me. NOt all positions, just some.
For example, when I'm on top of him and I'm basically bent over him, it doesn't hurt.
But when I'm sitting straight up, or leaned back alittle, a sharp pain happens, and it doesn't go away until I either get off of him, or lower myself.
When he's on top of me, and I put my legs up in the air, it hurts; but when I lay my legs out and not up, it doesn't hurt.
I just don't understand how come it hurts me? I wasn't a virgin when we first started dating, and he's not like super big. He's probably 7 1/2.
Any help? Should I be concerned?
Btw, last time we had sex was Wednesday, and we used a condom, of course; and I was on top and he pushed me up where I was kind of leaning back, and the pain hurt so bad, I started screaming and crying; idk whats going on?
The average vagina is 6 1/2" in depth. Your boyfriend is 7 1/2 inches long. This means he is hitting your cervix when you are having sex. His hitting your cervix should not be causing you the type of pain you are describing and not in just certain positions.
I am going to suggest you make an appointment as soon as possible with your gynecologist to have this checked out. There is no reason you should be in pain during sex, even if your boyfriend is occasionally hitting your cervix.
My bigger concern is the fact that you only experience this pain in certain positions. Their could be a number of different reasons for this any and all of which need to be looked at by a doctor.
I am not a doctor and I can't make any diagnoses. It would be wrong of anyone to do so since it is impossible to examine you over the web.
You know your family medical history, especially the female side of the family and you need to impart this to your doctor. In today's world of medicine more information is better for what is benign to day is tomorrows problem. The more information you and your doctor have the better decisions the two of you can make.
Not going to a doctor for fear of getting bad news is the wrong answer. Early detection of bad news most often results in 100% cures. So please go see your doctor as soon as you can get an appointment with the doctor. In the mean time avoid sexual positions that cause you pain.
I'm not trying to scare you. I truly believe in early detection. My wife is a Breast Cancer survivor because of early detection. I''m not saying this is the cause of your pain either. As said I'm not qualified to make a diagnoses. But ignoring this pain is the wrong thing to do.
Well, Friday the 9th I had anal sex with my boyfriend, which was about a week after my period ended. We didn't use protection and he came inside of me. I'm on birth control, but on either wednesday or thursday I missed my pill but I made it up the next day. Either way, I was caught up on my pills by the time I had sex but I hadn't taken the one for friday.I know that anal sex by itself can't get you pregnant but there might have been a chance that some semen leaked out and could have gone into my vagina. Back to my question, how likely is it that i'm pregnant? I'm really stressed about this and I'm afraid my period won't even show up.
sidenote: i know the whole spiel about having anal sex without protection, diseases, blah blah blah. I don't need a sermon, just an answer to my question.
Look at it this way. When a women goes of birth control to have a child it generally takes at the very least one complete cycle before she can conceive. This is because it takes time for the medication to work out of her system. If you remember you were cautioned at first to continue to use other methods of birth control for the first month. This was to allow time for the medication to build in your system.
By virtue of this analogy: I would say that missing one pill does not raise your risk of becoming pregnant to any greater risk than had you not missed taking your pill.
how do i tell my mom i got my period
Your period is a natural function of the female body. It is not something to be embarrassed about. I'm sure your mother is waiting for you to tell her so she can help you properly care for yourself. The only reason she is not questioning you is she either waiting for you to come to her or waiting until she sees signs when doing the laundry.
I'm sure this is not something you want to announce to your brother(s)if you have any or your father all though I can assure you he knows all about women's periods. What I suggest you do is take mom aside tonight and just say; "Mom I think my period has started."
Mom will probably ask you some questions. Don't be embarrassed by them. She will be asking questions to confirm that in fact your period has started. Then she will do with you what her mother did for her and all mothers do for their daughters when this time comes. She will sit down with you and explain the proper way to care for yourself each month.
Questions you might want to ask mom if she does not cover the topic.
Can I miss a period even though I'm still a virgin? Missing a period can happen for a variety of reasons. Being pregnant is only one of them.
Can I go swimming during my period?
These are just two questions we get asked a lot that I believe you should have answered by your mom. This is the time to ask you mom all the questions you may have.
Just remember; your period is a normal bodily function of a women. There is nothing to be embarrassed about discussing this with your mom now that you have gotten your first period.
I have an almost 5 year old. His father has been paying child support 18 dollars a week for maybe 6 months or less. Hes never given him anything except last year school clothes and this year he sent some christmas gifts never a birthday card. I had tried giving him chances alot in the begining when my son started feeling depressed or ask why doesnt my dad call me back i told him he had one last chance if he screwed it up he was done. he cant just keeping coming in and leaving his kids live. 3 years ago i moved 14 hours away i was a minor at the time and had no choice in the matter at that time he quit seeing his son again i gave him the option to meet us and say good bye he blew it off he is not on the birth certificate because the week before i gave birth to my son he told me it was my dads kids not his. I want to change my sons name which is my maiden name to my married name is there any way to do this with out his permission
You'll need to check with a lawyer on this. What I believe you will need to do is the following:
Your child's father will need to sign away his parental rights. This will require some legal paperwork and also the loss of child support to you.
You husband would have to adopt your son in order to give your son your husbands last name. Again this will require legal paperwork.
Once the paperwork is done the three of you will have to appear in family court for a judge to certify the adoption.
Now the procedure may differ from state to state, though to legally change a name you must petition the court and show cause. Should your husband not wish to adopt your son you could still change his last name to your maiden name. Here again the father would either have to approve or give up his parental rights. You would still need to petition the courts to certify the name change.
I hope this helps.
PS. The deed poll the Drlucina wrote about is a document that is only valid in the United Kingdom and the Irish Republic.
If by chance you are from either of these countries than of course this is the better option.
I am a 13 year old girl and my freind is 11 all of the
sudden she likes a 16 year old is that right is she to younge
another thing our moms say we are to younge to date is that true??
A better question to us might be: IF HER PARENTS ARE NOT AWARE SHE IS DATING A 16 YEAR OLD BOY SHOULD I TELL THEM? MY ANSWER WOULD BE A DEFINITE YES.
If her parents are not aware that she is dating this boy you should tell them or your parents and let your parents tell hers. It is better to have a friend that is mad at you then one who is seriously hurt or worse. (Read on as for why)
All types of alarm bells are going off in my head. Why is a 16 year old boy looking to date and 11 year old girl? Is he looking to date her or is she interested in him and trying to attract his attention? This is important.
If he is the one that is interested in dating her, has been coming on to her, I am very concerned. This to me screams SEXUAL PREDETOR in the making. A 16 your old boy should not be interested in an 11 year old girl. I don't see them in the same schools or in any way traveling in the same circles. So the question I ask is WHY?
At 11 if I was her father I would not allow her to date in the first place. She is to young, still a child and does not have the maturity to understand the social nuances of dating.
That being said, I am not her father or her mother and if they are okay with her dating; I don't think they would be okay with her dating someone 5 years older than she. Not at this point in her life. When she is an adult it will be a different story.
As I said she is still a child. He is a young adult. He will be looking for things from a girlfriend that she is to immature to understand and could very well get her in trouble. Of course I am primarily talking about sex. At 16 he is more mature and more sexually promiscuous than she is at 11. She can and will be easily led astray by not only his age but his ability to convince her to do things his maturity brings.
She may hate you for this but if her parents are not aware she is seeing this boy tell them. You can tell your parents ask them to tell her parents. It is far better to have a friend who may hate you at the moment than a friend who could be seriously hurt or worse by this boy. You can always repair a friendship. Our bodies and minds do not always heal as fast or as well.
Hey there. I'm writing here bc im in need of advice. I'm turning 21 next month. Female. Ever since I can remember, my mom has been extremely involved. She has really pushed me bc she's wanted to know everything about my life. I've let her in, maybe too much. It has gotten to a point where she's very controlling and when she doesn't get her way, she gets extremely upset. Last year, I dyed my hair dark brown. I'm naturally a light brown. But when I was about 17, he insisted that I go blonde. I listened to her and i never questioned the way I look. But, looking back, I really don't like myself as much with blonde hair. I like my natural color or even a little darker. I look relatively young. I'm very petite and i have a very youthful looking face. I don't really drink a lot, I don't smoke and perhaps that has contributed to the fact that i look younger compared to a lot of people around me. Everywhere I go, people always ask me how old I am and swear that I look so young. It gets REALLY old when u hear it EVERY day. When my hair was brown, it made me look a little bit older and I wasn't being asked every single day about my age. I went back to brown last month and she told me if I didnt dye it at least a dark blonde she would never speak to me again. She was crying, throwing things, and having a tantrum. I dyed it to dark blonde so she would stop. But needless to say, I'm constantly being asked my age again and getting gasps. Nice, but old! Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with looking young. But, I'm 21. I want to feel sexy. I want to feel like a woman. Last year, I also had extensions. I needed them for a while, but they were on way 2 long. I recently took them off and now my mom won't let me leave the house without clip ins. It just makes me want to cry. You may say fight with her and let her have a tantrum. But, u don't know how she gets. She is out of control. She is scary. I want to have my hair brown for my birthday which is next month. And i don't want any extensions. I hate them. They hurt and they bother me. She doesn't understand anything. When I tell her I like my hair dark she says that if I change back to dark, she will cut herself and enroll herself in a mental institution. You have no idea what I put up with every day. Our relationship has improved so much. I don't want to ruin it. But, if I don't have my own independence to do what I want to my own hair at 21, what is next?
Wow, you do have a problem. One that I do not see resolving itself as long as you reside in her home or anywhere in close proximity to your mom. Your mother is controlling you, as to why I really cannot say. What I can say is her controlling you is not good for you or her.
Her threat to cut herself and enroll in a mental institution is not very far from what she really needs. I'm not suggesting she cut herself; seeking mental health help is a very good idea.
You are 21 not 12; how you wish to dress, wear your hair or color your hair is your choice as an adult. Your mom needs to understand that. That you are an adult and responsible for yourself. The choices you make are yours and yours alone and if she doesn't like them it she is within her rights to voice her concern, but only to voice her concern. Not to threaten or in any manner cajole you to change. Unless of course she sees you doing something that is wrong and will cause you great harm.
As parents we continue to parent our children even after they obtain adulthood. Why? Simply for the fact we have and will continue to experience more than they have. Your mother has taken her parenting to far, if I am to call her controlling of you parenting. She needs help, the type of help that only a qualified mental health professional can provide. Family counseling might be helpful.
I would start with a visit to her family doctor. Tell him or her what is going on. Ask for a complete neurological work up to rule out any organic reason for her controlling manner. Then a complete physical is in order to rule out any other medical problems that might be underlying. If no physical problems are found then I suggest you ask the doctor to recommend a good counselor for both of you to visit with.
I don't think your mother will go alone. If she thinks you need counseling she will go with you. In this instance a little subterfuge is a good thing.
Hello peoples,
well i was just wondering what happens when a guy goes through puberty, like i know about girls (duh cause i'm a girl) like they bleed but what happens to a guy? Do they have to wear anything? Like I know girls have to wears pads and tampons, do boys have to wear anything!!! Please please please please tell me!!!thanks
Boys don't have periods only girls do. Boys don't have the same problems with puberty as girls do as they do not suffer the physical changes girls do. Boys do suffer growing pains more than girls do as they grow taller than girls and seem to do so in spurts.
The changes boys go through are:
Getting taller
Growing facial hair
Growing more body hair, also pubic and under arm
Voice growing deeper
Getting a more muscular build
able to produce semen