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i want to date an older man but i already have a boyfriend my own age
i am 12 and this guy is 14 about to be 15 and he wants to date realy bad what should i do? i have a boyfriend my age but i still like this other guy! is he to old for me? also i am a girl.
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Well. Not really enough information to go off of...but if you like the fifteen year old boy, why not? Three years is nothing. Just make sure you're not rushing into anything.
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Three years age difference may not sound like much. If you were older say 20 and he 23 it would not be as much of a difference as it is now. Like it or not you are both still considered children; although he is a teenager more mature and more experienced than you are.
It his maturity and experiences that you have yet to experience that is the problem here. You have not yet socialized as he has. You have not experienced how to fend off the advances of a young man seeking sexual gratification which makes you very vulnerable.
I question why a 15 year old would be looking to date a 12 year old. Do you even go to the same schools? Do you have any of the same friends? There are some alarm bells that go off in my head when someone his age looks to date someone so much younger than him. Words like predator and controller come to mind. These are words that make me fear for your safety as he should be dating girls in his own age group and school.
Stick with your current boyfriend. His wanting to date you really bad is another warning bell to me.
The fact that you have asked this question tells me that your internal warning system is telling you something is not right here. If so learn to listen to this alarm system as it will keep you safe. Tell the boy he is to old for you to date. If he continues to harass or plead with you to date him tell your parents and school officials.
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If you already have a boyfriend then I would seriously consider your current relationship.
If you're looking elsewhere then thats worying.
Also its for no one to judge if you're too young or not, but all I would say is be careful-know what this older guy wants.
Is it just sex or is it a serious relationship? I'm afraid people commonly date others their age because they genuinly have things in common and similar experiences (like exams) being the same age.
MAke sure you know what the older guy wants exactly and whether you'd regret loosing your current boyfriend. It's not wise to hop from one bf to another-you'll regret your actions in the long run.
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What about your boyfriend? That sounds kind of unfair that you would think of dating someone else while you are with your boyfriend. I guess in the end you should choose who you feel you're happy with. I think you need to be honest to your boyfriend instead of letting him find out the hard way.
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