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Is 11 too young to date a 16 year old?
I am a 13 year old girl and my freind is 11 all of the
sudden she likes a 16 year old is that right is she to younge
another thing our moms say we are to younge to date is that true??
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eleven years old is still to young to even date.. I mean we all have crushes and we all want to date but you would never know the intentions of this 16 year old . You wouldnt want her to come back with a story or feel peer pressured into anything. If you can help her in any way do so dont stay shut because yu might regret it later.
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A better question to us might be: IF HER PARENTS ARE NOT AWARE SHE IS DATING A 16 YEAR OLD BOY SHOULD I TELL THEM? MY ANSWER WOULD BE A DEFINITE YES.
If her parents are not aware that she is dating this boy you should tell them or your parents and let your parents tell hers. It is better to have a friend that is mad at you then one who is seriously hurt or worse. (Read on as for why)
All types of alarm bells are going off in my head. Why is a 16 year old boy looking to date and 11 year old girl? Is he looking to date her or is she interested in him and trying to attract his attention? This is important.
If he is the one that is interested in dating her, has been coming on to her, I am very concerned. This to me screams SEXUAL PREDETOR in the making. A 16 your old boy should not be interested in an 11 year old girl. I don't see them in the same schools or in any way traveling in the same circles. So the question I ask is WHY?
At 11 if I was her father I would not allow her to date in the first place. She is to young, still a child and does not have the maturity to understand the social nuances of dating.
That being said, I am not her father or her mother and if they are okay with her dating; I don't think they would be okay with her dating someone 5 years older than she. Not at this point in her life. When she is an adult it will be a different story.
As I said she is still a child. He is a young adult. He will be looking for things from a girlfriend that she is to immature to understand and could very well get her in trouble. Of course I am primarily talking about sex. At 16 he is more mature and more sexually promiscuous than she is at 11. She can and will be easily led astray by not only his age but his ability to convince her to do things his maturity brings.
She may hate you for this but if her parents are not aware she is seeing this boy tell them. You can tell your parents ask them to tell her parents. It is far better to have a friend who may hate you at the moment than a friend who could be seriously hurt or worse by this boy. You can always repair a friendship. Our bodies and minds do not always heal as fast or as well.
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Yes.
She is far too young to date a sixteen year old.
A sixteen year old has COMPLETELY different expectations and desires than an eleven year old. They CANNOT be on the same page about what a relationship means or does.
More important, sexual or romantic contact between an eleven year old and a sixteen year old would qualify as pedophilia in several states and sexual interference of a minor in most others.
If she goes behind your mother's back and sees him, your mother would be well within her right to call the police.
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At 11, your friend is still a child. She is unlikely to have the emotional and physical capacity to have a relationship with anyone, especially not someone who is effectively a young adult. It is normal and okay to have crushes on older people, but at 11 it should remain just that: a crush.
As for dating, 13 is probably a good age to start dating in groups and spending time with both guys and girls, but again, I'd say you were still too young for a real relationship.
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