I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
Thanks.
Before anything else, you MUST take a pregnancy test. Panicking and coming to all sorts of conclusions when you're not even certain is foolish. Buy a couple of home pregnancy tests from a pharmacy and find out for sure. Remember that most tests won't work properly until AFTER you've missed a period.
DIY abortions are incredibly dangerous. There's no guarantee that they will work and they can cause serious infection and even death. Make an appointment with your doctor. If it means your parents have to find out then so be it. Abortion is a lot harder and more emotionally damaging than people think. I promise you that you will want your family there to look after you. The chances are that they will be disappointed in you, even angry - but you are 18, they will understand that you are old enough to make your own decisions and hopefully will support you.
Please ensure that you are 100% sure of what you're doing before you go ahead. It is ultimately your decision but it's not one that should be taken lightly. Make sure that you have considered all the factors and possibilities. This is why it is important to have your family there for you, this is something you should discuss with them.
Good luck.
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my bf says it's really hot when i finger myself, && i've heard it from a few guys..
i was just wondering. why is this so hot?
No one can say why individual people enjoy certain things sexually as everyone has different preferences. However, this is a common fetish because it turns people on to see their partner pleasuring themselves. It is also a chance to see what their partner likes and is an opportunity to 'teach' each other about their bodies.
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Hi, I am a singer and I would like to start putting my songs on myspace music..but I need some kind of program to record it. I have a microphone built into my computer, and I have the program sound recorder, but I get soo much backround noise. Is there a way to reduce the sound, and make it sound more professional?
There are plenty of programmes out there but they tend to be expensive. To begin with I suggest you download Audacity, which is free software designed to edit and record music. It has a tool on it which will enable you to remove some background noise and get a better sound quality. The link to download it is below.
http://audacity.sourceforge.net/
If you are serious about your music career, you might find it useful to do some research into recording studios. Studio time can be very expensive, so it might not be appropriate for you right now but getting your music professionally recorded will give a much better quality of sound.
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So, I'm 18 years old, I started my period like 5 years ago and it is still irregular!! (I've been on BC before, but I don't care for it too much.) I've noted that it's irregular in that it always comes later than last month's. Anyways, this Sunday I'm moving into college and I really, really don't wanna be moving in and wondering if it's coming that day and what not. Plus, I don't want it to start right when I get to college!!! Also, a great amount of pain is involved for me and I don't want to be dealing with that while I'm moving/getting settled either! Anyways, I was wondering if there was a way to make it come sooner? In the past, I have taken BC for a few nights, then quit, knowing it would come. However, I don't think I have enough time for that!
Aside from taking birth control, unfortunately there isn't alot you can do to delay your period. You might find it beneficial to visit your doctor and explain your problem. You should consider possibly going on other birth control methods other than the Pill such as the injection, which stops your periods altogether for as long as it lasts (I believe this is up to 2 years but I'm not entirely sure).
As you only have a very short amount of time left, it's unlikely that you will be able to get this before you leave. However, if you do manage to visit your doctor in time, he/she may be able to prescribe you with some strong painkillers to help with the cramps.
Other than that, you will just have to make sure that you have a small 'emergency kit' stashed in your handbag. Make sure you bring your preferred choice of sanitary protection, a change of underwear and some painkillers. If you're worried about it coming suddenly with no warning, you might like to use a pantyliner (a smaller, thinner version of a pad, designed to absorb everyday discharge) so that you don't get caught out.
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Does having an orgasm delay your period. 14/f, I was supposed to get my period but i noticed whenever i masturbate a day or two before it it always delays itself. Is that normal and is it a health concern to delay it. It usually takes a week to come if I do that, but I did it again so now its like two weeks late and i did yesterday so it will probably be even more late. Is that normal. Will it cause any health concerns?
Orgasm and periods are unconnected, it's likely to just be a coincendence that your period is late when you masturbate.
During the teenage years, it's common for periods to be irregular and it really isn't dangerous for it to be a week or two late. As you get older, you'll probably become more regular but some women don't. It's not a problem and you don't need to be concerned about your health. Just appreciate the extra period-free time!
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Hey ,
I have been working out at the gym a lot , and me and my friend have been wondering , is there any exercises or anything to make your boobs and/or butt bigger??
Thank you :)
Betty
Sadly, there isn't much you can do to make your boobs physically bigger. However, you can do excercises to enlarge your chest muscles which can enhance their appearance as it will push them out. The same goes for your butt.
You might find this website useful for some excercise targetting specific areas ideas:
http://www.toneteen.com/pages/fitness.htm
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This recipe makes 4 servings, but if I were to have one serving of it, do you think it would be about 400-600 calories?
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/guy-fieri/morgans-veggie-patties-recipe/index.html
Thanks.
My estimate is that it would be around 300/400 calories. It will definitely be under 600, so you don't need to worry there. If you want more information, try looking up the components on the following website:
http://www.calorie-count.com/
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If I eat mostly fruits and vegetables during the day, and then a small sized meal in the evening (such as rice and some meat) will that help me loose weight?
Eating a healthy and balanced diet is always ideal, so of course this will help you lose weight. However, it's best to combine it with regular excercise. Make sure that you are getting all the major food groups in. Fruit and vegetables are a great healthy choice but you also need protein and fibre so ensure that you are eating that meal in the evening. You also need to be careful that you are eating enough to keep your energy and blood sugar levels up during the day.
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Okay I don't have a purity ring yet, but I vowed to stay sexually pure until marriage. That obviously means no sex until marriage but does that mean no masterbating or anything like that? Like what are the guidlines most people who vow to stay sexually pure until marriage live by?
It's up to the individual to decide what they see as 'impure' before marriage. Some believe that anything beyond kissing, including masturbation is wrong. Others believe that anything other than sex is fine. In my opinion, sexual desire is a natural, human feeling and masturbation is acceptable. However, this also depends on your opinions on fantasies/pornography etc. It's a personal decision.
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Okay, I was dating this guy who I was with for two years (we're not together anymore).
I lost my virginity to him, but honestly I didn't enjoy having sex with him.
I'm trying to make this as clean as possible, because I really don't want to break the rules, but I need help.
Anyway, he would want to do it all the time, but if I said I didn't feel like it, he'd tell me to stop being selfish and that sometimes you have to put your feelings aside for the one you love.
So, sometimes I'd give in, but sometimes I'd keep saying no, and he'd as if he could just "put it in" once so he could go and take care of it himself or something. Sometimes I'd let him, sometimes I wouldn't.
But one time when I did let him, he didn't just do it once, so I told him to stop, and he didn't. So I kept telling him to stop and eventually I was crying and he held my arms down so I couldn't fight him until he came...
Now he's trying to say it wasn't rape because I willingly let him put it in, and he tried to say I liked it, which I swear I didn't. I was crying the whole time.
I know it's probably a stupid question, and I'm not planning on going to the police or anything because it happened about a year ago, I just need to know for my own sake if that would be considered rape or not.
Thanks.
If someone forces themselves on you then it is rape. If someone doesn't stop when you tell them to then it is rape. It doesn't matter if you 'let him put it in' because you told him to stop and he didn't. The fact that he was holding you down to stop you from fighting back and that you were crying makes the situation even more serious.
I can understand if you don't want to go to the police. Cases like this are incredibly hard to prove and it would be very stressful and upsetting for you to go through. However, pressing charges could prevent him from doing this to other girls in future.
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For some reason, I can't cry at funerals because I just don't cry that often.
But I was wondering if this was bad or heartless? Because once my cousin got mad at me because I wasn't crying at her dad's funeral and it makes me feel awful that I can't cry during these times.
Are there any other ways to display emotion, if not in tear-form?
Everyone displays emotion differently. Some people express emotions such as sadness or anger through aggression and violence, others suppress their feelings and try and ignore them and some do nothing at all. Just because you don't cry when you're sad doesn't mean that you're heartless or grieving any less.
If you're finding it difficult to express how you're feeling, try keeping a diary or scrapbook. Putting your emotions down on paper is a really good way of working things out in your head. Poetry and drawing/painting are also good ways of displaying emotion.
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i want to loose some weight before school starts in the fall. anyone have some diet suggestions? (:
A balanced diet teamed with regular excercise is the healthiest and best way to lose weight. Crash and fad diets will cause you to lose large amounts of weight, but you'll only put it all back on again once you start eating normally.
Simple things like cutting out unhealthy snacks and replacing them with low calorie, low fat options such as fruit will make a difference. The key is to eat small, healthy meals and often.
Example:
Breakfast: Bowl of museli with semi-skimmed milk and fruit
Mid-morning snack: Fruit/handful of cashew nuts
Lunch: Homemade sandwich (shop bought sandwiches often have a high fat and salt content, even the 'healthy' ones) on wholegrain bread with low fat margarine and your favourite filling - smoked salmon and low fat cream cheese or chicken and salad are good examples of healthy options.
Afternoon snack: Three crackers with low fat cottage cheese
Evening meal: Grilled fish with cous-cous and steamed vegetables
Obviously you don't have to stick exactly to that, and you'll want to vary it from day to day but try to choose meals along those lines.
As for excercise, you don't have to spending four hours at the gym everyday. Check the following website out for simple excercises that you can do at home:
http://www.toneteen.com/pages/fitness.htm
Find a friend and go running with them every morning or evening depending on what suits you both.
Another tip is to walk wherever possible instead of driving or getting the bus. If there is somewhere that you can't realistically walk to, then get off the bus one stop early or park/get dropped off before you reach your destination and go the rest of the way by foot.
Remember, it's all about eating healthily and doing regular excercise. Don't be tempted to skip meals in the hope that you will lose weight faster because it's not healthy and it won't stay off.
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Alright, so me and my best friend are EXTREMELY close. We can tell each other anything and we trust each other completely. We hang out a lot and stuff and we're both addicted to taking pictures and stuff, so we go to the mall and take crazy pictures all the time. According to another of our friends, who is really really honest about anything, we are acting like lesbians? I don't know how, I mean we just like to hang out, like normal "best friends" should. I'm straight and I don't know about my best friend, but she says she is so I believe her. Not that there's anything wrong with lesbians, but if people think you are and you aren't, it can kinda mess up some relationships. I guess what I want to know is; how do you and your best friend act? if it's similair to the way we act, do people call you a lesbian? Thanks!
I think that's ridiculous. My best friend and I are incredibly close. We've known each other for around 13 years and we spend most free evenings at each other's houses or doing something together. We've even kissed before as a joke at a party and I think I can safely say that no one has ever called us lesbians.
Your behaviour does not sound at all 'abnormal' for close friends and I think your better off just ignoring the people making the comments. You know you're just friends and they're only trying to stir up trouble. They might even be jealous of your friendship. It's not worth worrying about.
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i just read the kite runner, and i've never cried so much for a book or a movie. i want to watch the movie for it cause i hear it's good, but it got 67% on rottentomatoes.com. would you recommend it?
i hate reading books then watching the movies because, for example, when i read to kill a mockingbird, the director of the movie, imo, did a HORRIBLE job. things happened in the movie that were not explained at ALL! (e.g., when boo's brother cemented the hole in the tree). so i'd appreciate it if you could be honest! i'll rate you based on honesty & reasoningg
I would absolutely reccommend it. I actually read the book after I saw the film and I was surprised at how true the latter was to it. It is a brilliant piece of cinema in its own right but I really do think it does an amazing job of representing the book. The acting and cinematography is excellent and it's also incredibly moving. In my opinion, I don't think you will be at all disappointed and it is definitely worth seeing.
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14/F
Everybody knows how guys look at lesbian things, right? Like, playgirl or something? People consider that normal for a guy or whatever. Well, what about a girl who looks a gay guy things? See, I have met a lot of gay men in my 14 years of life. They're really nice to talk to and interesting to hang out with. Just recently, I discovered, yes only just discovered, that there is such thing as yaoi, Japanese for gay porn.
Well, I was flipping through pictures of anime yaoi. You know, because it's techincally not as GRAPHIC as the normal kind of stuff... ANYWAY, I found an interest in writing the yaoi for homosexual friends of mine. I got very good reviews on the stories so far and it makes them feel good knowing that somebody out there actually enjoys their... Interests, I guess is the word? Well, some people disagree with it. I don't mind. ^^ Also, I was just wondering, is it considered a bad thing that I am interested in this 'gay' stuff? I mean, I never thought of it as bad until a friend of mind said so. Please help me with this. ^^;
-Cheesecake
Everyone is interested in different things. This includes the sexual. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing, it just could be seen as inappropriate because of your age. It's actually a really common thing and if you Google it or look it up on a site such as LiveJournal, you'll find plenty of websites and communities where you can meet other people who do this and share your work.
As I mentioned before, the fact that you are only 14 is the only thing which is wrong here. As far as I know what you're doing isn't illegal, it's really just cause of what you think is morally right.
If you're good at writing, why not try your hand at something else? You might be interested in something like fanfiction.
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yeah yeah i know thatt it IS PRETTY SELF EXPLANATORY.
they test it on the animal and see if there is any side effect or whatever reactions to the make up.
but why is it a BAD THING!? this girl said she would rather not get makeup that IS etsted on animals.... WTH?
isnt it a good thing that they test it on animals so you know if it can harm you!? AS A PERSON!??
someone give me a better explanation.
p.s. yes i know it sucks for the animal but im talking on behalf of my knowledge on that term.
Animal testing can be incredibly stressful and distressing for the animals involved. Yes, it does mean that human beings have cosmetics that don't damage them in any way but many people believe that it is cruel and inhumane to force animals to go through that pain. Animals can't speak for themselves, they have no choice but to be subjected to these tests. No, they're not human - but they're still living creatures.
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Ok, well i straighten my hair everyday because if i don't then it will be poofy and thick and really ugly. But since i straighten my hair everyday it breaks off and gets split ends. Is there anything i can do or use that will make my hair not frizzy from all the breakage from the straightner? Not using the straightner is not an option. Thanks!
I suggest you invest in a heat protection spray. There are loads of different brands to choose from for different hair types and you'll be able to find them at any place that stocks hair products. I personally would reccomend TRESemme but there are plenty of other brands to suit your price range/requirements etc. Just spray it through your hair everytime you use any heat.
Another tip is to get regular trims. It doesn't need to be alot, just the very ends of your hair. This will help keep your ends neat and healthy.
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I'm really getting into Reggae
But I only know a few like by Bob Marley and Sumblime if they can be counted as reggae
Im just looking for music like their style
mayeb evem like Jack Johnson, Sittin, Waiting, Wishing, and Jason Myraz- I'm Yours
So what Im asking is does anyone have suggestions for this kind of style? I need a new Chillen/Jammin playlist :) thanks!
I would highly reccomend Bedouin Soundclash, in particular their second album 'Sounding A Mosaic'. It's hard to pick individual tracks from that as they're all brilliant but I suggest you listen to 'When the Night Feels My Song' if you want to test them out.
Other good tracks I'd reccomend are:
Israel Kamakawiwo'ole - Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Labi Siffre - It Must Be Love
UB40 - If It Happens Again
Cat Stevens - Wild World
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my friend got her cartilage pierced and ridiculously got it done by her friend who is not a professional. everything was sterilized but it's been about a week and a half and he ear is red, infected, and there's like puss surrounding the ear. on top of it, the earing got pushed into her ear so she's in complete pain.
my question is how can she take it out the least painfully way? she CANNOT go to the hospital today and it's really bad. please any help would be wonderful.
If you go to any professional piercing studio and show it to them, they will usually take it out for you free of charge or advise you on the best course of action to take. Do not attempt to take it out yourself, the stress to the wound could cause extra scar tissue to form. In some cases, it is neccessary to leave the jewellery in for a while so that the pus can drain because sometimes removal means that it is trapped, causing an abscess to form.
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i have this bump under my tounge. my mom said its like a pimple. i was wondering what it is & how did i get it? is not like herpes or any STD right?
It sounds like a common ulcer. Some people get them all the time, some don't get them at all. They are a bit like pimples in the mouth and should go away on its own after a few days.
It doesn't sound like an STD symptom. Herpes actually appears around the mouth, not inside it. If you are still worried then get it checked out by your doctor to be on the safe side.
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