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Staying sexually pure until marriage
Okay I don't have a purity ring yet, but I vowed to stay sexually pure until marriage. That obviously means no sex until marriage but does that mean no masterbating or anything like that? Like what are the guidlines most people who vow to stay sexually pure until marriage live by?
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My sincere congratulations to you. Although you don't have a purity ring yet (as you say), I appreciate your decision of staying sexually pure. I believe in the same principle as you do as far as sex before marriage is concerned. As far as masterbation is concerned, I would like to say, try to avoid it as much as you can. The thing here is that if you do not get involved in sexual relationship untill marriage but masterbate, you remain pure only phsically but certainly not psycologically. This is my belief. You have the freedom to disagree. However, it is important for me to include that I myself, at times, falter on my principles. If you are wondering I am a hypocrite who suggests to do something, however, does not follow himself, well, we all are like that since we are only human beings and we can never be perfect. You should attempt at not masterbating at all and then you will probably end up doing it with very less frequuency. I aim at not doing it at all but I end up doing it occassionally. However, in no way, I am trying to mean you will also end up doing it with less requency as I do. You may end up doing it with even lesser frequency or for that matter NOT AT ALL! It depends a lot on your ability to control your sexual desires. Hope I have been able to answer you. May God, The Merciful, bless you wil absolute bliss.
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Good for you in deciding to stay pure to marriage, that is the best decision you can make, I wear a purity ring and I am abstinent also, for me personally, everyone is different, its your choice, I promised God I wouldn't go past making out.
You make up your own guidelines, just do what feels right. I don't believe any kind of sexual act is appropiate until marriage, but that is my personal decision.
And the purity ring is really helpful, its a constant reminder that my promise to God is more important than my hormones and emotions.
Yours in Christ,
Jeannie
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For your own sanity, don't let anyone but yourself touch you below the waist, and masturbate constantly.
People build sexual tension. Its part of being human. Everyone is horny, some more than others but especially between 13 and about 35 you're designed to want sex badly for both procreation and interpersonal intimacy reasons.
Honestly, I don't see sex before marriage as a bad thing. Sexual chemistry is just like everything else to me, you have it with some people and you don't with others, and I prefer to know before taking a step like marriage.
But thats not the topic. My reason for advising the limits to you are simple. If you let a guy touch you, you WILL eventually want to do more. The problem with that is twofold. One, you will want to do more and your own vow of purity thing will be in conflict with that. Two, sexual desire is powerful. Very powerful. Its to the point where wanting to be with someone that way can and often IS misconstrued as love. You can make bad choices because you want someone
Sex is great, its fun, and its ALWAYS better with another participant. So stick to masturbation (to keep yourself sane and in check) and avoid everything else as much as possible.
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It's up to the individual to decide what they see as 'impure' before marriage. Some believe that anything beyond kissing, including masturbation is wrong. Others believe that anything other than sex is fine. In my opinion, sexual desire is a natural, human feeling and masturbation is acceptable. However, this also depends on your opinions on fantasies/pornography etc. It's a personal decision.
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good for you :D i just recently,decided to do the same as you,i got my purity ring about a week ago.Anyways,their really is'nt any "guidelines" persay just here is what the bibles version is:
Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Song of Solomon 1:7 - Do not stir up nor awaken love
Until it pleases.
1 Corinthians 7: 9 - but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
so it's basically,nothing at all sexually including masturbation.But you can make your own guidelines like you can do oral sex before marriage but not the actual intercourse,or masturbation before marriage but no oral or intercourse before that,or no form of sex altogether.It's really what you want to do.Mine is no intercourse before marriage.
♥ danielle
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