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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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I don't know how to re-write my question. No one could under stand what i was saying. And my question was deleted.Someone answered it thou. She or he ask me to re-write it. I was rushing and did not re-read was I said. Sorry. Thanks for answering.
Quick tip for writing a question.
In the title: In as few words as possible tell us what you need to know or ask us to answer.
Example: I'm being harassed at school.
Putting a good title as to what help you need will get you more help and helpful answers.
In the body of your question tell us what is happening to you. Keep it as short as you can. We do not need to know names. In this example just what is happening and who you may have gone to for help.
Then we can offer suggestions as to other people you can go to for help Use your best English and writing skills so that us older folks can understand you better.
Please help I'm only 11 (almost 12) and I DO NOT have my period yet but I noticed a breast lump and since I am young my breasts r still small but any ways I found a golf ball cut in half sized lump in BOTH my breasts (1 in each breast) in the direct middle of my breasts I'm soooo scared cause I think I may have breast cancer or some breast illness I told my mom too and I read a book about having lumps in breasts and saying that It was normal for young girls PLEASE HEELP!!!
First, relax the chances of this being cancer are really, really low. But you need to have the lumps checked out by family doctor and a Surgeon. A mammogram is in order so the doctors can visualize the lump to determine what and where it is.
My neighbor who when she was your age found similar lumps in her breasts. They turned out to be some very long word that means non-cancerous lumps. The doctors felt it was best to remove them so would not interfere in later years with breast development or milk production. She had what is called a lumpectomy to remove them.
When she finished maturing her breast grew to 36DD's. Which after her first child shrunk to a 34 B or C. Today she is 64 years old and the grandmother of 4. She has never had another problem with lumps in her breasts.
Now that is what happened to her. Everyone is different and everyone's problems will be different. You are young and the chances of Breast Cancer are so very slim you should not be so scared. You need to see your family doctor. Then have a Mammogram and see a surgeon to discus if they should be removed. This is something your parents are going to have to decide so talk to them and listen to the doctors.
The doctor will tell you if and when it is time to worry.
What to do with a gambler
The best thing you can do for a gambler is try to get them to go to Gamblers Anonymous. I've included a link to their website below. You can also call them at 1-888-GA=HELPS.
Gamblers Anonymous works much like Alcoholics Anonymous. For this to work the person has to be ready to stop gambling and want to quit. Generally speaking this means the person has to have hit bottom. Each person has their own bottom.
For my brother in-law, an alcoholic, it was waking up in the drunk tank. Today he is sober for over 20 years thanks to AA and the cop that arrested him who has also been his friend since the arrest.
The success rate of AA and GA is extremely high but only if the gambler or alcoholic is ready to stop. If they are ready this is the best advice I can offer.
http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/node/1
Hi!
I'm 12 and I had back surgery 4 years ago, and I still do every 6 months for growing rods, and a part of my back (beneath my shoulder) is and has been numb, and I can't feel anything there. Is this serious? Also, will it go away?
Whenever there is an invasive procedure nerves are cut. This is something that is an unavoidable part of surgery. The area around the incision will take time to get some feeling back if it ever gets full feeling back. How long this takes differs from person to person. Nerves are the slowest portion of our bodies to regenerate.
Now the numbness in your back may or may not be caused by any nerves that were damaged during the surgery. This is something you need to make your parents and the doctors aware of.
I am not a doctor so I can't say what your feeling is normal or abnormal. If it is normal the doctors will tell you. If it is not normal they will try and correct it.
My best advice since this is going to be an ongoing situation, surgery, that you keep your parents and doctors very aware of what and how you feel. Hiding any pain, numbness or anything that does not feel right to you is not in your best interest. Don't worry about what the doctor will think of your questions or complaints. The doctor needs to hear these things in order to properly treat you.
Your parents need to know these things so that they can communicate them to the doctor for you. So talk to your parents and let them know about the numbness.
i dont feel appericated in my relationship....
In order to help you or give you any advice we will need more information. Information such as why you feel this way and what you expect would be helpful. What you have written is just to generic to write or offer any advice.
if i had sex with a girl and do not come in her at all and the next day i give her an i pill and after few days she got her period can she be pregnant by any chance. (i am from india)
The fact that you did not come in her does not mean you didn't leave any sperm in her. You are forgetting about pre come, which is a lubricant that you excrete during sex involuntarily, something you don't even feel. There is enough sperm in pre come to make a women pregnant. For this reason alone you should use a condom.
The fact that she has gotten her period says she is not pregnant. Whether the I pill worked or not I can't say. It is generally effective but not meant as birth control. For birth control a condom should be used or other method more reliable than withdrawal.
Last night my boyfriend and I somewhat had sex for both our first times. we stopped very early because we did not use a condom and he had little rough patches/scar type things. is there anything that could be? also could just short contact transfer anything?
I agree with DangerNerd. When it comes to STDs you can never be to safe. If you see something on your partner that your not sure about, don't have sex with him, even if he is willing to wear a condom. Condoms do not stop the transfer of all STDs only some of the.
Before having sex with someone you believe to have an STD ask then to get checked by a doctor or clinic and to show you the results. If the your partner refuses then you don't want to have any type of sexual contact with him.
My mum has been very angry at me lately. I got this new Smiggle diary of 2012. She thinks it's completely useless and she began yelling at me for no reason.
Since my great-grandfather died, my mum has been really upset. She gets angry often at anyone who disagrees to her or, in her point of view, doesn't appreciate what she has done to this family.
That day I was using it and she just came into my room. I have a cellphone, so she sometimes uses it to use the Internet.
When she saw me writing in my diary, she immediately asked how much it costed me. When I told her it was $20, her face got red and she was immediately angry. She told me I should stop spending money and do something good for the family. Then she said really nasty things about me. She said I don't belong in this family at all, I'm way too nasty. I got really upset and began crying. She slapped me across the face and said all I ever do is to cry and cause trouble. I went into my room and punched through the wardrobe door. The bits of wood cut up my hand and it began bleeding really bad. My mum said that I deserved it and that if I need the hospital, I'll have to pay by myself.
That was what I did. I paid my only $50 I saved up during three years. Then after that me and my mum barely talk much again.
A few days later, I searched up a celebrity on the Internet. Then I forgot to shut down the computer. My mum then used it and began yelling at me, saying I should focus more on studying. I was actually only searching her up because I was trying to draw her hairstyle. I didn't bother explaining to my mum. I pushed past her, grabbed a bottle of water by the sofa and walked out. When I was halfway down the driveway my mum was yelling "if you've got guts then never come back". That immediately made me angry. I told her to mind her own business, I'm 16 already. She slapped me across the face and pushed me across the garden. I yelled out "god I'm not your daughter okay so leave me alone".
Now people were coming out. They saw my left cheek, which was stained by blood, and my bleeding elbow (because when she pushed me, I landed against the fence). Some people were yelling at my mum, telling her to stop doing this to me. Some people were just staring in shock. I picked up the bottle of water that I have dropped and left the house. I slept over at my friend's that night. I'm still there right now. I'm planning to try a different friends house next week, or maybe the hotel near the beach where I live because I've got a few bucks in my pocket. Or maybe not. I should go to my aunt's house or something. I don't know what I should do.
I'm going to go home again. But I don't know what my mum would do to me. I'm just scared. Can any of you help?
At first I thought I might be giving you advice on how people grieve. Then I finished reading what you wrote.
If you are in the USA your mom just can't turn you out as it appears she has done. I'm surprised the emergency room did not inquire further about the bruises to your face. Hitting a child, even one your age, across the face or anywhere other than a slap on the butt, is child abuse. So is what happened in your front yard. Any of your neighbors could have called the police.
Now if the way mom is treating you is only since her grandfather died it could be grief related though very extreme. If so there is something else wrong that requires a doctors attention. It is very likely she is suffering an extreme form of depression and lashing out at anyone and everyone.
What you need to do is protect yourself. You should not have to subject yourself to her slapping or pushing you into fences or down on the ground. As I said this is child abuse, even at your age. You should also not be needing to sleep at or depend on the good nature of your friends and their parents to have a place to sleep or eat at. Since you have not mentioned your dad this is what I suggest you do.
When you go to school tomorrow talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them what you have written to us. By law once you have told them what you have written us they are required to protect you. They will call the appropriate agencies to see to your protection and to find out what is bothering your mother.These agencies will also see to it that your mother gets the help she needs.
If you don't want to tell a teacher or principal you can go to any Police or Fire Station for help. You can also go to any Hospital Emergency Room. Any or all of these places will see to your safety as well as to that of someone findinding out what is wrong with mom and geting her any help she needs.
Any Fire Station is a Safe Haven for Children. If the Fire Station is not manned there will be a Red Call Box an the front of the station. Pick up the pone and tell the dispatcher you need help. Fire Fighters will be summoned to the station to help you.
My niece has a secret crush on my husband. She loves to cuddle with him so I let her. I let him lay down in bed with her and hold her when she's sad or scared. She wrote a love note to him yesterday and it was really sweet. She even asked him to marry her. He gives her hugs and kisses and he plays with her too. She's upset because she knows she can't be in a real relationship with him. She thinks he's cute and funny and he is. Me and him have been married for almost 13 years. We don't have any children. She really loves him and she really wants to be with him. Every time I try to explain our marriage to her she gets upset and cries. How can I explain it to her ? She's 5 years old. He's 35 almost 36.
Your niece had a crush on her Uncle. For her age this is not a bad thing or unusual if you are a close family both in relationship and geography. At her age she does not understand the concept of love and marriage. To her it is a game so talking to her about this is confusing and frustrating. Meaning you may as well be talking to a wall for all the good it is doing. She will grow out of this phase so you really just need to monitor her and direct her interest to other places when you can.
At age 5 her cuddling in bed with your husband is becoming inappropriate. It may be meaningless to you and your husband, even to her parents. To your coworkers or others that may become aware of this it could be a red flag of child abuse or sexual abuse. This is an activity you need to redirect. As she gets older sitting on your husbands lap is another activity that will need to be redirected. Not because of anything that is being done is wrong, but because of the world we live in today and the appearance of impropriety and what other people will make of it.
My wife and brother on-law had the good fortune to have a loving Aunt and Uncle who were not able to have children. The Aunt and Uncle became a second set of parents to them, something that was very fortunate as they grew up the children of a coal miner. What their parents couldn't afford the Aunt and Uncle provided along with an abundance of extra love. You can be the same to your niece and her future siblings if you care to be.
Don't try to explain love and marriage to her right know, she just doesn't understand it. Right know she is looking for the love she is getting from you and your husband. I think in much the same way my wife and brother in-law got from their Aunt and Uncle.
I need advice on how to get my man to take control in the bedroom when we have sex its because I'm the one telling him to get upstairs and get his clothes of but I would really like it if he could make the first move and suprise me I'm the one who talks dirty and puts outfits on for him just once I would love it if he could just do that one thing for me
You did not say if you are married or just living together. Doesn't really matter much, what your seeing is the real side of men once we get comfortable with our mates. Most men are just not the romantics Hollywood and writer portray us to be.
They will probably kick me out of the men's club for saying this. Fact is when we get horny we will find you and take you to bed probably not in a very romantic way. We will make love to you or just jump your bones and then rollover and go to sleep. We sort of feel we are a couple now if we want sex all we need to do is sorta ask for it or wait until you want it.
I'm a firm believer that in everything sexual it is the women that must teach the man. Here again they will kick me out of the club for this. But it is true. The man gets satisfaction much easier than the women so it is up to you to teach him what your needs are.
For what you are looking for from him may require a carrot and stick approach. If you can get him to be more dominant in the bedroom then maybe you can give him something he has been wanting and it does not have to be something sexual in return. But to have an enjoyable sex life it is important for each of you to teach the other what your needs are.
Just remember one thing. As long as both of you consent, and neither is hurt then their is nothing that is string or weird. Consenting is the magic word. If you both consent then you try it. If one doesn't like something then don't do it again, at least you tried it.
Ok I really need help. I have a problem with my emotions being to sensitive. Like I'll get really happy and really sad about the smallest things. And when things go wrong I get really upset like this girl hurt me and I wanna like die. Like does anyone know how to do something or take something so I can be like carefree I see people that are like whatever and don't let stuff like relationships and feelings bother them I wanna be like that. I also get jealous and mad over stupid stuff please help ASAP!!!!!
You have not said how old you are. What you have written about could be seen as some normal problems brought on by puberty and the new hormones floating around in you. Since puberty starts at different ages for each child it is hard to say.
The type of emotional cycle you write about may or may not be totally based on hormone disruption. Your age is the biggest factor here something I don't have to use in giving you any advice. There Is no magic pill you can buy over the counter to make this cycle stop.
What you need to do is speak with your doctor as the problem may not be directly linked to puberty and hormones. What the doctor needs to decide is if the problem is linked to puberty then he or she can chose the proper medication to help you with this.
Being screened by your doctor is the only true way to find out if you actually have a medical problem. Then the doctor can help you deal with this.
My husband and I attended His brother's daughter's wedding. We are the very immediate family.All of my husband's brothers and sisters(also immediate family) and their spouses were seated at the front of the room at table 1 and 2 ,however we were assigned seats in the very back of the room.We were surprised and saddened by their choice to put us there. The whole family is very kind ,loving and religious.There are no problems between any of us, we really love all of them. We feel so hurt. Should we address this? If so ,Is there a polite way to do it?I am lost and so hurt. Thank You
I can think of a few reasons as to why you were selected to sit in the back, all of which should have come with a brief explanation. There are only so many seats at a table and if all of the family cannot be accommodated at one or two tables then you select certain members to sit with people they know so they can have an enjoyable evening.
Usually you pick a close family member to do this for you. Someone who would not be offended but would understand. It is also possible that the Bride is closer to the other family members than you and your husband and you were selected on this basis. For whatever reason your brother or sister in-law should have said something to you so as not to injure your feelings when not seated with the rest of the family. No one likes to be treated as the family outcast which is I'm sure how you feel.
That being said, do you say something to your brother in-law. For you personally I would say no; you are the in-law. If he owes anyone an explanation it would be directly to his brother. If your husband does not wish to take the issue up with his brother then their may be an issue between them you are not aware of or something else. As the direct family member the issue is his to raise directly with his sibling, not yours.
At least that is how I see it. As someone who is also an in-law; when their are problems within my wife's family, unless she asks me to step in I sit on the sidelines and let her handle her family and I handle my family. We have done so for 40 plus years and I believe it is one of the secrets to our long successful marriage.
me and my girl friend juat broke up because she thinks my d**K is to big, is tht such a bad thing or a bad thing at all
First: Your ex needs to remember what her vagina is designed to for, which is the birth of a child. A child is much larger than any penis I have ever heard about. If you are larger than average (see below) she may have been scared and it was your job to calm her and make her comfortable, not just pound into her.
Second: If in fact you are overly endowed. Remember that sex is for the enjoyment of both partners and that you may be longer or wider than a vagina is designed to accommodate during sex. If so it does not mean you can't have sex. It means you need to be more gentle especially at first until she becomes comfortable with you being in her if the problem is your girth. If it is your length then you need to shorten your stroke so you are not pounding her cervix and hurting her.
Below is some information you may find use full:
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.
As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.
So if your dimension are above average a women can accommodate you. She needs more stimulation so that she is properly lubricated and you need to be aware not to pound her cervix and cause her pain.
Hey :D 13/F. I think my mom is over protective coz I am 13 I may not 1.have a BF. 2.Sleep at my friends house. 3.Go to the mall with my friends. 4.wear high heels. 5.go to a party. I know I should enjoy her but she is making me nuts. And I don't want to tell her. Plz help
Let me tell you it is tough being a parent these days. There is just so much to worry about and to protect our children from, much more then when we were children or so it seems. (Read on, I will make my point, you need the background to understand the why)
Frankly the world has not changed all that much since we were your age. What has changed is the news cycle. Meaning how fast the news of today is delivered to us. Today we have almost instant access to any event the media thinks is news worthy. Whereas when I was your age what happens today depending on how news worth it is we may have seen it in tomorrows afternoon newspaper or the following mornings newspaper.
Yes we use to get two newspapers a day. Reporters had time to flesh out a story and report facts not sensationalism as they do today. Today we get raw news and in many instances we see things as they happen. This scares Thar heck out of us especially the stories about child predators which seem to be more prevalent today.
So yes; mom is being a little over protective but maybe it is because it is not that she does not trust you; it is because she does not trust others and fears for your safety.
Going to mom and telling her that Mary or Sally's mom allows them to do these things will not win you the freedom you want. It never worked for me or any other child with over protective parents.
First of the 5 things you named forget about the high heels for now as that is something you can deal with next year when you are a little older. It won't kill you not to have high heels this year.
Of the remaining four things you want to do pick two. If I were you I would pick going to mall and a party. Then you need to present to mom a calm and reasonable case for allowing you a chance with these two.
Start with the mall. If I were you I would ask her to take you and a few friends to the mall. Ask her to let you and your friends go off on your own and that at a certain time you will meet her at a specific place to go home. Now no matter what you be at that place at that time even if your friends decide they want to check out another store. The object here is to show mom responsibility that you will be where she expects you to be when she expects you to be there.
Your object here is to get her comfortable enough that the mall is a safe enough place for you to be that she can just drop you off knowing you will be where she expects you to be when it is time to pick you up. You may have to do this a few times, but be where your expected to be when your are expected to be there.
Now as for parties or sleeping at a friends house. You are going to need to have the parents of the friend who is having the party call your mom. What mom is looking for is assurance that this is a safe place for you to be. Especially if she does not know the parents. She wants to know that they will be their to chaperone. If this is a boy girl party that they will see to it that everyone stays in the same room, that no alcohol is served. If the party will turn in to a sleep over that the boys leave before the girls change into their night clothes.
It is unfortunate that you have to teach mom to be comfortable with you growing up. But that is what is needed. What I have written above is what you need to discuss and assure your mom of if you want greater freedom. As she learns to trust your ability to stay safe she should give you more freedom.
im 3week pregnant
my mom doesnt want nothing to do with me
i dont have anyone else beside my sister and the father of my unborn child
im in school and dont plan on dropping out
dont have a job or any income comeing in
so my question is
what should i do?
is it legal for a mom to neglect their 16year pregnant daughter?
You question could have a yes and no answer to depending on the laws in your state.
The immediate answer to your question of can your mother,"neglect their 16year pregnant daughter?" The answer is no. She is still legally responsible for your well being unless and until you are declared an emancipated minor.
In many states, and it depends on the girls age, a pregnant teenager can be declared an emancipated minor. Meaning you would have all the benefits and privileges of an adult 18 years of age or older. Your mother can't just say she declares you emancipated; it requires a court order. Until then she is just as responsible for you and her unborn grandchild as she was three weeks ago.
What you can do is call child protective serves, tell a trusted teacher or school principle or go to the police for help. Any of the people I just named will see to it that mom is informed of her responsibilities towards you and your baby. Mom cannot just disown you.
As for what you can do about your pregnancy. At 16 years of age you have medical privacy. By law which is covered by a Federal Law called HIPPA. You and you alone can make any and all decisions concerning your pregnancy. The doctors you see cannot discuss you exams or treatment with anyone you do not give them express permission to do so in writing.
This being th case; if you wish to have an abortion that is your choice. If you wish to carry this child to term that is your choice. If you wish to give this child up for adoption you may need the consent of the father since you know who he is. This is something you need to discuss with a lawyer.
Should you chose to raise this child then you also need to see a lawyer to get all the legal work done to make sure the father complies with his legal responsibilities towards this child. Just because he too may be under age does not mean he gets to have the fun then skate on the responsibilities towards this child. The courts will see to it that financial and medical responsibilities are supported by the father. You need to speak to a lawyer to have the legal paperwork done.
My advice is: Since you wish to continue your education, which is a good thing, and your mom is looking as if she will not be of any support to you. I see only two options available to you. The first of course is having an abortion while you still can. This is a personal decision you have to make based on your beliefs. The other is to have the child and give it up for adoption.
Fact is neither solution is the optional one. Frankly both suck. Though one of them is the right decision to make. Trying to raise a child by yourself without support of your mother or his parents will not work. You are dooming you and the child to a life time of misery.
You made a mistake, don't compound it by dooming this child to a life of misery before it even enters the world. Make the right choice now, whichever it may be. Afterwards learn from your mistake and take the proper precautions to prevent pregnancy or refrain from sex until you can properly support a child.
I'm 16 years old and I always seem to be horny. Its not always but it just seems that whenever i do things something makes me horny. Like the other day I was sitting on the train with all my friends. We all sit together but when one of my friends didnt have a seat she sat in my lap. Now im not attracted to her but she sat down and everytime there was a bump or turn i felt really horny. There are many things that just randomly make me hot. Anyone suggestions?
Relax, your normal. You would be abnormal if you weren't horny all the time.
Teenage boys when they hit puberty have all these new hormones floating around. They have erections happening what seems like almost constantly to the point of being embarrassing. These are the hormones and not having anything to do with conscious thoughts you may or may not be having.
Most young men you age handle this problem through masturbation. Masturbation is normal, about 85 percent of the population masturbate. Most males your age do so about 2 to 4 times a day. This is all normal and nothing to be alarmed about.
Relax and enjoy being a teenager.
I have this "friend" and her dad abuses her alot..... shes thinking of suiciding... What should "she" do?
Suicide is never an answer. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem that does have solutions.
If your "friend" is actively suicidal call the Police. There are many different types of abuse all of which are wrong, most of which are illegal and the police can handle immediately.
Don't allow calling the police to scare you. The police are there to help you or your friend in situations like this. Not all parents that are abusive go to jail for their abuse. It depends on the type of abuse. If the abuse is sexual or physical then yes the father goes to jail because that is where he belongs.
Your friend, her mother and her siblings could even get mad at you for calling the police; let them. Better to have a live friend who is made at you then a dead friend.
After the police have corrected the situation, then your friend should call the following number. This number is for a 24 hour hotline operated by an organization called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They are there 24/7 365 days ready to help people like your friend. If your friend is not actively suicidal you might suggest she call them now. Their number is:1-800-656-HOPE. You also can call this number for advise as to what to do for your friend.
Don't let your friend do something you will all regret later. Call the Police or talk with your parents and ask them to call the Police for you.
My grandma,and my mom seems to think I have and eating disorder,but I know I don't.
I go days without eating,and feel fine.
But my mom and dad makes me eat something,cause they think I have an eating disorder.
When I do eat,I have puke it right back up.
I don't think I have an eating disorder,but they do.
Do I?
Do you have an eating disorder? It is really tough to say one way or another from what you have written. Everyone's eating habits are different.
What concerns me is the puking. If you force yourself to puke then you do have an eating disorder know as Bulimia and this can be serious even life threatening if it is not corrected. If the puking is not self induced then you have either a medical illness that needs a doctors attention; or the puking is psychosomatic that is also a illness that is more of an eating disorder also requiring medical attention.
Regardless of the what the only one that can say for sure if you have an eating disorder or not is a doctor. The puking is your biggest problem especially if not self induced.
My suggestion, since you did not give your age. Is to talk with your mom and grandma and have them arrange for you to see an internist. This would be the specialist doctor who deals with eating disorders. As I said in the beginning, everyone's eating habits are different. If this doctor finds you are healthy, finds the cause for the non self induced vomiting and corrects it, if that is the case. Them mom and grandma should be satisfied and stop forcing you to eat when you are not hungry.
okay im a male and i need a relationship thats fun and somethin sexy for both me and my girlfriend but i can ever find the right girl what should i do
I love questions like this as I am one of the older advisers on this site. Actually old enough to be your grandfather. Questions like this give me the opportunity to tell you what it was like back in the day when we were your age, what our parents thought and what we thought of your parents when they were your age.
First relax, your normal and so are your parents. They just seem to have forgotten what it is like to be 13. When I was 13 the scourge, musically speaking was Roch & Roll. Elvis AKA the King, was the next think to the Devil himself they way he swung his hips around. That all of us were going to become sex maniacs or worse, listening to that Rock & Roll Music.
We didn't become sex maniacs or ax murders as feared. We grew up to be fairly normal. We married and had families just like are parents did. Your parents were our children. They had their music which included heavy metal and then rap and so on and so forth.
We feared for their virtue just as our parents feared for ours. Guess what; they grew up, married and started having their children. You, your siblings, your friends and their friends. They had their lifestyles, we had ours and now you have yours. The fact of the matter is this will pass for you just as it did for my generation, your parents generation, generations past and future.
I could just about go out on a limb here and say this is just about a right of passage for all teenagers. It is part of finding themselves. So why do I see this and not your parents. Wisdom of age that all grandparents have. We lived it, we dealt with it and know we get to watch our children deal with it.
While you can't talk back to your parents and say; you know adviceman49 says you guys were just as bad when you were my age, for they will deny it. What you can say is, if you can sit down with them and discuss it calmly. Is I bet when you were my age your music and your way of dressing was just as upsetting to your parents. This is just who I am now, who we as teenagers are expressing ourselves. You changed and I'm guessing so will I, eventually.
Of course you use your own words. The object is to get mom and dad to reflect back to when they were your age. I have vivid memories of saying things like, "you know I wasn't born this age, I was once your age." Well this is a polite way of putting those words back at them and getting them to realize they were no different than you are.
Music for some reason has always been at the root of problems. Music has always been seen as a virtue killer. I don't know why that is it just is and it is something that history shows we as parent have always had to deal with and you will deal with when you have children.
I'm a relatively healthy young lady. 21/f. not overweight. not underweight. no serious health issues. lately, i'm just SO tired. when i'm driving in the car, i just feel extremely tired and one of my eyes keeps twitching. it's SO weird! It's every day, and especially at night, when I'm starting to get tired. It happens to me when I'm working on my schoolwork. That's another thing. At school, I'm SUPER tired. I never feel like I have ENERGY to do things. To read and analyze handouts or readings in the textbook is another way of telling me to go to sleep. If I were to have to put up things or decorate something of some sort, I would FALL ASLEEP. i'm just REALLY, REALLY tired! I try to complete my homework and projects and it's like the clock is ticking at a certain time because of how tired I start to get at some point in the day. it is interesting to me and I want to study, but I'm so tired, that it becomes like a task. So, it's more of an impairement from what I'm doing than an excuse not to do it. Has this ever happened to anyone? and if so, what can I do about it? thanks!
I'm not a doctor, none of are and even if we were we cannot give medical advice over this website.
What scares me the most about what you have written is that whatever is bothering you does so while you are driving. Until you see a doctor and find out what is bothering you, which will be my advice. Drive with your window open at least an inch and your radio turned up loud to help you stay a wake. Also keep the heater turned down so as not to over warm you. Overheating causes drowsiness.
You do need to see a doctor to find out what is causing your problem. While I do not wish to tell the doctor how to examine you I would like you to ask the doctor to test your blood for high Carbon Monoxide levels.
I'm not trying to alarm you over this but this is a symptom, one the doctor may not look for mixed in with the other symptoms you may have. Given the mild winter we have had I would rather be safe than sorry.
You could if you like or if you find driving with the window open keeps you from feeling drowsy have your cars exhaust system checked by an ASE certified mechanic. You can also buy CO detectors for your home or ask the local fire department to check your home for CO levels.
This would eliminate all but school and work from any environment where high co levels could be effecting you. This is a guess on my part, one that cost little and is painless to have checked out.
See a doctor as soon as possible and if you are falling asleep or having trouble staying awake when driving then refrain from driving as much as possible until you see a doctor. If you must drive do as I have suggested and keep a window open and your radio on.