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not desprite
okay im a male and i need a relationship thats fun and somethin sexy for both me and my girlfriend but i can ever find the right girl what should i do
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I'm actually against dating websites so I am not going to recommend it too you.
The best way to put yourself out there is to try and get out, Participate in local events in your area.
Do you have any friends? One of the best ways to meet someone is by a mutual friend. If you go to school you could try to participate in after school activities as this is also an awesome way of meeting someone. If you want to find someone, You got to put yourself out there. You didn't state your age, Which makes it a bit harder to give proper advice.
If you are over the age of 21, You could try going to local karaoke events. These usually take place in pubs on a Friday night. A few years ago my buddies and I used to hang around a local pub that had a bowling alley indoors...Ladies love to dance and sing. Another way is surprisingly facebook, No I don't mean go around and friend random people. I mean if you know a friend who has a friend type of thing you could start off with small talk and work your way up from there. etc.
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I love questions like this as I am one of the older advisers on this site. Actually old enough to be your grandfather. Questions like this give me the opportunity to tell you what it was like back in the day when we were your age, what our parents thought and what we thought of your parents when they were your age.
First relax, your normal and so are your parents. They just seem to have forgotten what it is like to be 13. When I was 13 the scourge, musically speaking was Roch & Roll. Elvis AKA the King, was the next think to the Devil himself they way he swung his hips around. That all of us were going to become sex maniacs or worse, listening to that Rock & Roll Music.
We didn't become sex maniacs or ax murders as feared. We grew up to be fairly normal. We married and had families just like are parents did. Your parents were our children. They had their music which included heavy metal and then rap and so on and so forth.
We feared for their virtue just as our parents feared for ours. Guess what; they grew up, married and started having their children. You, your siblings, your friends and their friends. They had their lifestyles, we had ours and now you have yours. The fact of the matter is this will pass for you just as it did for my generation, your parents generation, generations past and future.
I could just about go out on a limb here and say this is just about a right of passage for all teenagers. It is part of finding themselves. So why do I see this and not your parents. Wisdom of age that all grandparents have. We lived it, we dealt with it and know we get to watch our children deal with it.
While you can't talk back to your parents and say; you know adviceman49 says you guys were just as bad when you were my age, for they will deny it. What you can say is, if you can sit down with them and discuss it calmly. Is I bet when you were my age your music and your way of dressing was just as upsetting to your parents. This is just who I am now, who we as teenagers are expressing ourselves. You changed and I'm guessing so will I, eventually.
Of course you use your own words. The object is to get mom and dad to reflect back to when they were your age. I have vivid memories of saying things like, "you know I wasn't born this age, I was once your age." Well this is a polite way of putting those words back at them and getting them to realize they were no different than you are.
Music for some reason has always been at the root of problems. Music has always been seen as a virtue killer. I don't know why that is it just is and it is something that history shows we as parent have always had to deal with and you will deal with when you have children.
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Just keep on looking to be honest. Depending on how much you want a relationship, you may decide to join a dating website or whatever.
Also, just take your time. There's no real rush. You can force looking for a partner. Just go to parties, ask friends if they know anyone etc.
Alternatively, maybe the 'right girl' doesn't exist? Maybe your standards are too high?
Either way, take your time and relax.
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