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How to deal with a VERY angry mom?
My mum has been very angry at me lately. I got this new Smiggle diary of 2012. She thinks it's completely useless and she began yelling at me for no reason.
Since my great-grandfather died, my mum has been really upset. She gets angry often at anyone who disagrees to her or, in her point of view, doesn't appreciate what she has done to this family.
That day I was using it and she just came into my room. I have a cellphone, so she sometimes uses it to use the Internet.
When she saw me writing in my diary, she immediately asked how much it costed me. When I told her it was $20, her face got red and she was immediately angry. She told me I should stop spending money and do something good for the family. Then she said really nasty things about me. She said I don't belong in this family at all, I'm way too nasty. I got really upset and began crying. She slapped me across the face and said all I ever do is to cry and cause trouble. I went into my room and punched through the wardrobe door. The bits of wood cut up my hand and it began bleeding really bad. My mum said that I deserved it and that if I need the hospital, I'll have to pay by myself.
That was what I did. I paid my only $50 I saved up during three years. Then after that me and my mum barely talk much again.
A few days later, I searched up a celebrity on the Internet. Then I forgot to shut down the computer. My mum then used it and began yelling at me, saying I should focus more on studying. I was actually only searching her up because I was trying to draw her hairstyle. I didn't bother explaining to my mum. I pushed past her, grabbed a bottle of water by the sofa and walked out. When I was halfway down the driveway my mum was yelling "if you've got guts then never come back". That immediately made me angry. I told her to mind her own business, I'm 16 already. She slapped me across the face and pushed me across the garden. I yelled out "god I'm not your daughter okay so leave me alone".
Now people were coming out. They saw my left cheek, which was stained by blood, and my bleeding elbow (because when she pushed me, I landed against the fence). Some people were yelling at my mum, telling her to stop doing this to me. Some people were just staring in shock. I picked up the bottle of water that I have dropped and left the house. I slept over at my friend's that night. I'm still there right now. I'm planning to try a different friends house next week, or maybe the hotel near the beach where I live because I've got a few bucks in my pocket. Or maybe not. I should go to my aunt's house or something. I don't know what I should do.
I'm going to go home again. But I don't know what my mum would do to me. I'm just scared. Can any of you help?
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At first I thought I might be giving you advice on how people grieve. Then I finished reading what you wrote.
If you are in the USA your mom just can't turn you out as it appears she has done. I'm surprised the emergency room did not inquire further about the bruises to your face. Hitting a child, even one your age, across the face or anywhere other than a slap on the butt, is child abuse. So is what happened in your front yard. Any of your neighbors could have called the police.
Now if the way mom is treating you is only since her grandfather died it could be grief related though very extreme. If so there is something else wrong that requires a doctors attention. It is very likely she is suffering an extreme form of depression and lashing out at anyone and everyone.
What you need to do is protect yourself. You should not have to subject yourself to her slapping or pushing you into fences or down on the ground. As I said this is child abuse, even at your age. You should also not be needing to sleep at or depend on the good nature of your friends and their parents to have a place to sleep or eat at. Since you have not mentioned your dad this is what I suggest you do.
When you go to school tomorrow talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them what you have written to us. By law once you have told them what you have written us they are required to protect you. They will call the appropriate agencies to see to your protection and to find out what is bothering your mother.These agencies will also see to it that your mother gets the help she needs.
If you don't want to tell a teacher or principal you can go to any Police or Fire Station for help. You can also go to any Hospital Emergency Room. Any or all of these places will see to your safety as well as to that of someone findinding out what is wrong with mom and geting her any help she needs.
Any Fire Station is a Safe Haven for Children. If the Fire Station is not manned there will be a Red Call Box an the front of the station. Pick up the pone and tell the dispatcher you need help. Fire Fighters will be summoned to the station to help you.
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