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im 16 & pregnant and my mom is not heree for me so im homeles
im 3week pregnant
my mom doesnt want nothing to do with me
i dont have anyone else beside my sister and the father of my unborn child
im in school and dont plan on dropping out
dont have a job or any income comeing in
so my question is
what should i do?
is it legal for a mom to neglect their 16year pregnant daughter?
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You question could have a yes and no answer to depending on the laws in your state.
The immediate answer to your question of can your mother,"neglect their 16year pregnant daughter?" The answer is no. She is still legally responsible for your well being unless and until you are declared an emancipated minor.
In many states, and it depends on the girls age, a pregnant teenager can be declared an emancipated minor. Meaning you would have all the benefits and privileges of an adult 18 years of age or older. Your mother can't just say she declares you emancipated; it requires a court order. Until then she is just as responsible for you and her unborn grandchild as she was three weeks ago.
What you can do is call child protective serves, tell a trusted teacher or school principle or go to the police for help. Any of the people I just named will see to it that mom is informed of her responsibilities towards you and your baby. Mom cannot just disown you.
As for what you can do about your pregnancy. At 16 years of age you have medical privacy. By law which is covered by a Federal Law called HIPPA. You and you alone can make any and all decisions concerning your pregnancy. The doctors you see cannot discuss you exams or treatment with anyone you do not give them express permission to do so in writing.
This being th case; if you wish to have an abortion that is your choice. If you wish to carry this child to term that is your choice. If you wish to give this child up for adoption you may need the consent of the father since you know who he is. This is something you need to discuss with a lawyer.
Should you chose to raise this child then you also need to see a lawyer to get all the legal work done to make sure the father complies with his legal responsibilities towards this child. Just because he too may be under age does not mean he gets to have the fun then skate on the responsibilities towards this child. The courts will see to it that financial and medical responsibilities are supported by the father. You need to speak to a lawyer to have the legal paperwork done.
My advice is: Since you wish to continue your education, which is a good thing, and your mom is looking as if she will not be of any support to you. I see only two options available to you. The first of course is having an abortion while you still can. This is a personal decision you have to make based on your beliefs. The other is to have the child and give it up for adoption.
Fact is neither solution is the optional one. Frankly both suck. Though one of them is the right decision to make. Trying to raise a child by yourself without support of your mother or his parents will not work. You are dooming you and the child to a life time of misery.
You made a mistake, don't compound it by dooming this child to a life of misery before it even enters the world. Make the right choice now, whichever it may be. Afterwards learn from your mistake and take the proper precautions to prevent pregnancy or refrain from sex until you can properly support a child.
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Adoption would be your best bet, It is in the child's best interest.
Neglecting your child is wrong, You can look into the laws of your state as many states have a law called "Safe Haven" What it means is it's legal to leave your baby at the hospital if the infant is under 30 days old.
Here is a link about The Safe Haven Law; [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Your child did not ask to be bought into the world, It deserves a chance at a good life. Seriously, Look into Adoption. If you are more comfortable then you could even look into an open adoption where you would have visitation rights with the child but please consider that this is a life and your baby deserves the best interest at heart.
Also as far as your mother goes, If your mother is showing signs of negligence then you can go to the police and explain your situation and have them take care of it. It is not right to kick out someone that is a minor and not yet classified as an independent.
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