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For school, we had to read the book "To Kill a Mockingbird" by Harper Lee and I really didn't like it. Not to sound shallow or immature or anything, but the whole racism theme was rather dull (not saying that racism is dull, but I mean that it's dull to read about when you could be reading other things. If you want to read about racism, go take a History class and learn about it from a text book), and the background setting of a dusty little town in Alabama and the boring, nosy, gossipy people without lives was not appealing. It's not exciting to read about. And Scout wasn't a realistic person. I mean, what 7-year-old uses words like "morphodite"? Take Les Miserables, it's about redemption and is very dramatic and exciting---a renounced thief on the run.I am the only person in the whole grade who didn't like TKAM. Whenever I talk to anyone about it they always go "OMFG I LOVED IT HOW CAN YOU NOT LIKE TKAM?!" Now, we have to write an essay about whether we liked it, and saying that it was not appealing and Scout is not realistic is not tangeable. She'll say it's off-topic and has nothing to do with the meaning of the book. I understand the meaning of the book, but I still don't like it. I talked to my dad and he just said that I'm not mature enough for such advanced literature, which is not true. What am I supposed to do?! (link)
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I loved the book myself! I saw more than just racism in it though.
There was also a man standing against racism in a small town where standing against such things could have gotten you killed in that time period.
This was just a small example of the stupidity of people then and the damage it could do (and did) to innocent people.
Oh, and I have a 5 year old grandson with an incredible vocabulary, so Scout is believable to me. :)
However, if you truly didn't like the book then write your essay about that. My guess from the types of literature you do like is that it just wasn't your cup of tea! It did send a powerful message for its time though.
And by the way...the novels you liked proves you are mature enough to understand whatever is thrown your way.
Good luck with the essay. :)
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Let them know.
Talk to them, flirt if that's something you do well. If you get a positive response (they talk to you or flirt back), then just up and say I like you. Ask him/ her out.
Good luck. :)
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I was at the grocery store earlier today to do some shopping. While I was standing in the frozen foods section this guy came up to me that I know from my toastmasters club. He's a lot older than me, I think he's 50. I am only in my 20's. Well first he came up behind me and suprised me. Then he walked up to me and stood really close to me to talk, like WAY too close I felt like he was close enough to have kissed me. After we finished talking he put his hand over my bomber jacket, and it was right on top of my right breast!! Then he looked at me seductively and told me he'd see me in the new year.
I was shocked he did that, I know he is married. How should I act around him from now on? I don't want to say anything to anyone else in the club becuase it would just make me look bad and would be embarrasing for him. (link)
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Personally I wouldn't worry about embarrassing his old wrinkled ass, but I understand what you mean.
Try to keep as much distance between you as possible. Avoid being alone anywhere with him, Always make sure someone else is with you at all times.
If he should touch you again. Have him arrested. If there is any other girls your age in the club, it may not hurt to warn them about this guy. Maybe he has done the same to them. :)
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I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks, but it's been a bit complicated - a week after we started dating, he found out he had cancer. He's had surgery and is on the road to recovery now, but I am worried that now he will only continue dating me because he feels obliged to as I was there when he needed me, rather than that he has an actual desire to be with me. I really like this guy but how can I figure out what is going on without offending him?? I'd rather have a broken heart sooner than later, so I'm keen to deal with this! (link)
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I think if he didn't care for you he would have broke up with you when he found he had a problem.
He didn't so lets assume he cares a lot about you!
That being said, I think you just need to talk to him about it if it is that big an issue for you. Part of a good relationship is talking to each other. I don't think he will be offended. :)
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Okay, here's the story:
when i was 9 years old, i found out that i had a sister, named Elisabeth. she is now 20, and i'm 13. I have only seen her 3 times in my entire life, why? because she hates me. Now i know alot of you are gonna say "but she DOES love you" she doesnt. She absolutely hates me. She never gives me her number, nor her email. She hides from me--litteraly! she lives in my state (i THINK) but i dont know where. My dad has no contact with her, and my mom isnt related to her at all. So my sister ends up hanging out with my cousin, (FYI my cousin is like, Miss. Perfect and is really nice, etc.) like the sister she never got. Now i'm tired of crying, but i do love her. What the hell do i do? i mean, i cant forget about her, i cant talk to her, WTF?!?!?!?!! (link)
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Have you tried asking her why it is she is hiding from you? Why she seems to hate you?
I think it would be a good idea to have a talk with her if you can catch her sometime.
It could be that she just doesn't know how to treat you. Maybe she doesn't really know how you feel about her. Your dad doesn't have anything to do with her...she may think you feel the same.
She may also be a little jealous of his relationship with you.
Try and talk with her. Hopefully you can get her to listen and become good friends if nothing more. :)
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this is what happened..
an hour and 10 minutes ago my phone rang and my caller ID said it was my boyfriend so i was all excited and im like 'hayy' and my 'friend' answers so im like what? She goes 'hey its ***** im at the mall with *my boyfriends name* ahahhaahahhaha ok bye' im like what the hell that was really mean and i start hysterically crying.
so i call my boyfriends phone and she answers nd im crying nd im like 'can i talk to *my boyfriends name*' and shes like 'why are you pist' nd im like 'because you call me and your like 'oh yea were at the mall and im with *my boyfriends name* and your not haha'
Im like 'can you put him on please' shes like no why are you pist' im like 'can you put him on please' nd shes like no nd im like can you just put him on! and she goes YOUR A BITCH and hangs up!!
so now im crying 10x harder
I call one of my good friends for support and when she answers i hear their voices in the backround talking about it so im like OMG SHES WITH THEM! I say 'are you at the mall' nd shes like 'yea why are you mad at *friends name*' nd im like 'is *my boyfriends name* there' shes like yea nd im like can i talk to him shes like r u crying? im like yea and then she screams '*my boyfriends name* YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS CRYING COME HERE NOW AND TALK TO HER!!"
I hear "*my friends' name* screaming NO NO NO DONT TALK TO THAT BITCH and MY BOYFRIEND IS LAUGHING!!!!! and she hangs up on me like taking the phone from him. so now im crying 10x than before
I call him nd hes like 'why is *'my friends' name* so pist at u' nd im like 'howcome when i ask to talk to my boyfriend i get called a bitch' and hes like 'i dont know because your being..nevermind im not gonna say it *our friends name* you say it' and hands the phone to our friend.
So then our friend says "why are you mad at *'my friends' name* nd i told him nd hes like ohh or whatever and my boyfriend gets back on the phone nd im like 'you know what go go be with them because i dont give a shit. go have fun'
He goes 'no' nd im like YES **** BECAUSE I DONT CARE AND NEITHER DO YOU SO HAVE FUN' nd he goes 'sorry bye' nd i hang up! that makes me 305894085940865 times worse because he doesnt even care
i was crying for so long. this is soo horrible! what should i do? and he always says to me 'what are you doing later/tomorrow want to hang out?' and im always like 'yeah' but we never wind up doing anything and now he goes to the mall with my best friends and he doesnt invite me, neither do me so called 'bffs'. im so effing upset right now. any advice? anything at all. oh and if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all'
thanks for reading all of this. xo byee
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Is it possible that he just ran into your friends at the mall and didn't actually go there WITH them?
That's still no excuse for your girlfriends behavior. She would be history.
Could be your boyfriend just didn't hear your conversation with her and had no idea what was going on. Maybe he assumed she told you that they ran into him there. As a result didn't understand why you were upset.
Best thing to do is talk to him when he is at home and not among the friends. Give him a chance to explain himself.
The one who called you a bitch...she has some explaining to do before I would be friends with her again.
Good luck. :)
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alright.. My boyfriend was saying goodbye over the internet and he said I love you so much and i said i love you more & i'll see you tomorrow & then he said "in that we must agree to disagree." what does that mean?
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Nothing bad!
He doesn't agree you love him more than he loves you.
Hes just saying "no I love YOU more" in a different way. Hard to explain, but hope you get it now! :)
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I was seeing this guy named Austin. I was and still am absolutely crazy about him. Well the problem is that I've been a cutter for about a year or two now. Well my cousin Jeremy stayed over for the holidays and I cut once when he was around me. He called Austin and said I cut because he wasn't able to call me. So he broke up with me because he didn't want to get in a deep relationship and have me kill myself or something. Would that be considered true love or true hate? He also hasn't called me in about two days now, but maybe it's because the holidays. PLEASE HELP! I'M IN DESPERATE NEED OF ADVICE! (link)
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Cutting is a pretty scary thing for people to deal with.
If you don't stop and he can't handle it then its best he go his own way.
You could tell someone and get some help for the problem. He may then decide to give you another chance.
I am sure he didn't break up to hurt you. He broke up to keep himself from being hurt. :)
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I'm 27 years old and my ten year highschool reunion is coming up in the new year. Well I feel that by my age I should have acomplished more than I have.
For one thing, I'm still single and don't own my own home or have children. I thought by now that I'd be married, have either a successful career or be a housewife.
All I have is a ten year old car, a small appartment that I rent, a part time job that doesnt pay that good, and some nice furniture and lots of movies, cds, and large television and computer. Maybe I shouldnt complain, I guess things could be worse. Some people from my class are in jail, or had to move back in with there parents for financial reasons, or became single parents.
How can I feel better about myself so when I do go to the reunion I won't sound like such a loser? (link)
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Sounds like you are doing a lot better than a lot of them!
Really, I wouldn't worry about it at all. You have your own place, you don't owe your paycheck to half a dozen people...you are doing great!
Some may have a better paying job, be married with children...those things are nice but they are not measures of success.
If you are happy, that's the thing that matters most. Go and have fun. :)
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I am getting married in four months. I have been engaged for four years. However, my fiancee and I have at least two major issues. I just don't know if this is serious enough for me to consider backing down from marriage.
My fiancee and I are not seeing eye to eye on money issues. He feels that when we are married once the bills are paid for each person should have allowance money to spend. The catch is the other person should not ask what the money was spent on.
An example is, he spends money on CD's or a football jersey that's over $200.00. If he used it from his allowance money I should not complain. I'm not ok with this. My parents have been together for over 30 years and consult every detail of their expenses together. My fiancee feels that this is like "reporting" to the mate.
My other problem is that whenever something bothers me (other than money matters), I feel I can't tell him without getting upset.
I email him or try over the phone. This doesn't work. He never wants to hear the bad he only wants things to always be on the upbeat. However, I have issues I want to discuss.
I feel he keeps me from expressing my feelings which turn into resentment. Lately, I have really been questioning my relationship.
Please help me. I'm getting married in four months and am afraid of failing. Please Help ME!!!! Any advice will much be appreciated. I need to hear an expert's advice.
THank you
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Both your issues are pretty major!
Money issues are the number one cause for divorce. If you can't come to some sort of agreement then I wouldn't advise getting married until you do.
I think a good compromise would be you don't have to explain yourself to the other person if the cost is below____. Set a limit you can both agree on.
If you can't talk to each other about everything under the sun...it isn't going to last.
Unfortunately life isn't always sunshine and flowers. Sometimes you have to talk about things you really rather not talk about but have to.
If he isn't willing to talk about both the good and the bad, then I wouldn't advise you marry until you can talk about anything and everything.
Marriage is hard enough, don't start off on the wrong foot. Talk to him seriously and get these issues straightened out first. :)
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Hi YG!
Before I say any thing else I'm going to say "I'M A SMOKER"! MY DAD GAVE ME PERMISSION!!!!!!
OMG! DID YOU HEAR THAT???
He woke me up this morning so we could talk before he went to work. I thought for sure he was going to say no because he was so serious looking but I knew I wasn't going to get punished because the first thing he did was hug me and say he loved me. He asked if I slept ok and I said no because I was so nervous and he said he didnt sleep good either.
Any way, he said that mom had showed him my letter and he said it could use some work with the grammar but I did a good job expressing my self and being honest and that he appreciated me being mature enough to come to them about this. He said he wasnt happy that I was smoking but he had a lot of respect for me for telling the truth. He told me that he started smoking when he was 16 but didnt tell his parents until he went to college.
He said that he knew from talking to my mom that I was already addicted but if I wanted to quit, he and mom would get me things to help. And he asked me if I wanted to quit, and I said no. And he said my mom said I would say that. And then he got real quiet and said, I can't believe you really smoke. And he started crying and I'm like oh no, so I hug him and tell him I'm sorry. And he hugs me back and says its ok and that its just going to take a while for him to get used to it. And then he just wipes his eyes and starts talking again like he was never crying. Gawd that was so weird.
And then he gets up and says he has to go to work but says that my mom will talk to my brothers at breakfast and tell them what is happening and that he'd talk to them again when he came home. And then he kissed me and went to work. And I'm wondering what happened? Did he give me permission to smoke? Or what?
I got dressed and then I went to my mom's room and the first thing she does is ask me if I talked to my dad and I said yeah, but I tell her I don't know what he said but I think he gave me permission to smoke but I wasn't sure because he really didnt say for sure. And she said he did give me permission and then she hugged me and said she loved me. And then she starts crying and I start crying and I'm feeling so weird and its like its not really happening to me. It felt so weird! And then she wipes her eyes and kind of smiles and asks me if I'm ok and i tell her yeah, but I'm feeling really confused about everything and she tells me to sit down and we'll have a cigarette and she'll tell me what she and Dad talked about last night.
So we're sitting on the bed and I'm smoking with her which is just really freaking weird and she's telling me that my dad got real mad at first when she told him but then he calmed down after she showed him my letter. And then she said he went from wanting to make me quit to maybe letting me smoke outside or in the garage. And she said she told him that this was about more than being addicted and that he didnt' understand because he wasn't a girl. And she said she told him what it was like for her when she was a girl and she started smoking and how girls start smoking for different reasons than boys do and it means differnt things to them. And after that he said she was right and that he didn't understand but he would be ok with whatever she decided as long as my mom made it clear to my brothers that they couldn't smoke.
My mom told me that from now on she and my dad were going to treat me like an adult and I can smoke like an adult for as long as I show them I deserved to be treated that way. And I asked her if that meant I could smoke in the house and she said it meant I could smoke anywhere she and my dad were allowed to smoke. She asked me if I had a favorite brand of cigarettes and I said I kind of liked Virginia Slims Menthols and she said she'd call my dad and have him buy a carton on his way home from work but until then I could smoke hers and she gave me a pack of her Benson & Hedges and a lighter. And I told her I had a pack of Virginia Slims in my room and asked if it would be ok if I got them and she said yeah and asked me where I got them and I told her out of a vending machine the last time we went to a restaurant. And she said she did that to when she started smoking.
OK, this is about my brothers. After me and my mom talked, we went down stairs and I helped her make breakfast. Actually I did most of it. I made scrambled eggs and bacon and toast and she made the coffee. That's going to be one of my jobs like forever and I've got a lot of jobs now. I've got to help with the laundry and the dishes and help my little brother with his homework and so much other stuff and I think thats so cool. I'd help out my mom even if she didn't let me smoke. I just didnt' know what I could do because she never asked me before. And then she told me to wake up my brothers and she'd tell them about me smoking while we ate breakfast and to put my cigarettes on the table where they could see them.
So we're sitting there and my brothers are eating and me and my mom are drinking coffee and my older brother sees the Virginia Slims and asks whose they are and my mom says they're mine and my he laughs because he thinks she's kidding. And my mom says there really mine and that i'm addicted to cigarettes like she and dad are so they had to give me permission to smoke and she says she needs to talk to him and my little brother about it. And he still thinks she's kidding but I can tell he's not sure and my mom tells me its ok and to go ahead and have a cigarette. And now I'm really freaking out because my brothers are staring at me but I do it and my little brother gets all excited and starts yelling about how I'm smoking just like she is and he asks her if my cigarettes are real and my mom tells him they are and they're just like hers and Daddy's and he's never to touch them. And then she tells my older brother that the same goes for him to and that cigarettes are off limits to him to. And my older brother isn't saying nothing. He's just staring at me and shaking his head like he can't believe it. And then he says its not fair because he's older than me and he should be able to smoke if I can smoke.
And my mom asks him if he wants to smoke and he says no but he should be able to at least try it and make up his own mind. And my little brother starts saying how he wants to try it to. And my mom tells them both that they wouldn't like it and they should just forget about it. And my older brother asks her how she can say he wouldn't like it if he never tried it before and my mom got real mad and said fine and that if he wanted to try it he could try it this once so he'd know what it was like but never again. So she told me to give my brothers each a cigartte from my pack and I'm thinking no I don't want to but my mom says its ok and to let them try it.
Gawd, I felt so bad for my little brother cause he's only 6. He got so sick he almost threw up and started crying. And when my mom asked him if he wanted to try it again he told her that he never would do it again. And my older brother hated it too. He coughed and put it out after just one puff. He said it was awful and didn't see how anyone could do it. And my mom told him she was glad to hear him say that and to remember that the next time he thought about smoking.
And then my mom told them both that she knew they thought smoking looked cool but they needed to remember its an addiction and once you start its almost impossible to stop even though its bad for you. And then she told them that she wanted them to learn from my mistake.
And then my little brother asks her that since I smoke if it means I'm a grown up now like her and Daddy. And my mom told him that in away it does, even though I'd always be his sister. She told them both that since smoking is an adult habit and I'm a smoker now, it wouldn't be fair to treat me like a kid any more and some things would probably change but that it didn't mean they loved me or respected me any more than them but that things would be different from now on and to try to understand it.
So that was it. OMG! This is the best thing that ever happened to me. Thank you so much for helping me!!!! I'm so happy. I know its going to be strange getting used to smoking in front of people and my friends are going to freak when I tell them but this is such a great thing for me. I'm so happy!!!
Thank you so much YG!!!
I Love you!!
K8e
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K8e,
I am so glad that it all worked out. Hopefully your brothers won't start. It is so hard to stop.
Telling the truth is always the best. You did a very brave thing telling your parents and I am so glad it worked out for you!
I added you to my hotmail list by the way, so any time you want to email just to say hi...please do!
What a great way to start the new year! :)
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Do you guys believe that high school sweethearts can last throughout adulthood? I've heard from many people that if they end up getting married they'll just end up miserable. Or that most end after senior year. (link)
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30 years and counting for me and mine!
You do a lot of changing though. Luck is when you both either change along with one another or at least tolerate the changes. That doesn't always happen. Takes work everyday...but a fun job. :)
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I am 17 year old boy. My height is 5.8. I am worried about my penis size. My penis size is only 4 inch. When I see it is in normal condition it looks very small like penis of a child. I guess it is not genetic problem because my 15 year old brother has 5 inches and my father has also good length (I don’t know the exact size but it looks big & thick). This situation resulted inferiority complex in me. Once my bro saw me (un-erected) and said oh! You have tiny thing. I just laughed and said it is not hard. Things like that put me on back seat. Is there any authentic method to increase the length. What is the normal size of a man. Till what age the length may be increased.
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Here is a web site that may answer some of your questions.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/guys/penis.html
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I am male/14
Next year I'm starting high school. Everyone who goes to my school now is going to another highschool than I am. Should I be worried about starting all over? I mean, I'm going to be losing a lot of friends soon. It's just going to be sad on the last day of school when I have to say good bye to all my friends. Help me Please! (link)
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I don't think you should be to worried about it.
You will still have the friends you have now. You may not see them all day but they will be around.
You will add new friends too. The last day of school is sad anyway. You will be able to hang out with friends over the summer though. Soon you'll learn to drive and it will be even easier.
Don't worry, look on it as a new adventure! :)
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Hi YG,
I'm really freaked out right now. I think my mom is to. I kind of thought she might kind of think I might be smoking but she didn't have any idea. It really surprised her when I gave her that letter. God I feel so bad about it because it really upset her. I've never seen her that upset or crying so much. I think this is going to be ok but its not over yet and Im just trying to remember everything that happened because Im like feeling like I'm not even in my body right now like this is happening to someone else. I still can't believe I gave her that letter, but I'm glad I told her. I feel terrible because I hurt my mom's feelings but I know I had to tell her the truth.
I wanted to talk to her after she read it but she was crying and everything and then my older brother came in and saw us and she got upset about that cause he was asking her what was wrong. She screamed at him to go back outside and watch my little brother and then she told me to go to my room. My dad was still at work when all this was happening.
I had to stay in my room for over an hour before she came up to see me. She still looked upset but she wasnt crying and she still had my letter when she came in. I asked her what she told my brother and she said that she told him it wasnt any of his business and that it was between me and her and that she told him not to say anything about it to Dad.
She said she was sorry for getting so upset and that it just kind of shocked her but she wanted to talk about it so she sat down on my bed and we started talking about it. She started asking me questions about how much I smoke and where I go to do it and I told her every thing she wanted to know. She said she was glad I finally told her so we could talk about it but she wanted to know why I waited so long to tell her since I had been doing it for 2 years. I told her that I thought that if I told her then she would think I was to young and she'd try to make me quit and I didnt want to take the chance and I told her that I was also just scared to tell her. She said that if I was scared about telling her about it then that meant that I knew it was wrong in the first place so why did I do it. I told her truth but I didnt tell her I did it to be like her. I just said I knew it was something I wanted to do and I've always felt that way.
She asked me when the last time was that I'd had a cigarette and I told her it was after lunch. Thats when she asked me if I wanted to have one with her but she said it didn't mean she was giving me permission to smoke but she wanted to see if I was really inhaling or I made a mistake about it. I felt real weird about smoking in front of her so soon but I really wanted it and I wanted her to know I really do smoke like her and Dad. After she saw me do it she said she didn't think it would do any good to make me smoke a whole pack and then she laughed kind of and told me she was joking.
She asked me if I really enjoy smoking like I said in my letter or if i was just putting on and I told her I love to smoke and it gives me a lot of pleasure and relaxes me. And she asked me if I liked it enough to know if i wanted to do it every day for the rest of my life like her and Dad. I told her that I knew I was addicted and that it was fine with me because I was sure I wanted to keep smoking.
She asked me about my friends and if any of them smoked and I told her no because they don't. And she asked me what I thought they'd think if they found out I smoke and I said i wasn't sure. I said some would probably be mad at me and some of my other friends would think it was cool. And then she started asking me about boys and what they thought about girls that smoke. I didn't want to talk about that and she said that when she was in high school, a lot of boys liked it when girls smoked and that was one of the reasons she started. And I just kind of nodded because thats the way it is at my school to.
She asked me if I was afraid I'd gain weight if I quit smoking and I told her I knew a girl at school who quit and she gained like 20 pounds. And she just said yeah, like she knew who I was talking about.
She asked me if I thought Id be more popular or less popular if the kids at school knew I smoked. I said more popular and she just shook her head and I don't know if that was bad or good, but I was telling the truth.
She told me that things would be real different for the whole family if she and dad gave me permission to smoke because they had to think about my brothers and what it would be like for them to see me smoking like her and Dad. My older brother is 16 and my younger brother is 6. She said something about how she knew she couldn't turn back the clock on me but that she didn't want my brothers to think they could start smoking to. I told her what I wrote in my letter about knowing that smoking is an adult habit and I promised her I would smoke like a grown up. And she told me I'd have to be responsible if they gave me their permission.
She asked me if I wanted another cigarette and I said yeah so we smoked one and she said I could come down stairs and help her make dinner. And she said she would talk to my dad tonight after they went to bed and she'd tell me what they decided tomorrow.
So that's what happened. I helped my mom with dinner and we didn't talk about it when my dad came home. And then after dinner I went outside to where I smoke and had a cigarette and then I went to my room and started writing you.
The one thing that my mom said to me tonight was that she understood how I felt because she'd been in my shoes before to and if it was up to her, she'd give me permission to smoke and she's proud of me for talking to her about it like I did. But she also said not to get my hopes up because she didn't think my father would take it to well. But she also said she was going to show him my letter and tell him that she thought they should give me permission. So I don't know what to think. My mom sounded pretty serious when she said not to get my hopes up.
The big thing is that I'm glad I told her and I'm glad she knows I smoke. That makes me feel a lot better about my self so even if they don't give me permission to smoke, in a way I won't be hiding any more even if I can't do it in front of them because they'll know.
So now I got to wait until tomorrow. If your still up and you read this could you maybe write me and tell me if theres anything I should be thinking about in case my dad wants to talk to me like my mother did?
What ever happens I'm glad I did this and I'm really glad you helped me to tell them what I wanted to say.
Thanks,
*K8e
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Katie,
Bet its a real relief for it to be over! Well, half over anyway.
Your dad will probably have the same kinds of questions your mom had. Just be honest in answering and you will do fine.
I'm sure glad you took out the parts of the letter you did. Sounds as if she felt pretty bad. She did calm down though and it sounds like you had a real nice talk.
Whatever dad says I am sure you will still feel better that they know about it. Sneaking around just isn't the way to go. It sounds as if you have a good relationship with your parents & you wouldn't want to mess that up by sneaking. If nothing else I am sure you earned your mothers trust today.
Hope all goes well with your dad tomorrow. Keep in touch. I"m glad I could be of a little help. :)
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Is there a way to delete questions from your column all at once? For example, I have a lot of pages it would be way to hard to go from question to question.
Also, can you change your name on advicenators without making a new account?
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If you want to change your name or delete your column, I would advise you to talk to Dangernerd about it. If you have a good reason for wanting the change, I am sure he will help you out.
dangernerd@gmail.com :)
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i got my first period the last day of november. when should i be like preparred to get it again? (link)
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You will usually have it every 28 days. So, you should get it any time now.
When you first start it may skip months so don't worry should that happen.
Most girls aren't real regular anyway.
Here are a couple of web sites for you to look over. It will answer a lot of questions you may have.
Periods. Irregular when first start
http://www.sxetc.org/index.php?topic=FAQ&sub_topic=Girls+Health&content_id=515
Periods, the facts
http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=292&id=2216
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i dont understand what prude means.
is it liike where you havent hooked up with anyone or had sex?
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One who is excessively concerned with being or appearing to be proper, modest, or righteous.
So, if someone has a "don't touch me" attitude, they are usually considered to be a prude.
If they feel they must dress in a way that shows none of their assests, they may be called a prude. :)
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Hey YG, thanks for looking at my letter. I made the changes and I'm happy about it. These are the things I want her to know.
I'm going to give this to her now. Swallow hard. Goosebumps. Shaky. Scared. Excited. Hopeful. More scared.
I want to do this before I chicken out. Yes I will tell you what she says!!
Hugs,
K8e
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Good luck Katie! I know you are doing the right thing. I hope it goes well. I have fingers crossed for you. :)
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OK, YM, here it goes. Can you tell me if this would be ok to give to my mom so i can talk to her about it. Thankyou so much for looking at this!!! I also sent it to your email incase its to long.
Dear Mom,
I want to talk to you about something that is real important to me but I don't know how to tell you so thats why I'm writing it down first so we can talk about it. Remember when I turned 14 last month and you said I was getting to be more of a woman than a little girl? Well thats kind of what I want to talk to you about. I'm not pregnant or anything like that but I am growing up and I think I'm pretty responsible and pretty much a good person. I dont take drugs or drink and I do good in school and I always go to church with the family. I'm just saying that I'm not a bad person and I don't want you to think I am after I say this.
The thing I want to tell you is that I smoke cigarettes like you and Daddy and I like it a lot. Please don't be mad at me. I started 2 years ago and I inhale and everything and I know I'm addicted. I've tried to quit a couple times but I couldnt do it. The thing is that I dont want to quit. I've thought about this a lot and I know Im never going to quit because I like it to much and its something I really want to do. And I don't want to hide it from you and Daddy any more. Thats why I'm asking you for permission to smoke in the house with you and Daddy.
I know smoking is bad for me. Ive heard all that in school and I've heard you and Daddy talk about it. I also know you and Daddy think its an adult habit and I think I'm mature enough to smoke like an adult.
I want you to know I didn't start because of peer pressure. No one even knows I smoke because I didnt want to take a chance on you finding out by accident. I wanted to tell you my self and thats what I'm doing now. I started because I love you and I wanted to be a smoker like you and now I am. Its what I've always wanted and I hope you'll understand and be happy for me some day.
I decided to tell you now because i thought it looked really sweet this Christmas when you were smoking with grandma. I want it to be like that with you and me to. I dont want to hide this from you anymore because its who I am.
I really enjoy smoking and I know what you feel like when you do it because I feel the same way. I like that it keeps me thin and I like the way it tastes. I also like the way I look when I smoke. I look like you and your very pretty. Maybe this sounds dumb, but I think its romantic when Daddy lights your cigarettes for you. I know you think kids that smoke are just doing it to act tough or be rebellious but I'm not like that. I'd never be like that and I wouldn't embarrass you. I'd be polite and nice and people wouldn't think I was a bad kid or your a bad mom because you're a great mom and I love you so much and I'm very proud of you.
I'm sorry that I've been taking your cigarettes and I know thats pretty much stealing. I want you to know that if you and Daddy give me permission to smoke then I'll do extra chores or whatever to pay for my cigarettes because I want to do this right.
Any way, if you want, I'd like to talk to you about this after you read this.
I love you very much,
Katie
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Katie,
Well, Its good until you tell her you started because you want to be like her. I think that will make her feel guilty. Even if she enjoys smoking I really don't think she would want you to have started if given the choice.
I'll bet your mom has better qualitys than smoking that make you admire her! Let me copy it here and comment on the paragraphs...will make it easier. Hope its understandable!
Dear Mom,
I want to talk to you about something that is real important to me but I don't know how to tell you so thats why I'm writing it down first so we can talk about it. Remember when I turned 14 last month and you said I was getting to be more of a woman than a little girl? Well thats kind of what I want to talk to you about. I'm not pregnant or anything like that but I am growing up and I think I'm pretty responsible and pretty much a good person. I dont take drugs or drink and I do good in school and I always go to church with the family. I'm just saying that I'm not a bad person and I don't want you to think I am after I say this.
{****Good paragraph..keep this one ^}
The thing I want to tell you is that I smoke cigarettes like you and Daddy and I like it a lot. Please don't be mad at me. I started 2 years ago and I inhale and everything and I know I'm addicted. I've tried to quit a couple times but I couldnt do it. The thing is that I dont want to quit. I've thought about this a lot and I know Im never going to quit because I like it to much and its something I really want to do. And I don't want to hide it from you and Daddy any more. Thats why I'm asking you for permission to smoke in the house with you and Daddy.
(*****This one is good too ^)
I know smoking is bad for me. Ive heard all that in school and I've heard you and Daddy talk about it. I also know you and Daddy think its an adult habit and I think I'm mature enough to smoke like an adult.
(***Good^)
I want you to know I didn't start because of peer pressure. No one even knows I smoke because I didnt want to take a chance on you finding out by accident. I wanted to tell you my self and thats what I'm doing now.
(Keep this ^)
***DELETE*** I started because I love you and I wanted to be a smoker like you and now I am. Its what I've always wanted and I hope you'll understand and be happy for me some day.
(****Leave this out. Mom will feel guilty that you picked it up from her (even though true).
***Delete***I decided to tell you now because i thought it looked really sweet this Christmas when you were smoking with grandma. I want it to be like that with you and me to. I dont want to hide this from you anymore because its who I am.
***Another thing that may make her feel guilty. If she lets you start smoking in the house, you can sit with her and smoke. Tell her then, this is nice I like being able to do this. Don't say it now.***
I really enjoy smoking and I know what you feel like when you do it because I feel the same way. I like that it keeps me thin and I like the way it tastes.
***this is okay^****
****delete***I also like the way I look when I smoke. I look like you and your very pretty. Maybe this sounds dumb, but I think its romantic when Daddy lights your cigarettes for you.
^
***Not a good reason to smoke, don't think it would go over very well. And, again...may make her feel guilty.***
I know you think kids that smoke are just doing it to act tough or be rebellious but I'm not like that. I'd never be like that and I wouldn't embarrass you. I'd be polite and nice and people wouldn't think I was a bad kid or your a bad mom because you're a great mom and I love you so much and I'm very proud of you.
***Keep this. Maybe add that you won't smoke around people that don't like it...stick it in with the being polite to people line.***
I'm sorry that I've been taking your cigarettes and I know thats pretty much stealing. I want you to know that if you and Daddy give me permission to smoke then I'll do extra chores or whatever to pay for my cigarettes because I want to do this right.
***Very good...be sure you keep this in! ^
Any way, if you want, I'd like to talk to you about this after you read this.
I love you very much,
Katie
The rest is great. Do a little deleting, print it off and you will be good to go. Let me know what happens won't you? Good luck. :)
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