about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

okay so theres 2 boys that i like, one of them is my boyfriend of a little over a year. The other is this wicked cute kid who i am just friends with. i recently started hanging out with the cute kid without my boyfriend knowing..i n its not right but i had to. well my dad tells me he likes the new kid better and so do my mom. also wenever i ask my b/f to go places he sez he dnt like goin out and the new kid has gone ice skating and to laser quest with me and he sent me a flower on valentines day when my boyfriend didn't. which boy should i keep around?

The cute friend does things for you that your boyfriend doesn't. He's clearly the better choice.

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do guys like a girl when she shaves down there?

like blad...trim...or does it matter?

my guy friend was saying how he fingered his girlfriend and he felt like his hand was in "a bowl of hairy jello"

i keep it trimmed...but not bald...and i have been fingered and i just dont know how to keep it...

Depends on the guy. Do it for you though, not for him.

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I really want to get a small heart tattooed on the middle of my wrist. (Random -- but there's a story with it and such.) The thing is, I know tattoos are already painful to begin with (I've never gotten one before though), and there's that really pokey bone right where I want the tattoo to go. So basically it will hurt like hell. Has anyone else gotten a tattoo on their wrist like that before and how bad does it hurt?? Thanks!

My brother has 24 tattoos, and he's gotten those in 3 years. So, about 8 a year. If he can handle that, I'm sure you can handle a simple little heart on your wrist.

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Ok so I am 16 and I'm losing my mind. I feel like I can't remember some simple things like where I left something I was using the day before. I know that you could loose your short term memory later on in life but not now! I am going out of my mind looking for this ring I lost. It is very special to me (a gift) and I really can't remember anything about it. I realized I lost it about a week ago and when I went to retrace my steps, I couldn't remember the last time that I had the ring. I can remember things that happened years ago, as clear as day, but why can't I find this ring? Is there something wrong with me? I don't know what to do anymore because I'm beginning to loose other stuff and then I go out of my mind looking for it. Please help.

You might just be stressed about it. If you stress out, you'll have a harder time finding it. But if you relax, it'll most likely come to you, or you'll find it easier. It happens to me all the time, you're definitely not losing your mind. =)

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well ok lets see im 16/f and im in my first relationship... but the thing is that im not allowed to date. and i told my cousin and she's proud of me that i told her and that im able to confide in her and now she can trust me. well she said that i should tell my brother so that he can also trust me instead of him getting mad and finding out through my myspace because it says there im in a relationship and my b/f is number on my top 8.. but im scared to tell my brother because he'll get mad... should i really tell him?

I think you should. Also, tell your parents. Let them know you're responsible enough to have a boyfriend & that your grades won't slip. Keep your grades up, and prove them wrong. Because that's probably what they're thinking.

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what's the best way to gain weight, besides eating alot? thanks

Work out. I know that's how to lose weight, but it builds muscle and muscle weighs more than that. Exercise & then pig out & lounge all day.

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Yesterday this guy admitted to me he used to really like me, and I asked him if he still did and he said, "eh i do in a way, its hard to explain though" what could he mean by that? My friend asked him why he doesn't just ask me out, and he said, "mainly its cause i know she doesn't like me and im just plain scared of relationships" i dooooo like him though. how can i get him to ask me out & not be scared of relationships?

If he doesn't think you like him, change his mind. Ask him out or make a move.

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my room mate has really bad breath she has for awhile (a mutual friend and i have noticed) but recently all of our friends are starting to say things and noticing it . She is sensitive about most things so i don't want to say something that will hurt her feelings or make her mad but i think she needs to know rather than hearing it from someone randomly. what should i do? and how should i do it?

Tell her you have these mints that you love & that she should try them, or just don't say anything at all. If she's sensitive, you're probably going to hurt her.

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Do you believe that people are "made" for each other. (so to speak) That there is a fish in the sea for everyone...and you're just waiting to meet them. Or do you believe that love takes work, and that there cannot possible be love at first sight and fait plays no hand in it?


thanks =]

I agree with both. There is someone out there for everyone, but the relationship takes work to keep the love going strong & healthy.

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I dont want to call them my parents because they do not love me.They love my brothers but not me. Its not a gender thing because when my brother dropped out and did nothing they did the same thing to him. But my oldest brother Scott is the success he can do anything and it wont madder they'll still love him.Hes probably going to jail for a DWI and my parents were planning to buy him a calling card and stuff because they wont let you bring in a cell phone... my mother told my dad not to tell anyone and im joking and im like too late and my mother starts swearing and says.."SHUT UP i wish i was buying it for you" so now my mother wants me to go to Jail be punished for scott being dumb. BUT she still loves him. Both my parents call me names too bad to put on here its swears and IM sick of.. I do nothing wrong why do my parents hate me...?

Talk to them about it. Tell them how they make you feel. If they just get mad or whatever, ask to live with another family member. Maybe an aunt or an uncle?

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in massachusetts do you need your birth certificate to get your permit, i know you need your social security card.

thankss.

I would check the Massachusetts DMV site. Google it.

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problems with my brother and its not just sibling rivalry.

moms at home sick. when i left with kat,my best friend, i called my brother to see where he was after school cause he was my ride home. his phone was being retarted and hung up on me after 3 seconds. and so i called back and it went straight to voicemail. w/e. kept walking with kat and eventually ran into him. he began yelling at me asking what the hell i was doing and why i called him. he made me wait on him in the bathroom. after, i followed him and a group of his friends into a classroom where they sat and took out their cards. (magic the gathering) i called mom to tell her. cause shes at home sick. and he wants to play cards? does he have no respect for anyone? she told me to have him call her and so i went back in the room and told him (obviously) to call her. "mom wants you to call her" he pretty much mocked me in front of all of his friends. so i decided to leave. i went out in the hall and watched kat practice hip-hop. several minutes went by and he finally came out of the room and we left.

he is always telling me that he hates having to drive me around. he hurts my feelings all the time telling me that im fat and shit. my family is slowly falling apart. and worse. his girlfriend says to me that he would be better off without me. that im the cause of all of his problems.

ontop of that im having friend problems and ex-bf problems. i fell in love and he moved away. my family is pretty much fucked up. dads a cop and a pastor and mom works at my school. my parents make my life hell and my brother would choose fucking cards over me. i just wish that everything was better. i hate living here with my family. was going to get myself taken by the department of children and families because when dad snaps, he goes crazy. punching, kicking... i feel like i have noone to talk to and that noone cares or understands me.

and idk what to do. cause its all building up inside of me and i know one day im gonna explode.

You need some serious counseling, as well as a close friend. If you'd like to talk, leave your sn and I'll IM you.

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14/f

what do guys look for in girls?
(looks, personality, etc.)

Depends on the guy. Most guys usually go for personality, but some guys go for looks more than personality. Personally, in a guy, I like personality & looks are a plus. I'd say it's the same for some guys. But usually, guys are shallow & dumb, so they pick the pretty girls with no personality over the nice girls who are equally just as cute.

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my 3 aunts and my mom and evry1 thinks im going gothic~but i dont think i really am atleast not as much as most ppl~i do love black nails and most of my clothes are black~i do hate my life i only have 7 friends~im a girl my friends are 4 other more gothier ppl a prep tht are all girls and my bffs are a guy and a girl who just has ther own styles~i just feel normal when im around friends and i hate being around my family~around my friends they act like nothings different~around my family there always sayin how they hate my clothes and how i act and tellin me to stop doing different things~i love spencers hot topic and clairs~i did want red or purple tips~and every1 thinks im gothic i guess kind but my mom says shed burn my black~i do not wear all black and not even evryday~i do really act like it but i try not to around them~yes i do think i am ~most of my cousins bffs are gothic but their 18~but they said they would kill me if i did and i no they wouldnt kill me but theyd do something~dont say talk to themthere not tht kind of family they dont care wat i say i can not talk to them~srry tht im gothic but its not my falut i like the style i hate my life and evry1 cuts me down on everything~wat do i do

Ignore them. If you like the way you dress & act, and the music you listen to or whatever, then who cares what they say. Tell them to go fuck themselves. They should be accepting you, but if they can't do that, then that's their problem, NOT your's. My family used to be the same way. They hated the way I dressed, acted, and the music I listened to, but I never cared what they thought of me, and once they seen that, they just gave up because they know their words & whatever wouldn't impact me.

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Hey my friend recently cut herself and now she regrets it. Well she wants to reduce the visability of them but I will need some help with the names of the creams.
I think Cocoa Butter reduces the visability but im not sure about any others.. I will rate high for good and sufficent answers.

Tell her to use cocoa butter or bio oil. They both work. Or, just tell her to wear long sleeves & hoodies until they heal.

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ok well i am head over heels for my ex. i really and truly love him. but i broke up with him cuz i thought i liked another guy. im going out with him now, but after the dance last night, im pretty sure im not gonna like the relationship. my ex is completely in love with me still. what should i do? the new guy would be crushed. i havent even told my ex i had a new boyfriend. im such a stupid loser! argh!

Just tell the new guy you wanna be friends & ask your ex back out. Tell him you made a mistake & you still love him.

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My story is pretty confusing and sad for me.
Well i would like to say alot of the guys at my school hate me, I dont know why but they do.
One of them, I had sex with.
He sure acted like he didnt hate me back then and then school started and he became an asshole again.
I still liked him, no matter how much of an ass he was to me.
Then after a while, he started randomly being nice to me and talking to me a little bit.
That lasted a whole week, and then he went back to being mean.
Again he tried being nice and then went back to making fun of me and calling me ugly,fat,,bitch,gross,etc.
It made me so sad because i like him so much.
Then his best friend told me , he actually likes me but he wants me to think he hates me and he tries to act mean to me , to be like everyone else.
His friend said not to believe anything he says,just know he likes me and his girlfriend [he has a girlfriend ] alot.
I want to get over him so bad, but at the same time how do I know if his best friend is telling the truth?
I believe it , Because he wouldnt lie.
But if he liked me, how can he be so mean to me?
Lately Ive been noticing hes being twice as mean as he was.
This just makes me so sad,I cant get over him because ive liked him for so long.
What exactly should i do?

If he really liked you, he wouldn't switch back from being mean & nice around people. If a guy likes you, he should be the same around you like he would be with everyone else. He should treat you good no matter who he's with, or how bad they'll rag on him. But that's typical. I remember when I was little & guys used to pick on me. My mom told me it was because they liked me, and it's true. My current boyfriend and I always used to tease each other & make fun. And look where it got us. We'll be together for three months on the 5th. I'd believe his friends because they know him pretty well. Just pull him aside, let him know that he's hurting your feelings, & tell him how you feel about him. If he's rude about it, then forget about him. He's not worth your time, or your feelings.

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i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months and all we have done is make out so far. i would like to go farther and im sure he does too. what is a good way to bring it up?

Just come out & say it. Tell him you're ready to do more with him. I'm sure he won't mind, or object to it.

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Is it sad that I am 16 and never had a boyfriend? I feel stupid walking through the halls seeing all the couples and knowing that I have yet to experience that. Please let me know if I'm pathetic.

It's not pathetic. I'm 16, and I've only had two serious boyfriends. Usually, some girls don't get a boyfriend for a while. And it's completely normal. Maybe the guys are shy, or maybe you're shy. Maybe you're too quiet & they feel like they'd be intimidating to you, or whatever. Don't be in such a hurry for a boyfriend. Guys aren't everything & Mr. Right will come sometime. Besides, you've had all this time to observe them, so you'll probably know all the types of guys & who to stay away from.

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I have to do a presentation on stds for a class and I was wondering if i went to the Planned Parenthood clinic, would they provide information or brochures on stds?

Yeah. Just tell them you need it for a project, and they'll supply all the info they can. =)

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