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f'd up family.
problems with my brother and its not just sibling rivalry.
moms at home sick. when i left with kat,my best friend, i called my brother to see where he was after school cause he was my ride home. his phone was being retarted and hung up on me after 3 seconds. and so i called back and it went straight to voicemail. w/e. kept walking with kat and eventually ran into him. he began yelling at me asking what the hell i was doing and why i called him. he made me wait on him in the bathroom. after, i followed him and a group of his friends into a classroom where they sat and took out their cards. (magic the gathering) i called mom to tell her. cause shes at home sick. and he wants to play cards? does he have no respect for anyone? she told me to have him call her and so i went back in the room and told him (obviously) to call her. "mom wants you to call her" he pretty much mocked me in front of all of his friends. so i decided to leave. i went out in the hall and watched kat practice hip-hop. several minutes went by and he finally came out of the room and we left.
he is always telling me that he hates having to drive me around. he hurts my feelings all the time telling me that im fat and shit. my family is slowly falling apart. and worse. his girlfriend says to me that he would be better off without me. that im the cause of all of his problems.
ontop of that im having friend problems and ex-bf problems. i fell in love and he moved away. my family is pretty much fucked up. dads a cop and a pastor and mom works at my school. my parents make my life hell and my brother would choose fucking cards over me. i just wish that everything was better. i hate living here with my family. was going to get myself taken by the department of children and families because when dad snaps, he goes crazy. punching, kicking... i feel like i have noone to talk to and that noone cares or understands me.
and idk what to do. cause its all building up inside of me and i know one day im gonna explode.
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Hi. It's about a year and a half since you posted this question, but I'm certain things haven't changed much in essence.I hope you come back and read this, although the news isn't all good.
The problems between you and your brother are secondary to the main problem in your family. When all the children in a family are expressing dissatisfaction, you're right, it's not sibling rivalry any more.
The underlying problem in your family has to do with your parents' emotional absence. Unfortunately, your parents are paying too much attention to extracirricular activities, that is activities that have to do with stuff outside the family. When this is the case, and there is not enough parenting being done and not enough emotional input from the adults toward the children in a family, the result is a syndrome I call "Not Enough Love To Go Around", after the Beatles' song. In your case, both of you children in the family are upset, unhappy, depressed and angry. Your brother then, is in the same boat as yourself, so you cannot expect to go to him for help. He needs emotional help and support himself as much as you do.
The only ones you can turn to are your parents. Try your best to solicit their interest, but failing that, you need to come to terms with their disinterest, and your sadness over this "loss". (This loss refers the potential love you would have had if they were capable of satisfying your need for love, affection and caring from your parents.) You may want to go to a therapist for help and support, or simple be able to console yourself, or possibly distract yourself by finding your own sources of gratification and satisfaction in life. Best of luck.
Dr. Vera Rabie-Azoory
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im 13/f bday was this month~i hate my life my family is fucked up to~i ask alot of advice about it to~DO NOT RUN AWAY~i did and i was gone for 4 days noone came lookin or even flyers only my bff that was a guy he was the only person who called me I HAD MY CELL and hes the only1 smart enough to call~if you do it will either break you up inside and be depressed for the rest of your life i am or youd find out if anyone loves you~maybe call 911 or go to someone who cares house and theyd do something~i dont no if your ur brothers servant i was~refuse~fight back its your life make sure its right~hope i helped~need anything else im randomgrl777
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Hey there.
I know its hard but you'll have to pull through everything aint easy.
If your father abuses you, you can call child services because he has no right to hit you unless you are being punished for something wrong.
Your brother is a boy and boys are gonna be boys I know it hurts for him to treat you that way well you need to get a back bone. Because brothers pick on their lil sisters trust me.
But if he hurts you so bad deep down let him no you aint gonna take it anymore. If you have counseling go to counseling it will help.
I hope I helped you
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You need some serious counseling, as well as a close friend. If you'd like to talk, leave your sn and I'll IM you.
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